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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed a guy near me has 2 profiles of vastly different ages. I can only assume he does it to get around filters.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I have a single guy profile and a couple profile,as for sometimes like to be separate

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Nope I only have one don't see the point in running two profile, get enough knock backs off one never mind punishing myself twice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a single guy profile and a couple profile,as for sometimes like to be separate "

I understand that reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 08/01/19 18:12:36]

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Yes, one straight one, one bi one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there’s a guy close to me that has two profiles, with a 15 age difference between them.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I can just about to get through all my messages with one account never mind two.

I wish

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, one straight one, one bi one. "

Why don't you just have a bi profile?

Or do you wake up, one day and swap sexual preferences?

I'm just trying to get my head around it.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Yes, one straight one, one bi one.

Why don't you just have a bi profile?

Or do you wake up, one day and swap sexual preferences?

I'm just trying to get my head around it. "

Some people won't meet bi guys, so.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading. "

That is very misleading

I have only had one profile. Don't need multiple profiles unless it was a couple profile as some people do that. Even then the guy should be straight on both profiles. Can't be both straight and bi. Having said that this is Fab

At least you found out early before things progressed OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Surely that's misleading and unfair to get a fuck.

I get lying about names, locations and age (to a degree) but sexual orientation is taking it to far.

Why would you want to screw someone, who is not comfortable with your true preferences?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Surely that's misleading and unfair to get a fuck.

I get lying about names, locations and age (to a degree) but sexual orientation is taking it to far.

Why would you want to screw someone, who is not comfortable with your true preferences?

"

An orgasm is an orgasm. From a bigot or anyone else. . Not strictly true, it can be more satisfying fucking people who won't meet bi guys lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bigot?

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site allows people to have as many profiles as they want. No checks so no need to be honest.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Surely that's misleading and unfair to get a fuck.

I get lying about names, locations and age (to a degree) but sexual orientation is taking it to far.

Why would you want to screw someone, who is not comfortable with your true preferences?

An orgasm is an orgasm. From a bigot or anyone else. . Not strictly true, it can be more satisfying fucking people who won't meet bi guys lol "

That's an evil thing to say/do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a couple's one and my single one and he has his single one also.

But we are honest with people about it.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Surely that's misleading and unfair to get a fuck.

I get lying about names, locations and age (to a degree) but sexual orientation is taking it to far.

Why would you want to screw someone, who is not comfortable with your true preferences?

An orgasm is an orgasm. From a bigot or anyone else. . Not strictly true, it can be more satisfying fucking people who won't meet bi guys lol

That's an evil thing to say/do. "

bless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely that's misleading and unfair to get a fuck.

I get lying about names, locations and age (to a degree) but sexual orientation is taking it to far.

Why would you want to screw someone, who is not comfortable with your true preferences?

An orgasm is an orgasm. From a bigot or anyone else. . Not strictly true, it can be more satisfying fucking people who won't meet bi guys lol

That's an evil thing to say/do. "

I agree! Everyone is entitled to preferences

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either"

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

I have several profiles, a man, a couple and also have one as a TV, one as a kettle and one as a gramaphone.....

Actually I don't! Just one and thinking maybe that's one too many

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I prefer to concentrate all my rejection in one place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading. "

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?"

he is honest about this dis-honesty.he isnt hiding it, he has told you.

your the one with the problem with it, if this is what he does good luck to him.

he is keeping his options open playing both sides of the fence.

he may even have the opinion that women make it so hard to meet he can go and fuck a guy and tell her to do one.

either way he still getting off and happy about it.

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?

he is honest about this dis-honesty.he isnt hiding it, he has told you.

your the one with the problem with it, if this is what he does good luck to him.

he is keeping his options open playing both sides of the fence.

he may even have the opinion that women make it so hard to meet he can go and fuck a guy and tell her to do one.

either way he still getting off and happy about it.

who fucking cares, good luck to him."

He didnt tell me? He said he doesn’t tell people and he finds it funny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn't have engaged with him on his bi profile and many others are the same. He's here to meet people so having 2 profiles is his only way around it.

He may be bi but he will be playing straight when meeting straight couples so it's kinda questionable morality but really you don't know the history of anyone you meet here and they could be telling a whole load of much more serious and consequential lies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking."

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He can probably turn of the bi tap easily.

While hes with you 2 i imagine he won't try to blow your other half.

His other profile.. He probably blows like a wind orchestra.

Dont let it concern you.

Its just strategy to get laid more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they verify themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone can have different profiles on completely different sites for completely different circumstances.

Those who scorn the male with a straight and bi profile, do you have identical profiles across all social media? Declare yourself a swinger on pof /face pest / or whatever?

Ah but it is all about honesty and choice...

