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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I still want to get a feel for someone even if it is just for sex,otherwise I'd just buy a blow up doll.

I've just read that back,not my best wording...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I don't feel sick when I'm fucking them and they abhor me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still want to get a feel for someone even if it is just for sex,otherwise I'd just buy a blow up doll.

I've just read that back,not my best wording..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just gonna thumb all the ones i agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need a connection of the minds before the body follows, i can’t just fuck anyone without it.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It's hard to reply to "hi" messages, regardless of who sent it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just gonna thumb all the ones i agree with"
. I thought you wanted to finger me, not thumb me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just gonna thumb all the ones i agree with. I thought you wanted to finger me, not thumb me? "
thumb on clit finger in dual control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m going to have sex with someone I need to feel real excitement to overcome my inertia. How we interact determines whether it will happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's hard to reply to "hi" messages, regardless of who sent it"

Do you get too many to answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just gonna thumb all the ones i agree with. I thought you wanted to finger me, not thumb me? thumb on clit finger in dual control "

Just got a "minge twinge" reading that

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There might not need to be an emotional connection as in hearts and flowers but I still need to like and have a connection on some level with people I'm going to get naked with - and that can only come through getting to know people a little through messages etc first.

If I didn't need any of that I may as well just hire a prostitute.

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Have to have an attraction it's not all about looks though so need to be able to have a conversation plus feeling comfortable with whomever is a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they’re not into boiling bunnies

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"It's hard to reply to "hi" messages, regardless of who sent it

Do you get too many to answer? "

I think the correct answer here is "enough"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just gonna thumb all the ones i agree with. I thought you wanted to finger me, not thumb me? thumb on clit finger in dual control

Just got a "minge twinge" reading that "
twinge away baby

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By *ix-foot-two-stuMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Most women I’ve known want some kind of emotional connection because the sex is better. I think it’s an evolutionary thing.

Applies to men also, I think, but not as necessary.

As far as straight, single men are concerned, women wield all the power in this place, and if they want us to dance a jig to get their interest, that’s what we’ve got to do.

Get dancing, buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have that mental connection with one guy I now class as an FB.

Everybody else I've enjoyed experiences with and that's it!

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'm not bothered once I've cum...

Can be on the floor if it comes to it.

Makes no difference to me.. Don't realy find it nessary to "know you"... I've got my mates for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy"

This ^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy "
altho i dont have a toy just a red right hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want someone to want me for being me, not a cock of convenience.

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By *ust chilled out meMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I think you can just meet and fuck without a connection but there has to be a physical attraction there but saying that I do prefer there to be a connection all involved have a beter time

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I want someone to want me for being me, not a cock of convenience."

You might be better looking on e-harmony or Match. Com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested if all they can say over the breakfast table is "Ere pass the sauce mate"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only have that mental connection with one guy I now class as an FB.

Everybody else I've enjoyed experiences with and that's it! "

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By *ax_uk_2009Man
over a year ago

Wilmslow


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy"

There definitely needs to be some connection. I have had a few social meets with some great fabbers. But no mutual clicks. I not looking for a relationship, far from it, but necessarily a one off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe in my younger single days I would have preferred a faf msg, no messing, no convo after all it will scratch an itch....

Now, with a much fussier mind, a husband and knowing exactly what I want that first msg can be a decider!

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat builds anticipation and confirms you're on the same page. Without that it's empty and I'd rather not bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chat builds anticipation and confirms you're on the same page. Without that it's empty and I'd rather not bother. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

"

I think its different if you are attached already and you're just here looking for a bit on the side..

But most people, me included, need to have some sort of connection ..

Having sex with a stranger isn't what this is about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she looks like Megan Fox I don’t give a fuck about connecting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can just meet and fuck without a connection but there has to be a physical attraction there but saying that I do prefer there to be a connection all involved have a beter time "

Fair comment and I agree totally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want someone to want me for being me, not a cock of convenience."

This, but exchange vagina for cock.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses


"I want someone to want me for being me, not a cock of convenience."

Agreed (except I have no cock)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have talked to men who sent a hi. If something on their profile catches my eye I will say hi back.

If the conversation doesn't flow or I don't feel any lust for them we won't be meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

"

Personally, if one sends a FAF message, it will get deleted.

It’s called self-respect.

I’m here because I don’t want to date in the traditional sense and I’m not looking for a relationship.

That said, I’m not going to shag my way through the site.

I’ve made some great friends on here that I’ve had a laugh with regardless of whether we’ve just had coffee or sex because we chatted, established a good rapport and respect one another.

It’s not hard to be a decent person, honestly.

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By *parkyWheelzWoman
over a year ago

Sebring


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy"

Exactly. I automatically delete random, unsolicited dick pics & ignore messages that are less than 3 words... also, if someone repeatedly sends me the same message, complete with typos... they get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

I think its different if you are attached already and you're just here looking for a bit on the side..

