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When things don't go your way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So in general when things don't go your way what do you do? Are you a sulker, do you get on with it ? Do you keep going for the sake of it ? Say for example you show up for a meet. You've already met and had planned on doing the deed but now the other person has decided they don't want too. What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak to my lawyer then sue them.

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Head to pub for a pint and packet of crisps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put the kettle on and have a lovely mug of tea generally.

In the example you’ve given it wouldn’t bother us at all as we never meet anyone and expect them to want sex with us, if it happens then great but we wouldn’t guarantee sex so why should they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No expectations no disappointments I say unless it comes to my fella if I don't get my own way then I will until I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suck it up and get on with life

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley

Don't worry smile & carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write poetry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'meh' shrug and move on. Life's too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet that I didn't have sex with even though the plans had been made. I may be slightly disappointed, however if the other person wasn't "feeling it" then that's ok. It happens.

Also, time can sometimes slip away from you if you're having a good old chin wag etc.

Other stuff, well, I try to explain why I feel the way I do and hope the other people understand.

Sometimes I blow up

Sometimes I cry

Sometimes I run and hide

All depends on the who, what, when, where, why.

P

Ftfm

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think I'm the kind of person that just gets on with things, I'll express disappointment or dismay but then rationalise it.

In the situation given I certainly would just accept the status quo and do something else, I would hate for someone to have sex out of duty, or because they said they would! Consent can be withdrawn at any point for any reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say ok and go home.

If he wants to stay for a drink together I'd be fine with that, if he was friendly enough.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more concerned if we had a social and they still wanted to fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be more concerned if we had a social and they still wanted to fuck me."

Awww, don't say that

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By *anguyXXXMan
over a year ago

torquay

Nobody owes me anything, if i arrange a meet and they are not interested im cool with a social or for them to just leave. Be a shame but i dont want to have sex with someone that doesnt want sex with me. If i am ignored wich happens lots. I just move on. They are not interested, its cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in general when things don't go your way what do you do? Are you a sulker, do you get on with it ? Do you keep going for the sake of it ? Say for example you show up for a meet. You've already met and had planned on doing the deed but now the other person has decided they don't want too. What do you do?"
i have a massive paddy for about 3 hours then im ok again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thanks, see you later.

meet was arranged, she knew what we were meeting for.

change of mind? yeah ok, after possibly weeks of building up to it.

on your way, dont pass go or collect £200.

meet up on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in general when things don't go your way what do you do? Are you a sulker, do you get on with it ? Do you keep going for the sake of it ? Say for example you show up for a meet. You've already met and had planned on doing the deed but now the other person has decided they don't want too. What do you do?"

In that instance be grateful they told me instead of just ghosting or blocking me...

In general, if someone irks me on here, I’ll express my disdain and move on to the next x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to give my husband the silent treatment, or the one word replies (ok), if he was opposing something I wanted to do, or allow my kids to do.

After a while he would change his mind, but he only said no in the beginning to exert his power over us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume a meet will always be a social so anything more is an unexpected bonus. It is all about expectation management.

From my various spells on and off fab, I know that nothing is to be taken for granted so I'm rarely disappointed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to give my husband the silent treatment, or the one word replies (ok), if he was opposing something I wanted to do, or allow my kids to do.

After a while he would change his mind, but he only said no in the beginning to exert his power over us.

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