FabSwingers.com forum: Curvy Confidence.....

By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

I always declare I'm no skinny bird early in a conversation, I'm curvy! just to be totally honest and the reaction I usually find is that most guys will go for confidence and intelligence over size.... but some females are not so confident about their size, beautiful as some are.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a strait shooter if i like i say it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I’m not a guy

But as a fellow curvy and confident lady I also find it’s my confidence that is my biggest asset in regards to attracting people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

There are many extremely beautiful and sexy curvy women out there, and judging from verifications on female profiles, no shortage of men who enjoy their charms.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

Nothing wrong with curves. It's all in the eye of the beholder. The personality is what will draw me in.

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By *kynyrd64Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

Curves all the way for me .

It's like driving, always more interesting with curves ,bends and bumps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence then intelligence then a willingness to meet me... Thats all I ask

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

A top tip I'd say is don't say "I don't mind that your curvy"

I prefer someone who adores my shape not just willing to tolerate it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Im a strait shooter if i like i say it "

Speaking of saying it how it is

I’m still waiting on the fuck from this morning where the hell are ya?

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I like curvy ladies and always compliment on how good looking they are when meeting.

Confidence is very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always declare I’m no slim woman either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always declare I’m no slim woman either

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and gorgeous with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like curves and sometimes encounter ladies lacking confidence about it. It is difficult to prove your serious especially via the internet.

I try to take it slow and if the lack of confidence is about the body, try and not make it the focus but not ignoring it completely either. It’s a tough line to walk. But worth it in my views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a strait shooter if i like i say it "
yep, I know this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always declare I’m no slim woman either

and gorgeous with it x"

Aw thanks Mr Slim x

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I have days when I am really confident but other days when I am not. Russian Roulette as to what mood I am in if you message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A top tip I'd say is don't say "I don't mind that your curvy"

I prefer someone who adores my shape not just willing to tolerate it

I'll admit to having said that a few times, but it is a very poor way to say it as I do love a curvy female form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love curves and confidence in a lady and there’s no reason they should be mutually exclusive. Confidence and curves are equally attractive be they a joyous combination or individually manifest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m curvy, big, large, fat etc

Whatever you’d call it, my looks have nothing to do with my weight or body confidence

It all depends what a person is looking for

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nothing wrong with curvy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have someone who is always telling me im one of the sexist women he knows and i always tell him to stop being so daft....I had years of an ex telling me my legs were like tree trunks etc and putting me down so now I tell people im fat with maybe a couple of curves I wish they sold confidence in a bottle because I could do with some .

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not a guy

But as a fellow curvy and confident lady I also find it’s my confidence that is my biggest asset in regards to attracting people "

Oops! Apologies of course gals too!

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"I’m curvy, big, large, fat etc

Whatever you’d call it, my looks have nothing to do with my weight or body confidence

It all depends what a person is looking for "

Now this is a take on it that i agree with

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I’m not a guy

But as a fellow curvy and confident lady I also find it’s my confidence that is my biggest asset in regards to attracting people

Oops! Apologies of course gals too!

Don’t worry takes a hell of a lot more than that to offend me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my curves and if I go to a club or a meet I don’t compare myself to other women it’s just not healthy .. I would love to be a bit taller but I don’t worry about things I’m not .you only have one life so you may as well go out there and have fun.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I have someone who is always telling me im one of the sexist women he knows and i always tell him to stop being so daft....I had years of an ex telling me my legs were like tree trunks etc and putting me down so now I tell people im fat with maybe a couple of curves I wish they sold confidence in a bottle because I could do with some . "

You have the confidence to embrace that tho, your pics are lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its so hard to come across as genuine when so many people (past and present) are like this, putting others down.

There are man people out there who do find curves just as, if not more, appealing to slim and/or toned bodies.

I hope threads like this help build your confidence as you have an amazing body.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not a guy

But as a fellow curvy and confident lady I also find it’s my confidence that is my biggest asset in regards to attracting people

Oops! Apologies of course gals too!

Don’t worry takes a hell of a lot more than that to offend me "

Good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

I'm the female of this profile and I ALWAYS state I'm curvy.

Wouldn't want to disappoint anyone upon meeting haha. That's because someone said to me once that I may be big but I'm pretty. Kinda upset me that comment

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Its so hard to come across as genuine when so many people (past and present) are like this, putting others down.