But most people, me included, need to have some sort of connection ..

Having sex with a stranger isn't what this is about "

Totally!!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

"

It doesn't have to be polite and perfect, but we're going to probably spend as much time talking as shagging, so some evidence of communication skills will be required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have talked to men who sent a hi. If something on their profile catches my eye I will say hi back.

If the conversation doesn't flow or I don't feel any lust for them we won't be meeting. "

Exactly... stimulate the brain first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want someone to want me for being me, not a cock of convenience."

You don’t need match or e-harm

Stay here and maintain that standard and self-respect. Good man x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she looks like Megan Fox I don’t give a fuck about connecting x"

I feel that about Tom Hardy

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By *parkyWheelzWoman
over a year ago

Sebring


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy altho i dont have a toy just a red right hand "

You could always get a Fleshlight, then your hand might not be as red..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t get any interest from women if it weren’t for the conversations I have with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure many are really looking for sex from a stranger with no connection though. We all (mostly) like to think we are more than just a fuck. A fuck with a heart at the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not sure many are really looking for sex from a stranger with no connection though. We all (mostly) like to think we are more than just a fuck. A fuck with a heart at the least "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not bothered once I've cum...

Can be on the floor if it comes to it.

Makes no difference to me.. Don't realy find it nessary to "know you"... I've got my mates for that"

Mates buy you drink too, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to know if we have similar humour, being around someone that didn't quite get me would do my pickle in and dry my chuff to coarse grain sandpaper.

There's more than that, I'm pernickity don't ya know.

P

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It would make sex functional and clinical without a connection of sorts and that wouldn’t work for me. There would be a lack of enjoyment to it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If I’m going to have sex with someone I need to feel real excitement to overcome my inertia. How we interact determines whether it will happen. "

Haha good description! Few overcome my inertia enough to even sustain a conversation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I want cold I'll buy a freezer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring particular is what separates us from dogs on the street...some people have not got the ability to control the prehistoric part of their brain...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I’m going to have sex with someone I need to feel real excitement to overcome my inertia. How we interact determines whether it will happen.

Haha good description! Few overcome my inertia enough to even sustain a conversation! "

That too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

"

A good point.

But for us, if you can't be bothered to write a reasonable message it indicates that, probably, you're just lazy and unreliable. When you get many, many messages a day there has to be some way of reducing the volume to react to, for us that's a good one, as well as people that clearly haven't read the profile, whatever they look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

Personally, if one sends a FAF message, it will get deleted.

It’s called self-respect.

I’m here because I don’t want to date in the traditional sense and I’m not looking for a relationship.

That said, I’m not going to shag my way through the site.

I’ve made some great friends on here that I’ve had a laugh with regardless of whether we’ve just had coffee or sex because we chatted, established a good rapport and respect one another.

It’s not hard to be a decent person, honestly.

"

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Without any form of mental connection, sex is purely a physical act, a release.

I can get that with anyone of a dozen items in my toy box.

I can easily give myself the most intense orgasm, but then that's it. Job done.

I'm dressed & back to doing whatever is was doing 30mins earlier.

I want to feel skin against skin, someone's breath on my neck, my entire body stimulated, kisses that leave me breathless, my mind taken to another place.

And that would never happen unless my brain connected with that person.

Want to get in my bed, get in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without any form of mental connection, sex is purely a physical act, a release.

I can get that with anyone of a dozen items in my toy box.

I can easily give myself the most intense orgasm, but then that's it. Job done.

I'm dressed & back to doing whatever is was doing 30mins earlier.

I want to feel skin against skin, someone's breath on my neck, my entire body stimulated, kisses that leave me breathless, my mind taken to another place.

And that would never happen unless my brain connected with that person.

Want to get in my bed, get in my head."

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

As a married couple we need to know that any additional party to our sex life is on the same page as us both. They need to fit, clean and literate. There has to a sexual attraction and chemistry. We feel it is a privilege to be invited into the sex life of another couple. It would stand a few people on here in good stead if they thought the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t need an emotional connection but just knowing we’re on the same wavelength with humour and can carry a conversation helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a married couple we need to know that any additional party to our sex life is on the same page as us both. They need to fit, clean and literate. There has to a sexual attraction and chemistry. We feel it is a privilege to be invited into the sex life of another couple. It would stand a few people on here in good stead if they thought the same."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without any form of mental connection, sex is purely a physical act, a release.

I can get that with anyone of a dozen items in my toy box.

I can easily give myself the most intense orgasm, but then that's it. Job done.

I'm dressed & back to doing whatever is was doing 30mins earlier.

I want to feel skin against skin, someone's breath on my neck, my entire body stimulated, kisses that leave me breathless, my mind taken to another place.

