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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

I sure do

Maybe that's the way those guys feel too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it does reduce the stress level

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Less drama means calmer.

A

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Short term Yes

Long term No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Fuck all the women on dating sites looking for relationship, I hope they all get creampied by some smooth talker who dumps them the next day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

Those guys need their heads examining!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take each day as it comes and speak to whoever contacts me that day.

If no one contacts me I read more.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I live in a monastery.

I wank like a man possessed.

I am happy(ish)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not looking to meet anyone new but im constantly chatting to my long term friends but i know they wont let me down

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Sometimes it's nice to have a break from it all. It can get a bit mentally draining.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out"

It happens to loads of people the op just openly talks about it, gets it of her chest more then others

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

Yes. Exactly this. This is why I'm taking a break from meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bet there macaroni pies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've organised 4 meets today at different times over the next two weeks, so have to say at the moment the answer is no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out"

You’re asking me to give you answers that I don’t know. Only the guys involved would know their reasons for not being interested. C’mon you see me asking these questions and get given 100’s of possible answers but we’ll never know exactly what each persons reason is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out

You’re asking me to give you answers that I don’t know. Only the guys involved would know their reasons for not being interested. C’mon you see me asking these questions and get given 100’s of possible answers but we’ll never know exactly what each persons reason is. "

what kind of pie?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out

You’re asking me to give you answers that I don’t know. Only the guys involved would know their reasons for not being interested. C’mon you see me asking these questions and get given 100’s of possible answers but we’ll never know exactly what each persons reason is.

what kind of pie?"

It’s an idiom, an idiom is a phrase or an expression that has a figurative, or sometimes literal meaning. To have my finger in pies is to have an interest in or be involved in everything, in my case I’m referring to men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out

You’re asking me to give you answers that I don’t know. Only the guys involved would know their reasons for not being interested. C’mon you see me asking these questions and get given 100’s of possible answers but we’ll never know exactly what each persons reason is. "

i hear you. just keep on a positive step you'll be fine

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

Sometimes it is nice to be just browsing fab with no ulterior motive other than to read the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

question. please dont take this the wrong way.

why does this happen to you. i mean guys seeming like they not interested?

just a question, nothing meant by it just trying to figure it out

You’re asking me to give you answers that I don’t know. Only the guys involved would know their reasons for not being interested. C’mon you see me asking these questions and get given 100’s of possible answers but we’ll never know exactly what each persons reason is.

what kind of pie?

It’s an idiom, an idiom is a phrase or an expression that has a figurative, or sometimes literal meaning. To have my finger in pies is to have an interest in or be involved in everything, in my case I’m referring to men. "

oh,,so why mention pies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like to play games, I don't know the lead-up to your meets, but perhaps they were fantasists or lacked confidence. What every their reason shouldn't dictate how you feel. Yes, it's good the recharge and not speak to people. I traveled around alone a few times. But do it on your terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?

Sometimes it is nice to be just browsing fab with no ulterior motive other than to read the forums. "

Read yes, but if you start participating shit may hit the fans.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people like to play games, I don't know the lead-up to your meets, but perhaps they were fantasists or lacked confidence. What every their reason shouldn't dictate how you feel. Yes, it's good the recharge and not speak to people. I traveled around alone a few times. But do it on your terms."

No no. These were a personal from the real world who gave his number but then blocked me. A guy I was meeting last year many times who contacted me again a month ago to meet but has since deleted his profile and someone I’ve alrwady met twice and was going to meet again but he doesn’t seem interested. All these are real people and completely separate to the fantasists and fakes, I can sniff them out straight away.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Everyone tends to be happier when I’m not speaking

Hooves, you’re a beautiful complex creature and I adore you. I gotta tell you though. Stop looking for him, it’s gonna drive you batshit. He’ll find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I became less stressed when I gave up on trying to meet someone.

I'm OK with my own company but bored of living like a sexless nun and also bored of NSA

There seems to be no happy medium

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

If the people you talk to cause you angst or you find yourself tying yourself in knots trying to work out what they're thinking then a break from all that feels good as you regain the control.