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You wouldn't have engaged with him on his bi profile and many others are the same. He's here to meet people so having 2 profiles is his only way around it.

He may be bi but he will be playing straight when meeting straight couples so it's kinda questionable morality but really you don't know the history of anyone you meet here and they could be telling a whole load of much more serious and consequential lies. "

No you can never know for sure but we read verifications and the summary try to make up our own minds based on that information.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I have several profiles, a man, a couple and also have one as a TV, one as a kettle and one as a gramaphone.....

Actually I don't! Just one and thinking maybe that's one too many

"

Ah are you Grammy Crumpet?( See what I dud there)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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who fucking cares, good luck to him."

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone can have different profiles on completely different sites for completely different circumstances.

Those who scorn the male with a straight and bi profile, do you have identical profiles across all social media? Declare yourself a swinger on pof /face pest / or whatever?

Ah but it is all about honesty and choice...

Yep.

"

I dont know about others but speaking for us we dont do social media so that isn’t an issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood."

Exactly!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Put it this way, I've met alot of people in clubs. No-one has ever asked me my sexuality. Or if I've ever had sex with black people or someone who has.

However, I've had meets on fab turned down for all of the above. So. I don't feel bad for disrespecting these bigots and their prejudices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups "

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starting to think my 1 profile is too much, so definitely don't need another 1 on here. No real point for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, one straight one, one bi one.

Why don't you just have a bi profile?

Or do you wake up, one day and swap sexual preferences?

I'm just trying to get my head around it. "

because there greedy fookers and spoil it for the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?

he is honest about this dis-honesty.he isnt hiding it, he has told you.

your the one with the problem with it, if this is what he does good luck to him.

he is keeping his options open playing both sides of the fence.

he may even have the opinion that women make it so hard to meet he can go and fuck a guy and tell her to do one.

either way he still getting off and happy about it.

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

He didnt tell me? He said he doesn’t tell people and he finds it funny?"

he only finds it funny because it winds you up.

if he gets more meets doing it his way then thats down to him.

maybe not for everyone but thats his way and we shouldnt start pointing the finger pretending we all saints.

loads cheat and lie on here, look at all the married men and women screwing around without the partner knowing.

is that you next campaign?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!"

Thats not homophobic? Thats a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one profile for me ... I wouldn't have time to run two .. lol

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Put it this way, I've met alot of people in clubs. No-one has ever asked me my sexuality. Or if I've ever had sex with black people or someone who has.

However, I've had meets on fab turned down for all of the above. So. I don't feel bad for disrespecting these bigots and their prejudices.

"

Well IMO you should, because they are entitled to both their sexual preference and their chosen risk management without being deceived into sex. No-one should be deceived into sex on any grounds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put it this way, I've met alot of people in clubs. No-one has ever asked me my sexuality. Or if I've ever had sex with black people or someone who has.

However, I've had meets on fab turned down for all of the above. So. I don't feel bad for disrespecting these bigots and their prejudices.

Well IMO you should, because they are entitled to both their sexual preference and their chosen risk management without being deceived into sex. No-one should be deceived into sex on any grounds. "

Exactly this

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly! "

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?

he is honest about this dis-honesty.he isnt hiding it, he has told you.

your the one with the problem with it, if this is what he does good luck to him.

he is keeping his options open playing both sides of the fence.

he may even have the opinion that women make it so hard to meet he can go and fuck a guy and tell her to do one.

either way he still getting off and happy about it.

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

He didnt tell me? He said he doesn’t tell people and he finds it funny?

he only finds it funny because it winds you up.

if he gets more meets doing it his way then thats down to him.

maybe not for everyone but thats his way and we shouldnt start pointing the finger pretending we all saints.

loads cheat and lie on here, look at all the married men and women screwing around without the partner knowing.

"

They are in the wrong IMO, and I am perfectly entitled to say so without being accused of bigotry for that either! Deceiving people into sex is wrong.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Thats not homophobic? Thats a preference "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but one is for when I’m in hiding and fancy a nosey without anyone realising I’m online. Haven’t used it for ages though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking."

it's a preference if they only want straight then that's what they want play the homophobic card I'm ok with people being gay or bi but not for me and if I was a straight couple advertising for a straight guy that's there preference and you wonder why you get abuse I'd fooking chop is balls off and feed them to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone can have different profiles on completely different sites for completely different circumstances.

Those who scorn the male with a straight and bi profile, do you have identical profiles across all social media? Declare yourself a swinger on pof /face pest / or whatever?

Ah but it is all about honesty and choice...

Yep.

