FabSwingers.com forum: Poor social skills/Freaking out and blocking people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not sure if anyone else has experienced it, but I have recently had the experience of this.

I started a dialogue with a local couple who seemed interested. Then, for no obvious reason, they ceased communication and blocked me.

Now, whilst I am not going to cry this annoys the hell out of me. Can't they just say 'not interested?' This seems all the more galling as we had become 'friends' etc.

A rant, I know.

I'm sure some will attempt to justify this but, please...don't bother. There is never a need to be rude.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

You know when they blocked you?

That was the point they were telling you they were not interested....

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I would assume that some of your dialogue may have upset them?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I freak out constantly on here

Some messages are enough to frighten the shit out of the devil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't need to be frightening, just step half an inch outside the boundry and it's more efficient to block and forget... same as turning your back on someone who becomes an arse in the pub.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Nowt funnier than folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Stop being so sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

There is always a reason why someone blocks. They realised that you weren't for them and they've blocked to prevent further contact. That really quite normal and acceptable behaviour. Noone owes anyone anything on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've stopped talking to people on here for on the face of it very trivial reasons. But they've said something we've not liked and for us that's it. Personally I have better things to do than tell them what they've done wrong (in our eyes) and then listen to them apologise and enter into a discussion about it. Because all of that would be a waste of time, because it would not change anything. And as the only reason we would be messaging someone (with exception of a few people off the forums) is with a _iew to a potential meet, the minute that other party falls outside of that intent - why keep talking?

OP, I sympathise, I realy do because it is annoying but whether they'd told you the reason or not the end result would be the same

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"We've stopped talking to people on here for on the face of it very trivial reasons. But they've said something we've not liked and for us that's it. Personally I have better things to do than tell them what they've done wrong (in our eyes) and then listen to them apologise and enter into a discussion about it. Because all of that would be a waste of time, because it would not change anything. And as the only reason we would be messaging someone (with exception of a few people off the forums) is with a _iew to a potential meet, the minute that other party falls outside of that intent - why keep talking?

OP, I sympathise, I realy do because it is annoying but whether they'd told you the reason or not the end result would be the same"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure if anyone else has experienced it, but I have recently had the experience of this.

I started a dialogue with a local couple who seemed interested. Then, for no obvious reason, they ceased communication and blocked me.

Now, whilst I am not going to cry this annoys the hell out of me. Can't they just say 'not interested?' This seems all the more galling as we had become 'friends' etc.

A rant, I know.

I'm sure some will attempt to justify this but, please...don't bother. There is never a need to be rude.

I access this site in three different ways, laptop, andriod tablet, and mobile phone, I have on more than one occasion blocked someone by mistake when trying to reply to messages when using my mobile....small screen, big fingers...and yes I have been called rude for doing so even though it has been a simple mistake on my part!!

To be honest if someone needs to have a rant at me for it, I really wouldn't wish to keep up communication with them, mistakes happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

....... or they could now be looking at this and thinking "made the right decision for us"...

if they had a change of heart, they had a change of heart.. simple as..... move of....

i think sometimes threads like these shows as much about people and how they accept "rejection".. as it does about those who do it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

You've missed the point. I've stopped talking to someone I thought would be fun because he asked when would he get a turn to boss me about. I'm sure in his mind he did nothing wrong, but my profile should have given him a clue that was inappropriate. Who knows what the op said to warrant a change of mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

True. But that's under the assumption that it's the OP's message that put them off. I'm not saying that he didn't put them off but why are we saying that he did?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange."

I feel a song coming along...

"People are strange when you're a stranger

Faces look ugly when you're alone

Women seem wicked when you're unwanted

Streets are uneven when you're down..."

Everybody now

Sarah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

True. But that's under the assumption that it's the OP's message that put them off. I'm not saying that he didn't put them off but why are we saying that he did?

It is an assumption, granted, but according to the op all was going well then they blocked him. Naturally, there could be many reasons: the couple are psychotic, they blocked in error, they got a better offer, the op appeared needy...who knows, one can only hazard a guess when hearing only one side of a story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

True. But that's under the assumption that it's the OP's message that put them off. I'm not saying that he didn't put them off but why are we saying that he did?

I declare a mistrail! Not enough evidence! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

You really think that you can tell whether you want to meet someone by their profile, when half the site have written some single guys' profiles, when they've posted forum threads asking for advice on what to write. This is the reason I don't agree with suggestions on how a profile should read by others. You have to exchange several messages in order to get a clear vision of someone's personality.

