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Well I had a cup of brave juice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

result! Hope you get a call

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" result! Hope you get a call"

I took his number, can’t be doing with waiting to be messaged!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he gave it to you, he wants that call.

Get dialling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he gave it to you, he wants that call.

Get dialling. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take another slug from that cup and call him...now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"

My kind of woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "

Go girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"
good girl now call him

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Well done you!!!

Love it. I hope it works out well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right. Don't go scaring him off.

Take it slow and don't mention buttholes yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nah I won’t do any fab related stuff. No rude pictures. No rude messages.

Just need to see if he replies now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it! "

Last time I tried that she looked at me like I had 3 heads!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it! "
It takes balls. Well done & good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah I won’t do any fab related stuff. No rude pictures. No rude messages.

Just need to see if he replies now!"

Result!! He might still be with his kid. I'd take it as a good sign if he takes a while to reply. It could mean he's being a good dad and all his attention is with his kid.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"

Lucky guy

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By *esus H ChristMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"Nah I won’t do any fab related stuff. No rude pictures. No rude messages.

Just need to see if he replies now!"

He's a fool if he doesnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it! "

You were very brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it!

You were very brave. "

I don't see the brave bit its just common sense if you want someone's number people do it all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably see him pop up on here on his couples profile soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass the cup I could do with some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"

Wish I had your confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whatsapp calls are free ring him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "

Good woman!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say do it

They can only say no. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah I won’t do any fab related stuff. No rude pictures. No rude messages.

Just need to see if he replies now!"

I hope it all goes well for you. Well done on biting the bullet and going for it.

Xoxo

Eski

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"

I was gonna ask whether he happened to be obscenely handsome

But sounds like he was! Well done you! Hope it works out x

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

More women should do this !

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Excellent,hope it works out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh this is the big now. See if he responds. He read it 24 mins ago!

Even if he doesn’t the fact that I did it in the first place is brave for me, especially since I worked with a dude for like 9 months before telling him I fancied him and it was too late he was dating someone, which has gone tits up and he’s sniffing round again but fuck him, he missed his chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whatsapp calls are free ring him "

Nooooo bad idea!!

Message first and build up to that!

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

The anticipation is killing me here

I’m such a soppy bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh this is the big now. See if he responds. He read it 24 mins ago!

Even if he doesn’t the fact that I did it in the first place is brave for me, especially since I worked with a dude for like 9 months before telling him I fancied him and it was too late he was dating someone, which has gone tits up and he’s sniffing round again but fuck him, he missed his chance!"

Probably playing the rules of dating ... Message after a given period of time to keep you keen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well nothing so far. Never mind.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Well nothing so far. Never mind. "

Probably messaging his mate saying ‘omg this really hot woman asked for my number today and now she’s messaged me. What do I say? Should I play it cool?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well nothing so far. Never mind.

Probably messaging his mate saying ‘omg this really hot woman asked for my number today and now she’s messaged me. What do I say? Should I play it cool?’ "

No sorry not acceptable. If he hasn't replied upon reading cut him loose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did something similar Op, I saw a stunning blonde in the supermarket, so I walked right up to her and said ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’

Cut to 20 minutes later I’m at home tucking into some Dairylea by myself.

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Ahh this is the big now. See if he responds. He read it 24 mins ago!

Even if he doesn’t the fact that I did it in the first place is brave for me, especially since I worked with a dude for like 9 months before telling him I fancied him and it was too late he was dating someone, which has gone tits up and he’s sniffing round again but fuck him, he missed his chance!"

Riveted by this. Really hope he messages back. And even if he doesn’t, good on you for putting yourself out there and being brave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done! I had a girl once asking for my number. I really liked it and she was hot but couldn’t as I’m in a relationship.

I hope it goes well for you! You are not losing anything if you went up. You will lose if you didn’t try

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Well nothing so far. Never mind. "

He's probably reading this from his fab account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play for doing it as I'm sure we've all wanted to do the same before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well nothing so far. Never mind.

