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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Depression isnt nice ive been there know exactly how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you feel is at the root, is everything ok financially, family ect, I suffer with this too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

Been there myself. Bit easy pick yourself up. Just take it one day at a time and are little goals for yourself. Even something as simple as just washing your hair. Then slowly hopefully you'll feel better x

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Trust me please, go see your doctor I have been there yet faced cancer without anti depressants, you can do this !!

Get help and if you ever need a chat I’m always here (we’ll usually unless someone gets me banned temporarily)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

This, it is surprising at how big a difference something so small as washing your hair or a shower can make you feel. It won't get you out of the rut but it helps get things rolling.

Even just talking about it may help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this

There are times I don't bother shaving unless going somewhere social

Once a friend saw me out of one of these situations and noticed the non shaving and asked if was ok

I can struggle to get out of bed unless have something arranged

As others said small steps help

I feel slightly better if get out of the house every day

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been where you are. I had a pretty tough year last year. Talking helps and so does asking for help too. Take each day as it comes, set yourself a goal each day. PM me if you ever want to talk about it x

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I get this

There are times I don't bother shaving unless going somewhere social

Once a friend saw me out of one of these situations and noticed the non shaving and asked if was ok

I can struggle to get out of bed unless have something arranged

As others said small steps help

I feel slightly better if get out of the house every day"

Agree with this. It’s all about tiny steps in the right direction. Even they can be hard when depressed, but it’s the best way.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

This, it is surprising at how big a difference something so small as washing your hair or a shower can make you feel. It won't get you out of the rut but it helps get things rolling.

Even just talking about it may help. "

Really is the little things.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

This, it is surprising at how big a difference something so small as washing your hair or a shower can make you feel. It won't get you out of the rut but it helps get things rolling.

Even just talking about it may help.

Really is the little things. "

Yeah, it’s summoning the power to overcome your body telling you not to move when it’s capable of doing it.

Much harder than it sounds, but one step turns to two, and so on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go and see the docs , don’t leave it, and agree doing something little each day can help make you feel more on top of things xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm surprised at the support.

Thanks guys.

I'm on the highest dose of fluoxetine already and not working so I've no reason to leave the house

I'll work myself up to having a shower and see if it helps

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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

I know how you feel babe have been there and still struggle

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Hugs xx

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Resilience is the key. Get well soon OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm surprised at the support.

Thanks guys.

I'm on the highest dose of fluoxetine already and not working so I've no reason to leave the house

I'll work myself up to having a shower and see if it helps"

Sometimes it takes the medication a while to help. For me personally I had to come off it all. I found it was help what so ever. I tried it for 2 yrs. I slowly stared back doing small things. A shower, hovering the floor, washing dishes. They were all small things but with each little thing I did j was feeling a tiny bit better.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I'm surprised at the support.

Thanks guys.

I'm on the highest dose of fluoxetine already and not working so I've no reason to leave the house

I'll work myself up to having a shower and see if it helps"

I’ve seen great support for mental health matters here over the years. Honestly. You’d be surprised at how much experience and support there is out there.

By all means send a message if you prefer. I’ve had great help, so just passing it on, really.

Brilliant if you can get out of bed - a big, small step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, don’t suffer in silence, find someone to chat with and whatever some people may say it’s ok to not be ok x

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

I have been suffering for the past year and still have really bad days, the past couple of days i have done nothing but keep bursting into tears, I have a very supportive doctor for which i am thankful and have just had my medication changed as i felt i was getting no help from it , but what i miss most is having that someone to just put their arms around you not to tell you everything is okay but just that personal touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm surprised at the support.

Thanks guys.

I'm on the highest dose of fluoxetine already and not working so I've no reason to leave the house

I'll work myself up to having a shower and see if it helps"

How long have you been on them? You might need a change of meds ? Make sure you keep talking , don’t ever be frightened to ask for help even if it’s just for someone to listen xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to make a list.

Put getting out of bed and bathing on it.

Don't make the list too long.

You can do it. You will get through it.

You may feel like a different person afterwards, but I don't see that as a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there for many many years. All I can say is, it can and does get better. Won’t pretend it’s easy either...and had nothing to do with money, or family, or anything in my life as I had a good life that people would envy. Still depressed.

I have come through it, and know you can too. Easy to say though....

Good luck.

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

Just got back from my mental health session as people are saying small steps first.. One by one it takes your life away and leaves you stuck if you don't... Small steps hun stay strong

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

You may want to go see your doctor. Fluoxetine is one of the older SSRIs and is not as effective as the newer ones such as sertraline or mirtazapine.

If you need to chat our inbox is always open

Mrs

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

"You may want to go see your doctor. Fluoxetine is one of the older SSRIs and is not as effective as the newer ones such as sertraline or mirtazapine.

If you need to chat our inbox is always open

Mrs"

I use citalapram not sure it's the best one. I'm going to try change mine. I tried in box you.. Filter won't allow..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm surprised at the support.

Thanks guys.

