FabSwingers.com forum: Which is the worst thing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating

Im not sure everyone knows what swinging is i still dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think cheating, just because it can effect anyone at anytime, is very personal and painful ... with wide sweeping life changing results

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Cheating I would imagine as it's deceitful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cheating

Im not sure everyone knows what swinging is i still dont"

Good point.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I'll go with cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fair few 'vanillas' I've spoken to find it difficult to separate swinging and cheating or class swinging as 'cheating with consent'!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating

Im not sure everyone knows what swinging is i still dont

Good point."

A miracle just happened what in the holy hells going on when i make sence to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating.. but then a lot of folk on here are married or ‘attached’ with secret profiles.. sites like this make cheating easier.. fair play to those that admit to being married, you have the choice then whether to go there or not then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?"

Cheating is cheating OP, it’s lying and betrayal of someone who cares about you.

Swinging should be a person sexually expressing themselves, however that is not always the case is it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A fair few 'vanillas' I've spoken to find it difficult to separate swinging and cheating or class swinging as 'cheating with consent'!

Peach x"

A fair few 'swingers' think the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?

Cheating is cheating OP, it’s lying and betrayal of someone who cares about you.

Swinging should be a person sexually expressing themselves, however that is not always the case is it

But what does society see as 'worse'? Or are they both seen as equally 'bad'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating

Im not sure everyone knows what swinging is i still dont

Good point."

It is. Define swinging where everyone agrees with it. Lots of singles swing. Do couples believe that’s swinging or nsa?

Whichever scenario requires you to not be truthful is probably the one you think is worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cheating

Im not sure everyone knows what swinging is i still dont

Good point.

It is. Define swinging where everyone agrees with it. Lots of singles swing. Do couples believe that’s swinging or nsa?

Whichever scenario requires you to not be truthful is probably the one you think is worse. "

There's lots of different definitions of cheating too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The general public probably think of swinging far less than the swinging community likes to think, so I wouldn't say they care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When Adam & Eve just had fig leaves ones suspect swinging etc etc became the norm..but evolved out and hidden

Now I think we society excetptance of many things is swinging etc

Evolving back ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh cheating defo.

My mate got caught swinging as got a lady at his place whilst mrs at work.

Mrs came home early due to headache.

He got caught and didn’t break up as she said she wants be a swinger too.

She would select gangbang nights and have up to 12 men fuck her twice a week. 100 within a month

My mate got jealous and broke up with her.

She got her own back.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that an awful lot of people consider swinging to be cheating or dressed up as cheating, just because the other partner knows it's still sex outside of marriage and make the moral judgement in the same way.

Having said that though, swinging is often seen as a bit of a joke and a curio whereas cheating is deception and destruction of trust to most.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Swinging ..because its more overt and has less emotional connection

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?

Cheating is cheating OP, it’s lying and betrayal of someone who cares about you.

Swinging should be a person sexually expressing themselves, however that is not always the case is it

But what does society see as 'worse'? Or are they both seen as equally 'bad'?"

I would say society would see somebody cheating as a bad deceitful person where as I don’t think the would see a swinger as bad more like filthy (in a naughty way) lol

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

To extend the thought

When cheating who is usually considered the villain

The seducer or the wife

The seductress or the husband

The unaware party as they should have put more effort in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The muggles probably don't see a difference!

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By *notherGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere

I would go against the concensus here, not from a personal view, but because of the prevalence of infidelity.

Smaller slice of society swing. Hell of a lot cheat. Sadly.

So therefore swinging must be the more abhorrent to the general public.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

Cheating is the worst, the other person has no idea, where as swinging it is something you do as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gonna start a Facebook poll

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"A fair few 'vanillas' I've spoken to find it difficult to separate swinging and cheating or class swinging as 'cheating with consent'!

Peach x"
I'd say this... but cheating is to cause hurt .. swinging isn't.

I don't really have friends outside the lifestyle so don't really know. And to most of them cheating is awful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Quite a few people think swinging is much worse than cheating. Some people expect and condone cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gonna start a Facebook poll

Now that would be amusing....I think the swinger friends on my fb would relish winding up vanillas haha!

#youknowwhoyouare

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging.

We’re all diseased freaks that will shag anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?

Cheating is cheating OP, it’s lying and betrayal of someone who cares about you.

Swinging should be a person sexually expressing themselves, however that is not always the case is it

But what does society see as 'worse'? Or are they both seen as equally 'bad'?

I would say society would see somebody cheating as a bad deceitful person where as I don’t think the would see a swinger as bad more like filthy (in a naughty way) lol "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To extend the thought

When cheating who is usually considered the villain

The seducer or the wife

The seductress or the husband

The unaware party as they should have put more effort in ?

The single person is usually blamed. It's the attached person's fault.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would go against the concensus here, not from a personal view, but because of the prevalence of infidelity.

Smaller slice of society swing. Hell of a lot cheat. Sadly.