There are man people out there who do find curves just as, if not more, appealing to slim and/or toned bodies.

I hope threads like this help build your confidence as you have an amazing body. "

Well said that man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is ok with me then that's a good start.

I do understand a lot of women are concerned about how they look and feel.

I look past that if we can laugh enjoy each other I'd be happy going out and meeting.

Just be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its so hard to come across as genuine when so many people (past and present) are like this, putting others down.

There are man people out there who do find curves just as, if not more, appealing to slim and/or toned bodies.

I hope threads like this help build your confidence as you have an amazing body.

Well said that man!

Thank you.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm fat (curvy if you're being polite) - I think really there are only so many nice things the other can say - it's down to the fat/curvy one to address their own self confidence. People do and will find you attractive, you just have to have that belief.

Don't get me wrong, at times I wobble (moreso before a meet!) and appreciate a nice compliment from a friend but if that does happen I take time to reflect on why it is. Do I need to go for a waddle? Have a nice bath? Wank? Eat chocolate? I always feel better after one or two of those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m big and curvy, it’s obvious in my pics. I’m a fake it till you make it with my confidence. I’m getting better at being complimented and taking it. But find that most men love my curves that contact me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fat (curvy if you're being polite) - I think really there are only so many nice things the other can say - it's down to the fat/curvy one to address their own self confidence. People do and will find you attractive, you just have to have that belief.

Do all 3 at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be confident and embrace my curves. 90% of the comments I get are positive however is always that one very negative or rude person that sticks in my mind. It is all about confidence though because 100 people can say you look fantastic but if you don't feel it when you're not going to believe any of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very confident with what I've got. Of course, there are things I do to improve myself, like trying to eat healthily and exercising regularly. Then there are some things that I'll never be able to obtain, like having longer legs. You've just got to work with what you've got. This year's aim is to work on what I consider to be my problem area; my mummy tummy, but I'm still confident with it regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man or women someone will always have something nasty to say about you.

Mostly down to jealousy

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By *av-RickMan
over a year ago

Nearby

Curves can make the journey of discovery more interesting

Plenty of appealing curves in this thread ladies - wit woo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man or women someone will always have something nasty to say about you.

Mostly down to jealousy"

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I possible suffer from overconfidence. I’m not comfortable with the term curvy to describe my shape. Definitely more suited to ample, large or fat. I rock what I have and manage to find the ones that don’t mind it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can make their minds up from my pics whether they like my figure or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone is ok with me then that's a good start.

I do understand a lot of women are concerned about how they look and feel.

I look past that if we can laugh enjoy each other I'd be happy going out and meeting.

Just be nice "

I’d definitly like to meet your confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very confident with what I've got. Of course, there are things I do to improve myself, like trying to eat healthily and exercising regularly. Then there are some things that I'll never be able to obtain, like having longer legs. You've just got to work with what you've got. This year's aim is to work on what I consider to be my problem area; my mummy tummy, but I'm still confident with it regardless!"

You have confidence, I wish I had that much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have confidence, I wish I had that much x "
u should your very fuckable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a strait shooter if i like i say it

Speaking of saying it how it is

I’m still waiting on the fuck from this morning where the hell are ya?

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oh shit yeah i got distracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a strait shooter if i like i say it yep, I know this lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to be confident and embrace my curves. 90% of the comments I get are positive however is always that one very negative or rude person that sticks in my mind. It is all about confidence though because 100 people can say you look fantastic but if you don't feel it when you're not going to believe any of them. "

Exactly. It’s how you feel about yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept compliments over time of a friendship.

Trust in those that know you.

People will say anything to get what they want then dismiss you as quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have confidence, I wish I had that much x "

Fake it until you make it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I was confident about the way I look, but I'm confident in the person that I am. I'll always be curvy and embrace it these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy and confident here!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I am confident about what I am and what am I not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too! My lack of confidence drives Mr F mad. For what it’s worth Kelly, you look great in your pics

Mrs F x

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’m curvy, big, large, fat etc

Whatever you’d call it, my looks have nothing to do with my weight or body confidence

Exactly. I’m far more attracted to someone’s facial looks than anything else. And as you say there’s no correlation between that and someone’s weight.