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By *yes146Man
over a year ago

London

Going for the wrong guys !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No no. These were a personal from the real world who gave his number but then blocked me. A guy I was meeting last year many times who contacted me again a month ago to meet but has since deleted his profile and someone I’ve alrwady met twice and was going to meet again but he doesn’t seem interested. All these are real people and completely separate to the fantasists and fakes, I can sniff them out straight away. "

Well what ever problems they had are theirs. It can be hard sometimes and we are all human but we are only ever in control of ourselves, try not to let others effect you. We never know what is going on with other people. Sorry, hopeless at trying to cheer people up. but yes it is nice to have some me time and two fingers up o the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m chilled, I don’t need cheering up. I was wondering if people share the same views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I chat occasionally to some very lovely ladies on here that, through our mutual circumstances/preferences, I will never meet I have come to the conclusion that the chances of meeting anyone at all from here is so unlikely as to be not worth pursuing. So I just chat and take the piss in the forums, which is far less taxing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, didn't mean to suggest anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is less brain ache when my phone isn't going off all the time.

Phone calls.

WhatsApp.

Kik.

Text.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Short term Yes

Long term No"

We are humans we do need some contact. we are actually supposed to social animals not that you would believe it these days.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've given up on trying a while ago!

How many 'Hi, how's you? fancy chatting?' can someone take from a blank profile?

I quite literally give up on the male species!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the swimming pool guy reply to you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the normal state of things for most guys OP!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did the swimming pool guy reply to you???"

I answered that in the very first sentence of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did the swimming pool guy reply to you???

I answered that in the very first sentence of this thread. "

Sorry. I didn’t realise he gave you his number too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days.... "

I'm like that on here sometimes. If I have a brain fog few days I can't string a sentence together

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"
You need an abundant mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to just have a "reset" sometimes and do what YOU want for a while

C

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days.... "

Me too, you have to be in the right mindset for a natter

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days....

I'm like that on here sometimes. If I have a brain fog few days I can't string a sentence together

"

Sorry-got brain fog, going offline for a few days. Sounds like a great status update.

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Central

Yes. Yes. And yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to no one?

Not even the voices in my mind

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3


"Did the swimming pool guy reply to you???

I answered that in the very first sentence of this thread. "

Aww nooo it sounded so promising as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice to have a choice in the matter.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

Nahh..i'm chilled pretty much most of the time

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days....

I'm like that on here sometimes. If I have a brain fog few days I can't string a sentence together

Sorry-got brain fog, going offline for a few days. Sounds like a great status update. "

I usually apologise for getting behind on mail, but sometimes I read the forums without chatting, it just gets overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I just don't feel like answering everyone and just go quiet for a few days....

I'm like that on here sometimes. If I have a brain fog few days I can't string a sentence together

Sorry-got brain fog, going offline for a few days. Sounds like a great status update. "

People would message me to ask what brain fog is or to tell me they have a "special" cure for it.

I hide my profile and sit under a rock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not popular so I don't have to deal with this scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not popular so I don't have to deal with this scenario "

Would you please reply to my messages FFS

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It would be nice to be speaking to one special person for sure.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

OP at least you can say you tried! And you never know what tomorrow might bring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday that dude who gave me his number blocked me on WhatsApp, the soldier I met last year who connected me again last month deleted his profile on here. A guy that I’ve met twice and supposed to be meeting again literally feels like he has zero interest in me, but although I felt a bit bummed yesterday, it actually doesn’t matter. I’ve put it all to bed. Now there’s no one on the cards, I’ve removed my finger from some pies and it just feels calmer.

Does anyone else prefer it if they’re just not speaking to anyone, like no one can let you down then and everything is just chilled?"

Yes I like that, think that's when someone comes along, when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I was happier when not speaking to someone, but I go through phases sometimes I speak to a lot of people with a view to meeting up and then I go through times when I'm quite happy not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to myself. Constantly, I wish I could ghost myself.

There was a time when my family stopped speaking. My life became a lot more easier then too, so yes I could agree, some people out of your lives can be a blessing.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Occasionally I want a bit of ‘quiet time’ but mostly I enjoy chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not chilled when talking to someone I stop talking to them. This isn't a chore for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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