I am never rude on messages I reply to. I will get messages from guys saying 'lovely pics, you are stunning' for example. I always reply saying I'm flattered and thank them for the message. Its true I am flattered someone's said that. I may get another message and I may respond to that, just exchanging pleasantries. And then he may say 'right when we meeting then'. Sometimes if I put a kiss on a message a guy thinks that's indicative of me wanting to suck his cock.

Its not unusual to exchange a few messages before realising there's no spark. The couple who did this to the OP are not weird, strange or playing games.

One persons _iew of it going well may not necessarily be someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if someone blocked me, i would wonder what i had said to annoy them, maybe they just changed their mind about you and couldnt be arsed to let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think.it would have been better if the couple had mailed him to say no thanks, and then used the block button.

That saves any missunderstanding and threads like this, but st the same time the blockers are safe in the knowledge that they can't be contacted if the guy takes it the wrong way.

Maybe I'm too simplistic though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only the couple know why they did it.

maybe theyre a couple of pricks that led you along or maybe one half was interested but the other wasnt

maybe maybe maybe

too many maybes. fuck it move on

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

maybe theyre a couple of pricks that led you along

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how couples and girls will try to explain what has probably happened but other guys claim injustice...

Personally I'd suggest to OP to re-read his last message as I'd guess that's why you were blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or they could be sociopaths and so don't really empathise. *shugs*

Either that or they feel they are in so much demand they can act that way. I don't as burning your bridges or treating decent people badly always comes back around.

Personally I have noticed not just on the tinternet but in real life many people have poor communication and coping skills, unable to say what they think in a calm manner and the like and would rather run and hide.

I also get concerned when people start to justify their rather rude/childish behaviour; sure if the other person is saying freaky stuff, but if they ain't that big red alert siren goes off for me! ("Avoid Avoid Unstable!")

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"I'm not sure if anyone else has experienced it, but I have recently had the experience of this.

I started a dialogue with a local couple who seemed interested. Then, for no obvious reason, they ceased communication and blocked me.

Now, whilst I am not going to cry this annoys the hell out of me. Can't they just say 'not interested?' This seems all the more galling as we had become 'friends' etc.

A rant, I know.

I'm sure some will attempt to justify this but, please...don't bother. There is never a need to be rude.

There isn't ever a need to be rude, but what if they don't think they're being rude?

To a lot of people this site isn't a polite social club with nest sandwiches, doilies and a vote of thanks to the ladies for the cakes. It's a meat market. By the rules of the meat market what this couple have done is entirely reasonable. Having decided, on grounds you'll never know about, that you aren't the one for them, they're off to wait for the next lot to come to the auction.

Of course, that may not be their motives at all, and it may all be about you. You'll never know.

The fact that they did something you consider rude, and which they probably didn't consider rude, is all you need to know about the likelihood of a successful friendship.

The rest, including my comments above, is just guesswork.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just blocked someone this morning. A first message along the lines of nice profile, fancy chatting, we replied sure tell us more about you (there profile was somewhat minimal), and there reply was "ok Tell us what you want to know?". So I've blocked. I'm bored of them already. And if that is how little effort they put in to selling themselves then we really aren't interested.

Now the OP thinks I should explain that? What would it achieve? And yes the couple that messaged us are probably confused why they've been blocked but, while I know it's harsh is that really my problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just blocked someone this morning. A first message along the lines of nice profile, fancy chatting, we replied sure tell us more about you (there profile was somewhat minimal), and there reply was "ok Tell us what you want to know?". So I've blocked. I'm bored of them already. And if that is how little effort they put in to selling themselves then we really aren't interested.

Maybe cancelled one another out with the ask?

Their swingers, yours swingers, your talkin to each other on a swingers site,lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember, convention states that no one owes anyone on here anything.

Not a meet, not a reply nor even the courtesy of manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one said they had to sleep with anyone. But I'm sure they gathered that he wasn't for them by his profile.

Why not? Couples delete messages or block profiles for less. Whether we like it or not, some couples are strange! lol

I've had couples send me friend requests and when I send them a message to say hello, no reply. Couples had sent me messages asking if I want to meet that very night, even though I don't know them and they don't know me. I politely decline. I see couples on my "looked at me" list repeatedly looking at my profile, even though they're not looking for single guys. Why?

I agree with you that people have their own methods on this site. I'm a weird one too!

But to assume the OP's actions led to the misundertanding is probably not 100% accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a polite mail to say you're not interested followed by a block not have been better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that what the block buttons for,a few messages bit of insight? Oh i don't fancy this one/cple block end of story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a polite mail to say you're not interested followed by a block not have been better? "

No. There is no need to explain your actions to anyone..... nobody is on trial here.