One of the first people I met through Fab was self conscious about her weight, but I think might be getting better now. She also just happens to be the most gorgeous woman I’ve been lucky enough to meet on here, and far sexier than she knows.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Please ..all the curvy ladies that have posted on this thread....share the confidence around... take the compliments with grace ... embrace the admiration...own and wear the smile that all the best wishes and encouragement are giving you

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Ps.. please put up a sixty plus men are sexy too thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big lady and I don't feel very confident but I'm always told that I look and act confident xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence could be better but since joining here my confidence has rocketed and I hold my own and am not scared to ask for what I want

Someone I met when I first joined ... I re-met last year and he said he was "blown away" by the new confident me and we are planning more meets this year (I'm currently the one putting him off at the moment so the proof is there for me!)

I have found that some people (usually female) try hard to knock others confidence and at first I allowed it ... Not any more! I've had a LOT of great sex in the last 12 months and an confident enough to turn people down and approach men first.

I'm hot to some and I know it, and I'm maximising on that now ... And am I having a LOT of fun doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am confident about what I am and what am I not. "

I Like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am far more confident than I was before I joined this site

I’ve been on and off here since 2014 and since then I’ve changed the way I see myself. I wouldn’t ever take photos of myself like I do now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone sees you, they like you.

not everyone will. concentrate on the good

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t mind curves, and I prefer it when the woman is confident in her own skin no matter what size she is. I’m most turned on by face and attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curves are at the top of the list for me. However I like confidence and sex appeal, there is no size for that, it is within you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely need to work on my confidence...I hate my body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking curves or overweight? I can understand people who are overweight not liking their bodies. It's better not to be as it doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy and confident here! "

very beautiful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I state on my profile and in messages that I'm a big girl as there's nothing worse than meeting someone for them to turn you away because "you're too fat" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x "

Love this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x "

Go girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Love this x"

Seriously... he’s just made me feel so sexy with one compliment. And after the letdowns on here this weekend, it’s a lovely feeling.

Made me remember that I can’t change the world just how I respond to the lame shit.

So curvy girls... swing it with me and work dat booty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Go girl

Join in with me!!! Dance off!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Go girl

Join in with me!!! Dance off!!! X "

Will it mean getting off the sofa though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Go girl

Join in with me!!! Dance off!!! X

Will it mean getting off the sofa though?

Do the bum shuffle while laying down... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Go girl

Join in with me!!! Dance off!!! X

Will it mean getting off the sofa though?

Do the bum shuffle while laying down... x "

Im doing it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Honestly? For me it's about the individual person, attraction, connection and chemistry - it doesn't come down to curvy or skinny or anything other than those four things, including confidence.

I really don't have a "type" and have met people of varying shapes and sizes, and confidence levels, since being here and can honestly say I don't see someone's size either way - the important things to me are those four things I listed at the start, without them it's not going to happen regardless of shape or confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly? For me it's about the individual person, attraction, connection and chemistry - it doesn't come down to curvy or skinny or anything other than those four things, including confidence.

I believe that from you though. I see people post things like this and half the time I just think ah they’re just saying that to make themselves look nice. Not everyone but a lot of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x

Go girl

Join in with me!!! Dance off!!! X

Will it mean getting off the sofa though?

Do the bum shuffle while laying down... x

Im doing it

Yes Queen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as fab helped me with my confidence when I was on here as a single female now it's exact opposite. The amount of photos of women with perfect bodies which Cute fabs everyday is making me rather insecure about my own look.

Kitten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. "
fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Honestly? For me it's about the individual person, attraction, connection and chemistry - it doesn't come down to curvy or skinny or anything other than those four things, including confidence.

I believe that from you though. I see people post things like this and half the time I just think ah they’re just saying that to make themselves look nice. Not everyone but a lot of them. "

Yeah I know and can see how my post may read that way to those that don't know me, but it's honestly the way I see it - attraction can't be defined by size or anything really - it just *is*.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

I know and I normally rise above it but sometimes people just get under my skin.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Honestly? For me it's about the individual person, attraction, connection and chemistry - it doesn't come down to curvy or skinny or anything other than those four things, including confidence.