"

All my profiles on this and other sites are different. I'd think that pretty much no-one has only one profile, ever, anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ. "

Imagine a hypothetical couple chatting to a hypothetical guy on fab. The guy has a straight profile and they are all getting along fine and even considering meeting. The hypothetical couple then discover the guy has a bi profile with lots of verfications on which he openly states he enjoys BB sex with other men. Don’t you think he would be misleading any straight couple he met?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ. "

If I have sex with bisexual men I would certainly respect the health services evidence-based request to not donate blood, yes!! Jesus wept!

If they decided to exclude swingers, I would respect that decision too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ. "

but give them a choice don't desive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ.

If I have sex with bisexual men I would certainly respect the health services evidence-based request to not donate blood, yes!! Jesus wept!

If they decided to exclude swingers, I would respect that decision too. "

As a doner i totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least he is honest.

many other aint and dont give a fuck about who they shit on either

Hows he honest? He has two profiles, one bi and one straight. He doesn’t tell meets that he is bi when using his straight profile, so where is the honesty?

he is honest about this dis-honesty.he isnt hiding it, he has told you.

your the one with the problem with it, if this is what he does good luck to him.

he is keeping his options open playing both sides of the fence.

he may even have the opinion that women make it so hard to meet he can go and fuck a guy and tell her to do one.

either way he still getting off and happy about it.

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

He didnt tell me? He said he doesn’t tell people and he finds it funny?"

He sounds like the kind of person you wouldn't want to meet anyway. I wouldn't want to meet him either.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ. "

I personally have no problem meeting bi guys. However, as swingers, we know the activities we participate in all carry a certain level of risk, no matter how careful you are. A risk I might be willing to take eg oral without condoms may not be a risk someone else is willing to take. I don't judge that person's choice. Someone choosing to reduce their risk by not meeting bi guys shouldn't be judged either.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ. "

Well said

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ.

Imagine a hypothetical couple chatting to a hypothetical guy on fab. The guy has a straight profile and they are all getting along fine and even considering meeting. The hypothetical couple then discover the guy has a bi profile with lots of verfications on which he openly states he enjoys BB sex with other men. Don’t you think he would be misleading any straight couple he met?"

I think safe play is up to everyone. Personally i assume everyone i meet has an sti, and dress accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ.

Imagine a hypothetical couple chatting to a hypothetical guy on fab. The guy has a straight profile and they are all getting along fine and even considering meeting. The hypothetical couple then discover the guy has a bi profile with lots of verfications on which he openly states he enjoys BB sex with other men. Don’t you think he would be misleading any straight couple he met?

I think safe play is up to everyone. Personally i assume everyone i meet has an sti, and dress accordingly. "

Fair enough, i hope you include oral in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Thats not homophobic? Thats a preference "

You can't disguise being an 'Ist.. by using the word preference.

If high risk is hour only argument. Then you're homophobic. Feel free to attempt another excuse.. Intelligence will see through your ignorance.

For example: You could say, we don't meet bi's incase they grab hold of my husband's cock mid way through.. but I bet that didn't happen did it?

If all his veris elude to bareback meetings... fine get grumpy... id be on your side. I however, have NEVER barebacked in my life, other than in long term relationships with women I love. You are tarring me with the same brush and I don't like it at all.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Should women who have met hundreds of men have verifications from ALL of them? As i know that many many women (and men) won't do this because they like to look "choosy"? Are they being dishonest?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"

who fucking cares, good luck to him.

I would imagine people who don't want to meet bi men. It is a deliberate deception, and one that could lead their meets into unwitting deception to, for instance if they give blood.

Exactly!

Oh my god! Have you all just escaped from 1985?

Do you tell the blood bank you're swingers whom have many sexual partners, most of whom you don't even know?! Give me a fucking break! Do you assume because sometimes i play bi that i run around barebacking as many men as i can?! Jesus Christ.

Imagine a hypothetical couple chatting to a hypothetical guy on fab. The guy has a straight profile and they are all getting along fine and even considering meeting. The hypothetical couple then discover the guy has a bi profile with lots of verfications on which he openly states he enjoys BB sex with other men. Don’t you think he would be misleading any straight couple he met?

I think safe play is up to everyone. Personally i assume everyone i meet has an sti, and dress accordingly.

Fair enough, i hope you include oral in that "

Why wouldn't I?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

"

bingo!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Thats not homophobic? Thats a preference

You can't disguise being an 'Ist.. by using the word preference.

If high risk is hour only argument. Then you're homophobic. Feel free to attempt another excuse.. Intelligence will see through your ignorance.

"

Nonsense, I can accept official statistics and decide to meet any single bi man, or not, on any single day without being homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!"

Yes you can have friends who are gay, and still not want to partake in sex with people in high risk groups

Couldn’t careless what people do when it doesn’t involve me/us

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over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!"

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

"

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

"

I know right?! Always a pleasure to see that card used!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Thats not homophobic? Thats a preference

You can't disguise being an 'Ist.. by using the word preference.