Probably messaging his mate saying ‘omg this really hot woman asked for my number today and now she’s messaged me. What do I say? Should I play it cool?’

No sorry not acceptable. If he hasn't replied upon reading cut him loose "

Aww really, in this situation I’d give it a bit, not an hour though! Yeah doesn’t look like he will.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever."

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4. "

I'm only messing just give him time,was he stopping in tonight do you know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I'm only messing just give him time,was he stopping in tonight do you know?"

I literally spoke to him for minutes as he was leaving, managed to get his name, his age, where he’s from and his number. I assume he would’ve had the kid for the day and night possibly?

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By *carlettVanillaWoman
over a year ago

Gloucesterish

Well done for being brave!! Love it!! Feel proud that you seized the moment whatever the outcome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4. "

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I'm only messing just give him time,was he stopping in tonight do you know?

I literally spoke to him for minutes as he was leaving, managed to get his name, his age, where he’s from and his number. I assume he would’ve had the kid for the day and night possibly? "

He might need some brave juice to chat as a lot of guys think they are punching above their weight when chatting to a lady ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

well done for getting out there.

He might be a shy guy and plucking up the courage to respond. Id leave it till tomorrow before i cut my loses. Youve done it once you can do it again

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit. "

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh. "

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority. "

A kid that he probably has for the weekend, plus he was with his kid at the swimming baths not a nightclub and not off fab so the whole message thing might not come so easy to people as we see it.

I’m just pleased with myself that I had the guts to approach a guy in the real world.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority.

A kid that he probably has for the weekend, plus he was with his kid at the swimming baths not a nightclub and not off fab so the whole message thing might not come so easy to people as we see it.

I’m just pleased with myself that I had the guts to approach a guy in the real world. "
good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh. "

When you receive a whatapp you know it is there and who it is from without actually having to click on it to read the content of the message.

If your too busy to respond at that time then why read it?

Even if he thinks he is punching above his weight (which I don't buy as she said he is hot & hot peeps know they are attractive) and not sure how to proceed then again why read it?

I'm not saying this to appear harsh but this lady has said her desire to date so I assume that's with the view of potential relationship. Therefore she deserves someone who is going to be straight with her and not someone who may play games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority. "

If he is busy with kids why read in first place that's what I'm saying

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority.

If he is busy with kids why read in first place that's what I'm saying "

Because reading a message takes literally seconds? Especially since he probably picked his phone up when he got the notification in case it was important.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

When you receive a whatapp you know it is there and who it is from without actually having to click on it to read the content of the message.

If your too busy to respond at that time then why read it?

Even if he thinks he is punching above his weight (which I don't buy as she said he is hot & hot peeps know they are attractive) and not sure how to proceed then again why read it?

I'm not saying this to appear harsh but this lady has said her desire to date so I assume that's with the view of potential relationship. Therefore she deserves someone who is going to be straight with her and not someone who may play games.

"

Well yeah of course she does,but if someone expects me to reply to their message straight away even if I had read it it would have me running for the hills it sounds controlling to me.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

And this is why I turn the arrows off on my WhatsApp. They seem to feed neurotic behaviour. If you sent a text message, you'd have no idea if it'd been read.

If he's with his kids, replying to the OP is naturally not his priority.

A kid that he probably has for the weekend, plus he was with his kid at the swimming baths not a nightclub and not off fab so the whole message thing might not come so easy to people as we see it.

I’m just pleased with myself that I had the guts to approach a guy in the real world. "

Oh, absolutely- confidence is attractive.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

When you receive a whatapp you know it is there and who it is from without actually having to click on it to read the content of the message.

If your too busy to respond at that time then why read it?

Even if he thinks he is punching above his weight (which I don't buy as she said he is hot & hot peeps know they are attractive) and not sure how to proceed then again why read it?

I'm not saying this to appear harsh but this lady has said her desire to date so I assume that's with the view of potential relationship. Therefore she deserves someone who is going to be straight with her and not someone who may play games.

Well yeah of course she does,but if someone expects me to reply to their message straight away even if I had read it it would have me running for the hills it sounds controlling to me."

