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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong "

The clue’s in the name...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Of course it is cheating if she doesn't agree to it or know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your home life is of no concern to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner "

It’s still cheating regardless of the circumstances

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

If you partner doesn't know then obviously it's cheating. The reason doesn't matter or whether it can be justified it's still cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you partner doesn't know then obviously it's cheating. The reason doesn't matter or whether it can be justified it's still cheating."

Totally agree. Cheating is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner

It’s still cheating regardless of the circumstances "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask your wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask your wife "

boom! drops mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is always wrong other wise it wouldn’t be done in secret. If living in a love less relationship may be best to think about a break up.

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By *orthcoupleXXXCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I doubt anyone will say cheating is right

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner "

Taking that statement completely at face value. In my opinion they're both cheating on the basic terms of their relationship unless different criteria were agreed on. He's cheating on an agreement that it would be monogomous she's cheating on an agreement that it would be sexual. However there will always be more sympathy for the woman than the man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything involving secrets lies and deceit is not a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah good, today’s cheating thread.

Tune in again tomorrow for another as Groundhog Day returns!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Anything you have to hide from your partner is wrong ie chatting on here,having a profile etc,male or female.

But you know that already i'm guessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If questions like this need to be asked in a public forum then the future looks rosy for us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah good, today’s cheating thread.

Tune in again tomorrow for another as Groundhog Day returns! "

I shall anxiously await your new thread

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

WRONG.......

next !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.

If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.

If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.

Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.

And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?

Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well..its not exactly right is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another day on Fab.

Another thread that makes me happy I'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Niether it just is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another day on Fab.

Another thread that makes me happy I'm single

"

Or are you........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another day on Fab.

Another thread that makes me happy I'm single

Or are you........ "

Haha no one would put up with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong "

Secrets are wrong end of

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Cheating is cheating no ifs or buts

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By *aveyIOM1970Man
over a year ago

douglas

No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another day on Fab.

Another thread that makes me happy I'm single

Or are you........

Haha no one would put up with me "

Or your violin, you sound rubbish...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

If you have to hide it from your partner something is wrong. It does cause serious distress too. I know many couples that one can't have sex anymore that have made arrangements so that the others sexual needs can be met. Then it isn't cheating.. but if no medical reasons then therapy should be first port of call.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x"

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner

It’s still cheating regardless of the circumstances "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feels right at the time but inevitably wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.

If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.

If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.

Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.

And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?

Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.

"

Nicely put ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"

I'm going to say no it's not but it's a totally different ballgame to two fit people where one cheats and keeps the other in the dark about it to avoid realities.

There are circumstances that if applied i'd say her actions are questionable.

All a matter of personal line drawing I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"

I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

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By *rownboy30Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Best person to define the term cheating is a solicitor, I think you may need to make appointment with one, not just for the definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best person to define the term cheating is a solicitor, I think you may need to make appointment with one, not just for the definition."

That’s the problem isn’t it. Each relationship will have boundaries some are a fine line and some will be more flexible. Flirting could be cheating and snogging might not be etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s cheating. As some one else has mentioned, ask your wife what she thinks...who knows, maybe she’s as pissed off she’s not getting any at home either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, but what a fuckin stupid question!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

I'm going to say no it's not but it's a totally different ballgame to two fit people where one cheats and keeps the other in the dark about it to avoid realities.

There are circumstances that if applied i'd say her actions are questionable.

All a matter of personal line drawing I guess. "

I think as with almost everything it's up to the individual. I'm not god, I'm in no position to make decisions on someone elses personal situation.

Obviously I'm not keen on people doing things that are going to deeply hurt someone but life isn't straightforward.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest "

Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine."

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level."

That's so sad and awful for them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

That's so sad and awful for them "

Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.

Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are on here without the knowledge of your partner then its cheating..

Even if you say you are just here to chat and flirt, the intention is to meet eventually so its still cheating

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By *aturedisgracefully!!Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

That's so sad and awful for them "

We agree, that is sad.

A situation that no-one would want to be in and they have our deepest sympathies.

However for 99% of the cheaters on here it isn't like that is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

That's so sad and awful for them

Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.

Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say."

I'm sorry but inappropriately that made me laugh ... I wouldn't be able to manage a couple of steps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it good sex or just so so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

That's so sad and awful for them

We agree, that is sad.

A situation that no-one would want to be in and they have our deepest sympathies.

However for 99% of the cheaters on here it isn't like that is it?"