We had 7 messages from guys that clearly hadn't read our profile last night... 7 new members added to our block list.

....are we proud? No.

....are we free from explaining our actions to several complete strangers that thought they would get into my knickers whilst ignoring our preferences? Hell yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

....... or they could now be looking at this and thinking "made the right decision for us"...

if they had a change of heart, they had a change of heart.. simple as..... move of....

i think sometimes threads like these shows as much about people and how they accept "rejection".. as it does about those who do it....

Hey, works for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a polite mail to say you're not interested followed by a block not have been better? "

A message saying that we weren;t interested with no explanation is the same as blocking them. Explaining why would have just appeared rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Would a polite mail to say you're not interested followed by a block not have been better?

A message saying that we weren;t interested with no explanation is the same as blocking them. Explaining why would have just appeared rude. "

had the same and its not just single guys, do often think after blocking them why dont they just go on an 'erotic story' site if they want to knock one out...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*"

Are you seriously saying that when an 18 year old 'lad' wants to 'show us' how to give Mrs Surrey an orgasm by 'licking her till she screams'..

who lives in Scotland and also wants us to tell him 'what we will do to him'...

actually deserves any more than a minutes consideration before blocking??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive blocked guys ive been talking to for the most(some would say) petty reasons. If im going to meet someone i want to meet them 100% in my mind and any slight thing can change that.

Heres and example(hes not on here) had swapped quite a few messages with a guy and in one of his replies to me he called me a div, now i know he was messing but im not going to meet someone who speaks to me like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive blocked guys ive been talking to for the most(some would say) petty reasons. If im going to meet someone i want to meet them 100% in my mind and any slight thing can change that.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*"

not often i say this but you are totally wrong. The fact you choose to see the block button as something it is not is a problem you have. Block is simply a site tool and people are free to use it in whichever way they feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i block for a few reasons

they are disrepectful (like let me fuck ya ass till it bleeds)

they don't understand no

and dumbasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the responses from the single men are very telling: talk about needy. You can just picture the scenario after shagging them and not wanting a repeat performance.

You'd think people would concentrate on those wanting to play instead of wasting time on those that have made it obvious they're not interested!

It must be just me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the responses from the single men are very telling: talk about needy. You can just picture the scenario after shagging them and not wanting a repeat performance.

You'd think people would concentrate on those wanting to play instead of wasting time on those that have made it obvious they're not interested!

It must be just me then! "

no i agree

why waste time on wanting to know why when you say no thanks, some people think they can change your mind and rarely it does

a no to me is a no like when i say No thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*

Are you seriously saying that when an 18 year old 'lad' wants to 'show us' how to give Mrs Surrey an orgasm by 'licking her till she screams'..

who lives in Scotland and also wants us to tell him 'what we will do to him'...

actually deserves any more than a minutes consideration before blocking?? "

Tsk, oh you sillies, you know the rules, it doesn't matter what preferences you have or how obnoxious the message, you HAVE to reply nicely AND warn the sender you will be blocking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I sympathise, I realy do because it is annoying but whether they'd told you the reason or not the end result would be the same"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive blocked guys ive been talking to for the most(some would say) petty reasons. If im going to meet someone i want to meet them 100% in my mind and any slight thing can change that.

+1"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I block when they send message after message if I have not responded then I get a message saying oh you did not like what you saw. No response then its how do I get to chat with you.. no response then its a you are fucking stuck up.. no response.. then its goes on and on.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*"

no offence... but isn't the block button kinda the ultimate "not interested" button anyway....

and i think the way that you portray the people who use the block "the bad guys" and those on the other end "the innocent victims" actually is really unfair and actually quite antagonising and patronising...

lets just take the block for what it is... it is a rejection! it is a no! and if this is the way that some handle rejection then i truely worry....

people can be as demanding and as fussy as they want, and it they don't get any replies they can look at themselves in the mirror.... and for you to have a pot shot at those who you think are "not all that" is rather petty......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you had become 'friends' after a few messages.

