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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?

Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?

Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I’m very comfortable being’mushy’, being openly vulnerable and sharing my feelings. I hope I’m a good enough listener for them to feel that I empathise and want to understand.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this covers everything...I'm an open book!!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint "

I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Yes very open about everything.

That's never been the case before but I feel comfortable to be this time around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a morning yes, I can be mushy as my eyes are half closed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was about peas...

I guess I'm somewhere in the middle. Not quite heart on my sleeve but happy enough to open up

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"In a morning yes, I can be mushy as my eyes are half closed... "

That's possibly conjunctivitis, maybe get that seen to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes very open about everything.

That's never been the case before but I feel comfortable to be this time around

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Good to hear

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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago

Happy go lucky


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint "

I'm definitely with you on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive learnt the hard way.

dont reveal to much you'll end up looking the fool.

thats past experiences for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.

In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive learnt the hard way.

dont reveal to much you'll end up looking the fool.

thats past experiences for you."

I find the Fool a very helpful thing to be at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a morning yes, I can be mushy as my eyes are half closed...

That's possibly conjunctivitis, maybe get that seen to... "

sound advise.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint

I'm definitely with you on this "

This for me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a partner but yes i'm mushy.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint

I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front"
I don't do relationships lol

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?

Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?

Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?

"

I don't equate expression of emotion with being mushy necessarily, but I am very expressive given the chance.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.

In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me. "

Yes, I get that. In the past I've been guilty of not being direct enough or being afraid of expressing myself and finding myself vulnerable to a degree. I think it's hard to let yourself be like that at times, but if it's with the right person it can be rewarding.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint

I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front I don't do relationships lol"

Never? Not even in the past?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive learnt the hard way.

dont reveal to much you'll end up looking the fool.

thats past experiences for you.

I find the Fool a very helpful thing to be at times."

too much water under the bridge now man. sad to say. trust left my bones and its so hard to believe anyone is completely honest.

thats just how it is. but its cool

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

mushy slushy and soppy. but never until this relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not with my ex husband. He was a brick emotionally and I didn't feel I could tell him how I was feeling.

I haven't had anyone since that I have felt enough for to tell them.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I keep my walls up, I don't trust easily & keep my feelings contained.

If someone gets to see my 'soppy mushy' side then it's because I trust them 100%, feel I can let my barriers down & I care about them.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"With friends I'm prepared to let my softer side show but I have a pretty hefty wall up for feelings of a romantic nature and will walk away if even a hint

I was thinking in terms of actual relationships as opposed to fab meets, I think many would echo your sentiment on that front I don't do relationships lol

Never? Not even in the past? "
yes hence why I don't. I won't allow myself to have feelings now. I wasn't ever overly soppy but would always be honest with partners. If I felt down I'd express it. But only expressed myself with recent partner. Before I was pretty guarded.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

If enjoying holding hands is mushy then yes, if cuddling up while listening to music is mushy then yes, if kissing your partner on the forehead when he’s using your shoulder for a pillow then yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mushy slushy and soppy. but never until this relationship"

If only I could see your profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bit shy when it comes to talking about my feelings and it takes me a while to come out of my shell but I have been known to get overly affectionate and let my feelings known that way.

In a partner I embrace it. I like it when people are open and honest with me as I can sometimes find it hard to read and assume they're not as into me.

Yes, I get that. In the past I've been guilty of not being direct enough or being afraid of expressing myself and finding myself vulnerable to a degree. I think it's hard to let yourself be like that at times, but if it's with the right person it can be rewarding. "

That's the thing. I want to be with someone I feel safe being vulnerable with. It's all about knowing each other completely and that includes those bits we like to hide. Being with someone who could hurt you and break you but trusting them not to. You only get that by being truly honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love having the opportunity to get mushy, I'm tactile and like to know what people are feeling, not very often I find someone willing to reciprocate though unfortunately, everyone seems to think of being emotionally open as a weakness rather than a strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably- been in the bath too long!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love having the opportunity to get mushy, I'm tactile and like to know what people are feeling, not very often I find someone willing to reciprocate though unfortunately, everyone seems to think of being emotionally open as a weakness rather than a strength "

Thanks for that comment!! It made me feel better. Yes it's defiantly a strength to be open. So when your open about feelings we have the strength to deal with them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a morning yes, I can be mushy as my eyes are half closed... "

Lol, this made me chuckle

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?

Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?

Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?

"

Sometimes I just wish I wasn't as open about my feelings. But after a while I will close down if things are not reciprocal.