If high risk is hour only argument. Then you're homophobic. Feel free to attempt another excuse.. Intelligence will see through your ignorance.

For example: You could say, we don't meet bi's incase they grab hold of my husband's cock mid way through.. but I bet that didn't happen did it?

If all his veris elude to bareback meetings... fine get grumpy... id be on your side. I however, have NEVER barebacked in my life, other than in long term relationships with women I love. You are tarring me with the same brush and I don't like it at all."

then don't lie give them a choice and don't tar them you get what you deserve other wise

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over a year ago


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service"

Not fallen into anything. It just that some people cant respect other people preferences

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service"

I really don't know why you would say this? Why would you condone someone deliberately deceiving someone to get sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot "

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service

I really don't know why you would say this? Why would you condone someone deliberately deceiving someone to get sex?"

married people cheat. its all the same.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service

I really don't know why you would say this? Why would you condone someone deliberately deceiving someone to get sex?

married people cheat. its all the same."

We all know it happens, by why do you condone deception?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service

I really don't know why you would say this? Why would you condone someone deliberately deceiving someone to get sex?

married people cheat. its all the same.

We all know it happens, by why do you condone deception?"

its all deception. im not going to slam anyone.

its a site for people looking for sex.

he does, you do , i do.

not a court room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should women who have met hundreds of men have verifications from ALL of them? As i know that many many women (and men) won't do this because they like to look "choosy"? Are they being dishonest? "
if they get asked and said one thing then later it turned out to be different then yes blantant dishonest lieing

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"dig a hole.

someone always falls into it.

only a matter of time.

one OP for burial service

I really don't know why you would say this? Why would you condone someone deliberately deceiving someone to get sex?

married people cheat. its all the same.

We all know it happens, by why do you condone deception?

its all deception. im not going to slam anyone.

its a site for people looking for sex.

he does, you do , i do.

not a court room."

Well I am sad to hear you believe that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia. "

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people don't know they're no, till they're older. Society, parenting styles and peer groups often convince we need to be a certain thing. That of were not, then we're abnormal.

So it's understandable if some people get very upset, tramautised , depressed and scared to be who they really are. Your judgements demonstrate this. It's not a preference. Your mild mannered form of homophobia is what causes this pain and anxiety in gay and bisexual people.

WHICH IS EXACTLY WHY YOU DO NOT DESERVE THE TRUTH! You've not earnt it yourselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need im smashing it on this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of people don't know they're no, till they're older. Society, parenting styles and peer groups often convince we need to be a certain thing. That of were not, then we're abnormal.

So it's understandable if some people get very upset, tramautised , depressed and scared to be who they really are. Your judgements demonstrate this. It's not a preference. Your mild mannered form of homophobia is what causes this pain and anxiety in gay and bisexual people.

WHICH IS EXACTLY WHY YOU DO NOT DESERVE THE TRUTH! You've not earnt it yourselves!

"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia. "

it's a sex site not a dating site Im here for sex only so if that means I'm homophobic I don't give a fook deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that some of us are brave enough, clever enough, open enough to be honest about it with strangers.

Doesn't give you the right to expect the same honesty from the very people you keep treating like shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you ever actually ask him if he was straight or bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed a guy near me has 2 profiles of vastly different ages. I can only assume he does it to get around filters. "

Yup i noticed this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you ever actually ask him if he was straight or bi? "

Yes we always do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either."

Well if that's what you've seen on his profile.. then fair enough. You're not homophobic, you're sensible and saftey conscious. I applaud that.

You never once said that though did you, not even when pressed on it. Not till now.

Doesn't mean all bi men bareback.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Coming to the forum soon...

"I met a man called BBW lover, and it turned out he wouldn't actually have a relationship with one!"

Followed by "I fuck black men, but I'd never tell my parents, or marry one.."

Then the old favourite "I can't accommodate because I care for my disabled parents, I'm definetly not married, and it's not weird that I'll only pay cash for everything..."

And of course, "We're swingers, but don't you fucking dare touch my wife!"

Get over yourselves, and fuck. Or don't. Who cares?

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over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia. it's a sex site not a dating site Im here for sex only so if that means I'm homophobic I don't give a fook deal with it"

I do, on a daily basis. Thanks for that intelligent input. You must do well with the ladies.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

Well if that's what you've seen on his profile.. then fair enough. You're not homophobic, you're sensible and saftey conscious. I applaud that.

You never once said that though did you, not even when pressed on it. Not till now.

Doesn't mean all bi men bareback. "

It's like they're making it up as they go along just to justify themselves ain't it?!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either."

So if there's no photographs of BB you're fine....TAKE NOTES PEOPLE!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

So if there's no photographs of BB you're fine....TAKE NOTES PEOPLE!! "

Er yes each other? We are married, it is allowed

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over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

Well if that's what you've seen on his profile.. then fair enough. You're not homophobic, you're sensible and saftey conscious. I applaud that.