And that would never happen unless my brain connected with that person.

Want to get in my bed, get in my head."

It's a terrifying but thrilling crazy place to get into....and I'm not just talking about your bed

Peach x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Without any form of mental connection, sex is purely a physical act, a release.

I can get that with anyone of a dozen items in my toy box.

I can easily give myself the most intense orgasm, but then that's it. Job done.

I'm dressed & back to doing whatever is was doing 30mins earlier.

I want to feel skin against skin, someone's breath on my neck, my entire body stimulated, kisses that leave me breathless, my mind taken to another place.

And that would never happen unless my brain connected with that person.

Want to get in my bed, get in my head."

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Ah that's the thing I need some "connection" to fuck someone. If not I would rather use my toy"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things have changed a little for me recently.

I don't need as much as I did, I certainly don't need as much of a mental connection.

I do need the same level of respect though, yet in a different way. I need anyone that comes into our relationship to respect it. Whether that's someone that meets us together or whether it's someone that was to meet either of us alone.

I remember a thread a few months ago, and it was mentioned by another forumite that their priority, even when meeting part of a couple, was the couple. They would communicate with the partner that wasn't there, and let them know they were appreciated and respected.

I've personally sent flowers to the female half of the couple with a thank you card when I've met the fella alone.

I want to enhance not hinder.

P

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Things have changed a little for me recently.

I don't need as much as I did, I certainly don't need as much of a mental connection.

I do need the same level of respect though, yet in a different way. I need anyone that comes into our relationship to respect it. Whether that's someone that meets us together or whether it's someone that was to meet either of us alone.

I remember a thread a few months ago, and it was mentioned by another forumite that their priority, even when meeting part of a couple, was the couple. They would communicate with the partner that wasn't there, and let them know they were appreciated and respected.

I've personally sent flowers to the female half of the couple with a thank you card when I've met the fella alone.

I want to enhance not hinder.

P"

That’s because you have the right attitude to the lifestyle and always have had from what I know of you. Some people make out they have and even go as far as to berate others for not being ‘proper’ swingers but then go loopy nuts when the tables are reversed on them. I’ve noticed this place is full of hypocrites though.

Personally I’m not a swinger but I still prefer a connection with the people I sleep with, a bond, a friendship. Fab seems to be working out OK for me in that respect and having proper swingers for friends has helped me in my fab journey a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things have changed a little for me recently.

I don't need as much as I did, I certainly don't need as much of a mental connection.

I do need the same level of respect though, yet in a different way. I need anyone that comes into our relationship to respect it. Whether that's someone that meets us together or whether it's someone that was to meet either of us alone.

I remember a thread a few months ago, and it was mentioned by another forumite that their priority, even when meeting part of a couple, was the couple. They would communicate with the partner that wasn't there, and let them know they were appreciated and respected.

I've personally sent flowers to the female half of the couple with a thank you card when I've met the fella alone.

I want to enhance not hinder.

P

That’s because you have the right attitude to the lifestyle and always have had from what I know of you. Some people make out they have and even go as far as to berate others for not being ‘proper’ swingers but then go loopy nuts when the tables are reversed on them. I’ve noticed this place is full of hypocrites though.

Personally I’m not a swinger but I still prefer a connection with the people I sleep with, a bond, a friendship. Fab seems to be working out OK for me in that respect and having proper swingers for friends has helped me in my fab journey a lot "

Thank you, that's lovely to hear.

I do still need a connection of sorts, but not the mental one as such. I need know we're mentally on the same page, and wanting the same thing from the meet, but I don't need to feel the sense of "oneness"

I'm not settled enough just yet to meet others alone, but would still meet existing friends whom I trust completely.

I think that's why even when I was meeting with couples or one half of the couple, I needed to know all were very comfortable and happy, and I was part of "the team" rather than an opponent. Simply couldn't and wouldn't put myself or them in that postiton. I think that's selfish and disrespectful.

P

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the difference between hook-up site and swingers site. I think the OP might be having problems seeing that difference

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

A good point.

But for us, if you can't be bothered to write a reasonable message it indicates that, probably, you're just lazy and unreliable. When you get many, many messages a day there has to be some way of reducing the volume to react to, for us that's a good one, as well as people that clearly haven't read the profile, whatever they look like."

So you use the opening message as a filter rather than a way to see if your going to get in with them or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

A good point.

But for us, if you can't be bothered to write a reasonable message it indicates that, probably, you're just lazy and unreliable. When you get many, many messages a day there has to be some way of reducing the volume to react to, for us that's a good one, as well as people that clearly haven't read the profile, whatever they look like.

So you use the opening message as a filter rather than a way to see if your going to get in with them or not? "

Both, but primarily as a filter. But it does give a good view on what type of person you'll be getting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chat builds anticipation and confirms you're on the same page. Without that it's empty and I'd rather not bother. "

This.

