FabSwingers.com forum: Why on here and other sites.....

By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat on both kik and here mix it up a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some want to go to Kik right away. They are usually wankers with no intention of meeting.

I occasionally give one the benefit of the doubt but always end up blocking them.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"[Removed by poster at 15/01/19 14:20:38]"

I resty case... Even you won't talk to me on here lmao.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Rest my.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I resty case... Even you won't talk to me on here lmao.

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i talk to you ya big lier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rest my. "
faf?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Not a clue.

We've only ever used here and text messages.

We did Skype eachother in the early days but never any potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But cam chattings a different story thats reserved for the wicked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get it either, this site is just as quick as texting

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can understand couples wanting to do it - as it allows all three people to chat rather than one or the other of the couple being the main one messaging.

Don't see the need for two singles to do so though, unless they have got as far as agreeing to meet and Kik, What's App etc are used to keep in touch when en route to advise if running late etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rest my. "

...penis on the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its almost as if some are trying tohack your details by insisting kik or skype .

we have chat here , private messaging so best keep it here.

you wouldnt get a date on pof or tinder or match then say , hey lets go chat on fab .

keep it here incase there hacking or selling info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of video and pic hunters go straight onto kik not all though I had a female supposedly suggesting I pay her for pics on kik off this site and got quite aggressive when I would not send videos I reported her though x

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

One benefit of KIK is that your convos are stored under each persons username & not scattered amongst your other mails. I appreciate that you can click on an individual Fab Mail & the entire convo is there so long as you haven’t deleted any mails but it’s not as nicely laid out as in KIK.

Still weighing up the other pros/cons so I’ll come back to this.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

absolutly no reason someone needs to chat to me away from the siteq

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Because they think that in that way they will get our undivided attention and that they will be the only one we’re chatting to...

Hahahaha!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Dunno but we won't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rest my.

...penis on the table."
shes a girl not got a penis

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"But cam chattings a different story thats reserved for the wicked

And I also tell them I only use the cams on fab. They aren't keen to use them on here either lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they think that in that way they will get our undivided attention and that they will be the only one we’re chatting to...

Hahahaha!

Wait... You mean you are still chatting to other people while we have you on kik?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rest my.

...penis on the table.shes a girl not got a penis

Got a point there, didn't think that one through..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used kik, nor would want to. No interest in swapping rude pics.

Normally only exchange phone/whatsapp details, with trusted friends.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please. "

I don't know about the other two, but I do prefer talking on WhatsApp as I find it easier to use. Plus you can use things such as a full selection of emojis, gifs etc, which makes it a bit more fun and friendly.

Definitly don't try and move onto there immediately though, gotta chat a while and vet them before I give out my number lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they are verified.. And how long ago the last veri was.

If not verified then yeah.. Id ask them to verify via a different outlet such as kik or WhatsApp.

Anyone can photoshop a picture verification.

But they can't hide from a video call.

Some guys hold onto a verified joint account after they split from the girl i believe.

So if the last veri is very old id still ask for a vid call.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm happy to swap details if I'm meeting them after a first social, but think it's safer to keep everything here where we have admin and mods to report to if needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they think that in that way they will get our undivided attention and that they will be the only one we’re chatting to...

Hahahaha!

This and also the mailbox on here is difficult to navigate if people get a lot of mail. They might miss any new mails from the potential meet.

Also. Wank chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying that.. If its just a case that you are confident eachother are genuine and real and they are pressing you to do it... Id tell them its not an attractive thing to do.

Maybe they will think more clear after a wank.

So.. Tell them to go wank and calm the feck down ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very protective of my number so WhatsApp is reserved for the special few.

Kik is more to chat with people I'm getting on well with and would like to chat randomly when neither of us are online here.

Otherwise it just stays here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But cam chattings a different story thats reserved for the wicked

And I also tell them I only use the cams on fab. They aren't keen to use them on here either lol. "
foooook thaaaaat i dont share my perviness with the masses

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"But cam chattings a different story thats reserved for the wicked

And I also tell them I only use the cams on fab. They aren't keen to use them on here either lol. foooook thaaaaat i dont share my perviness with the masses"

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By *herealdavidjonesMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I prefer to chat on kik due to notifications and it’s more like a chat than an email system.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I don't know.... this method of communication works so why alter it? Never sits well with me when ppl do that

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

also i wouldnt want people randomly pop up for a chat or expect me to answer messages straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to chat on kik due to notifications and it’s more like a chat than an email system. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, sometimes, so that I can get off of here and away from more messages in my inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I think, if things go tits up n they get shitty then ya can't prove anything if ya report em... Or they think ya can't send pics straight from your phone... Or they might want you to send a pic you take in app, to prove you are who you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually they say messaging is easier. I dont find messaging here all that troublesome

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Also, I think, if things go tits up n they get shitty then ya can't prove anything if ya report em... Or they think ya can't send pics straight from your phone... Or they might want you to send a pic you take in app, to prove you are who you say? "

You can if you take screenshots as well as reporting.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Cos the chat app on Fab is well crap -instant messaging tells you its been delivered, read and if they are typing a reply -you get all that without having to constantly refresh the page to see any changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a gent of a certain age .. I use messenger pigeons

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm a gent of a certain age .. I use messenger pigeons

You've been conned. They didn't arrive here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Cos the chat app on Fab is well crap -instant messaging tells you its been delivered, read and if they are typing a reply -you get all that without having to constantly refresh the page to see any changes"
the exact reason why i dont use it

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

People see you've read it and expect you to respond immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I have met from here or clubs I chat to on KiK to keep in contact. It is a much more natural way for everyday chatting. For me

Fab messages = new contacts / not sure yet / maybe meet

KiK = swinger friends

WhatsApp & text = friends and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please. "

I dunno, it gets on my tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can if you take screenshots as well as reporting. "

I know but can ya prove it was them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please. "

Its so they can bombard you with the 99 cock pics that didn't make it into the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please.