You're a woman though, different rules for women remember.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit. "

Good grief

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

When you receive a whatapp you know it is there and who it is from without actually having to click on it to read the content of the message.

If your too busy to respond at that time then why read it?

Even if he thinks he is punching above his weight (which I don't buy as she said he is hot & hot peeps know they are attractive) and not sure how to proceed then again why read it?

I'm not saying this to appear harsh but this lady has said her desire to date so I assume that's with the view of potential relationship. Therefore she deserves someone who is going to be straight with her and not someone who may play games.

Well yeah of course she does,but if someone expects me to reply to their message straight away even if I had read it it would have me running for the hills it sounds controlling to me."
sounds more than controlling to me and yes id definetly run for the hills

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go you miss hooves... well done... hope it works out for you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Op, go and have a wank or something. Put your phone down. He'll respond to it when he's ready. Don't bin him off because he's not given you a response on reading.

I'm so glad I'm not dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit.

Blooming heck that's a bit harsh.

When you receive a whatapp you know it is there and who it is from without actually having to click on it to read the content of the message.

If your too busy to respond at that time then why read it?

Even if he thinks he is punching above his weight (which I don't buy as she said he is hot & hot peeps know they are attractive) and not sure how to proceed then again why read it?

I'm not saying this to appear harsh but this lady has said her desire to date so I assume that's with the view of potential relationship. Therefore she deserves someone who is going to be straight with her and not someone who may play games.

"

But not all attractive people strut around as if they think they can have anyone they like.

We all have our insecurities. Maybe this guy does too

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Blimey, thank god im not in the dating game anymore - the rules are harsh! Could it be he accidentally opened the message before he was ready/free to respond? I’ve done it myself. Or he might have had every intention of replying and got interrupted.. kids, visitors, emergency etc, or he’s out and about and wants to be able to take time in wording his reply. Who knows?!

To be fair, If I was him and replied the next day and got a negative response for not replying promptly I’d think they were a bit high maintenance and be glad I was shot of them.

Good luck OP, you’ve got to be in it to win it and patience is a virtue.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you do something really radical?

You have his number?

Pick up the phone and make a call. There's no ambiguity in an exchange of human voices. No waiting for read reports and all that shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m fine. I’m not stressing at all. I’m just amazed I had the balls to actually go up to someone with their child in toe in a leisure centre in the middle of the afternoon! Granted he’s probably thinking I’m a weirdo now but I’m not stressing.

I’ve got guys from here that I’m messaging, one I’ve met twice and meeting again Friday for the proper meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fine. I’m not stressing at all. I’m just amazed I had the balls to actually go up to someone with their child in toe in a leisure centre in the middle of the afternoon! Granted he’s probably thinking I’m a weirdo now but I’m not stressing.

I’ve got guys from here that I’m messaging, one I’ve met twice and meeting again Friday for the proper meet. "

Definitely not a weirdo. He is probably intimidated that you had the balls to do it when he didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m fine. I’m not stressing at all. I’m just amazed I had the balls to actually go up to someone with their child in toe in a leisure centre in the middle of the afternoon! Granted he’s probably thinking I’m a weirdo now but I’m not stressing.

I’ve got guys from here that I’m messaging, one I’ve met twice and meeting again Friday for the proper meet. "

Fairly sure he doesn’t think you’re a weirdo - he gave his number after all.

I’d say he was gobsmacked and chuffed and is working up the nerve to reply.

Watch this space....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I’m fine. I’m not stressing at all. I’m just amazed I had the balls to actually go up to someone with their child in toe in a leisure centre in the middle of the afternoon! Granted he’s probably thinking I’m a weirdo now but I’m not stressing.

I’ve got guys from here that I’m messaging, one I’ve met twice and meeting again Friday for the proper meet.

Fairly sure he doesn’t think you’re a weirdo - he gave his number after all.

I’d say he was gobsmacked and chuffed and is working up the nerve to reply.

Watch this space.... "
thats what i think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just checked and he’s not been online since he read my message.

