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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Try being a tv in some threads

Totally ignored

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In a word yes.

You either need to be quite a strong personality or pretty self confident.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a tv in some threads

Totally ignored"

Who said that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique.

There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Try being a tv in some threads

Totally ignored

Who said that?"

Four replies...

Who had four on the joke sweepstake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique.

There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x"

Yeah some threads post so quick so it's easy to get ignored, happens to us alot sure lots of others same

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

We have a life so can't dedicate the time needed to be popular on the forums.

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By *aucy sausageMan
over a year ago

Gentleshaw

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over a year ago

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I've felt exclusion on the odd occasion,but it may be more to how I'm feeling at the time. I don't think anyone is intentionally excluded,you just need to get stuck in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

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It's not a gripe, but there are definitely cliques in here ... Just as there are in the "real world"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is certainly possible to feel that way without it being true that it is happening.

It can be the nature of forums everywhere. Posts and threads can sometimes often be missed or overlooked and appear to be ignored but generally that is down to at times how fast comments and new threads are put up.

Stronger more unique personalities stand out, their posts get noticed. As more people notice that personality the name then becomes famous/infamous.

Even big, larger than life personalities never seem to make a splash while they are the new guy in town. Familiarality is also a big part of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.

Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!

It happens to everyone, all the time!

The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think, if people replied to certain comments-rather than just added a comment- they would be more likely to strike up a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful.

I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about.

You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't.

Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Thats the beauty of the forums. Everyone is different and there opinions will vary depending on the subject.

Yes it can seem like certain people are always the ones posting however and it may seem intimidating at first but what happens on the fab forums dosent really affect real live and like every other social media platform anything said should not be taken to heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id still not say im accepted my most altho no idea about the clique thing i only see people who are friends having banter with oneanother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.

Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!"

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.

Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said"

This is me. I can never be bothered to read a whole thread half the time but I still comment or answer the question so I’m probably guilty of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here. "

I fucking love it here, so that conclusively fucks that theory, right?

RIGHT?!?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.

Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!

It happens to everyone, all the time!

The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! "

I think that's one of the key points really, it's all a question of perception and awareness. If you only ever look for your posts and who has quoted you then you will always feel ignored.

As for cliques, it's been a 'thing' since I started reading the forums, strangely enough most of those people have left now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually go out of my way to include some of the more foolish members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Unpopular and overlooked HAHA

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"Thats the beauty of the forums. Everyone is different and there opinions will vary depending on the subject.

Yes it can seem like certain people are always the ones posting however and it may seem intimidating at first but what happens on the fab forums dosent really affect real live and like every other social media platform anything said should not be taken to heart."
I find the forum is a world away from real life. I only come on Now and again. It tends to be the same people. I prefer going out mostly. You are either a forumnite or you ain't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a tv in some threads

Totally ignored"

Is that why you start so many of your own?

I sometimes do the FPF thread but steer clear of the 'comment on the poster above' threads unless I'm in a CBA mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.

Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Thats the beauty of the forums. Everyone is different and there opinions will vary depending on the subject.

Yes it can seem like certain people are always the ones posting however and it may seem intimidating at first but what happens on the fab forums dosent really affect real live and like every other social media platform anything said should not be taken to heart.I find the forum is a world away from real life. I only come on Now and again. It tends to be the same people. I prefer going out mostly. You are either a forumnite or you ain't "

We like both forums & clubs - fun in both

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here.

I fucking love it here, so that conclusively fucks that theory, right?

RIGHT?!? "

Yeaaaah sure it does.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I actually go out of my way to include some of the more foolish members"

Cheers mate

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

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I agree

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful.

I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about.

You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't.

Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here. "

I've asked you not to call me Bob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

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I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful.

I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about.

You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't.

Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here.

I've asked you not to call me Bob "

I've a thing for Bob

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm Unpopular and overlooked HAHA"

No you're not I think however think you're a wee bit negative at time's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the great man said: helloooo, is it me you’re looking for?