I believe that from you though. I see people post things like this and half the time I just think ah they’re just saying that to make themselves look nice. Not everyone but a lot of them.

Yeah I know and can see how my post may read that way to those that don't know me, but it's honestly the way I see it - attraction can't be defined by size or anything really - it just *is*."

You put the “Gem” in Gemini my lovely x

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. "

Look at it this way if they’re putting you down you already know what’s wrong with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

I know and I normally rise above it but sometimes people just get under my skin. "
oh yeah I’ve had some horrific messages from guys who think I should be hidden away or to go kill myself coz I’m huge it’s really hard to ignore x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As much as fab helped me with my confidence when I was on here as a single female now it's exact opposite. The amount of photos of women with perfect bodies which Cute fabs everyday is making me rather insecure about my own look.

Kitten "

Just throwing my opinion in there but you have a gorgeous body. There is no other way to say it.

Perfect body is all opinionated really (health wise it's different) but attractiveness is all down to the individual and you most certainly do have an attractive body.

Both have great bodies - nope not jealous at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I have days when I'm Uber confident and days when I'm not. I'm fat, but I know I can do sexy, however it depends who I'm meeting. Some people can make you feel like the sexiest person on the earth and that in turn brings out your confidence, sass and sexiness. I've had the opposite too where I've just wanted to keep myself covered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

I know and I normally rise above it but sometimes people just get under my skin. oh yeah I’ve had some horrific messages from guys who think I should be hidden away or to go kill myself coz I’m huge it’s really hard to ignore x "

Just remember they couldnt get a fuck in a free brothel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, I have days when I'm Uber confident and days when I'm not. I'm fat, but I know I can do sexy, however it depends who I'm meeting. Some people can make you feel like the sexiest person on the earth and that in turn brings out your confidence, sass and sexiness. I've had the opposite too where I've just wanted to keep myself covered

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very sexy penny clone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly? For me it's about the individual person, attraction, connection and chemistry - it doesn't come down to curvy or skinny or anything other than those four things, including confidence.

I believe that from you though. I see people post things like this and half the time I just think ah they’re just saying that to make themselves look nice. Not everyone but a lot of them.

Yeah I know and can see how my post may read that way to those that don't know me, but it's honestly the way I see it - attraction can't be defined by size or anything really - it just *is*."

Very true and neither can sexiness x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Omg really? That’s just awful. I hope you report them. Things like that make my blood boil. Anyone who talks like that isn’t worth a thought though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

I shouldn't let it get Under My Skin but people think because I'm larger is perfectly ok to personally abuse me and it just gets a bit much sometimes and I just wonder if it's best not to put myself out there in the first place so I can't get the abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Omg really? That’s just awful. I hope you report them. Things like that make my blood boil. Anyone who talks like that isn’t worth a thought though x"

There is having an opinion and preference and then there is just pure hate and disrespect. Not worth a thought nor the air they breath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

No it’s bloody not best! Then the ignorant dickheads win! Can you not tell by the beginning of the message what sort of message it is? I usually could and I honestly read about one in a hundred and just deleted the rest. Most of them are absolutely vile and it does get to you in the end. I’ve blocked everyone except friends from messaging me now for a while as I’ve just had enough of it to be honest. xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Abuse because of your body shape, no matter what that shape is, is *never* ok and says more about the abuser than the person being abused - and that's what you keep having to remind yourself, especially on a site like this that has a lot of superficiality and, I'm ashamed to say, men getting butt hurt and lashing out because you've had the temerity to reject them.

I know that must be hard to do and ultimately only you can decide if you continue to put up with it BUT you should never lose sight of the fact that any kind of abusive behaviour is never about you but about them and their own inadequacies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Thank you and I feel like I might have to do the same also I think I'm going to have to be a little bit more careful what threads I post in. I guess it's partly my own fault because I put myself out there and put my opinions out there so I guess am opening myself up to criticism that's what I meant about not putting myself out there.

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I am a big girl and confident with it my curves tell my story I am cool with that. Wobbly bits come from motherhood and that's the most important part of my life. If a man doesn't like he doesn't have to touch. But being confident and content oozes sex appeal in both men and women.

