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By *acko9568 OP   Man
over a year ago

saltburn

Watching a program on beeb. Would you take a homeless person under your wing?

I came very close to being homeless just before Christmas but had a Knight in shining armour who had a house for rent. Am in, getting my bits and pieces together and, after couple of weeks can survive. BUT!!!! I feel mixed emotions on should , or should not offer help

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I didn't watch the programme.

I wouldn't take a homeless person under my wing unless I knew them. I don't have the resources.

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By *ve 63Woman
over a year ago

Newbridge

I'd be to nervous .. shouldn't tar them all with the same brush. . but I'd be scared they would clean me out . If I knew them possibly yes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not averse to giving homeless people money though and if there was an opportunity to help by recommending accommodation or something I'd do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never know if we will ever be in that situation! Of corse we would try our best not to be homeless but sometimes it’s out of our hands,

There was one guy that slept outside my work place a few years ago I took Him home once so he could shower I fixed him a good meal, washed his clothes and gave him money when he left it was a chance I took for him not to clean me out or harm me once we got to mine and it paid off.

Seen him a few days later the money I gave him got him a bed in a hostel and from what he was telling me he was on the up, being in the hostel gave him a chance to sort himself out get the help he needed from the staff there.

I took a chance as he seemed a lovely guy everyone told me how wrong and dangerous it was to do so, but I just hope if ever I’m in that situation someone somewhere will do the same for me.

Yes it probs was dangerous as I lived alone at time but he was harmless and very grateful

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By *acko9568 OP   Man
over a year ago

saltburn

Loud moaner. You are an absolute star. Hopefully you gave him that first step on the ladder to sort out his life. No doubt he will always remember your kindness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be great until the tennants supa comes out with the monky dust and all hell breaks loose

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I feed and give money to our homeless in our town, they can get bed and breakfast for nine pounds, especially when its cold, but then I don't go to town that often, but I have do much compared to thier nothing, I would take them home bit all I not that easy

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We haven’t got enough room at home for ourselves so taking a homeless person in is not feasible. I don’t give them money but do will go into the nearest shop and buy them something sensible to eat and drink. The trouble is that there are so many of them in the city centre now and they’re not all genuinely homeless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I see them sat out at night ,the drug dealers go over to them , they fight for the best spot then when they've had a monkey dust hit you see the performance .

In Chester there was a thing going around saying don't give them money as its feeding addictions and that's very correct from what I've seen .

Give them food or a pair of shoes but giving a tenner is likely to end up on fags booze or drugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately I see them sat out at night ,the drug dealers go over to them , they fight for the best spot then when they've had a monkey dust hit you see the performance .

In Chester there was a thing going around saying don't give them money as its feeding addictions and that's very correct from what I've seen .

Give them food or a pair of shoes but giving a tenner is likely to end up on fags booze or drugs "

Sad isn't it. I recently bought a large coffee from Costa for a guy who was sleeping in the next door way. He just kicked it across the road and shouted abuse.im sure if it was alcohol he would of downed it in one.

Sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t let any stranger stay in my house, either homeless or a lodger etc.

I prefer my privacy and wouldn’t trust someone I didn’t know having free reign around the house while I was out at work etc.

I know that’s a negative indictment on me but hey, it’s the way it is.

I used to give money in the streets and stopped that due to the numerous tales of it being spent on alcohol or narcotics. Again probably unfair but I don’t want to help fund addiction.

Then I changed to offering food and drink instead but then you hear about ‘professional beggars’ and also it felt discriminatory to help one homeless person but not another. So I stopped that too.

Now instead I have a direct debit salary sacrifice paid monthly directly from my pay to Shelter instead. That way I know I’m funding help and guidance to support genuine homeless people or those in need of assistance. Yeah I know some of that will go to paying the CEO and to overheads etc (21% actually) but hopefully the 79% will make a difference.

I know Shelter isn’t necessarily the right answer to the issue but it’s the one I opt to take, I can’t imagine what it must be like to homeless and on the streets myself and hope I never do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loud moaner. You are an absolute star. Hopefully you gave him that first step on the ladder to sort out his life. No doubt he will always remember your kindness? "

I’ve not seen him for a very long time now I do sit and wonder what happened to him

I don’t judge people I will happily sit there with the homeless and listen to them sometimes it helps for them to talk, how they got where they are etc, majority of people (not all) just see homeless as alcoholics, druggies, it’s not always the case! And for those that do drink and do take drugs look at the deeper side what happened in their lives for them to get themselfs like that, to loose everything you once had I can only imagine how hard that is! Sometimes maybe just for ten mins a hug helps I believe. And yes before anyone judges me I do hug the homeless I don’t care if they smell or are dirty it helps! If they want a hug my arms are open! Doesn’t hurt to take time out of my life to put a little sparkle in their lives give them a little hope.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

To directly quote a friend of mine who took one in recently:

"I foolishly let a so called friend stay in my house cause she said she was homeless, bought stuff for her too and she stayed two months and didn’t give me a penny, ate all my food and put my bills up and still hasn’t given me a penny. So I’m way down on money, trying to sell a tv if you know anyone that wants one"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't let a stranger stay in our house , but I do try and help when I can, There is a Matalan clearance shop near to us and its basically everything they couldn't sell in their proper shops, basically everything is vile but unbelievably cheap. Just before xmas they had a load of Puffa style jackets in for a £5, they were bright orange and awful but they were warm. We bought 6 and tied them to the lampposts in town where the homeless tend to gather, with a tag to say please take if you are genuinely homeless. Only hope they went to the right people and they got some comfort from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't let a stranger stay in our house , but I do try and help when I can, There is a Matalan clearance shop near to us and its basically everything they couldn't sell in their proper shops, basically everything is vile but unbelievably cheap. Just before xmas they had a load of Puffa style jackets in for a £5, they were bright orange and awful but they were warm. We bought 6 and tied them to the lampposts in town where the homeless tend to gather, with a tag to say please take if you are genuinely homeless. Only hope they went to the right people and they got some comfort from them "

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