Bare in mind he didn’t have my number so it would’ve been just an unrecognised number that popped up.

Also noticed that in his WhatsApp picture he’s sat next to a guy that I know that used to shag my mate years ago and one occasion when she was pissed in her room and I was in her sitting room with a few other people he tried to get off with me and I told him to behave!! Small world ay!?

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales


"I’m fine. I’m not stressing at all. I’m just amazed I had the balls to actually go up to someone with their child in toe in a leisure centre in the middle of the afternoon! Granted he’s probably thinking I’m a weirdo now but I’m not stressing.

I’ve got guys from here that I’m messaging, one I’ve met twice and meeting again Friday for the proper meet. "

Girl, you are super brave and it’s amazing to push yourself out of your comfort zone. That sort of thing is scary af! And whether he replies or not you should be super proud that you walked up to a complete stranger and asked for their number, that’s a big fucking deal!

Sassy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More women should approach guys and hide behind the 'but what if I get rejected? It would feel awful!' stuff.

Yeah, rejection feels bad but what if he's single and into you?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"More women should approach guys and hide behind the 'but what if I get rejected? It would feel awful!' stuff.

Yeah, rejection feels bad but what if he's single and into you?"

I'm not even sure that rejection feels that bad in a situation like that. People are usually pretty nice about it, because even if they are taken it's pretty flattering.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've only ever had one lady give me her number written like this...I certainly gave her a call

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Flattering or creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine a woman asking you your number. I think i'd have a heart attack.

Although i'd probably have a Groucho Marx attitude to it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Flattering or creepy"

Depends how attractive you found them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More women should approach guys and hide behind the 'but what if I get rejected? It would feel awful!' stuff.

Yeah, rejection feels bad but what if he's single and into you?"

What's your number?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Good for you Hooves, sometimes you've just got to go for it. I'd give him 24hrs to get back to you. Maybe 48 if he was really, really sexy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least he didnt just delete it without reading it like many a message sent on here !!...

Joking aside, i would be flattered if a woman approached me and asked for my number and yes i wouldnt respond immediately to the message because, like here, you want it to be a good message and not come across like a dick.

PS - i would laugh my head off if the first reply you recieved was a dick pic !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it!

You were very brave.

I don't see the brave bit its just common sense if you want someone's number people do it all the time. "

Not in my world they don't. Not women anyway. I know I wouldn't.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Flattering or creepy"
flattering..of course ..any ladies out there wanting to pm me their mobile numbers will be gratefully received

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it!

You were very brave.

I don't see the brave bit its just common sense if you want someone's number people do it all the time.

Not in my world they don't. Not women anyway. I know I wouldn't. "

I wouldn't either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t sound like a big deal but can you imagine the scenario. Imagine how many fit people you see every day that you may exchange looks or glances with but never act on it, I was like what have I got to lose, nothing so I just did it!

You were very brave.

I don't see the brave bit its just common sense if you want someone's number people do it all the time.

Not in my world they don't. Not women anyway. I know I wouldn't.

I wouldn't either."

In the twilight zone where a woman actually asked for my number (or gave me hers without me asking) I'd honestly be so impressed that I'd be sold there and then that I'd be giving her a chance.

1. Just the straight up confidence of her doing it

2. The shock that it happened

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I saw a lady in the petrol station the other week. We exchanged glances. I’m regretted not going over to chat. Next time I will. What’s the worst she can say!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"I saw a lady in the petrol station the other week. We exchanged glances. I’m regretted not going over to chat. Next time I will. What’s the worst she can say! "

If I see an attractive woman looking at me I just presume I must have something stuck on my face or in my teeth. Not in a million years would I ever think to approach them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I saw a lady in the petrol station the other week. We exchanged glances. I’m regretted not going over to chat. Next time I will. What’s the worst she can say! "

Honestly just do it. I never thought I would do something like that yesterday and I think of all the times I’ve seen people out and about like in tescos or anywhere and done nothing.

I think if you lock eyes with someone somewhere and whenever you take a look at them they’re looking at you, then you should just go up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't ask.