You never once said that though did you, not even when pressed on it. Not till now.

Doesn't mean all bi men bareback.

It's like they're making it up as they go along just to justify themselves ain't it?! "

Yup. I'm going to make a new thread on this instead of jumping down people's throats. Say my bit, as a no man, from my perspective.. and hopefully educate all these people who hate dishonesty and bisexuality. Get it off my chest And be done with it lol so I can back to flirting instead of raging.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

So if there's no photographs of BB you're fine....TAKE NOTES PEOPLE!!

Er yes each other? We are married, it is allowed "

Jeeez, you even missed that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

Well if that's what you've seen on his profile.. then fair enough. You're not homophobic, you're sensible and saftey conscious. I applaud that.

You never once said that though did you, not even when pressed on it. Not till now.

Doesn't mean all bi men bareback.

It's like they're making it up as they go along just to justify themselves ain't it?!

Yup. I'm going to make a new thread on this instead of jumping down people's throats. Say my bit, as a no man, from my perspective.. and hopefully educate all these people who hate dishonesty and bisexuality. Get it off my chest And be done with it lol so I can back to flirting instead of raging."

that's nice but I don't need educating your bi no problem with it just not for me so no matter what you call educate will not change I ain't it being with any one that is end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but one is for when I’m in hiding and fancy a nosey without anyone realising I’m online. Haven’t used it for ages though."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I have gay/ bi sexual friends ... so ... Yeah okay with your homophobic crap

bingo!

Lmfao that's the 'Ist's go to move isn't it.. I can't be homophobic, I've got gay friends. I can't be homophobic, my wife's bi.

I can't be a racist I've got black friends. I can't be a racist, we only meet black men.

I cant respect other people’s preferences- im not a bigot

Its not a preference if he's not trying any no shit on with you is it. If you were perfectly happy when you thought he was straight, but now your not now you know he's bi.

High risk argument is bullshit given the site we're ALL on together.

The honesty argument is bullshit too.. If you're not going to befriend him and only want his body. He owes you nothing. Your reaction to his sexuality is EXACTLY why men lie about this stuff. So if you want anyone to blame.. don't look at him... look at all the people like you.

Who based purely on sexuality and nothing else, are now judging him differently for it. Which is by definition Homophobia.

Id be judging him on the activities that he takes part in i.e. BB sex with other men. We wouldn’t meet straight couples who took part in BB sex either.

Well if that's what you've seen on his profile.. then fair enough. You're not homophobic, you're sensible and saftey conscious. I applaud that.

You never once said that though did you, not even when pressed on it. Not till now.

Doesn't mean all bi men bareback.

It's like they're making it up as they go along just to justify themselves ain't it?! "

No, because Gov statistics suggest this is still more likely. Don't shoot the messenger.

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By *picknspanMan
over a year ago

North West Leeds

Did anyone notice that some way back up (or is that in?) The thread I made a joke?

I said I had multiple profiles and one was a TV, one a kettle and one a gramaphone....dah dah.

See that play on words?

Well okay not great but trying to soothe the situation as it seemed to become a little over wrought

I will get my coat.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading. "

We have a couples profile for fabs site/swinging and this single one purely to differentiate who's posting and so only I get banned, although that hasn't worked out so well,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming to the forum soon...

"I met a man called BBW lover, and it turned out he wouldn't actually have a relationship with one!"

Followed by "I fuck black men, but I'd never tell my parents, or marry one.."

Then the old favourite "I can't accommodate because I care for my disabled parents, I'm definetly not married, and it's not weird that I'll only pay cash for everything..."

And of course, "We're swingers, but don't you fucking dare touch my wife!"

Get over yourselves, and fuck. Or don't. Who cares? "

I absolutely love this, and have witnessed every single one in person!

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"You wouldn't have engaged with him on his bi profile and many others are the same. He's here to meet people so having 2 profiles is his only way around it.

He may be bi but he will be playing straight when meeting straight couples so it's kinda questionable morality but really you don't know the history of anyone you meet here and they could be telling a whole load of much more serious and consequential lies. "

Seems fair.

Funnily enough I've had one woman knock me back for not being Bi, so cuts both ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups "

As far as I'm aware, swingers are in the same risk category.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

As far as I'm aware, swingers are in the same risk category. "

I don't think there is any data on swingers??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

As far as I'm aware, swingers are in the same risk category.

I don't think there is any data on swingers??"

Rachael put a link up a couple of months ago that stated that both groups are in the same risk category.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

As far as I'm aware, swingers are in the same risk category.

I don't think there is any data on swingers??