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By *heangelWoman
over a year ago

wonderland

I’m proper mushy when I’m dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man

More an undercooked yorkshire pudding

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Probably- been in the bath too long! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not mushy but affectionate...bum squeezes in the supermarket ..holding hands all the time. He never lets me walk next to the kerb. Public shows of love. Our profile name is our nick names for each other. If that’s mush, guilty

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man

More an undercooked yorkshire pudding"

Cookie dough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man

More an undercooked yorkshire pudding

Cookie dough? "
no cookies arnt yorkshire

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there


"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man

More an undercooked yorkshire pudding"

Big growly Yorkshire man with a soft underside... never have an undercooked Yorkshire pudding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never was until very recently now it seems im no longer a big growely yorkshire man

More an undercooked yorkshire pudding

Big growly Yorkshire man with a soft underside... never have an undercooked Yorkshire pudding "
far too sloppy those things eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely mushy, its my forté

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot hide a damn thing!

If I'm feeling it, he's knowing it.

I wasn't always this way, but I think having to try to hide my feelings for years in the past because I was constantly ridiculed for how I felt means that now, well, I just can't help but express myself.

The way I see it, if people know the crack they can deal with it according to how they see fit.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cannot hide a damn thing!

If I'm feeling it, he's knowing it.

I wasn't always this way, but I think having to try to hide my feelings for years in the past because I was constantly ridiculed for how I felt means that now, well, I just can't help but express myself.

The way I see it, if people know the crack they can deal with it according to how they see fit.

P"

I still have a private self, that shifts around depending on who I am with the context, but I would like to get to the point where I could open up more fully in a couple contexts. I’m working on it, but need to be aware of the effects and consequences of too much too soon. Revealing too much of my private self in the past with the wrong people caused more pain than it was worth.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

In little bits. On occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am, but I also have a very cold, dismissive streak too

When I want leaving alone, I want leaving alone. I don't like to be fussed or apeased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once.

Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is being honest about our emotions ever "slushy"?

They don't come with an on or off switch. They just are....

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I am a big softy at heart love holding hands cuddles and kissing. But having been cheated on and hurt from my last 3 long term relationships i now have a steel shell up around my heart and feelings it will take some getting passed that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With your partner, or ex partner for singles, are you expressive of your feelings? Do you share them openly or do you keep it all in and expect them to know?

Do you share your insecurities and if so how is that received?

Conversely if your partner is expressive how does that impact on you?

"

Very.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy. "

I was with you up until the last five words, then it got a bit odd... Chewing

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm not a cold person and dont lack empty but Emotionally I'm a very closed person. On very rare occasions I mess-up but soon realise the error of my ways and snap back into reality.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I’m very affectionate with Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv. "
Me too. It might take people by surprise people with my tough guy image.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I’m very affectionate when I’m with a guy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, skin on skin contact, spooning, watching tv with my head on the guys lap gently chewing on his willy.

I was with you up until the last five words, then it got a bit odd... Chewing "

Must be some sort of Welsh thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely. I'm extrmely tactile and love to make the person I'm with feel special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t chew it with my incisors just the molars, it’s just the bell end and its gentle chewing. Guys love it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, I'm not mushy. I never have been. I'm not a hugger or kisser of friends either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to but not anymore. It is not a good thing to share too much about yourself.

Don't mind hugging friends with tits though.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Yes I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only really cuddly, or any good at talking about emotions, with kids. I'm working on being more affectionate and emotionally expressive with adults, but it's tough when you're used to being an ice queen.

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over a year ago

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.

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its not intimacy its into me i see

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.

its not intimacy its into me i see "

Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I can be at times, took me a while to feel comfortable with mr and leaving myself vulnerable but he makes me feel safe to be me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.

its not intimacy its into me i see

Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me?"
read into it what you will

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Open, very demonstrative and like it back too.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

No I’m not - I only end up looking like a twat when they let me down again. I keep myself in check for self preservation purposes.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Only with my children ....

I.have big trust issues with others...... they always seem to let you down in the end .

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Only with my children ....

I.have big trust issues with others...... they always seem to let you down in the end ."

That sentiment seems to be echoed on several other posts, I understand that is often the situation, that people let others down. I've been in similar situations myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I probably am.

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

I’m very soppy with my man lol.

He’s quite the opposite and struggles expressing his feelings.... so together we balance each other out somehow lol

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I can be quite a slush bucket with the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupidly so. Both a blessing and a curse but is part of who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I am.... Doesn't always do me any favours though! I do sometimes try not to be but I can't help it....its just me!

T x

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire


"I love intimacy, really like guys who are good at communicating and aren't afraid of being intimate. I don't really like meeting anyone regularly who isn't intimate.

its not intimacy its into me i see

Think this took me a while to get but do you mean like putting their dick into me?read into it what you will "

On here i probably shouldn't.

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