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By *etefromderbyMan
over a year ago

Derby

in get ignored on here all the time now

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I'm Unpopular and overlooked HAHA"

This is kind of what I'm aiming at, its a form of self fulfilling prophecy. If you tell yourself this enough then you see it everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!"
I would agree as nothing is real here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. "

Yes but you made me feel quite welcome and when I was having a bit of a confidence wobble you were very supportive and I think that's what the forums are all about if I'm honest.

It's great to have a giggle and a bit of fun but also to offer support when it's needed but at the same time not too Panda to people.

I know I'm waffling again but I hope that makes a bit of sense.

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By *omeo7xxxMan
over a year ago

London


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!"

The question is did you win the best boob thread....

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I have always noticed the little ‘I don’t do xyz because I get ignored’ comments. Some posters flounce. Some say ‘I’ll be off then’ or comments to that ilk. In a forum where everyone wants to be noticed (yes even you dear reader) then butthurt happens. However things can go so fast here that it’s easy to miss stuff. I spout my drivel and if someone replies great... if not then it won’t put me off. Sorry about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. "

Nothing wrong with that.

I do agree with above though.

A lot of people (talking in general, if anybody wants to take personal offence that is their problem) tend to forget this about the Internet, there are real people with real feelings on the other end. If you use forums you need to have some form of thick skin but at the same time we just need to remember we are still interacting with actual people.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here"

I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no cliques on fab c'mon ffs.... i was just discussing with the rest of the 'fab footlong brigade' how cliques have died out on here....errmm...we were at subway for our AGM btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real.

I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved.

Yes but you made me feel quite welcome and when I was having a bit of a confidence wobble you were very supportive and I think that's what the forums are all about if I'm honest.

It's great to have a giggle and a bit of fun but also to offer support when it's needed but at the same time not too Panda to people.

I know I'm waffling again but I hope that makes a bit of sense. "

Definitely. I’m a chatterbox anyway. I could talk for England

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually go out of my way to include some of the more foolish members

Cheers mate "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here

I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real."

No. Perhaps I put it wrong. I guess I meant if people don’t like me or ignore me on here it wouldn’t bother me whereas in the real world it probably would. I know what I meant!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!

The question is did you win the best boob thread...."

No . But I didn’t make a big thing about it. I just cried in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is never nice to feel slightly overlooked or ignored , the trick is to take it all as a bit of fun .

Some times the name a Forumites threads can cause a few frictions . If you go into them just Remeber it's just some larks and take it all with a pinch of salt .

Have a splendid day chums

Taff and Pooch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here

I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real."

I was about to say something similar actually.

I think some really great friendships have been formed weather they have remained virtual or have progressed to meeting in person.

Iv definitely had great personal conversations and met with people that I've interacted with on the forum that I would have overlooked if they just popped up in my inbox.

I do understand people sometimes feeling left out or ignored and yes that might say more about them than it does about others on the forum, but at the end of the day do we all not want to feel part of something and included.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?"

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here

I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real.

No. Perhaps I put it wrong. I guess I meant if people don’t like me or ignore me on here it wouldn’t bother me whereas in the real world it probably would. I know what I meant!! Haha "

Oh I hadn't read your comment to be honest,I was just going of MrNices comment in reply to your comment. I do agree people can take thing's to seriously,I wouldn't dream of going on a boobie thread I'm be crying for the rest of the day.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some.

If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people.

As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such.

I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice.

Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I just speak my mind, other than that couldn't give a flying fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id still not say im accepted my most altho no idea about the clique thing i only see people who are friends having banter with oneanother"

This is a good example because there is NOTHING wrong with it but from the outside there is a very fine line between friends chatting and becoming a clique. Forums due to the nature which is being discussed blurs that line a lot more than it really is. It is very easy to make it seem clique like when it could not be further from the truth.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced."

Gosh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud.

It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch.

All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud.

It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch.

All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong.

"

You are not alone. So technically not a lone wolf. Check mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced."

I like your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud.

It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch.

All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong.

You are not alone. So technically not a lone wolf. Check mate! "

Cheque please?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just speak my mind, other than that couldn't give a flying fuck. "

Totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced."

