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 And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay  So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think. | |||
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"Stay off the internet if you want privacy. " Tell me about it. | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think."Feel for you hon give a while it will all blow over  xx | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think. Feel for you hon give a while it will all blow over xx"I'm burying my head in the sand  | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think."That's awful! I can only imagine its some mix up at the bank although if its all on line I can't see how. What's happened about paying for the clothes? Could you if necessary explain it away as a stag do or fancy dress party? | |||
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"Makes me feel sad that you can’t be honest with your mum. I’d much rather be crying over my daughter than her crying over me. Parents have unconditional love for their children. Are you really sure she’d take it that bad? Is it worth you being private and keeping silent?
Gem xx"My sister played a trick when we were teenagers. Mum cried and Dad was angry They'd love me still, but given I feel 90%Straight the majority of the time and only see females in a romantic light. It's not stopped me from being happy. They've no need to know about it and I've no desire to tell them.
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Sad thing is, my sis was only joking and didn't think I was. Just thought she was being funny. She was as shocked by their reaction, because they've given us the liberal values we have | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think.
That's awful! I can only imagine its some mix up at the bank although if its all on line I can't see how.
What's happened about paying for the clothes? Could you if necessary explain it away as a stag do or fancy dress party?"I don't feel I have to. As far as I'm aware, I paid for them. It's just come up on their account too! If it's not been paid, I'm certainly not paying the companies after this gross breach in data. | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) " I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. | |||
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"Stay off the internet if you want privacy. " Thats not easy though is it? Unless you opt out of modern life completely | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think.
That's awful! I can only imagine its some mix up at the bank although if its all on line I can't see how.
What's happened about paying for the clothes? Could you if necessary explain it away as a stag do or fancy dress party?
I don't feel I have to. As far as I'm aware, I paid for them. It's just come up on their account too!
If it's not been paid, I'm certainly not paying the companies after this gross breach in data. "It's difficult to know who's responsible for the breach. The bank seems the most likely culprit because that's the only institution that has access to both sets of details. Years ago we made our wills and someone at the solicitors office put our will in someone elses envelope and vice versa. The solicitor tried in vain to keep our business but we refused and moved elsewhere. We didn't take any further action though. | |||
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"You're confusing me about this account. If you have your own bank account no one else will see it not even your parents no anything about it." I know. That's what's confused me too. Apparently PayPal are involved. Yet my eBay account is only linked to me. Only has my card details and I don't use Paypal on eBay! The only linking factors are same UK bank and same surnames. It's really quite worrying how the mistake has happened. | |||
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"You're confusing me about this account. If you have your own bank account no one else will see it not even your parents no anything about it. I know. That's what's confused me too. Apparently PayPal are involved. Yet my eBay account is only linked to me. Only has my card details and I don't use Paypal on eBay! The only linking factors are same UK bank and same surnames. It's really quite worrying how the mistake has happened." I'd ask the bank for an explanation. I suspect that one part of the process is carried out manually and that's where its gone wrong | |||
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"If you definitely used your account and it’s showed up in their’s too, that’s a massive data breach. Let me guess: Do you bank with TSB?" No. Yes it's a massive breach give that it's lead to a bit of emotional trauma on my part. I will investigate if anyone comes knocking at my inbox looking for money. If not I'm leaving it alone, too much to have discuss with strangers | |||
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"Do you have proof your parents were billed. Have you checked your bank to see if you was billed to? You all have different bank account numbers." Yes to all. | |||