I block either because the people get on my tits or are likely to..

and they are welcome to return the favour without me squealing like a piglet looking for a milky teat.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*"

a "not interested button" hmmm then wed just have the whinges about thoses disgusting ,low lifeand il-lmannoered ppl who dare to use that button with out even giving an reason they arent interested !! how very dare they !!! tut !!!! lol !

to YOU a block means the persons been inappropriate , others use it in other ways ! some may use it for those they said no to , ppl who dont fit critior of what they want or plain just dont fancy !!! the block is there to be used in what ever way the indervidual wants and if you take umbrage at that then sorry but your issue not others !

i personally wouldnt even think twice about being blocked ! let alone think i deserve or am owed anything ! you talk about some profile being demanding ....exspecting ppl to justify their ever descision and action on here isnt ???lol !! too meny "entitled " ppl whine about how other use site and what "others " do or dont do on site . for gawds sake the site owes you NOTHING !! NADA ! ZILCH ! ZERO ! stop wasting yur time whnging about others behaviour/actions (which you have no control over ) and focus on what you do .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block if I have no intention of meeting that person, male or female, and it does not have to be via unsolicited PMs.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I block if I have no intention of meeting that person, male or female, and it does not have to be via unsolicited PMs.

i do hope you sent a full and detailed exsplaination as to why you blocked each and every one of them !!pmsl !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I block if I have no intention of meeting that person, male or female, and it does not have to be via unsolicited PMs.

i do hope you sent a full and detailed exsplaination as to why you blocked each and every one of them !!pmsl !!!

Only when I feel like it!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

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"Perhaps there should be a "not interested" button instead.

To me block means the person or persons are been inappropriate as in constantly messaging even after saying not interested or just plain incomprehensible messages etc.

I do find *some* people on here quite amusing, very demanding in their profile and short and poor replies to messages, and yet they are not "all that".

My point of _iew is if you are going to be like the above then no way am I interested; I mean I hope you don't act like that on a meet, say barely two words and oik them out the door after the deed!

Bottom line, those who act as such I think are complete tossers and will only find those in kind. *shrugs*

Are you seriously saying that when an 18 year old 'lad' wants to 'show us' how to give Mrs Surrey an orgasm by 'licking her till she screams'..

who lives in Scotland and also wants us to tell him 'what we will do to him'...

actually deserves any more than a minutes consideration before blocking??

Tsk, oh you sillies, you know the rules, it doesn't matter what preferences you have or how obnoxious the message, you HAVE to reply nicely AND warn the sender you will be blocking! "

but does that mean we will then be judged to be...tossers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are strange. Look at it this way: such changes of heart mean you probably wouldn't know whether you're coming or going with them. You dodged a bullet. Move on

Why are the couple strange? There is no legally binding contract that says if you exchange a few messages with a guy and add him to your friends list, that you have to play with them.

What about that fiver you borrowed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dear lord, I never expected a simple vent to get so many replies.

Perhaps I should explain my original post more. Without wishing to go into much more detail, the people in question behaved quite oddly/inconsistently.

I suspect that in some part it may be to do with the male partner, whose attitude to other men is clearly - again - inconsistent.

I found this frustrating as I had invested some time in chatting. A simple 'no' would have sufficed.

When I wrote the post I was still somewhat reeling from this. I was no doubt motivated by my frustration that I could do nothing about their timewasting.

Yes, a somewhat reflexive and childish response, but sometimes these things happen.

And in response to some previous posters...of course, chatting doesn't = let's meet and fuck. Don't be so ridiculous.

'Nobody owes anybody anything', but exercising basic social skills in an adult way is not much to ask.

If anyone finds that concept difficult, they must find real life very testing.

Perhaps there should be a 'serial blocker' statistic attached to profiles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block either because the people get on my tits or are likely to..

they are welcome to return the favour without me squealing like a piglet looking for a milky teat."

You crack me up! The things you come out with...tickled me no end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I see, yes OP it is much clearer now, it was the husband that was jealous of you cos your a million times sexier than he was, and his wife was obviously gagging for you, yes it is him that's stopped the play happening - husbands are bastards at times aren't they!

Explain how they wasted your time, you were just chatting, no harm in that is there, noone forced you to write them messages.

It sounds like you didn't arrange a meet, turn up and they didn't, left you hanging around for an hour or so and eventually you had to go home - so don't be so ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I see, yes OP it is much clearer now, it was the husband that was jealous of you cos your a million times sexier than he was, and his wife was obviously gagging for you, yes it is him that's stopped the play happening - husbands are bastards at times aren't they!

Explain how they wasted your time, you were just chatting, no harm in that is there, noone forced you to write them messages.

It sounds like you didn't arrange a meet, turn up and they didn't, left you hanging around for an hour or so and eventually you had to go home - so don't be so ridiculous

Thank you for your helpful insight. Everything is clear now. I have seen the light.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Dear lord, I never expected a simple vent to get so many replies.