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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I know what you mean, I'm sure we all have things we are pretty certain would never turn us on.

I think the 'don't knock it...' response is a defensive one and it must be hard not to be defensive when people are calling your choices 'gross' or 'sick' or such like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, I'm sure we all have things we are pretty certain would never turn us on.

I think the 'don't knock it...' response is a defensive one and it must be hard not to be defensive when people are calling your choices 'gross' or 'sick' or such like."

It's not always the OP, sometimes it is someone who has left a comment, and that is often all they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not the worlds number one fan of needles but during a blood test on thursday the Doctor had forgotten to get a gold topped tube.. and asked if i could hold the needle in my arm while she got it. I normally look away so actually had to look at it, and you know what... it wasn't as bad as i thought. so holding it wasn't as big an issue as i thought it would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are things I know I do not like without having to try them, and no amount of persuasion or bribe could change my mine.

Once my mind is made up about something, it takes a lot of effort in order to change it.

If someone is insistent in trying to change my mind about something, I would normally tell them where to go, as I treat it as being pushy.

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice "

It's one of those verbal filler remarks isn't it? Just something people say because they have nothing else to say, but want to try and contribute to the conversation.

A reasoned, sensible explanation like yours isn't, in my view. 'knocking it' - it's just explaining why something isn't for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are things I know I do not like without having to try them, and no amount of persuasion or bribe could change my mine.

Once my mind is made up about something, it takes a lot of effort in order to change it.

If someone is insistent in trying to change my mind about something, I would normally tell them where to go, as I treat it as being pushy.

"

Absolutely, hate pushy people, my hackles rise and I'm a stubborn old mule and will not try no matter what bribery is used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not always the OP, sometimes it is someone who has left a comment, and that is often all they say "

The comment itself is very valid, to the point of being cliché... BUT...

On its own, without elaboration of 'say' personal experience, it says very little...

And... There are things I wouldnt do because I know it isnt for my tastes or desires... At which point the argument is moot...

If I dont care to do something, it is my choice and I am not "knocking it"... And for as much as someone knows me... It could be that I have tried it...;-);-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice "

You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can't believe some people get turned on by needles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

"

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean, I'm sure we all have things we are pretty certain would never turn us on.

I think the 'don't knock it...' response is a defensive one and it must be hard not to be defensive when people are calling your choices 'gross' or 'sick' or such like."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't want to comment on this thread, but some idiot said don't knock it until you have tried it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice

You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

"

I was using the needle bit as an example to explain more (though I really don't like needles). My thought more came from the post I was reading this morning on period play and that people sometimes comment with the "don't knock it until you have tried it" on those sort of posts but don't always say more, and that surely its about people's preference.

And surely people can comment on any post they like whether they have an interest or not? Sometimes I read a post but decide not to comment as I've nothing to say or what I might think of has already been said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't want to comment on this thread, but some idiot said don't knock it until you have tried it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

"

*groan* You Clot...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

"

Think you must be on here all the time then as I have never seen anyone moan about that comment before.

As to the needle bit, I was, as I have already said, using it as example to explain my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can't believe some people get turned on by needles

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i love them, oh and am also a training body piercer hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like pushy people who try and make you feel guilty for not wanting to do something, i may have tried it, but i dont want to talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"can't believe some people get turned on by needles

i love them, oh and am also a training body piercer hehehe"

Funnily enough I have two tattoos and didn't actually mind having them done as I didn't see them as needles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i have a blood test i enjoy it, but i cant look at the needle otherwise i feel faint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

Think you must be on here all the time then as I have never seen anyone moan about that comment before.

As to the needle bit, I was, as I have already said, using it as example to explain my point"

by "this type of thread", I mean people having a moan about something or other, when their argument is based on nothing more than someone elses preferences being different to their's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

Think you must be on here all the time then as I have never seen anyone moan about that comment before.

As to the needle bit, I was, as I have already said, using it as example to explain my point

by "this type of thread", I mean people having a moan about something or other, when their argument is based on nothing more than someone elses preferences being different to their's.

"

Ah gotcha there though I wasn't actually moaning as such, just perhaps annoyed that people forget everyone has a preference when they make that comment.

Here though just for you is a real moan. I forgot to do up the buttons on my quilt cover when I put it in the washing machine and not only has it turned inside out but all the washing is now inside it along with one sock yet I put a pair in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

Think you must be on here all the time then as I have never seen anyone moan about that comment before.

