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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, is it worth sending more than one message to someone if I haven't received a reply, I appreciate it looks a bit desperate but at the same time I know women on here get inundated with messages and there is always the chance that a message gets overlooked or bulk deleted.

What are your thoughts on this?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Read the person's profile.

It will normally clue into whether repeat messages are welcome.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

id say leave it a couple of weeks then try again as it may have got missed

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

Message once more IF you have double checked that there is nothing in their profile to suggest you may not be what they are looking for. I know that I'm far less likely to open messsages from single fellas who have a dick pic as their profile pic and who are shorter than me...so I can imagine others may have similarly shallow criteria

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Don't message again.

Just don't

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley

Try again after a few days if still nothing move on your not there type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, is it worth sending more than one message to someone if I haven't received a reply, I appreciate it looks a bit desperate but at the same time I know women on here get inundated with messages and there is always the chance that a message gets overlooked or bulk deleted.

What are your thoughts on this? "

Don't do it

I say on my profile if i haven't responded to your first message don't send a 2nd one asking whether i got the first one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be harrassment , dont bother ,if interested they will eventually message you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, is it worth sending more than one message to someone if I haven't received a reply, I appreciate it looks a bit desperate but at the same time I know women on here get inundated with messages and there is always the chance that a message gets overlooked or bulk deleted.

What are your thoughts on this? "

I check all my messages even though I bulk delete once a week, and I don’t like it when men keep messaging

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't like getting repeat messages, I think it can come across as needy, desperate, hassly, and it clogs up my inbox. Just be patient!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she really wants to talk to you she will not miss your message

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally if I'd not got a reply to the first message I'd leave it at that unless an opportunity through a forum post or similar arose.

That said ultimately it's your call and if you genuinely think there's a chance you're what they are looking for, then I don't see the harm in a further message but within a few hours, or even days, of the original is definitely a no no - a few weeks or longer later then maybe, but be prepared to leave it at that and don't make it sound desperate with references to the original message all over it.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

I don't see any real problem with sending another message, worst case scenario, you get blocked.

What I would say though, is if you do want to send another message, wait a least a month or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen a profile say keep messaging me and I might reply....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... If it says unread give it a couple hours or a few days before doing it.... If it says read and they've ignored you don't bother messaging you're not what they're after ... Same as it being deleted they don't care. They'll continue to ignore you.

Even if you have made the effort and read their profile it still doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messages people a few times, and got a meet out it, it's better to wait a few months, change your profile/pics. You never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get so many and can’t answer them all so keep trying

X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i saw a guy for 5 years who repeat messaged me. I had genuinely missed his first message

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

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Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer."
not on this site there wasnt

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer.not on this site there wasnt"

I wasn't 'worried' about unanswered messages, it was the 'office manager' in me that thought there has to be a more efficient way to handle all the extraneous bits of 'digital paper' left hanging about - although I appreciate they fall away into oblivion after a while anyway!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer.not on this site there wasnt

I wasn't 'worried' about unanswered messages, it was the 'office manager' in me that thought there has to be a more efficient way to handle all the extraneous bits of 'digital paper' left hanging about - although I appreciate they fall away into oblivion after a while anyway!"

How do undeleted messages clog up my inbox? They don't. The people who I chat to regularly pop back up to the top as unread when I get a new message from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say message again in a few weeks and if you still get no response then leave it at that.

I have to say though it puts me off if it's the same message or if it starts along the lines of "I mailed before and got no reply.." .

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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As long as there’s a lengthy gap between the first and a subsequent message I don’t mind really.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yeah give it another go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah give it another go."
. This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t got an opinion on this, but felt compelled to comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah give it another go."

You heard the lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope two reasons if they don’t answer the first would say they are not interested second makes you look desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send 15 maximum

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer.not on this site there wasnt

I wasn't 'worried' about unanswered messages, it was the 'office manager' in me that thought there has to be a more efficient way to handle all the extraneous bits of 'digital paper' left hanging about - although I appreciate they fall away into oblivion after a while anyway!

How do undeleted messages clog up my inbox? They don't. The people who I chat to regularly pop back up to the top as unread when I get a new message from them."

...if you are chatting that is fine and how it works so you have a conversation thread - that is useful. This is about messages that are read and left/abandoned, they have no on going value to either party and could be deleted!

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Clearly nobody wants to be hassled by unwelcome repeat messages but why are so many messages opened but just abandoned, that is, neither replied to nor deleted? I appreciate most 'single' women and many couples are inundated with messages so wouldn't it be better to have a, 'thanks but no thanks' button which thanks for the contact whilst automatically deleting the senders message? Leaving a message 'opened but unanswered' (one way or the other) surely clogs up your inbox and I suppose the server?!

Apparently there used to be a "thanks but no thanks" button (although I've also heard that it was on a different site). Unfortunately people complained it was too impersonal.

Why worry about messages not deleted? Not getting a response must surely be your answer.not on this site there wasnt

I wasn't 'worried' about unanswered messages, it was the 'office manager' in me that thought there has to be a more efficient way to handle all the extraneous bits of 'digital paper' left hanging about - although I appreciate they fall away into oblivion after a while anyway!

How do undeleted messages clog up my inbox? They don't. The people who I chat to regularly pop back up to the top as unread when I get a new message from them.

...if you are chatting that is fine and how it works so you have a conversation thread - that is useful. This is about messages that are read and left/abandoned, they have no on going value to either party and could be deleted!"

I do understand what you're getting at. I'm just saying there is no actual point in deleting messages. It doesn't clutter up your inbox like you think it does.

I'm sure the site would prefer it if we deleted messages (from the sent items too), but they can't really enforce you to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I wouldn’t recommend messaging them again.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be against sending the first message but if I did and did not receive a response then I'd interpret it one of two ways;

1) My message hasn't been read, so sending another message is pointless. They'll read it or not when they can or want to. If they've done a "bulk delete" without reading then that's unlikely to be someone I want to meet. Why? Because they obviously are getting all the attention they need and do not value the efforts of the people they actually are interested in. I wouldn't write again.

2) My message has been read. In that case, either they will reply when they can or they are not interested. Sending another message serves no purpose whatsoever.

In the event that you sent a copy and paste message or a dick pic or your profile had no content and no decent photos when you messaged, then take the time to fix all of that, step back for a bit, give them time to forget you and your lame efforts, then try again at a later point with a new improved approach.

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