It isn't 'hearts and flowers', but there has to be some mindful connection as well, or its a pretty empty experience.

I prefer getting to know someone on a friendship-level, as its a much more complete and happy time together...and knowing that there'll be further connection, fun, friendship, laughter, warmth and a whole host of other aspects of normality makes it a lovely experience for both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things have changed a little for me recently.

I don't need as much as I did, I certainly don't need as much of a mental connection.

I do need the same level of respect though, yet in a different way. I need anyone that comes into our relationship to respect it. Whether that's someone that meets us together or whether it's someone that was to meet either of us alone.

I remember a thread a few months ago, and it was mentioned by another forumite that their priority, even when meeting part of a couple, was the couple. They would communicate with the partner that wasn't there, and let them know they were appreciated and respected.

I've personally sent flowers to the female half of the couple with a thank you card when I've met the fella alone.

I want to enhance not hinder.

P

That’s because you have the right attitude to the lifestyle and always have had from what I know of you. Some people make out they have and even go as far as to berate others for not being ‘proper’ swingers but then go loopy nuts when the tables are reversed on them. I’ve noticed this place is full of hypocrites though.

Personally I’m not a swinger but I still prefer a connection with the people I sleep with, a bond, a friendship. Fab seems to be working out OK for me in that respect and having proper swingers for friends has helped me in my fab journey a lot

Thank you, that's lovely to hear.

I do still need a connection of sorts, but not the mental one as such. I need know we're mentally on the same page, and wanting the same thing from the meet, but I don't need to feel the sense of "oneness"

I'm not settled enough just yet to meet others alone, but would still meet existing friends whom I trust completely.

I think that's why even when I was meeting with couples or one half of the couple, I needed to know all were very comfortable and happy, and I was part of "the team" rather than an opponent. Simply couldn't and wouldn't put myself or them in that postiton. I think that's selfish and disrespectful.

P"

I've thought about it some more and I can't really explain it. I suppose I DO actually need to feel the sense on "oneness" but it's from somewhere different.

That sense of oneness now, comes from mutual respect, trust and understanding from ALL involved.

P

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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This reads (with respect to both!) like a SteelHeels post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This reads (with respect to both!) like a SteelHeels post. "

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This reads (with respect to both!) like a SteelHeels post. "

Having met the OP I'm taking that as a compliment.

He might not though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

"

I like to get the chat out of the way before the meet. Darkened room, fuck in silence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi"

Hi......so where are you from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi

Hi......so where are you from? "

faf?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi

Hi......so where are you from?

faf? "

Send me your details and history of employment,....I’ll have my secretary look at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to know if we have similar humour, being around someone that didn't quite get me would do my pickle in and dry my chuff to coarse grain sandpaper.

P"

Totally agree with this.

I also need to know we are on a similar wave length sexually, fpr example the thought of a total stranger tying me up is a no go as there needs to be trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aside being pleased by the look of that person, I am looking for some few specifics things personality wise.

- I pay attention to how they treat ppl.

- The words used in their profile and verifications make me want to pursue or not.

- I try to know what car their drive too

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By *logger and Rainbow-AliceCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

I need to know if they are married, if so i know the conversion wont happen in the Evenings and definitely not on the weekends. Plus if they can accommodate. Car meets are horrible. Its not just about a quick fuck, its getting to know those I like and connecting. Finding out if they are suitable playpartners. Its those who dont like the questions have something to possibly hide. Mrs x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

For me personally a large amount of sexual excitement comes from flirtation, sexual tension and the sensuality that flows. Someone who can stimulate my mind and get the juices flowing in anticipation of meeting is what I want, it usually indicates a long intensive session.

FAF and I often think they’re gonna cum before they get their trousers down.

Lex

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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago

where ever


"Why do you need a well thought out personalised PM that’s polite when most just want sex from strangers with no emotional connection?

What’s the difference if you got ‘faf’ Or ‘fancy some?’ With a picture of someone who looks nice. Your not trying to date them are you, takr them home to meet your parents.

Personally, if one sends a FAF message, it will get deleted.

It’s called self-respect.

I’m here because I don’t want to date in the traditional sense and I’m not looking for a relationship.

That said, I’m not going to shag my way through the site.

I’ve made some great friends on here that I’ve had a laugh with regardless of whether we’ve just had coffee or sex because we chatted, established a good rapport and respect one another.

It’s not hard to be a decent person, honestly.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a decent guy hasn't always worked in my favour but I'm not changing a lifetime habit of being respectful,considerate and a little bit naughty

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Being a decent guy hasn't always worked in my favour but I'm not changing a lifetime habit of being respectful,considerate and a little bit naughty "

Sounds like the right kind of mix

C

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