Rachael put a link up a couple of months ago that stated that both groups are in the same risk category. "

Oh cool - I'd be grateful if anyone can provide the link?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups "

You do realise that being a swinger is also considered a high risk group? I would also wager that you have likely had sex with men who have indulged in bi play at some point, but just don't broadcast it, because some will take a negative view. I never assume that every guy who claims to be straight, is being completely honest. It's a little naive thinking, in my opinion.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

As far as I'm aware, swingers are in the same risk category.

I don't think there is any data on swingers??

Rachael put a link up a couple of months ago that stated that both groups are in the same risk category.

Oh cool - I'd be grateful if anyone can provide the link?"

It's easy to find - a Dutch study in 2010.

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups "

You're having sex with people who have sex with other people who have sex with yet more people and you call it swinging. How is it less risky when you don't know who has been shagging the people who you are going to shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should women who have met hundreds of men have verifications from ALL of them? As i know that many many women (and men) won't do this because they like to look "choosy"? Are they being dishonest? "

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that some of us are brave enough, clever enough, open enough to be honest about it with strangers.

Doesn't give you the right to expect the same honesty from the very people you keep treating like shit "

There's literally thousands of people on here who I don't want to have sex with. If that makes me homophobic, racist, ageist, size-ist, sexist, transphobic, biphobic, disabled-phobic, heightist etc etc... I'm absolutely fine with that.

I'm also perfectly happy for them to think I'm treating them like shit for me not wanting to have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope no one's ever found out my black profile where I pretending to be black to fuck women who only goes after black men.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hope no one's ever found out my black profile where I pretending to be black to fuck women who only goes after black men.

"

Have you ever fucked ‘Glory Hole Gail’? She only lets black men fuck her botty, but that’s all you ever get to see.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

There's lots of fab straight men on here,chances are you've already shagged a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope no one's ever found out my black profile where I pretending to be black to fuck women who only goes after black men.

Have you ever fucked ‘Glory Hole Gail’? She only lets black men fuck her botty, but that’s all you ever get to see. "

Can't remember if it was her ass or not as I was blindfolded for few seconds

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hope no one's ever found out my black profile where I pretending to be black to fuck women who only goes after black men.

Have you ever fucked ‘Glory Hole Gail’? She only lets black men fuck her botty, but that’s all you ever get to see.

Can't remember if it was her ass or not as I was blindfolded for few seconds"

I’ll look through the the photos and vids and check for you.

Ps. Were you the superman undies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope no one's ever found out my black profile where I pretending to be black to fuck women who only goes after black men.

Have you ever fucked ‘Glory Hole Gail’? She only lets black men fuck her botty, but that’s all you ever get to see.

Can't remember if it was her ass or not as I was blindfolded for few seconds

I’ll look through the the photos and vids and check for you.

Ps. Were you the superman undies?"

I thought you knew me better than that ! Disappointed !

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading. "

I have complained about this it’s very easy after a lot of effort gettjng pics up verified finally getting a meet and things looking up and bang your logged out and password etc isn’t working but you can’t get into ask for help unless you do the quick get in option and then it happens again but never had it with couples profile because the two phones etc logged in x??

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By *elleRoseCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

We had one guy message,anyway he ended up getting a block then the same guy with the username changed slightly sent the same face pic messaged us got instant block.

Had two guys message at the same time, usernames roughly the same profile information was different then when I collard him about it give some lame excuse turns out his information that he gave us was completely different to his profiles ie. age etc

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yeah you definitely have.

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By *elleRoseCouple
over a year ago

Malvern


"We had one guy message,anyway he ended up getting a block then the same guy with the username changed slightly sent the same face pic messaged us got instant block.

Had two guys message at the same time, usernames roughly the same profile information was different then when I collard him about it give some lame excuse turns out his information that he gave us was completely different to his profiles ie. age etc "

Brunt off it is people should be honest at least about there sexuality nothing wrong with using a different name or knock a few years off your age maybe post code change incase you run into someone you know and wanna keep it lowki but most men turn straight when there’s a pussy on the plate

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The fact that some of us are brave enough, clever enough, open enough to be honest about it with strangers.

Doesn't give you the right to expect the same honesty from the very people you keep treating like shit "

But this doesn't add up does it. Clem (as he is the only one here admitting to duping people) is clearly OK with telling people he is bi. He has done so on this thread and he does so on his other profile.

It is just that he gets less sex or less interest from people on his bi profile because people, fir what ever reason, chose not to have sex with known bi people. Wether that is bigotry of homophobia if preference is by the by right now.

This thread is about respecting peoples boundaries and clem and those who do similar clearly have no respect for people. He has even gloated about him having sex with people that he knows wouldn't have looked twice had they known his true sexuality. Wether this is true of not I don't know. It may just be clem being clem.

