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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley

I always message to both if its a couple seems ignorant to me if you just address the one

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it "

Mrs here, no we don't find that, in fact a lot of people seem to think they're talking to hubby only! X

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Just use it as another filter. The moment someone asks for something clearly stated on our profile we don't do then we move on.

The moment a couple or individual from a couple ask to meet alone we move on.

Sometimes it's been frustrating that you find a couple you think are very cool and a good match and then usually, the guy starts msging Mrs P thinking that she's going to hide that fact which she doesn't it ends.

We don't do dishonesty atall and we don't do disrectful either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a useful filter as far as we're concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it "

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab. "

I suppose technically he could also share a couples profile which isn't reportable, is it?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab. "

i couldn’t be bothered logging out of this one and logging back in on the couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

I suppose technically he could also share a couples profile which isn't reportable, is it?"

True but he is posting this and commenting from a single profile. So i can't comment on anything else.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?"

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only suggest that you ignore these people. If they aren't interested in both of you, why bother with them?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves."
I have found it to be the case a lot of the time. It can be off putting I'd like to talk with the person I'm gonna be actually be playing with as well beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab. "

just for you:-

Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

I suppose technically he could also share a couples profile which isn't reportable, is it?

True but he is posting this and commenting from a single profile. So i can't comment on anything else. "

The principle the OP is asking about is the same though, regardless of whether he had posted it from his couples profile or his single one

And OP yes it can be the case, and it's annoying to be ignored - which is one reason whenever I interact with a couples profile I always go to great lengths to address and be respectful to both halves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

I suppose technically he could also share a couples profile which isn't reportable, is it?

True but he is posting this and commenting from a single profile. So i can't comment on anything else.

The principle the OP is asking about is the same though, regardless of whether he had posted it from his couples profile or his single one

And OP yes it can be the case, and it's annoying to be ignored - which is one reason whenever I interact with a couples profile I always go to great lengths to address and be respectful to both halves."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thanks. My post before this one was for you both

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves. I have found it to be the case a lot of the time. It can be off putting I'd like to talk with the person I'm gonna be actually be playing with as well beforehand. "

I think it's more important to converse with *both* halves of a couple who may be inviting you to join them, not one more than the other - obviously on here that can be limited because of the functionality of the message system, but it's not that difficult to convey a sense of both messaging from the couple's perspective.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves. I have found it to be the case a lot of the time. It can be off putting I'd like to talk with the person I'm gonna be actually be playing with as well beforehand.

I think it's more important to converse with *both* halves of a couple who may be inviting you to join them, not one more than the other - obviously on here that can be limited because of the functionality of the message system, but it's not that difficult to convey a sense of both messaging from the couple's perspective."
Yeah I just don't bother meeting them then. I feel like the woman is coerced into it.

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By *eefdoddusCouple
over a year ago

Scottish Borders


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves."

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Good question. Its generally mr here that answers the messages and interacts with any couples or singles with regard to meets etc. Sometimes mrs is here sometimes she isn't. She's quite happy to let me do the "filtering" but equally happy to jump in when an interesting contact's made. Works for us. I suppose that trust is implicit and we don't give it a lot of thought.

I do get a bit annoyed when guys first message is obviously only meant for mrs deef though I must admit. Especially when their profile says they're only looking for women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it predominantly the male who runs the profile though if they meet Straight guys for instance?

I don't think that is the case to be honest - in fact thinking of the couples profiles I have interacted with they've all been either predominantly run by the lady, or shared equally between both halves.

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Good question. Its generally mr here that answers the messages and interacts with any couples or singles with regard to meets etc. Sometimes mrs is here sometimes she isn't. She's quite happy to let me do the "filtering" but equally happy to jump in when an interesting contact's made. Works for us. I suppose that trust is implicit and we don't give it a lot of thought.

I do get a bit annoyed when guys first message is obviously only meant for mrs deef though I must admit. Especially when their profile says they're only looking for women."

We run ours the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it "

Probably newbies (at the risk of generising mahoosively) as established fabbers would probably assume that the fella would be the one messaging unless stated otherwise (assuming they bothered to read the profile too)

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

It's very annoying but a good filter. We get it from couples and single fems sometimes too. Just talk to one of us. If you want singles then message singles. Even if we play separately it still involves us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just want Fonda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it

Mrs here, no we don't find that, in fact a lot of people seem to think they're talking to hubby only! X "

Same here on our couples profile. Hubby does most of the messaging and everyone been really good. We have blocked single guys though to stop this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly every message we get is directed at Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a single guy profile because that's what I am, however, I've recently started seeing a lady who has an interest in the swinging scene although our relationship is in no way exclusive. So when she feels the need to bring someone else into play I'll post it on my status, like last night. Well dear oh dear, the messages, the filth I got sent about what guys wanted to do to her were shocking, there's no pic of her on here so god knows what messages couples with pics get. Most of the messages were directed at her despite the fact there's no mention of her on my profile.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Nope only a small amount presume they are speaking to the Male of the couple... they are the ones who haven’t read our profile that says “always speaking to Mrs”! Lol

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you find yourself being ignored when messages come in, lately we’ve been getting a lot of messages from guys just adresseing the mrs, and even when we get messages from other couples they’re only wanting to chat with the wife, and some even asking just for her to join them.