Who’s this guy ?

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Who gives a fuck? If you're that fragile that you worry about this sort of thing, then swinging and the internet arn't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who gives a fuck? If you're that fragile that you worry about this sort of thing, then swinging and the internet arn't for you. "

It's not fragile it's called being human!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally stick to the light hearted threads on here. I'm not one for pushing my opinions online which probably makes my personality come across as a bit boring. I'm not worried if I'm not part of any clique (Not that I know who's part of it anyway?!)

I try not to take this place too seriously and that works for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post sometimes

Its read sometimes

People comment sometimes

But as I usually post then wander away then I don't complain if others don't read or comment...

A little anonymity isn't always a bad thing

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

What is good about forums is that you can chat & banter with people with nothing about meeting. Of course some connections are made but its just fun - well thats how it should be and not get people upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? "

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced."

Have you been told this or is it just your perception?

I can't say that I've ever seen comments directed at you and I see you get responded to on a regular basis. You were actually one of the people that I was thinking about when I started this thread, I'm also responding to you now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is good about forums is that you can chat & banter with people with nothing about meeting. Of course some connections are made but its just fun - well thats how it should be and not get people upset "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im here i potter round doing my own thing if it was upsetting me or causing me angst then i wouldnt be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more of a lurker, very rare for me to comment or start threads, mostly go unnoticed. But also a big fan of the married, song, avoid threads, they’re great fun, also I avoid irony and sarcasm.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.

Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!

It happens to everyone, all the time!

The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! "

Takes note of all the classic comments DB makes, waits to see if anyone comments and then repost and see if I also get ignored...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some.

If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people.

As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such.

I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice.

Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down."

Well that saved me a lot of typing.

Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others.

Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many.

And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all.

A

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I think the ones that feel that ways are the ones that care too much about what other people think about them

While most people want a feeling of acceptance from someone at various points in life, you shouldn’t strive or Compromise yourself to be accepted. Just be you! It amazing how just simply doing that gets you noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing."

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These forums aren’t real buddy. Leave them to it and get yourself out and about to meet “real” people and not a bunch of bullying keyboard warriors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is most people come here to join in and to voice their opinions. Commenting on things others say isn't actually that common so the chances of being "ignored" is high.

Just because no one has mentioned your comment doesn't mean it hasn't been read.

Same as the "person above" type threads, they move so fast at times that people get missed. It can feel like it's just you but it really isn't, it happens to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the ones that feel that ways are the ones that care too much about what other people think about them

While most people want a feeling of acceptance from someone at various points in life, you shouldn’t strive or Compromise yourself to be accepted. Just be you! It amazing how just simply doing that gets you noticed

"

These forums show you what a deep rooted fear of rejection people have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced."

Who is left to meet though if you've blocked everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. "

Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some.

If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people.

As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such.

I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice.

Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down.

Well that saved me a lot of typing.

Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others.

Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many.

And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all.

A"

Do we still get a real pint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful.

I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about.

You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't.

P...... "

I agree with this. I used to blog on another site but it took a long time before I got a good level of replies. Forums are quick fire responses and a different beast however so I expect to be overlooked as a relative newbie breaking into an existing forum community. (Not overlooked for too long I hope)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked.

But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum.

Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me.

A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list.

It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way.

But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right.

If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine.

What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it.

They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others.

Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place.

Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced.

Who is left to meet though if you've blocked everyone. "

Hey I ain't blocked (yet) I checked.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles.

Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard."
its not your self deprecation but everything you post is doom and gloom. To me your a poster that stands out as i know what your posts are going to say. Ive never seen you post anything thats positive and upbeat

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Who gives a fuck? If you're that fragile that you worry about this sort of thing, then swinging and the internet arn't for you.

It's not fragile it's called being human!"

Get a grip. It's a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles.

Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard."

Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I think the ones that feel that ways are the ones that care too much about what other people think about them

While most people want a feeling of acceptance from someone at various points in life, you shouldn’t strive or Compromise yourself to be accepted. Just be you! It amazing how just simply doing that gets you noticed

These forums show you what a deep rooted fear of rejection people have. "

They show a lot of people flaws and insecurities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique.