Don't get

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Have you heard anything yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is still a better love story than twilight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did something similar Op, I saw a stunning blonde in the supermarket, so I walked right up to her and said ‘Excuse me, has anyone ever told you, you’re stood in front of the Dairylea Lunchables ?!’

Cut to 20 minutes later I’m at home tucking into some Dairylea by myself. "

Ahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?"

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is so exciting... dying to hear if he gets in touch!!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Fingers crossed for you OP

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Nice one OP - good luck.

He's a lucky fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a lady in the petrol station the other week. We exchanged glances. I’m regretted not going over to chat. Next time I will. What’s the worst she can say! "

Sure she'll be there tomorrow fellow Jay

If your car is full up buy a ginsters slice

She works the morning shift i believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read. "

Most tense thread I’ve read. Best of luck and you did the right thing approaching him. The worst outcome is that he will feel very pleased that an attractive woman approached him (believe me, we all love that) and the best...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read. "

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read. "

If I was that guy, I would have replied ASAP but my situation and his are probably way too different. I can only see the pics that you have on here, so he is one lucky dude to have see you in person and for you to go to him. But I played the “keep looking at WhatsApp game”, it is torture. Keep yourself busy with other guys as you are, his loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again? "

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Well you're not short on options on here anyway hope it goes well and I'm following avidly well done for asking for his number - hopefully it all gives you some added confidence for your meet on Friday if nothing else

V x

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "

You are amazing and so brave. I wish I have at least slice of courage of yours.

I am not forward at all and usually take a step back when I like someone.

It explains why I have been single for over 6 years.

I really think this was amazing and thank you for sharing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to my local pool all the time, see mum's I fancy, the ones who actually play with their children and unafraid of getting their hair wet are the ones who get most of my attention.

I have to remember where I am though. It's supposed to be a safe place and I don't want them to feel they're being letched at.

A couple of times there's been some eye contact and a smile, but given both sets of children are flapping around us like sea turtles. I'm not tgat comfortable making my introductions in a pool. Let alone asking them out

Maybe I'll take a leaf out of OPs book one day and aquadate.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place. "

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go to my local pool all the time, see mum's I fancy, the ones who actually play with their children and unafraid of getting their hair wet are the ones who get most of my attention.

I have to remember where I am though. It's supposed to be a safe place and I don't want them to feel they're being letched at.

A couple of times there's been some eye contact and a smile, but given both sets of children are flapping around us like sea turtles. I'm not tgat comfortable making my introductions in a pool. Let alone asking them out

Maybe I'll take a leaf out of OPs book one day and aquadate."

He was fully dressed and about to leave when I went over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed."

Yeah good point he might not be single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go to my local pool all the time, see mum's I fancy, the ones who actually play with their children and unafraid of getting their hair wet are the ones who get most of my attention.

I have to remember where I am though. It's supposed to be a safe place and I don't want them to feel they're being letched at.

A couple of times there's been some eye contact and a smile, but given both sets of children are flapping around us like sea turtles. I'm not tgat comfortable making my introductions in a pool. Let alone asking them out

Maybe I'll take a leaf out of OPs book one day and aquadate.

He was fully dressed and about to leave when I went over "

I know, my boys are on each elbow at that moment though. They'd be giving me daggers if I went up to a woman I liked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single. "

Would an attached guy give his number out though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would an attached guy give his number out though? "

Unfortunately, yes some of them do. Especially when approached by a beautiful woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would an attached guy give his number out though?

Unfortunately, yes some of them do. Especially when approached by a beautiful woman."

Well if he is attached and gives his number out then you don’t want to get involved with him. But you could ask your friend who he is. He might a genuine reason why he has not replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is still a better love story than twilight"

And better written than 50 Shades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might still have his child for the weekend and doesn't want any distractions while he talks to you.

He may be thinking of Whatsapping you to ask if it's ok to call you.

He won't want to call while you both have children around.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single.

Would an attached guy give his number out though? "

It may be his work number,I don't know I'm just wondering why he wouldn't contact you after giving it out. Seems rather strange.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single.