I'm on the highest dose of fluoxetine already and not working so I've no reason to leave the house

I'll work myself up to having a shower and see if it helps"

How long have you been on your medication? It can make you feel tired and unmotivated too.

You might need a meds review

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "
in box if you want to talk about it

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Baby steps! Wash your face and be happy you've done so. Or brush your teeth. Don't be too hard on yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have plenty of support? A friend that might come round for coffee and a chat. I know it can feel like too much effort washing your hair, but having a shower and washing your hair would make you feel better. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t get to wash your hair though.

Is there someone you could go for a little walk with? Just to get out for a while. xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

Hug of support to you x

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

Another good way of getting rid of bad thoughts when they get you in a rut is

Imadgen you are somewhere nice say the seaside in your build a sand castle village when you are putting your sand into the bucket also put in there all the unwanted thoughts that sometimes rule us for no fault of our own.. Stand back and admire your castle you have built and knowing all your unwanted and unneeded worries are built into that castle..

As the sea comes in and washes away your sandcastle it also takes away your worries with it and your now free of them

Every time you feel something coming on in your mind take yourself to the bucket and watch them wash away... Helps release aniexty also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

I was diagnosed with bipolar about eight & half years ago after suffering with depression since my childhood. It's been difficult over the years to maintain a normal life at times struggling with various life situations from family, relationship & work I lost all of them. Some many times and it almost killed me. Because of the illness, when it happens you only feel worse and the rut only gets deeper and wider and more difficult to get out.Its not the end of the world though there are many paths you can take. Some people say take one day at a time, which is true. But if there is a problem that you can not seem to to get over regardless how small or big. Get some professional help! I know that might sound to much and maybe a little scary. It did me the world of good and yes I still have some bad days, but they are far a few between.

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

This is exactly what happens.. Every word correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

And this goes out to anyone who is suffering please feel free to contact me.

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

And this goes out to anyone who is suffering please feel free to contact me."

Sometimes it's even hard just to make that first step or speaking to someone.. But do speak to someone anyone...

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I have bipolar and get severe bouts of depression. My little girl is a delight and makes sure I go out at least once a day even if it is to just pop to the shop or go round the block. If she is at her dad's then she calls to check I have been out.

It does help to have someone in your life that can push you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

Even if it does kill your chances. Just know that speaking about it to help another gain a huge nod of respect from me. Good job, man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

Been there, and still struggle sometimes. So you have every ounce of sympathy that I can to offer.

You've had a few offers of help, but if you'd like to talk about it I'd be happy to try and help.

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By *ebt collectorMan
over a year ago

North East

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Hi hope your ok.

My name is Liam and what I'm about to say will probably kill any chance of me meeting anyone on here again. To help someone who is going thru a rough time it will be worth it.

Let me tell you a little about myself

The reason I give a little of my back story is that there maybe something you can relate too and give you some food for thought or I've just the wrong thing and I deeply apologise.

Also if you feel like a chat feel free to contact I will do my up most best to get back you as soon as I can.

Liam

I don’t think it will kill your chances. It will resonate strongly with many and I suspect most women will respect a guy who is able to express his inner thoughts and offer help to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting stuck in a rut is easy getting out of it is not so.

As others have mentioned small things do you make a difference. Sometimes just getting out of bed is an achievement and you should recognise that and be proud of yourself.

I think it's always important to remember that sometimes it's ok, not to be ok. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and be kind to yourself and remember there will always be someone prepared to listen. I am always happy for you to send me a private message but just make sure you reach out to someone and you don't isolate yourself. Wishing you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

Please go and see your gp and tell them how you are feeling, they can help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting stuck in a rut is easy getting out of it is not so.

As others have mentioned small things do you make a difference. Sometimes just getting out of bed is an achievement and you should recognise that and be proud of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut.

Please go and see your gp and tell them how you are feeling, they can help xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't washed my hair in a week. I spend all day in bed. I'm in a real rut. "

OP. Please don’t suffer in silence. Too often we are too ashamed or feel foolish for speaking up. Don’t. As someone who has suffered depression without actually knowing it, it’s too easy to miss. And the consequences can escalate faster than you know. Talking to someone-frankly and openly will help. But please don’t think you are unable to reach out.

#hug

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been suffering for the past year and still have really bad days, the past couple of days i have done nothing but keep bursting into tears, I have a very supportive doctor for which i am thankful and have just had my medication changed as i felt i was getting no help from it , but what i miss most is having that someone to just put their arms around you not to tell you everything is okay but just that personal touch."

Yes! This is it. I just want someone to cuddle me and look after me. I honestly think that being single is a huge part of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not have depression but do have anxiety. Im on Sertraline 150mg daily. It started after leaving the army. My ex wife left me and the kids soon after i became a civilian. I had trouble coping. my gp was great. Still is.

If you think you need help go and see your gp.

You live in a lovely part of the world OP. I spent 2 years in your city. Those big white buildings overlooking the Foyle. 5 star accommodation !

Try to focus on what makes you happy but go and get some help if you need it.

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