There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x

Yeah some threads post so quick so it's easy to get ignored, happens to us alot sure lots of others same"

Same for me, I don’t post that often but sometimes I get a reply or two

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some.

If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people.

As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such.

I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice.

Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down.

Well that saved me a lot of typing.

Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others.

Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many.

And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all.

A

Do we still get a real pint"

Depends.

These days there tends to be less head.

A

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles.

Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard.

Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable. "

Gotta agree with the guys you really don’t do yourself many favours in that regard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some.

If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people.

As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such.

I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice.

Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down.

Well that saved me a lot of typing.

Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others.

Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many.

And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all.

A

Do we still get a real pint

Depends.

These days there tends to be less head.

A"

Oh and everyone loves a frothy moustache too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. But I think I’m integrating more and have “ met” some nice people.

I do have a bit of a gob on me. Am a nice person though.

But I’m hoping the forums bans I’ve had in the past are long behind me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cunt lot of ya

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Cunt lot of ya "

That’s cunts

If you please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?

Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose.

I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception?

You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing.

Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light.

I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles.

Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard.

Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable. "

Ah so I don't have the same kind of humour as everyone else. Bummer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cunt lot of ya

That’s cunts

If you please "
isnt he a german footballer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. But I think I’m integrating more and have “ met” some nice people.

I do have a bit of a gob on me. Am a nice person though.

But I’m hoping the forums bans I’ve had in the past are long behind me "

I love when I get banned

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Cunt lot of ya "

I've one

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I still maintain the biggest, and maybe the only clique on Fab is the “I hate the Cliquey-ness of Fab” clique

I’ve never found them cliquey personally. I’ve posted the most amazingly intelligent, humourous, insightful comment and it’s been totally ignored (even yesterday . I posted some absolutely piece of garbage and it’s been hailed as genius.

That’s the way of forums across the whole internet, and it’s part of what makes them maddening, but sometimes great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take any of it seriously. Not the primary reason for me being here

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I post what I post

If you don't like it, I don't give a shit.

Ignore me, I don't give a shit.

If I OFFENDED your soft underbelly because you're a big girl blouse ....I DON'T GIVE A SHIT.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

You putting out random statements to complete strangers. Who gives a fuck if they like you or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cunt lot of ya

I've one "
feedme

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I have started a couple of threads which were very helpful to me for the advice given and I felt I was very well received.I have commented on a lot of forums about clubs and sports and I have received personal message for further advice.On Sunday I received a wink from a young lady I messaged her back to thank her for the wink which is something I generally do she messaged me back to say she likes the way I interact on the forums so I guess I doing something right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people "

Your not the only one who can see it. I completely agree life can be hard enough without twattness on here.... Is that even a word???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people

Your not the only one who can see it. I completely agree life can be hard enough without twattness on here.... Is that even a word??? "

It’s definitely in my vocabulary . Although I do have a tendency to make words up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people

Your not the only one who can see it. I completely agree life can be hard enough without twattness on here.... Is that even a word??? "

It is now

It even sounds like a good word for some stuff that gets posted...

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Cunt lot of ya

I've one feedme"

You hungry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cunt lot of ya

I've one feedme

You hungry "

Horngry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people "

This.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique.

There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the internet in general. Think social media like Facebook encourages the online clique mentality, and filters down from that...

I'm comfortable in being a Billy No Mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not here for what anybody else thinks. If someone asks and If I have an opinion I post.

As far a cliques, they are not good enough for me so I take no notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overlooked and ignored? On an internet forum??? Give your head a wobble and get a life!!!!

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We're disliked by most because we say it as it is. None of this sugar coated stuff that people seem to love.

We get a timeout if one of us farts in our living room while posting a comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldn’t worry about it mate, i don’t take it personal.

I don’t get noticed much either but I think it’s because I haven’t met with a lot of the people who chat to each other regularly, it doesn’t bother me and if I wanted to get noticed that much I’ll message that person and if I don’t get a reply I’ll move on.

I enjoy the forum more for the entertainment reading on other people’s chats.