The point I'm trying to make is that we have absolutely no idea what's going on in other people's relationship other than what they tell us or we observe from the outside. Who am I to say cheating is wrong? Hurting someone is of course.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Tricky one,but I suppose if hubby doesn't know it doesn't make it right. Very complicated and hard situation to be in for them both I would imagine.

He isn't capable of knowing at any meaningful level.

That's so sad and awful for them

Yet on the face of it some people would tell her she's wrong.

Walk a mile in someone elses thigh high stilleto boots before you pronounce your judgement I say.

I'm sorry but inappropriately that made me laugh ... I wouldn't be able to manage a couple of steps! "

. It was intended to lighten the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.

If you think it’s right, trust me your wrong.

If your thinking of cheating for the first time, sit down with the person you committed your life to and talk to them before you make the biggest mistake you could make.

Because if you go through with it, they will find out. And if you truly love each other and it hasn’t fallen to pieces and your relationship is never to be rescued. You will have a very hard time dealing with having them trust you ever again. Not to mention how you will have them believing they are the most important part of your life.

And if your thinking, well if it ends it ends, then why are you still together anyway?

Don’t cheat, unless your a dick.

Nicely put ... "

Experience. Sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best person to define the term cheating is a solicitor, I think you may need to make appointment with one, not just for the definition.

That’s the problem isn’t it. Each relationship will have boundaries some are a fine line and some will be more flexible. Flirting could be cheating and snogging might not be etc.

"

Can be just having a secret friend who they discuss their sex life with. No touching at all. Emotional cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it good sex or just so so. "

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If you're permanently hiding something it's wrong.

I don't judge people - they have their reasons but I don't want to be part of it. For moral reasons and for selfish ones - I dislike drama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest

Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand"

I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong "

Cheating is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong

Cheating is wrong"

Unless you playing Monopoly, then some family members think it’s fair game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest

Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand

I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7. "

If her partner isn't able to understand then is she really cheating?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

I have a really good friend in the same situation but they talked about it so it was not cheating ... she never wanted to cheat on him because they loved each other and had always been honest

Due to one of his health issues discussion isn't possible, he simply wouldn't be able to understand

I know of others in a similar situation. Surely by having someone to meet it’s helping the carer’s mental health and need for human contact. It’s hard nursing a partner 24/7.

If her partner isn't able to understand then is she really cheating? "

As I said before who am I to decide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner

Taking that statement completely at face value. In my opinion they're both cheating on the basic terms of their relationship unless different criteria were agreed on. He's cheating on an agreement that it would be monogomous she's cheating on an agreement that it would be sexual. However there will always be more sympathy for the person cheated on"

FTFY

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Wrong if you get found out, but so right when it’s naughtyand exciting

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Anyone whodoesn't tell their partner they are going off to have 'just sex' beforehand obviously thinks it is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if someone thought it was right, they wouldn't feel the need to hide it from their significant other.

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By *aveyIOM1970Man
over a year ago

douglas


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"

Hi

Sorry to hear about your friend and her husband.

However when you are taking your vows, unless changed since 2006, it says in sickness and health but does not say that you can meet friends whilst ill. Simplistic way of putting it but you get what I mean.

I was in a loveless and sexless marriage (due to medical stresses put upon my ex wife and I. I could have made arrangements to visit friends whilst she was having her chemotherapeay) I opted to leave, meaning not seeing my daughter every day, because I knew I would sleep with other ladies and did not want to cheat.

That’s just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who thinks cheating when it just sex is wrong "

Me.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?"

Does the husband know abiyt the male friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter how you dress it up,cheating is wrong x

In every circumstance?

We know a woman who's a full time carer for her husband who has various health issues that mean he's unable to do anything for himself. He goes to day care a couple of mornings a week during which time her male friend visits. Is that wrong?

Hi

Sorry to hear about your friend and her husband.

However when you are taking your vows, unless changed since 2006, it says in sickness and health but does not say that you can meet friends whilst ill. Simplistic way of putting it but you get what I mean.

I was in a loveless and sexless marriage (due to medical stresses put upon my ex wife and I. I could have made arrangements to visit friends whilst she was having her chemotherapeay) I opted to leave, meaning not seeing my daughter every day, because I knew I would sleep with other ladies and did not want to cheat.

That’s just me. "

I think I would have rather you had quietly cheated on me than left because I was ill and no good anymore painful situation either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about if the man can't get sex at home but doesn't want to leave partner "
time for a new home

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