As to the needle bit, I was, as I have already said, using it as example to explain my point

by "this type of thread", I mean people having a moan about something or other, when their argument is based on nothing more than someone elses preferences being different to their's.

Ah gotcha there though I wasn't actually moaning as such, just perhaps annoyed that people forget everyone has a preference when they make that comment.

Here though just for you is a real moan. I forgot to do up the buttons on my quilt cover when I put it in the washing machine and not only has it turned inside out but all the washing is now inside it along with one sock yet I put a pair in "

That's not a moan, that's a "sign" of the second coming.

He's asking you to encompass the needy, to spread your arms and pull them in.

The "needy" though, are the single guys who can't get laid.

This is your calling, so find that other sock, and get on with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know that needle play is not for you, so you know you don't need to try it. Why, therefore, involve yourself in discussions about things you know you don't like, which will lead to the inevitable 'don't knock it' quip.

I ask myself this everytime this type of thread is published.

lol, I've started some in this vien though, and there's nothing like having a good moan is there?

Think you must be on here all the time then as I have never seen anyone moan about that comment before.

As to the needle bit, I was, as I have already said, using it as example to explain my point

by "this type of thread", I mean people having a moan about something or other, when their argument is based on nothing more than someone elses preferences being different to their's.

Ah gotcha there though I wasn't actually moaning as such, just perhaps annoyed that people forget everyone has a preference when they make that comment.

Here though just for you is a real moan. I forgot to do up the buttons on my quilt cover when I put it in the washing machine and not only has it turned inside out but all the washing is now inside it along with one sock yet I put a pair in

That's not a moan, that's a "sign" of the second coming.

He's asking you to encompass the needy, to spread your arms and pull them in.

The "needy" though, are the single guys who can't get laid.

This is your calling, so find that other sock, and get on with it "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice "

A wise person speaks when there is something to say.

An idiot speaks because they have to say something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice

A wise person speaks when there is something to say.

An idiot speaks because they have to say something. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about choice at the end of the day. One persons needle phobia could, potentially, be another persons trip beyond their perceived boundaries resulting in untold delights from the opioid rush of a fear response.

The "don't knock it till you've tried it" reaction is, as the poster above stated, often a filler response, or one which is given by someone who enjoys the activity under discussion as way of affirming that (for them) its an enjoyable activity in a jovial way.

The problem becomes when peoples views become judgemental. "I don't want to get involved in needle play, it sets my teeth on edge" is fine, people should respect that as your choice.

"I don't want to do needle play and I don't understand anyone that does" is but itself inviting feedback from those that do, possibly as a way to enlighten someone as to why.

"I don't want to do needle play and those that do are sick fuckers" is pointlessly judgemental and will get peoples backs up; in the same way as "Well I do needle play and you should too because its cool, so come round my house so that I can play Sir Lance-Alot on your ass"

If its legal and people want to do it in the privacy of their own homes let them get on with it. Expressing a personal opinion about ones own feelings is fine as long as you don't try to mirror those onto others who may not feel the same way, nor pour scorn upon others for having a different point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" He's asking you to encompass the needy, to spread your arms and pull them in.

The "needy" though, are the single guys who can't get laid.

This is your calling, so find that other sock, and get on with it "

If Kytten opens wide her arms to embrace me... Verilly bretheren shall my socks disappear!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say that this comment annoys the hell out of me. Every time a post appears i.e. pee, pooh and sex during a period etc, some idiot comes up with this comment. Surely we are entitled to a choice in what we want to do and don't want to do

I hate needles with a passion so why would I ever consider needle play? Surely as a Trypanophobic (needle phobia courtesy of Wikipedia) I am not going to consider needle play as something I would like to try, I can't even stand watching them on television and have to turn away, and I don't have them at the dentist for fillings either; the pain of a needle to me is worse than the pain of the filling

On the other hand, I am aware that trying something that one hasn't may turn out to be a thoroughly enjoyable experience but at the point of suggestion, one can make a decision as to whether it sounds an excellent idea or not, surely everyone has that right of choice "

I prefer each to their own as a saying.. however, there are many things that 6 months ago, a year ago.. I would have been saying the same as you about things and getting my arse in the air over...

yet because of the fact master and I like to explore things.. we are adding more and more things to our enjoyment..

Now I am personally terrified of needles.. ( and very glad my Master does not like this either) but should one day Master change his mind and decide to try it.. I would do so.. the only thing I wouldnt do is say I liked something if I didnt.

cali x

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