Would an attached guy give his number out though?

It may be his work number,I don't know I'm just wondering why he wouldn't contact you after giving it out. Seems rather strange."

Maybe. His picture on there is in a pub him in the middle of two guys, one I know quite well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he wasn’t interested surely he would have said so or given a fake number? None of us know what is going with him there could be problems his side. Hang in there for a bit longer I say!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single.

Would an attached guy give his number out though?

It may be his work number,I don't know I'm just wondering why he wouldn't contact you after giving it out. Seems rather strange.

Maybe. His picture on there is in a pub him in the middle of two guys, one I know quite well. "

Well enough to message and ask if his friend is single? Bit starkerish that though isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he is in and comes in the lounge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single.

Would an attached guy give his number out though?

It may be his work number,I don't know I'm just wondering why he wouldn't contact you after giving it out. Seems rather strange.

Maybe. His picture on there is in a pub him in the middle of two guys, one I know quite well. "

Maybe they've spoken about you already? Maybe he knows you're on here now? Maybe that's put him off?

Maybe maybe maybe..

You've done your bit. Grew some confidence and did something most men would be incredibly flattered and impressed by.

Don't lose any sleep over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he is in and comes in the lounge"

And is reading this thread right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he is in and comes in the lounge"

On fab*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "

Sorry I’ve not had chance to reply yet!!

Just kidding of course. Hope it all goes well for you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always say do it

They can only say no. X "

Or fxxk off, that's what I got

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

"

I'd not see any reason not to trust them just because they were forward in this way. I'd welcome it, would take a lot of pressure of me and have huge respect for their confidence to do so. Would definitely consider it.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

I'd not see any reason not to trust them just because they were forward in this way. I'd welcome it, would take a lot of pressure of me and have huge respect for their confidence to do so. Would definitely consider it. "

100% agree. I would appreciate if the woman came to me first. I am shy in the real world, hard to approach a woman and knowing that they like me would help the fear of rejection feelings I get.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

"

I'd be fine with it. Once someone had revived me from fainting with shock, of course .

I still think it's relatively early days. Lots of blokes (and woman?) employ a rule not to respond too quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

"

I'd be over the moon. Confidence, courage, bravery are all traits I find highly attractive in everyone. Why is it down to us men to make the moves all the time?

Was watching a dating advice programme on internet (yeah.. need help ). The man giving the talk was explaining why women should be the ones making the first moves. As the guys who do approach women in bars tend not to be fussy and will say anything to anyone to get in. So usually arseholes. Whereas men like myself dont want to pester you whilst you're enjoying yourself.

It's the whole eye contact thing, if you're both making repeated eye contact and smiling across the room. I'll move.. eventually But does it really matter who moves first? I think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

I'd be fine with it. Once someone had revived me from fainting with shock, of course .

I still think it's relatively early days. Lots of blokes (and woman?) employ a rule not to respond too quickly."

Same, I'd be K.Oed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the only time I would ask for a man's number-or offer mine- is if we have been chatting a bit and getting on well, and I think he might be interested in me.

I would probably say it in a light-hearted way, not go in for the kill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow OP.....although if I looked like you I'd be doing the same. As if anyone would say no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow OP.....although if I looked like you I'd be doing the same. As if anyone would say no!"

You'd be surprised. I've walked away from attractive women and men because of arrogance.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit. "

Other people have lives and nerves and thoughts...... the idea that he hasn't jumped to attention can be a positive thing.

I guess saying ' fuck him' is a good way of hiding disappointment or low self esteem.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

"

Seriously?

I think any man who, in 2019, thinks there is an issue with women asking men out should find a time machine and go back to 1955 as he would probably be more at home there.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

Seriously?

I think any man who, in 2019, thinks there is an issue with women asking men out should find a time machine and go back to 1955 as he would probably be more at home there. "

Oi ....... anything from 1955 is classic vintage....

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"What do men think about this approach? I'm thinking real world, not fab related, where double standards are rife. Would you consider a serious relationship from this aporoach or would you see the woman as too forward and be wondering if you could trust them if in a relationship. So glad I'm not into dating it sounds a mindfield.