Be happy in your skin xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Ah I see. So you get abuse from here? it’s not your fault at all. Nobody deserves abuse for having an opinion. I haven’t looked at your profile but you could maybe narrow your filters right down too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Yes it's mainly from the forum to be honest because my filters are fairly narrow. I'm probably just been far too sensitive this evening so please excuse my rambling.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

No it's not your fault - you're as entitled as the next person to post on any thread you like and offer your opinion, if people disagree with that opinion and can offer a balanced and reasoned post or message disagreeing with it, then that's one thing - sending abuse because they don't is most definitely not and in extreme cases should be reported without question.

Why should you not feel free to enjoy the site as much as the next person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I misread the thread title; I thought it said "curry confidence" and expected to see a discussion about gathering the courage to sample a vindaloo.

Oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Omg really? That’s just awful. I hope you report them. Things like that make my blood boil. Anyone who talks like that isn’t worth a thought though x"
yeah I did, I had one who had about 6 different accounts on here and he constsntly put me down hundreds of times in the space of a few hours to the point I deleted my own account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Why should you not feel free to enjoy the site as much as the next person? "

thank you and like I said I'm just having a bit of a moan because I was upset about something that happened in another thread so thank you all for listening. I'm sure I'll be back to my chirpy opinionated, confident self very soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I’m being nosey I often see bbw like myself , in revealing pictures just oozing confidence and it’s so refreshing I have to message and simply say what I see xx we are all force fed these unrealistic airbrushed Hollywood body Images its so easy to get caught up in that pressure to look a certain way. it’s hard to just be comfy in your own skin at best, let alone if you are curvy or woe betide big!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think confidence plays a big part and being comfy in your own skin is a massive turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Why should you not feel free to enjoy the site as much as the next person?

We all do that. Sometimes I look next day and think omg why did I say all that! More often than not to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Why should you not feel free to enjoy the site as much as the next person?

We all do that. Sometimes I look next day and think omg why did I say all that! More often than not to be honest. "

I feel I was Justified in what I said but I probably should have walked away after the first offensive reply. Yes I do need to rain it in a bit of some the time. My mouth gets me into a lot of trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mouth gets me into a lot of trouble.

... I'll be good and won't say a word!

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mouth gets me into a lot of trouble.

... I'll be good and won't say a word!

Haha

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see what I mean I need to think before I speak/ type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

"
hhmmmm maybe

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I have discovered since starting to swing that I don't have a body type that I am naturally attracted to but instead I am attracted to the person. How they are their mind, confidence sexyness. So I don't think it matters if your curvy or not the big thing is confident in yourself and who you are wnd what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

hhmmmm maybe

Hahah... follow me, (takes hand) !-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mouth gets me into a lot of trouble.

... I'll be good and won't say a word!

Haha

see what I mean I need to think before I speak/ type.

Haha I'm just playing. If we all did that then it would be boring. So long as nobody gets hurt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I love a women with couverture and at the end of the day we all have something that we would love to change about us. But life if to short. To worry. If a man finds you attractive and wants you for you. Then go out and let your hair down and enjoy it. And like I say there’s a lot of men that find curves more sexy than not.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

hhmmmm maybe

Hahah... follow me, (takes hand) !-

Give me a shout if you need another hand

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By *olid as rockMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I always adored ladies with curves and I even mentioned it on my profile so don't lose your confidence regardless of what people say, enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

hhmmmm maybe

Hahah... follow me, (takes hand) !-

Give me a shout if you need another hand

Can see this being the Conga soon, doo doo dooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m big rather than curvy, thankfully there are men out there into big girls, I doubt myself a lot but have met some lovely guys, no good with compliments though, my confidence really comes out in the bedroom when the guy is hard.. then I know he likes what he sees and I feel good about me and the fun begins..

BUT no matter how hard I work on my confidence there is always one that has to knock me back down.. the guy that when I message back ‘not inferested sorry’ comes back with ‘well you’re a fat ugly cow anyway and I was only trying it cos my balls need emptying quick’ then back to square one.. then I wonder how many that message are only messaging cos they cant get anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx"

You can be anything you like with that pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

I am very confident in my winning and wonderful personality, my body not so much, wish I could get my confidence back after becoming “curvy”

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

I am big with equally big curves.