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"I’d be going through the official channels to get this resolved and whoever it is you bank with slapped with a fine from the ICO or similar. That shouldn’t happen ever. " This ^^^^^the Bank could be fined or even lose its licence if there are more breaches, you definitely need to report this, even if it gives you peace of mind it won’t happen again | |||
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"I’d be going through the official channels to get this resolved and whoever it is you bank with slapped with a fine from the ICO or similar. That shouldn’t happen ever. This ^^^^^the Bank could be fined or even lose its licence if there are more breaches, you definitely need to report this, even if it gives you peace of mind it won’t happen again " I've a feeling I'm going to have to. | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google." I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought? | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought?" Yes on thinking about this I'm wondering how details on a bank statement show specifically what you bought. I think there's possibly more to not. Whatever the explanation one's private life is exactly that and if anyone doesn't want their parents to know they dress that's their business | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought?" I can't see how anyone else could know. If that were the case of be more upset, so I'd rather not contemplate that. | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought? Yes on thinking about this I'm wondering how details on a bank statement show specifically what you bought. I think there's possibly more to not. Whatever the explanation one's private life is exactly that and if anyone doesn't want their parents to know they dress that's their business" None of my friends know about my bisexuality. Only those I've dressed for, which is two people, who couldn't track me to my parents through what they know about me. Nobody else has access to my account. Nobody local can identify me to my seemingly straight self on Fab. | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought? I can't see how anyone else could know. If that were the case of be more upset, so I'd rather not contemplate that." Did you order them from somewhere local? x | |||
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought? I can't see how anyone else could know. If that were the case of be more upset, so I'd rather not contemplate that. Did you order them from somewhere local? x" No.. national dealers on ebay | |||
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"I've only just started dressing very recently. Two days ago I get a text from my parents asking if I've bought a wig and some women's clothing!!! I bought it all off eBay, with my account, my bank details. We both use same bank and have same surname. Somehow, they've been billed with my items!!! They know nothing about my sexuality or dressing kink And I've zero desire to tell them. Mum cried once when my sister joked about me being gay So I'm having to deny everything! Which they believe, but the deception about money is upsetting me, as is the mistake that's led to it.
All I wanted to do was try dressing in private Be careful with your online purchases, it's not as anonymous as you think."Are you wearing a wig in your pics? I've read your OP again for more info. The 'bought' might be a red herring. Perhaps they or their friends have seen your profile on here. | |||
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"Should of said they were for mates stag night your all dressing him up " I couldn't think of anything to say I was so shocked. I just denied everything. Which sucks, because I'm trying not to lie about anything, ever | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A" PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A" I’m not saying I don’t buy it but I struggle to see how this has happened after working 20 years in a bank. Even if you are the same bank as your parents it wouldn’t make a difference as everything is done by account number and sort code not name. Maybe they have had access to your emails or something like that. Just a thought. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has." I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A" It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care." I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. " Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care." I wasn't aware I was displaying any 'attitude'. Nor did I say I didn't believe your parents had found something out. I couldn't care less about your choices. That's irrelevant. Nor do I give a toss if you were/weren't seeking attention. You're entity to do as you wish. But you've warned people to be careful about their online purchases saying they're not as private as you think - but they are. It simply came across as one of those scare stories you see on Facebook that gets shared widely regardless of it being impossible. Yes banks fuck up. But what you originally described can't happen. There's no point getting offended because that's been pointed out by someone with industry knowledge. It's no different to me incorrectly stating the workings of a car engine when I've fuck all idea why one would stop working as I'm not a mechanic. And on that note...I'm out. A | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. " No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter  . AWKWARD.