Seriously?

I think any man who, in 2019, thinks there is an issue with women asking men out should find a time machine and go back to 1955 as he would probably be more at home there. "

It's a question. Are you saying double standards no longer exist as to how men and women are perceived? If that's the case great, we have moved forward which is fantastic. Let's hope it works out and this inspires more women who are looking for relationships to take the initiative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a question. Are you saying double standards no longer exist as to how men and women are perceived? If that's the case great, we have moved forward which is fantastic. Let's hope it works out and this inspires more women who are looking for relationships to take the initiative. "

I think the majority of men would be fine with it. I do think though that when it comes to locker room talk among some of the guys it would very much likely seem like. Something to be ashamed of or made to feel less like a man.

I definitely know what you mean about the double standards thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He may be sorting all his children out give him time,putting 6 kids into bed takes forever.

He only had one with him. Looked about 3 or 4.

I have children and work full time shifts in a mentally demanding job on top of managing household and making sure parents are ok.

If I get a whatapp, whoever it's from, I do not read it until I have the time to respond. I'm sorry I just don't think it's acceptable to read a message and leave it at that. Even if he responds tomorrow i would not entertain him as its a sign of things to come but that's just my buffalo stance on the issue.

Take.

No.

Shit. "

I this attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read.

Are you likely to see him next weekend again?

Nope. Never seen him before despite him being from my nearest town and in his pic he’s sat next to a guy I know very well! I was only in this place for a kids pool party and he was there as it’s also open to the public.

He’s been online thus morning now as well so doesn’t look like I’ll get a reply. But still it was brave in the first place.

Oh right it was for a party I was thinking it was for lessons,yes it's not looking good is it. I wonder if he is actually married and told you a porky,but yes it doesn't take away the fact you were brave. There's still time before you give up completely,fingers crossed.

Yeah good point he might not be single.

Would an attached guy give his number out though? "

Yes.

They do unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes attached guys do give their number out.

One meet I was recently on this married guy who uses this forum kept on pestering her even though he knew she was with me at the time.

He was dead jealous of the fact so kept contacting her to try and interupt our time together.

In the end I told her to turn her phone off or tell him to go play with his wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Probably does look a bit forward doesn’t it, wondering if I’m a nut job most likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anyone go swimming

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Probably does look a bit forward doesn’t it, wondering if I’m a nut job most likely. "

Thing is if he rings then he's doing it for the right reasons - 1. He is interested 2. He is not out off by a confident woman.

Don't let it put you off doing it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably does look a bit forward doesn’t it, wondering if I’m a nut job most likely. "

Depends how you did it, if you did it casually and breezy, then it’s cool. Easy come, easy go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "

Lucky swine!

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By *winger212Woman
over a year ago

Live in spain


"Have you heard anything yet?

Nope but he hasn’t been online since my message was read. "

Hopefully he got so excited by your message that he dropped the phone, it smashed and cause it's Sunday he can't get it fixed

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By *LOVEpinacoladasWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Probably does look a bit forward doesn’t it, wondering if I’m a nut job most likely. "

Sure, it's forward, but nothing wrong with that! Good on you for asking, and I hope it doesn't put you off doing it in future.

I always wonder how many missed connections there are, as people just don't seem to strike up conversations with strangers these days (myself included). Maybe I'll try and take inspiration from you in 2019! ^_^

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Probably does look a bit forward doesn’t it, wondering if I’m a nut job most likely. "

No he was probably pleasantly surprised and flattered. Hope it all works out

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only takes a second to reply. It's fucking rude not to reply. I'd bin him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually went up to a guy in public in the real world and asked for his number!"

Damn always in the wrong place again.

All i can say is lucky guy .