I have men here paying me compliments and saying they adore my curves. However, after many years being belittled and ignored by the one person who, supposedly, was meant to think the world of me, I still find it a bit difficult to believe it 100%.

Yes, I may have a pretty face but I am still working of feeling happy with my body.

Kudos to all of you confident curvy ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope this post meets everyone in good health.

Everyone has their preferences and I do believe that if someone wishes to speak negative about another person , they should keep their mouth closed.

It’s all about spreading positivity and enjoying life.

My preference are curvaceous women , I then wouldn’t go out of my way to diss slim women. The word fat shouldn’t be used.

Body shaming shouldn’t be tolerated.

Curvaceous + personality = sensational !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

Love curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A top tip I'd say is don't say "I don't mind that your curvy"

I prefer someone who adores my shape not just willing to tolerate it

Definitely comments like this don’t make feel sexy at all let alone meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you believe your ex and not the new nice guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy is another word women use to describe them being over weight and fat ,you are what you eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. "

They are what the block button is for.

Too many on here think they have more of a "right" to be on here than others and it's bollocks.

Block them and enjoy the ones who DO appreciate you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My confidence could be better but since joining here my confidence has rocketed and I hold my own and am not scared to ask for what I want

I'm hot to some and I know it, and I'm maximising on that now ... And am I having a LOT of fun doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down.

They are what the block button is for.

Too many on here think they have more of a "right" to be on here than others and it's bollocks.

Block them and enjoy the ones who DO appreciate you

Absolutely but it's difficult to block people that post offensive personal comments in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx"
your curvy not fat ,some women use the word curvy to describe themselves, when really over weight would be more descriptive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx your curvy not fat ,some women use the word curvy to describe themselves, when really over weight would be more descriptive "

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Curvy is another word women use to describe them being over weight and fat ,you are what you eat "

Yet science has proved time and time again that the biggest impact on a woman’s weight is hormonal changes. There’s actually 8 major hormonal states that effect women and their weight we go through each of those stages during the course of our lifetime and each stage provides new challenges. There’s a reason A majority of women use the phrase “my weight was never an issue until .......”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" The word fat shouldn’t be used.

Why not? I have it on my profile that I am fat.

When I first joined I think I used "very curvy" and someone pointed out that I wasn't fully honest on my profile.

I wasn't offended by this statement as it was totally true. I am fat, I've lost 9 stone so I am nowhere near as fat as I was but I don't have an issue with the word fat.

It's ignorant people who feel it's their right to slag you off for being fat that pisses me off.

The main reason for this opinion is that by sending abuse and being downright rude is showing that they are clearly perfect are they not?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down.

They are what the block button is for.

Too many on here think they have more of a "right" to be on here than others and it's bollocks.

Block them and enjoy the ones who DO appreciate you

Absolutely but it's difficult to block people that post offensive personal comments in the forums.

I do agree with that, but I have learned that you have to treat these kind of individuals with the contempt they deserve and ignore them.

I KNOW it's not easy, but glance over their profiles and you will soon see that they are not worth a second of your time.

Since I adopted this thinking my fab experience has been so much better (and no, it doesn't always work, and yes, it still sometimes gets to me, but not anywhere near to the extent that it used to) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down.

They are what the block button is for.

Too many on here think they have more of a "right" to be on here than others and it's bollocks.

Block them and enjoy the ones who DO appreciate you

Absolutely but it's difficult to block people that post offensive personal comments in the forums.

I do agree with that, but I have learned that you have to treat these kind of individuals with the contempt they deserve and ignore them.

I KNOW it's not easy, but glance over their profiles and you will soon see that they are not worth a second of your time.

Since I adopted this thinking my fab experience has been so much better (and no, it doesn't always work, and yes, it still sometimes gets to me, but not anywhere near to the extent that it used to) x"

Thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx

You can be anything you like with that pic

Agreed! The skin you’re in looks great Jo

Mrs F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down.

They are what the block button is for.

Too many on here think they have more of a "right" to be on here than others and it's bollocks.

Block them and enjoy the ones who DO appreciate you

Absolutely but it's difficult to block people that post offensive personal comments in the forums.

I do agree with that, but I have learned that you have to treat these kind of individuals with the contempt they deserve and ignore them.

I KNOW it's not easy, but glance over their profiles and you will soon see that they are not worth a second of your time.