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

Who gives a smeg about cliques on here?

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Who gives a smeg about cliques on here?"

The clique?

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

It's not a gripe, but there are definitely cliques in here ... Just as there are in the "real world" "

I just start my own clique even if I’m the only one in it who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a case of the more you post...the more replies you get.

Once over I used to be on here at every chance I got. Now I'm hardly ever here ...but when I do make a odd post now and then and come back a day or so later...you can guarantee I have not been quoted...unless it's by my old friends Sami or voddy..

So yeah the clique does exist...or could they just be called friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is never nice to feel slightly overlooked or ignored , the trick is to take it all as a bit of fun .

Some times the name a Forumites threads can cause a few frictions . If you go into them just Remeber it's just some larks and take it all with a pinch of salt .

Have a splendid day chums

Taff and Pooch "

I'm never named on them and it's fine by me. I still join in and do my naming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldn’t worry about it mate, i don’t take it personal.

I don’t get noticed much either but I think it’s because I haven’t met with a lot of the people who chat to each other regularly, it doesn’t bother me and if I wanted to get noticed that much I’ll message that person and if I don’t get a reply I’ll move on.

I enjoy the forum more for the entertainment reading on other people’s chats. "

I noticed you!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality.

Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought.

If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too.

I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate!

Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

"

Nope, just be yourself! I receive a bit of a barracking (publicly in here, or by direct message), for saying what I think at times, and a lot of the time I am ignored. The thing is, you will always have people either agree or disagree with whatever you say, but your post is out there, forever.............

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm in a clique of one lol.

I post generally to amuse myself, sometimes it amuses other people and that's always cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality.

Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought.

If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too.

I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate!

Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality.

Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought.

If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too.

I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate!

Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! "

You speak a lot of sense lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the more you post the more you’re gunna be noticed, so it’s easy to become part of the forum community, just don’t be a cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my comments are piss taking....

I'm bound to be ignored even if I say something nice and arse licking...

Bottom line is - I don't give a shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah Jaysus. The whole point of a forum is to express your opinion.

If someone disagrees with your opinion they'll let you know first.

If you make a really valid point - they will also let you know.

I'm sure nobody's avoiding your personal expressions, they're just too busy to express their own

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.

Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said

This is me. I can never be bothered to read a whole thread half the time but I still comment or answer the question so I’m probably guilty of this "

This is me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud.

It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch.

All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong.

"

Brother? Is that you?

Damn straight... I chuck in my tuppence and move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's quite easy to feel excluded when in fact it's not always the case?

People read and reply to certain replies, and as you type another reply pops up etc?

Yes there's always the men who are intent on only replying to women to try and gain attention, the TV who's ignored on hot or not and the elite couple who wouldn't lower themselves to speak to a male, but I think as someone else commented; just keep posting and do your thing.

If you're only contributing in order to get attention, then it's not guaranteed in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day an opinion is like an arsehole... we all have one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the end of the day an opinion is like an arsehole... we all have one "

Just some arseholes are better than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to not take it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique.

There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x"

Totally agree.

I'll just carry on being my usual cheerful self.

Others will either like me or they won't, I'm certainly not going to lose any sleep over it.

Would be difficult anyway as I'm an insomniac

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just do my thing, some like some don't. Do I care ? Nope

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I know who I am and don't take no personal everyone has there own views why do some people take offence when there's no need to get on with things

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I just do my thing, some like some don't. Do I care ? Nope "

I luvs yer! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just do my thing, some like some don't. Do I care ? Nope "

What’s not to like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. But I think I’m integrating more and have “ met” some nice people.

I do have a bit of a gob on me. Am a nice person though.

But I’m hoping the forums bans I’ve had in the past are long behind me

I love when I get banned"

Was actually thinking I was overlooked and unpopular then! Thanks for not ignoring me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily I don't take anything in the forums to heart, I think that's just the way to be! But personally I do find that my comment will sometimes end the thread lol. But like I say, I'm not to bothered.