When i remind them there’s two of us they get a bit arsey about it "

If this occurs we simply block without reply. Why would we want to converse with someone who's shown complete ignorance from the start?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We just want Fonda"

you animal you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab. "

I was wondering the same thing.

Perhaps you should have started this thread under your couples profile (if you have one)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

I was wondering the same thing.

Perhaps you should have started this thread under your couples profile (if you have one)"
what difference does it make which profile he uses. Its not rocket science to work out hes talking about his couples profile

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Yes hence filters now set, plus if feels onsided we don't respond

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I have a single guy profile because that's what I am, however, I've recently started seeing a lady who has an interest in the swinging scene although our relationship is in no way exclusive. So when she feels the need to bring someone else into play I'll post it on my status, like last night. Well dear oh dear, the messages, the filth I got sent about what guys wanted to do to her were shocking, there's no pic of her on here so god knows what messages couples with pics get. Most of the messages were directed at her despite the fact there's no mention of her on my profile."

That's horrible and the reason our filters block singles, we've had some truly appalling messages in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a single guy profile because that's what I am, however, I've recently started seeing a lady who has an interest in the swinging scene although our relationship is in no way exclusive. So when she feels the need to bring someone else into play I'll post it on my status, like last night. Well dear oh dear, the messages, the filth I got sent about what guys wanted to do to her were shocking, there's no pic of her on here so god knows what messages couples with pics get. Most of the messages were directed at her despite the fact there's no mention of her on my profile.

That's horrible and the reason our filters block singles, we've had some truly appalling messages in the past. "

I genuinely seriously could NOT believe it.

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I have a single guy profile because that's what I am, however, I've recently started seeing a lady who has an interest in the swinging scene although our relationship is in no way exclusive. So when she feels the need to bring someone else into play I'll post it on my status, like last night. Well dear oh dear, the messages, the filth I got sent about what guys wanted to do to her were shocking, there's no pic of her on here so god knows what messages couples with pics get. Most of the messages were directed at her despite the fact there's no mention of her on my profile.

That's horrible and the reason our filters block singles, we've had some truly appalling messages in the past.

I genuinely seriously could NOT believe it."

In the real world you could probably report them to the police xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a single guy profile because that's what I am, however, I've recently started seeing a lady who has an interest in the swinging scene although our relationship is in no way exclusive. So when she feels the need to bring someone else into play I'll post it on my status, like last night. Well dear oh dear, the messages, the filth I got sent about what guys wanted to do to her were shocking, there's no pic of her on here so god knows what messages couples with pics get. Most of the messages were directed at her despite the fact there's no mention of her on my profile.

That's horrible and the reason our filters block singles, we've had some truly appalling messages in the past.

I genuinely seriously could NOT believe it.

In the real world you could probably report them to the police xx"

If they said this stuff in a bar they would have a sore bloody nose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you talking about 'we' when your profile is single male and not a couple? Technically that is a reportable thing on Fab.

I was wondering the same thing.

Perhaps you should have started this thread under your couples profile (if you have one)"

yes i do and duplicated the OP for another member who said the sameness thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all.

We find that almost all the mail we receive is directed to both of us.

We’ve always assumed it’s got a lot to do with the way you present a couple profile, ours is representative of both of us and our pictures show us both together and separately.

We don’t filter apart from new profiles.

We answer all our polite mail honestly and politely.

Fab works perfectly for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we’ve had some awful messages, but thankfully most are nice enough x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

To be fair on our couples profile they have genrally addressed us both or me to complement My Girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just want Fonda

you animal you "

Haha you know me! Straight to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it often and it spoils it for the genuine men out there,theres sum really desperate men out there hell bent on treating the woman like a piece of meet,its same in clubs when the female goes to the bar or smoke area,they prey on the woman as if she is there todo a service,we get caught out often with sum men chatting that look and sound nice men but then spoil themselves overstepping the mark wanting to meet alone or joining them on a club visit alone,this only leads to deleat and block.

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