Since I adopted this thinking my fab experience has been so much better (and no, it doesn't always work, and yes, it still sometimes gets to me, but not anywhere near to the extent that it used to) x

Thank you. X"

No worries, there's nothing I hate more than bullies. Someone once told me they have so many personal issues that they refuse to address so they bully others because they think they can

I used to "allow" it, but not anymore. If you ever need a non confidence boost remember that ... You're ten times the person they are!

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

From cancer research UK:

Obesity is the second biggest preventable cause of cancer in the UK- more than 1 in 20 cancer cases are caused by excess weightThe risk is higher the more weight a person gains and the longer they are overweight forThe good news is small changes that are kept up over time can make a real difference.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"From cancer research UK:

And that was relevant because .............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From cancer research UK:

This is undoubtedly true, and I don’t think there’s an overweight person on here who isn’t aware of it (so thanks for pointing it out again) but I hope it wouldn’t come into the OP’s original question of “how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is another word women use to describe them being over weight and fat ,you are what you eat "
Sometimes this is true, for some people they can keep healthy and not shift the weight and on the other hand I know others size 10 who eat like a horse but do not gain any weight at all. Some people are fat obsese whatever it maybe called due to eating junk not exercising etc but some have good medical reasons. I agree some people shouldn’t use the term curvy when they are a lot more but..... that’s upto them and it’s upto the man to approach them if he likes what he see’s.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From cancer research UK:

And that was relevant because ............."

Because we fatties have no idea how to lose weight (says the woman who, through sheer will and determination, has lost 9 stone)

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"From cancer research UK:

And that was relevant because .............

Because we fatties have no idea how to lose weight (says the woman who, through sheer will and determination, has lost 9 stone)

I’ve lost loads too, but these type of people rarely care about your story, they just still see fat and that’s that! Judgement made that all you do is sit on your arse and eat shit - sad really

Shows a severe lack of education of female weight issues as well, especially since as high as 95% if the diet and fitness related advice out there are based on studies done on men, this is because men are more “constant figures” they don’t have mass hormonal influctions to deal with. Any woman that goes to places like Slimming world, weight watchers, lighter life etc will always see men that join join loose twice the amount of weight in less amount of time - the reason? Simply hormones

When it comes to the 8 major hormonal states I currently have what’s known as ovarian burnout. With this I loose weight better doing gentle exercise like walking and eating a high carb diet (which is apparently a no go according to most), so that minimal excercise and eating “junky” carbs, yet it bloody works!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From cancer research UK:

And that was relevant because .............

Because we fatties have no idea how to lose weight (says the woman who, through sheer will and determination, has lost 9 stone)

I’ve lost loads too, but these type of people rarely care about your story, they just still see fat and that’s that! Judgement made that all you do is sit on your arse and eat shit - sad really

These people aren't sad Curvy, they are simply ignorant

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

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There is something very attractive about a curvaceous woman with confidence... And I must say there are some really beautiful women on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx

You can be anything you like with that pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From cancer research UK:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn't feel confident in themselves, why would it be up to others to make them feel confident enough to meet? I don't get the question.

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By *ouplelooking99Couple
over a year ago

leicerster

I'm a curvy girl my confidence has grown over the years still needs some work but I'm getting there just hold ur head high and be proud of wat u are this is way I tell myself everyday x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a mistake to make assumptions about what others like based on the way they look themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is another word women use to describe them being over weight and fat ,you are what you eat Sometimes this is true, for some people they can keep healthy and not shift the weight and on the other hand I know others size 10 who eat like a horse but do not gain any weight at all. Some people are fat obsese whatever it maybe called due to eating junk not exercising etc but some have good medical reasons. I agree some people shouldn’t use the term curvy when they are a lot more but..... that’s upto them and it’s upto the man to approach them if he likes what he see’s."

I agree. I had my thyroid removed a few years ago and put in weight after that. This makes it VERY difficult for me to lose weight and tone up. I try by going to gym 3/4 times a week and eating healthy.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"If someone doesn't feel confident in themselves, why would it be up to others to make them feel confident enough to meet? I don't get the question. "

Confidence (apart from being the habitual voyeur of what is known as...

