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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is my first post on hear but feel i have such emotion and passion im holding back inside.

I feel like im stuck living in a world where i cant be myself, express fantasies or be who i want to be. This site is great as ive seen other people have kinky filthy thoughts too but i just find it doesn't seem to happen to me any more. In the past ive had such a kinky sexual time and now its, well its nothing at all.

I crave a female i can trust, talk to and let all my feelings out with. Not meeting or anything just to talk to. Love to find someone whos in the same position who is willing to open up to me too!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

In some ways this site is very liberating. In other ways it’s a cul-se-sac leading to despair. Quite interesting, either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's life for a lot of us.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

U need to get out more...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

op your only 26 youve got the rest of your life ahead. Remember lots of people dont know who they are or even what their fantasies are until they have matured

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op your only 26 youve got the rest of your life ahead. Remember lots of people dont know who they are or even what their fantasies are until they have matured

Good luck"

exactly

These are wise words.

I wish I was 26 again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah very true, i just hold myself back and i dont know why. I pass up offers i would love to do with a weird sense of guilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a world smaller than ever thanks to the internet, mostly rhr constant distractions, illusions of opportunity and being able to see what everyone else in the world is doing constantly, 26 isn't young anymore.

I turned 45 after my 18th birthday. Never had youth. For some people it just doesn't work like that.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I wish mate I had found this site when I was 26.

Make the most of the cards you have been dealt in life. This site is brilliant for kinky fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Your so right, 26 might be a low number but isnt such a young age. i have a career and responsibilities in life, i cant be as reckless as i could a few years ago.

Approaching 30 far too quickly and wishing i had someone with similar interests sexually and non, is hard to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your so right, 26 might be a low number but isnt such a young age. i have a career and responsibilities in life, i cant be as reckless as i could a few years ago.

Approaching 30 far too quickly and wishing i had someone with similar interests sexually and non, is hard to find. "

When i was 26 i had just jacked in a very responsible and well paid but boring job to go and work in a holiday camp ...

Now thats wreckless!

It did make me happy tho ugh

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Your so right, 26 might be a low number but isnt such a young age. i have a career and responsibilities in life, i cant be as reckless as i could a few years ago.

Approaching 30 far too quickly and wishing i had someone with similar interests sexually and non, is hard to find. "
id lived with 2 guys was married and had a child by the time i was 25 doesnt mean you dont still have the rest of your life ahead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That sounds fun! I cant really escape my job (not that i want to as i love it) but i am emotionally tied in!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

26 is nothing. You can still do what you do at 48 no worries. Loads of time, don’t wish it away. It’s valuable, so fill it with experiences and memories not mournful moanings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really ... fill your time with real life adventures and adrenaline fuelled hobbies! Party ... because it's not so easy when you're older with more responsibility! Travel, go to festivals, meet real people, socialise ... instead of concentrating on what you can't get, go out and grab life with both hands, arms spread and shout woohoo at the moon ... we're only here once and get older by the second!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think my point is slightly missed. Im no poet by any means, but i was more implying that i wish i could be open about my desires and feelings more. I dont have anyone i can turn to to just talk to and ask for advice from.

Sorry ive been quite missleading with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point is slightly missed. Im no poet by any means, but i was more implying that i wish i could be open about my desires and feelings more. I dont have anyone i can turn to to just talk to and ask for advice from.

Sorry ive been quite missleading with this"

Not many people do to be honest ... which is why we natter here lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I think my point is slightly missed. Im no poet by any means, but i was more implying that i wish i could be open about my desires and feelings more. I dont have anyone i can turn to to just talk to and ask for advice from.

Sorry ive been quite missleading with this"
you can be open, chat and ask advice on the forums here. Right mind of information we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point is slightly missed. Im no poet by any means, but i was more implying that i wish i could be open about my desires and feelings more. I dont have anyone i can turn to to just talk to and ask for advice from.

Sorry ive been quite missleading with this"

I think a lot of people are in the same boat..

Which is why its good you are on here

Ask the forum for advice..

Chances are someone somewhere has been through it at some point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess filthiness, swinging and big kinks isnt considered “the norm” in this world. I do find this site great for fitting in. Seeing other people with the same fantasies really helps.