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"First thing first, I work in a financial office get in touch with the Bank, they have divulged personal information that should have never happened. Do you still live with your Parents or kept your billing address with them, I would sort that out first so it never happens again. You had a chance to come out to your Parents you decided not to, that’s your decision, if this is just a phase you’re going through fine, but if this is going to now be a part of your life / personality it looked like a perfect time. However I would be kicking up a massive fuss with the Bank next to a medical issue, your financial details should never be revealed to the wrong person(s) I agree. No I live in a l9ng way from them. On my own, for quite some time. It's never happened before. To be fair, I did have the opportunity to tell them. In my eyes, they don't really deserve to know after their initial reaction when we were young. Also, I don't "Date" Men, so there's no need for them to know. Or anyone else. It's private, shared only with those whom I trust. And Google. I wouldn't tell them either. Say it's fancy dress then drop it. None of their business what you do. x I'd be asking how they know about your purchases. How the actual fuck can that be mixed up?! The bank needs taking to court!! Other explanation may be shared friends. Is the bank mix up just some made up excuse to get you talking? Did a friend tell them what you've bought? Yes on thinking about this I'm wondering how details on a bank statement show specifically what you bought. I think there's possibly more to not. Whatever the explanation one's private life is exactly that and if anyone doesn't want their parents to know they dress that's their business" Exactly, bank transactions on bank statements do not give the item purchased details! | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has." Then I would say they somehow have access to your Ebay/ paypal / bank or mail accounts | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
Oh my god thats hilarious yet terrifying all at the same time"It was an hour before her and her partner were due here for lunch. I wouldn't mind so much but we don't have any interest in dogging at all. | |||
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"Lots of people on here seem to be missing the point. Cixi i am so sorry to hear this has happened to you. For any reason whatsoever. Stay strong and stay amazing. Regardless of what anyone ultimately thinks of your clothes or sexuality you are awesome just the way you are. " Awww.. that's not the point though Point being, be careful lol just wanted to get it off my chest x | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. Then I would say they somehow have access to your Ebay/ paypal / bank or mail accounts " I'm starting to think same thing. Although I'm trying not to. It's a bit dark if that's the case. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
OMG! How'd that end up? I feel.loads better now "It was very recently. I acted all surprised and made up a cock and bull story about another friend being in a group chat with a third party and getting confused and copying me in. Basically I just tried to muddy the waters. She hasn't disowned us but I bet we've been the subject of much speculation  | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
OMG! How'd that end up? I feel.loads better now
It was very recently. I acted all surprised and made up a cock and bull story about another friend being in a group chat with a third party and getting confused and copying me in. Basically I just tried to muddy the waters. She hasn't disowned us but I bet we've been the subject of much speculation "That's definately worse than my tale of woe I bet your heart jumped into your throat when you sent it and realised Thankyou, that's cheered me up a bit | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
OMG! How'd that end up? I feel.loads better now
It was very recently. I acted all surprised and made up a cock and bull story about another friend being in a group chat with a third party and getting confused and copying me in. Basically I just tried to muddy the waters. She hasn't disowned us but I bet we've been the subject of much speculation
That's definately worse than my tale of woe I bet your heart jumped into your throat when you sent it and realised Thankyou, that's cheered me up a bit "You know when you just think "fuck!"? Well that's what I thought. But you know what, we're good people, she knows that and even if we're out at every digging spot south of the Watford Gap on a nightly basis it doesn't change that fact. The same applies to you. You wear dresses and a wig. So what! | |||
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"Lots of people on here seem to be missing the point. Cixi i am so sorry to hear this has happened to you. For any reason whatsoever. Stay strong and stay amazing. Regardless of what anyone ultimately thinks of your clothes or sexuality you are awesome just the way you are. Awww.. that's not the point though Point being, be careful lol just wanted to get it off my chest x"Haha then i guess i missed the point too but what i said still stands regardless. I would change all your passwords and mailing addresses starting with your email. | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
OMG! How'd that end up? I feel.loads better now
It was very recently. I acted all surprised and made up a cock and bull story about another friend being in a group chat with a third party and getting confused and copying me in. Basically I just tried to muddy the waters. She hasn't disowned us but I bet we've been the subject of much speculation
That's definately worse than my tale of woe I bet your heart jumped into your throat when you sent it and realised Thankyou, that's cheered me up a bit
You know when you just think "fuck!"?
Well that's what I thought.