) is something that in part comes from interaction with others and being made to feel confident as a result of those interactions - whether that be through sincere compliments received, just a general feeling of comfort because you've got to know someone, or any other number of factors - so I don't think the OP was saying it's "up to others" to make someone feel more confident per se and certainly not when it comes to general confidence.

There's a vast difference though between feeling generally confident about yourself, and feeling confident with specific individuals, and I think it was the latter that the OP was referring to and that individual confidence does come down to how you interact with one another, and build confidence that the other person is genuine and someone you feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx

You can be anything you like with that pic

Agreed! The skin you’re in looks great Jo

Mrs F x"

Thank you, Mrs F, very kind of you to say

As does yours! Xx

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure ......."

For me. I'm not here to give, improve or create confidence in others. Bring your own confidence.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Confidence can change hugely day to day for me. One day I'll be feeling like I could give Scarlett Johanssen a run for her money and the next I'll be googling for moomoos and 'how to be a bbw'

V x

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

I guess if some people’s preference is confidence and intelligence and someone finds they don’t fit into those preferences then move on, preferences vary and there’s plenty here instead of trying to change to fit

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By *teve335Man
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Confidence is a turn on for me regardless of size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curvy, but not very confident, so I'm learning to love the skin I'm in!

Jo.Xx

You can be anything you like with that pic

Agreed! The skin you’re in looks great Jo

Mrs F x

Thank you, Mrs F, very kind of you to say

As does yours! Xx

Jo.Xx"

Thank you too

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven

I'm a bigger girl - state that in my profile and seen in our pics.

I'm not very confident (took a few knocks from an ex).

Although we get a lot of messages from slim/ athletic guys, I don't think I could ever be naked or confident around a fit guy, I'd always be wondering why would he want to be with me?!

But most of the guts we/I have met have been extremely complimentary X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re hot, questioning my sexuality right about now

You want me to answer it

xxx

hhmmmm maybe

Hahah... follow me, (takes hand) !-

Give me a shout if you need another hand

A naked conga hahaha

Can see this being the Conga soon, doo doo dooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

No it's not your fault. There are no excuses. This is a sad reflection on some of the narrow minded types with a chip on their shoulder that are occasionally found on this site. If there's one thing we've learned from our swinging journey, it's that there are all type out there, all ages & they are into way more things than we'd ever imagined! Some are definitely not for us but we'd never dream of criticising others provided no one is hurt, no one is coerced & if we say no thanks it's accepted.

We really thought people here would be more broad minded than in vanilla life but clearly not. Everyone is entitled to be here. If someone is not for you what on earth would possess you to go to the effort of sending abuse? Really?

What's more (I'm sure someone has said it already), but many guys genuinely do prefer a fuller figure. Fact. We have all looked at someone & thought corrr without really knowing what it was about that person that attracted us to them over the next -for us that's certainly not just based on body size.

Abuse in any shape or form, for any reason is unacceptable. When it becomes acceptable we end up with Putin, Trump, Bolsonaro, Áder etc. They are all entitled to their opinions, but when they decide that their's are the only allowable ones we are well & truly screwed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although we get a lot of messages from slim/ athletic guys, I don't think I could ever be naked or confident around a fit guy, I'd always be wondering why would he want to be with me?!

I'm with you on this. I think they're either fake or taking the piss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Curvy is another word women use to describe them being over weight and fat ,you are what you eat "

Oh aren't you the purveyor of feel good factor!! If you can't say anything polite don't say anything!

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By *heangelWoman
over a year ago

wonderland

I like my curves , but not the fat on them no idea why anyone would like it . .. but some men seem to

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I've just been having a conversation with another fab member regarding curves and confidence.

So guys.... your thoughts on curves, confidence and how to make someone feel confident if you really want to meet them but they are unsure .......

The message I’ve just had..? I am now going to embrace my curves and swing my hips like the sassy bitch I am x "

Yay go girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moral of the story your awesome as long as you believe it

The end

Thanks for reading

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"It's so hard to have curvy confidence when there are always people that want to put you down. fuck those people, the people who want to put you down are worth nothing to you!

Yes unfortunately I've had a few like this as well.

Why should you not feel free to enjoy the site as much as the next person?

I hope some of the comments in this thread will give you your confidence back x

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