FabSwingers.com forum: Paternity fraud

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently in the news, i saw the case of a man who brought up three children thinking they were his own, only to find out after divorce that they were not his and were the result of an affair. He found out that he could not have been the father following a diagnosis of cystic fibrosis.

A sad story for the father and the children, who he now only has contact with one, due to suing his mother (first of its kind in the UK).

Is paternity fraud right and should the man have legal redress. Interested in people's views.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

https://fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/839386

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"https://fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/839386

To slow, will look at the posts. Cheers

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I read about this he was the founder member of a comparison website and a multi millionaire.

Absolutely no winners in this ,,,,sad for him the three grown up kids and the wife who has to live with the chaos she has caused

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep sad situation.

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By *attPaulaCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Not at all uncommon either, sadly. Ancestry DNA had to set up a helpline after people phone up saying their results must be a mistake. It turns out that Dad, as they thought, was not actually Dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sad situation and probably done by hurt on his part but will have hurt the kids.

But I don't agree with women lying to men about children as it makes their life a lie.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No winners in this one.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I hope the bloke gets the money back his ex wife got out of him in the divorce settlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a thing for a person to lie and deceive for all that time, a lifetime of it. It must surely twist her up inside surely given the length of time. Now she has 4 people to explain herself too

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I hope the bloke gets the money back his ex wife got out of him in the divorce settlement "
why? they were legally married.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"I hope the bloke gets the money back his ex wife got out of him in the divorce settlement why? they were legally married. "
legally married maybe but maybe she should of told her poor hubby before he put a ring on her cheating finger On the plus side I’ve just read she’s had to pay money back to him so much for the legally married bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's about win situation from the guy involved. If he kept quiet about the children not being his, he would have kept contact with the children, who call him Dad. But why should the woman get off with no real detriment to her life. It is fraud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She took 4 million from him when they divorced, pretty sure it would have been less if no kids were involved. The 250k he got back is still not really enough based on what he paid her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is not, together with the hurt and pain caused to her children and him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a little bit more complicated than I first thought it was when I read about it a few days ago.

I watched an interview this morning that he gave on the Victoria Derbyshire show.

The way it read in the papers was that it was a complete shock to the man involved and he has no idea after 17 years that the children weren't his.

However this morning he said that him and his wife had tried to have children for 7 years unsuccessfully so they went for fertility treatment but then she fell pregnant before the first treatment started.

He said that at the time he did have doubts and also that he always thought the children didn't look like him.

Obviously what the wife did was wrong and disgusting however it's not as clear-cut as it was first made out to be. By that I mean he already had doubts but chose not to do anything about it.

I'm not saying that he is to blame in anyway I just think there's more to this than meets the eye.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a little bit more complicated than I first thought it was when I read about it a few days ago.

I watched an interview this morning that he gave on the Victoria Derbyshire show.

The way it read in the papers was that it was a complete shock to the man involved and he has no idea after 17 years that the children weren't his.

He said that at the time he did have doubts and also that he always thought the children didn't look like him.

Obviously what the wife did was wrong and disgusting however it's not as clear-cut as it was first made out to be. By that I mean he already had doubts but chose not to do anything about it.

I'm not saying that he is to blame in anyway I just think there's more to this than meets the eye. "

It is difficult and not a clear black and white case. He may have suspected, but rationalised that it must be his. It just shows what damage an affair can do to people's lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a little bit more complicated than I first thought it was when I read about it a few days ago.

I watched an interview this morning that he gave on the Victoria Derbyshire show.

The way it read in the papers was that it was a complete shock to the man involved and he has no idea after 17 years that the children weren't his.

He said that at the time he did have doubts and also that he always thought the children didn't look like him.

Obviously what the wife did was wrong and disgusting however it's not as clear-cut as it was first made out to be. By that I mean he already had doubts but chose not to do anything about it.

I'm not saying that he is to blame in anyway I just think there's more to this than meets the eye.

It is difficult and not a clear black and white case. He may have suspected, but rationalised that it must be his. It just shows what damage an affair can do to people's lives."

yes absolutely I'm not suggesting it makes it any easier for him.

From what I understood from the interview this morning he already had a very difficult relationship with his boys and I think it's the fact they want nothing to do with him because he suspected but didn't do anything about it and then sued their mother.

Again I'm not saying there any excuses it's just I feel so sorry for those poor boys who have been dragged into this and as far as I know they don't actually know who their true father is.

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