What people with duplicitous profiles do is damage the bi/vaucluse because if makes them look deceptive.

The op isn't treating anyone like shit simply because they don't wish to have sex with bi men, unless of course they are hateful with it of which I've seen no evidence thus far.

Those who deceive them are treating people like shit though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This also applies to women and couples. People would rather be what others want them to be rather than themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that some of us are brave enough, clever enough, open enough to be honest about it with strangers.

Doesn't give you the right to expect the same honesty from the very people you keep treating like shit

But this doesn't add up does it. Clem (as he is the only one here admitting to duping people) is clearly OK with telling people he is bi. He has done so on this thread and he does so on his other profile.

It is just that he gets less sex or less interest from people on his bi profile because people, fir what ever reason, chose not to have sex with known bi people. Wether that is bigotry of homophobia if preference is by the by right now.

This thread is about respecting peoples boundaries and clem and those who do similar clearly have no respect for people. He has even gloated about him having sex with people that he knows wouldn't have looked twice had they known his true sexuality. Wether this is true of not I don't know. It may just be clem being clem.

What people with duplicitous profiles do is damage the bi/vaucluse because if makes them look deceptive.

The op isn't treating anyone like shit simply because they don't wish to have sex with bi men, unless of course they are hateful with it of which I've seen no evidence thus far.

Those who deceive them are treating people like shit though. "

100% agree, it’s about respect for other people, clearly there’s people on here that have none.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Hmmm, maybe i should just change my sexuality on one profile between straight and bi like the other guys do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking."

Why is lying to someone who is a committed blood donor also not shocking?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading. "

A lack of transparency has a whiff of deception about it.

If the individual is open and honest about their sexuality you're given the opportunity to make an informed choice.

It's nothing to do with any form of bias or ism of any ilk.

Preference and desire. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm, maybe i should just change my sexuality on one profile between straight and bi like the other guys do? "

We've actually met a guy who has done that, it didn't annoy us that much because we can see his veris.

The annoying thing for us, is the second profile of this other guy because it had a lot of veris and when going through them, looking at previous sexual partners, there was BB.

We like transparency- this is the last time I'm commenting because it just gets abusive. It's the first time I have ever in my life been called homophobic and I was raging at being called that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!"

Oh enough already. Is it not common knowledge bisexual men are a higher risk group?

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Oh enough already. Is it not common knowledge bisexual men are a higher risk group?"

Higher risk than married couples? Probably. Higher risk than swingers ? Doubtful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm, maybe i should just change my sexuality on one profile between straight and bi like the other guys do?

We've actually met a guy who has done that, it didn't annoy us that much because we can see his veris.

The annoying thing for us, is the second profile of this other guy because it had a lot of veris and when going through them, looking at previous sexual partners, there was BB.

We like transparency- this is the last time I'm commenting because it just gets abusive. It's the first time I have ever in my life been called homophobic and I was raging at being called that.

"

I understand why guys hide their sexuality but I haven’t received one negative reaction since I realised I was bi/pansexual and was open about it on here. Admittedly i wasn’t looking to meet for all of that time. I think many of the negative reactions are caused from the lack of transparency. Education can deal with misconceptions about risks. This site can only fulfil it’s potential if as a community we foster more trust.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Oh enough already. Is it not common knowledge bisexual men are a higher risk group?

Higher risk than married couples? Probably. Higher risk than swingers ? Doubtful. "

It probably is doubtful but as is always banded about on here.... Only you are in control of your sexual health so if, as a couple, they have made the decision to not meet bi men because they are often described as a high risk group, why should you make sport of duping them into meeting a bi man?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Hmmm, maybe i should just change my sexuality on one profile between straight and bi like the other guys do?

We've actually met a guy who has done that, it didn't annoy us that much because we can see his veris.

The annoying thing for us, is the second profile of this other guy because it had a lot of veris and when going through them, looking at previous sexual partners, there was BB.

We like transparency- this is the last time I'm commenting because it just gets abusive. It's the first time I have ever in my life been called homophobic and I was raging at being called that.

"

Do you not see your naivety? You're judging him on his veri's and photographs. Well guess what.... not everyone takes photos of EVERYTHING they do, also they don't publish verifications from EVERYONE they meet! Also, they may meet people who arn't even on fab!!! (Shock horror!). Hence my point no-one ever asked me my sexuality in a club. Also you need to treat ALL of your play mates as if they bareback everyone else all the time. Your sexual health is your responsibility. If you have unprotected sex with anyone, then you've had unprotected sex with everyone they have done as well. Do you check everyone's sexual history before meets? Stop being naive and take responsibility for your own sexual health. Don't expect anyone on here to be telling you the truth, because at the end of the day, all they want to do is fuck your wife. Smokers will lie, bi men will lie, married men will lie. Wake up, accept it. Carry on swinging, or stop. But accept the risk is yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Oh enough already. Is it not common knowledge bisexual men are a higher risk group?