I love you all and find when needed, people that go in the forums can be very kind when needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit but it doesn't stop me from posting at all I wouldn't let it stop me

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality.

Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought.

If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too.

I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate!

Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! "

Put so much better than I did further up and in a lot fewer words!!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Cunt lot of ya

I've one feedme

You hungry

Horngry "

Bettee feed the horn then

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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People can feel excluded if that’s how they’re inclined to feel. I breeze in do my own thing then go. Do I get overlooked? Yes, loads I don’t notice it until there’s a thread like this and I go back and look. It doesn’t bother me, I’m only here for the giggle.

Join in and don’t focus on the negative would be my advice. If you are overly sensitive or needy it could be a difficult place for you.

I do think Jim is the most inclusive person on here though, with no hidden agenda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I contribute fairly regularly to certain threads

I skirt round the edges of the forums however and am not a 'player', so by default my contributions will be overlooked more than those of others

I try not to court contraversy and stay away from public showdowns over what are often mute points anyway.

I don't get involved in getting my chest, bulge, bum, underwear and god knows what else out

Neither do I commend or engage those that do

I can't expect to conduct my forum life in this way and then bemoan being overlooked

In the grand scheme of things, the validation of a group of strangers in an online chatroom is hardly life affirming is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be arsed with people in general reality, let alone a shitty clique on an internet forum.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I contribute fairly regularly to certain threads

I skirt round the edges of the forums however and am not a 'player', so by default my contributions will be overlooked more than those of others

I try not to court contraversy and stay away from public showdowns over what are often mute points anyway.

I don't get involved in getting my chest, bulge, bum, underwear and god knows what else out

Neither do I commend or engage those that do

I can't expect to conduct my forum life in this way and then bemoan being overlooked

In the grand scheme of things, the validation of a group of strangers in an online chatroom is hardly life affirming is it?"

I agree with and enjoy reading a lot of what you post. I just can't be arsed giving the every time, so you can just assume it's there

Am I overlooked, by some maybe, by others no. I don't particularly care either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cunt lot of ya

I've one feedme

You hungry

Horngry

Bettee feed the horn then "
feed me more feed me more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's possible.

When you get a group of people where some have met and some haven't you are always going to get people being ignored.

You needon't a thick skin in this place anyway so I don't see why the forum would be any different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I feel slightly peeved if I’m overlooked by the op on a thread, it’s like woah hold the phone, I’ve graced your thread with my presence and a comment now acknowledge me cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

"

nah

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over a year ago


"I admit I feel slightly peeved if I’m overlooked by the op on a thread, it’s like woah hold the phone, I’ve graced your thread with my presence and a comment now acknowledge me cunt "

ya see its smart arsed comment like that I utterly love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums?

I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance?

Nope, just be yourself! I receive a bit of a barracking (publicly in here, or by direct message), for saying what I think at times, and a lot of the time I am ignored. The thing is, you will always have people either agree or disagree with whatever you say, but your post is out there, forever............. "
it not good to be yourself when you tell it like it is people take it the wrong way so honest does not pay only lies and none true thing.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I admit I feel slightly peeved if I’m overlooked by the op on a thread, it’s like woah hold the phone, I’ve graced your thread with my presence and a comment now acknowledge me cunt "

Especially if you're the only one being overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's possible, but interaction on the internet is not for the faint hearted..

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.

Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!

It happens to everyone, all the time!

The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! "

You are usually the first to jump

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"People can feel excluded if that’s how they’re inclined to feel. I breeze in do my own thing then go. Do I get overlooked? Yes, loads I don’t notice it until there’s a thread like this and I go back and look. It doesn’t bother me, I’m only here for the giggle.

Join in and don’t focus on the negative would be my advice. If you are overly sensitive or needy it could be a difficult place for you.

I do think Jim is the most inclusive person on here though, with no hidden agenda "

He is lovely but that profile pic jeez he nearly had my eye out

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can type in any thread you like and type (within reason) whatever the hell you like. Who cares if people are ignoring posts? Enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typing in this thread, oooohohohohohohoh

Typing cos I can, oooooooooh do do do de de daa

Tie pin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can end threads too!

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