Don't waste that drop of courage make that call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was at a kids party as well. I was there with my kid for a pool party in the city, he was in the pool with his kid I was sat with one of the other mums in the viewing area. Could see him in his trunks, awesome body, exchanged a few glances. He had food in the cage bit with his kid and then when he looked like leaving I just had that moment of fuck it just do it, chances are he’s got his kid for the day. I just went up to him and said could you tell I was checking you out, asked if he was attached and he said he wasn’t and that he was 36 and actually doesn’t live far from me considering we were 40 mins away from our area. He said take my number then, so I did! Just whatsapped him but he’s not read it yet. Is him before anyone says he gave me a fake number, can see him in the WhatsApp picture. "
good for you wish i had the balls like that sometimes

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By *uma69Man
over a year ago

stockport

I wish there was more ladies like you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he replied yet?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It only takes a second to reply. It's fucking rude not to reply. I'd bin him.

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how can she bin him. hes not there to bin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he doesn’t message by July,I’d say ping him a text.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?"

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

"

Feck ettiquette. You did the right thing. If you like a person - you let them know it. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

"

It's all down to each individual.

I gave my number to a man as I was going into Morrison's the other day. He texted me as I was on my way home and called me later that evening. He's texted and called me every day since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

It's all down to each individual.

I gave my number to a man as I was going into Morrison's the other day. He texted me as I was on my way home and called me later that evening. He's texted and called me every day since. "

Those energy salesman don’t count!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

It's all down to each individual.

I gave my number to a man as I was going into Morrison's the other day. He texted me as I was on my way home and called me later that evening. He's texted and called me every day since.

Those energy salesman don’t count!"

I don't make eye contact with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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If he is busy with kids why read in first place that's what I'm saying "

I read texts and don't always reply straight away

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me. "

You're over thinking it.

You put yourself out there which can only be a good thing. Especially after all the angst about the Christmas party guy and how long it took to build up to telling him you liked him.

Chalk it up to experience and move on. If he does message back just take it easy.

There's no set formula to how these this work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me.

You're over thinking it.

You put yourself out there which can only be a good thing. Especially after all the angst about the Christmas party guy and how long it took to build up to telling him you liked him.

Chalk it up to experience and move on. If he does message back just take it easy.

There's no set formula to how these this work. "

Yeah I need to be somewhere in the middle. Not months and months and miss my chance and not grabbing someone as they’re walking out of a leisure centre with their kid!

God I don’t do things by halves!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me.

You're over thinking it.

You put yourself out there which can only be a good thing. Especially after all the angst about the Christmas party guy and how long it took to build up to telling him you liked him.

Chalk it up to experience and move on. If he does message back just take it easy.

There's no set formula to how these this work.

Yeah I need to be somewhere in the middle. Not months and months and miss my chance and not grabbing someone as they’re walking out of a leisure centre with their kid!

God I don’t do things by halves! "

You need to just be you. Approach who you like how you like and it will work for the right person. If you've got to play games from the get go then it's not right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he replied yet?

Nope. He ain’t going to now.

My mate said I shouldn’t have messaged the same day. Should have waited at least a day for him to think about it and think is she going to message me so when I do finally message, it’s exciting kind of thing.

See I didn’t know all this etiquette side of things and I’m honest all I saw was a fit guy and wanted to get to know him, didn’t think how weird it comes across.

But it’s all a learning thing, maybe in future I’ll actually chat a bit more instead of going straight in for the kill!

Feck ettiquette. You did the right thing. If you like a person - you let them know it. Simple. "

I hate game playing.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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It's all down to each individual.

I gave my number to a man as I was going into Morrison's the other day. He texted me as I was on my way home and called me later that evening. He's texted and called me every day since.

Those energy salesman don’t count!"

hahaha

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me. "

Don't give up, the next one may reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine what this dude looks like though, insane body, handsome as fuck, he ain’t gonna struggle with birds.

Probably was a bit shocked at the directness when I asked him but after processing it and the fact I messaged him straight away he can probably see it was a bit weird and what kind of woman would do this kind of thing.

He’s right to not message me.

You're over thinking it.

You put yourself out there which can only be a good thing. Especially after all the angst about the Christmas party guy and how long it took to build up to telling him you liked him.

Chalk it up to experience and move on. If he does message back just take it easy.

There's no set formula to how these this work. "

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