Thanks guys your comments have really helped and made me feel better

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"In some ways this site is very liberating. In other ways it’s a cul-se-sac leading to despair. Quite interesting, either way. "

Great ananolgy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like literally everything in life, if you aren't successful and don't fit in, it's shit. If you are successful and fit in, it's great.

Nae rocket science.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Your so right, 26 might be a low number but isnt such a young age. i have a career and responsibilities in life, i cant be as reckless as i could a few years ago.

Approaching 30 far too quickly and wishing i had someone with similar interests sexually and non, is hard to find. "

Life is fleeting, enjoy yourself whilst you can.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I wish mate I had found this site when I was 26.

Make the most of the cards you have been dealt in life. This site is brilliant for kinky fun.

"

I'm glad I didn't find this site until 40 odd..... I don't find being in your 20s on here mentally healthy... There's 2001 other thing to do and enjoy in your 20s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish mate I had found this site when I was 26.

Make the most of the cards you have been dealt in life. This site is brilliant for kinky fun.

I'm glad I didn't find this site until 40 odd..... I don't find being in your 20s on here mentally healthy... There's 2001 other thing to do and enjoy in your 20s"

Gimme a few.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's like literally everything in life, if you aren't successful and don't fit in, it's shit. If you are successful and fit in, it's great.

Nae rocket science."

What happened to content, happy and healthy??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, you’re 26. If I was 26 I’d quit my job and go travelling around Australia for a couple of years. You only regret the things you don’t do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish mate I had found this site when I was 26.

Make the most of the cards you have been dealt in life. This site is brilliant for kinky fun.

I'm glad I didn't find this site until 40 odd..... I don't find being in your 20s on here mentally healthy... There's 2001 other thing to do and enjoy in your 20s

Gimme a few."

Travel, go to festivals, meet real people, socialise, find adrenaline fuelled hobbies, sport, walk ...

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"It's like literally everything in life, if you aren't successful and don't fit in, it's shit. If you are successful and fit in, it's great.

Nae rocket science.

What happened to content, happy and healthy?? "

Fitter, Happier, More Productive....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It's like literally everything in life, if you aren't successful and don't fit in, it's shit. If you are successful and fit in, it's great.

Nae rocket science."
you really are full of doom and gloom all the time

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Anything other than being on your phone data to be honest.... The rest will fall into place

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"op your only 26 youve got the rest of your life ahead. Remember lots of people dont know who they are or even what their fantasies are until they have matured

Good luck

exactly

These are wise words.

I wish I was 26 again "

Jesus, I don't. My 20s were shit. Being younger doesn't mean everything is great, as the OP can attest.

Welcome on board OP, feel free to vent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op your only 26 youve got the rest of your life ahead. Remember lots of people dont know who they are or even what their fantasies are until they have matured

Good luck

exactly

These are wise words.

I wish I was 26 again

Jesus, I don't. My 20s were shit. Being younger doesn't mean everything is great, as the OP can attest.

Welcome on board OP, feel free to vent."

I found life when I turned 26.

I split from a toxic relationship and travelled the world.

It's not the same for everyone but that's the path I chose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my point is slightly missed. Im no poet by any means, but i was more implying that i wish i could be open about my desires and feelings more. I dont have anyone i can turn to to just talk to and ask for advice from.

Sorry ive been quite missleading with this"

Have a compassionate and open heart about you and the right people will find you.. or you them.

I have an amazing circle of friends who I'm more than comfortable talking about sexual matters with. And none of them are on here. It took time though. If I told you it happened in my late 20s, would that give you any reassurance, OP?

You keep being you, OP. Sure your story will form itself eventually.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Get a vanilla bird and have a kid....

Leave fab and the whole idea alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers guys for the good advise, youve all made me feel much better about it.

I guess over time things work out.

Im not short of hobbies ect, i do a lot in my life i just feel like something is missing. I honestly say i live each day as best i can to the full.

I just want to say thanks to every one whos messaged with good advice. Im new to the forum side of this and wasnt even expecting a reply. Im pleased im not the only whos felt like this and its so nice to feel apart of a community as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like literally everything in life, if you aren't successful and don't fit in, it's shit. If you are successful and fit in, it's great.

Nae rocket science.you really are full of doom and gloom all the time "

I can only be honest i'm afraid. I don't like to sugarcoat or be disingenuous.

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