Its so they can bombard you with the 99 cock pics that didn't make it into the profile

No just wank vids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please.

Its so they can bombard you with the 99 cock pics that didn't make it into the profile

No just wank vids

You're so sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please.

Its so they can bombard you with the 99 cock pics that didn't make it into the profile

No just wank vids

You're so sad

Nope very happy so ner ner

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

People see you've read it and expect you to respond immediately. "

Which is why i would only start using it after a rapport is already established -not as a first port of call when opening a chat

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Because ladies get millions of messages and messages get lost in the morass of chancer's emails

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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I resty case..."

Really laughed at that bit. Reminded me of Stanley Unwin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's annoying aa fuck on a first / 2nd message. I just reply and say call on phone Usually gets rid of the chaff

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You can if you take screenshots as well as reporting.

I know but can ya prove it was them?

Yes if you have their name on them. When police ask you to keep a diary of dates and times etc, Where's the proof there in that case?

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Discretion/Privacy is my reason to use the standalone chat apps. I don’t feel comfortable logging onto fab on the phone when I’m in public or groups or at work, worry someone may see my phone screen, whereas if they were to notice the chat apps it’s likely overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t give my number. I only give my kik to someone I’m likely to meet (so not very often) and people I’ve met or am really good friends with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t give my number. I only give my kik to someone I’m likely to meet (so not very often) and people I’ve met or am really good friends with. "

would you like my kik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t give my number. I only give my kik to someone I’m likely to meet (so not very often) and people I’ve met or am really good friends with.

would you like my kik

Lol aw thanks but I’m not looking to meet anyone new at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please. "

Guilty! But we do it so we can group chat and have the notifications. We find the notifications dont work with fab when away from wifi and we like to all be part of the convo, so all are on the same page. This way works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Discretion/Privacy is my reason to use the standalone chat apps. I don’t feel comfortable logging onto fab on the phone when I’m in public or groups or at work, worry someone may see my phone screen, whereas if they were to notice the chat apps it’s likely overlooked.

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone I have met from here or clubs I chat to on KiK to keep in contact. It is a much more natural way for everyday chatting. For me

Fab messages = new contacts / not sure yet / maybe meet

KiK = swinger friends

WhatsApp & text = friends and family "

Bang on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always wait for the women to suggest where the conversation goes next from fab.

that way its her choice and she must be fairly confident to ask for my kik.

i never push, i wait for her to decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the unlucky one who has never met anyone real from using kik......

Everyone I’ve added on kik has been sex workers soliciting services or horny male halves of couples begging to exchange cock pics and videos....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Do guys and couples almost immediately try to get you onto something like Kik, WhatsApp or Skype rather than keep the chat here? Discuss please. "

If I have Kik or WhatsApp it makes it easier to swap quick messages during the work day

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"i always wait for the women to suggest where the conversation goes next from fab.

that way its her choice and she must be fairly confident to ask for my kik.

i never push, i wait for her to decide."

This is sound advice

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By *l6789Man
over a year ago

croydon

Well from a male POV my message gets lost in hundreds in a woman’s inbox and might get missed and it’s not like people hang around on here all day. So trying to have a proper conversation can be tedious and slow here.

WhatsApp or Kik make it much easier, share pics vids and live cam.

But that’s just my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone I have met from here or clubs I chat to on KiK to keep in contact. It is a much more natural way for everyday chatting. For me

Fab messages = new contacts / not sure yet / maybe meet

KiK = swinger friends

WhatsApp & text = friends and family

Bang on!

Ideally!

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Gives the meaning of wank fodder a personal touch

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I use Skype to voice chat with someone before I commit to meeting

It ensures that who I am talking to is to a degree, who they say they are and not some 14 year old sitting in his bedroom knocking one out to your nude pics while getting off on the thought of wasting someone's time..

Anyway, it's good to talk..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just use what's app when ready to meet

I have a burner just for fab so no issue with people getting private details.

Tbh I see no point in talking much if not meeting for a few weeks anyway

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By *ix-foot-two-stuMan
over a year ago

Coventry

From someone whose business is running an online community, the private messaging system here, even compared to other forums, is woefully inadequate.

Can't share photos or videos, can't share location, can't get notifications (other than via your mail app), the quoting system is rubbish. No ability to format text or save messages for later.

Say you want to tell someone you're at a pub for a social meet. Is this messaging system reliable enough for that? Hell no.

It's WhatsApp or Skype for me as they are simply better messaging applications.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I understand it, I use fab to find people but to chat it's not a great platform. WhatsApp and Kik are far better.

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