So therefore swinging must be the more abhorrent to the general public. "

I think cheating is so common it's 'accepted' So I agree that swinging is often seen by outsiders as worse.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"To extend the thought

When cheating who is usually considered the villain

The seducer or the wife

The seductress or the husband

The unaware party as they should have put more effort in ?

The single person is usually blamed. It's the attached person's fault."

I like the direct simplicity of your answer

I dont entirely agree with the answer

I understand why the single is blamed they can be powerful calculated seducers

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By *notherGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere

Isn’t always a singleton in that scenario.

Who’s the villain then? Gender stereotypes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More people have cheated ( I imagine) than have been swingers so I'd say swinging.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I would go against the concensus here, not from a personal view, but because of the prevalence of infidelity.

Smaller slice of society swing. Hell of a lot cheat. Sadly.

So therefore swinging must be the more abhorrent to the general public.

I think cheating is so common it's 'accepted' So I agree that swinging is often seen by outsiders as worse. "

I disagree. I think most people take the view that what consenting adults get up to in private is up to them and no one else's business.

Deceiving your partner, however, about something very important to them is almost universally vilified.

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By *notherGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere

"I would go against the concensus here, not from a personal view, but because of the prevalence of infidelity.

Smaller slice of society swing. Hell of a lot cheat. Sadly.

So therefore swinging must be the more abhorrent to the general public.

I think cheating is so common it's 'accepted' So I agree that swinging is often seen by outsiders as worse.

I disagree. I think most people take the view that what consenting adults get up to in private is up to them and no one else's business.

Deceiving your partner, however, about something very important to them is almost universally vilified. "

I agree that the moral balance would dictate that, quite common sense really. Different levels of immorality maybe. So on an individual basis, with thought, most people would think that way. Infidelity can have such collateral damage.

However, the numbers don’t equate to that. More broken hearts in the world than joy in shared dalliances. Paradoxes everywhere in life.

It’s never a good idea to take society’s prevailing view as your own moral compass.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would go against the concensus here, not from a personal view, but because of the prevalence of infidelity.

Smaller slice of society swing. Hell of a lot cheat. Sadly.

So therefore swinging must be the more abhorrent to the general public.

I think cheating is so common it's 'accepted' So I agree that swinging is often seen by outsiders as worse.

I disagree. I think most people take the view that what consenting adults get up to in private is up to them and no one else's business.

Deceiving your partner, however, about something very important to them is almost universally vilified.

However, the numbers don’t equate to that. More broken hearts in the world than joy in shared dalliances. Paradoxes everywhere in life.

It’s never a good idea to take society’s prevailing view as your own moral compass.

Interesting to discuss though.

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By *notherGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere

Very.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone cheats most people just shrug the shoulders and say oh well. no one gives a shit about anybody else apart from themselves and they out to get what they can.

but i maybe wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread I caught the other day though, although I didn’t read it all. Apparently people can lose their job for swinging. Can’t see that happening for cheating. So maybe it’s not seen as worse. I don’t know. Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thread I caught the other day though, although I didn’t read it all. Apparently people can lose their job for swinging. Can’t see that happening for cheating. So maybe it’s not seen as worse. I don’t know. Just a thought

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i did but self inflicted too much fabbing and fucking not enough working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did but self inflicted too much fabbing and fucking not enough working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did but self inflicted too much fabbing and fucking not enough working

I’ve got an amazing boss. She’s bloody hot too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did but self inflicted too much fabbing and fucking not enough working

I’ve got an amazing boss. She’s bloody hot too!!"
me too now young and easily manipulated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both are abhorred but swinging is seen as seedy and looked down upon.

In my husband's family the men all cheated and it was accepted.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m going to say swinging.

Cheating is something that is more prevalent, therefore more widely seen and probably touches more lives. It’s almost the ‘norm’ that doesn’t shock.

Swinging on the other hand, is still seen as something ‘disgusting’ as well as morally wrong by some corners of society.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I’m going to say swinging.

Cheating is something that is more prevalent, therefore more widely seen and probably touches more lives. It’s almost the ‘norm’ that doesn’t shock.

Swinging on the other hand, is still seen as something ‘disgusting’ as well as morally wrong by some corners of society. "

I don't think swinging is seen as disgusting or morally wrong by most people. You see that from the tone of TV programmes about swinging. You generally get a tone of amused tolerance "look at what those funny people are doing". Compare that to how cheaters are generally dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?"

I don't see them as opposites, they are dissimilar so to me, your question doesn't compute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which is thought of - by the general public - as the worst thing?

Cheating or swinging?

Do you think one is less 'accepted' by society as a whole?

Why?

I don't see them as opposites, they are dissimilar so to me, your question doesn't compute."

Yes you’re right actually. They’re not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating

It's something that touches large amounts of the population

Swinging is seen as a bit of a amusing novelty

There are some that think it's repulsive, but most people are at least intrigued enough to talk about it in OMG way

Cheating on the other hand, backs are generally up straight away

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