But you know what, we're good people, she knows that and even if we're out at every digging spot south of the Watford Gap on a nightly basis it doesn't change that fact. The same applies to you. You wear dresses and a wig. So what! "I love you  | |||
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"Having spent nearly two decades in finance working for a bank I'm struggling to see how this happened. For eBay purchases you either pay by card or PayPal. If by card all that will show on a bank statement is the total amount and the beneficiary business name. Not a breakdown of what was bought. Even if you share a name with someone your bank details are unique to you and there is no 'glitch' that would substitute your details for someone else. Everything's automated. Twenty years ago when all transactions were processed manually this could have happened. But not these days. Sorry OP. But I'm not buying it. A PayPal have shown up in my parents information, I have a PayPal account, but it's not linked to my eBay account. I don't think. They've got a bloody list of what I bought, plus some things I didn't buy. I'd like to think it couldn't have happened, but it has, so I'm not bothered about whether you buy my story or not pal. I don't know how it's happened, but it has. I'm not disputing that they've found something out. I'm trying to explain it's impossible for it to have been down to your bank. Unless your PayPal account has ever used either their bank account or a credit card if theirs to make a payment then your bank details can't be in any way linked to theirs. Fox has used her credit card to buy things via both my eBay account and via PayPal. The transactions show on her credit card statement of course - but just the total and the vendors name. Likewise I've used by debit card to buy things through PayPal when my PayPal balance has been zero. Again - just the total and vendor details show on my bank statement. Never in the history of electronic payments has a breakdown of what has been bought from anyone appeared on either a bank statement or a credit card statement. So for your parents to actually know the individual items that were bought they would need to have been sent an invoice or itemised receipt via email or have access to your PayPal account to view the transaction details. And I'm not really bothered if you believe that either. But it remains a fact I'm afraid. A It didn't say what it was on their bank account. Just an outgoing sum and name of vendor. So they investigated. Why would I make this up? Why the attitude? I'm not attention seeking. Just saying what's happened. Never in recorded history has the banking system ever fucked things up? Oh you said electronic purchasing, just as doubtful. I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I really don't care. I think you need to either find out exactly what your parents know and how they know it or forget the whole thing. Forget the whole thing I think. I just felt like sharing what happened is all. No problem with that. I was chatting to someone about dogging, they sent a fairly explicit message asking about locations, expressing an interest in trying it etc. I copied it to show Mr N. Then pasted the whole thing into a message I sent to our daughter . AWKWARD.
I just wanted to share that too. It helps get the awful feeling out.
OMG! How'd that end up? I feel.loads better now
It was very recently. I acted all surprised and made up a cock and bull story about another friend being in a group chat with a third party and getting confused and copying me in. Basically I just tried to muddy the waters. She hasn't disowned us but I bet we've been the subject of much speculation
That's definately worse than my tale of woe I bet your heart jumped into your throat when you sent it and realised Thankyou, that's cheered me up a bit
You know when you just think "fuck!"?
Well that's what I thought.
But you know what, we're good people, she knows that and even if we're out at every digging spot south of the Watford Gap on a nightly basis it doesn't change that fact. The same applies to you. You wear dresses and a wig. So what!
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"To me it sounds like your parents have found out what you've bought via digging and have possibly come up with this story to get the story out of you. It all sounds very muddy and rather odd to me, as others have said; financial transactions don't get mixed like that, so I would be looking at other ways they could be finding out. Or you could simply ignore it and hope it goes away. Personally I'd be furious about my personal details being shared whether the purchase was a tesco shop or a strap on. " You're right, I've no evidence either way right now. I'm a bit furious, bit embarrassed, bit shocked and bit ashamed? Partially at least. Not enough to stop me, enough to make me pause for thought. | |||
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" I'm starting to think same thing. Although I'm trying not to. It's a bit dark if that's the case. " Change of password time? For your other dilemma, you are an adult, you don't have to explain everything you do in your private life to your parents or ask permission from them | |||
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" Huggles x"Thanks x I'm done now on this, let's put it to bed and move on. | |||
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"Mebbe your parents are on here,seen your posts etc and are worried you will find out about your dad's recent purchase of a rubber minidress and gas mask." | |||
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