Higher risk than married couples? Probably. Higher risk than swingers ? Doubtful. "

I couldn’t be much lower risk I hadn’t met since I realised I was bi 5 years ago until this year

I had only had one wank and bj meet with another guy 8 years ago and a bj off a hubby in a couple 2 years prior to that. I identified as bi-curious at that stage. It didn’t float my boat as much as I would have liked. So I assumed I was straight. So spent two years identifying as straight as I had all of my life until 2007 despite a few early clues that I might not be. I dismissed those early clues as youthful curiosity and horniness rather than my sexuality.

Funnily enough it was joining the forum that made me realise there were guys I actually fancied. I fantasised about homosexual sex often in the context of threesomes. I realised where my sexuality might have been formed and saw the patterns. I then realised if I can’t be fully honest about my sexuality on this site I’ve no chance of that happening in real life. And so I identified as bi. Joining in on the forum also quickly led to me stopping meeting too

And as a result I haven’t had penetrative sex outside my relationship for 8 years and never ever had it with a man.

But I’m bisexual and high risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guys, do you have more then one profile?

If so, why?

We have been talking to a guy for awhile and was under the impression he was straight etc.

By accident we come across his other profile which is bi- and has lots of meets based on this preference.

Do you think it's fair not to be transparent?

Has it happened to anyone else? I feel like it's very misleading.

I think it's a reflection of this societies attitude towards gay and bisexual men, rather than a reflection of his honesty or not.

Why do you deserve to know his true sexuality? Are you a great friend of his? Do you buy him gifts on his birthday? Listen to his problems? There for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on? Nah.. Didn't think so. Yet you feel entitled to know his sexual orientation? Shocking.

Its a sex site not a friendship site. Everyone is entitled to preferences and ours is not to meet people from high risk groups

Then stop swingong then you homophobes! OMG!

Oh enough already. Is it not common knowledge bisexual men are a higher risk group?

Higher risk than married couples? Probably. Higher risk than swingers ? Doubtful.

I couldn’t be much lower risk I hadn’t met since I realised I was bi 5 years ago until this year

I had only had one wank and bj meet with another guy 8 years ago and a bj off a hubby in a couple 2 years prior to that. I identified as bi-curious at that stage. It didn’t float my boat as much as I would have liked. So I assumed I was straight. So spent two years identifying as straight as I had all of my life until 2007 despite a few early clues that I might not be. I dismissed those early clues as youthful curiosity and horniness rather than my sexuality.

Funnily enough it was joining the forum that made me realise there were guys I actually fancied. I fantasised about homosexual sex often in the context of threesomes. I realised where my sexuality might have been formed and saw the patterns. I then realised if I can’t be fully honest about my sexuality on this site I’ve no chance of that happening in real life. And so I identified as bi. Joining in on the forum also quickly led to me stopping meeting too

And as a result I haven’t had penetrative sex outside my relationship for 8 years and never ever had it with a man.

But I’m bisexual and high risk

"

Oh and my one meet this year wasn’t with a man

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This also applies to women and couples. People would rather be what others want them to be rather than themselves "

Nail. Head.

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven

We have had issues with a few guys after a meet, report them to fab, not much happens though, we blocked them, not even a week later they reappear just under a different name, then all shit starts again... frustrating as hell.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Speaking from my personal view point I'd much rather be open and upfront with people about myself. I think that it's a question of respect for those that you meet, it's also because I'd rather meet people who want to meet me for who I am, as opposed to a lie I'd be telling.

I don't understand how sex is more important to people than self respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking from my personal view point I'd much rather be open and upfront with people about myself. I think that it's a question of respect for those that you meet, it's also because I'd rather meet people who want to meet me for who I am, as opposed to a lie I'd be telling.

I don't understand how sex is more important to people than self respect. "

Maybe because an opportunistic view of the world precludes prioritising some of those values that others see as more important values from their perspective.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


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As a doner i totally agree "

Sexual promiscuity is also considered high risk.

I'm surprised it is not in the list for the UK.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Speaking from my personal view point I'd much rather be open and upfront with people about myself. I think that it's a question of respect for those that you meet, it's also because I'd rather meet people who want to meet me for who I am, as opposed to a lie I'd be telling.

I don't understand how sex is more important to people than self respect.

Maybe because an opportunistic view of the world precludes prioritising some of those values that others see as more important values from their perspective."

Well yes, I guess it's a question of how much people want sex.

As I said; I'd much rather people wanted to meet me.

I think I'd rather my experiences were positive ones with people I want to meet as opposed to people I felt I was getting one over on. Perhaps I'm strange but I want to like the people I meet.

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