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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do people ask why? I've never had to explain why I didn't wanna meet someone.

Is it a common thing that happens?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I don’t bother explaining why anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just reply

Because I don't want to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whenever I get asked why I'm so curious to know why they think.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Everyone is deferent sorry your not my type is what I put

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

It like you don't have a freedom of choice .. how dare you turn them down!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I've tried that I get more questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. I don’t bother explaining why anymore. "

Harsh but practical, else you would be spending more time explaining than having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think

1. These people need to feel validated

2. They want to try and change your mind

I always prefer getting a no thanks than a total ignore, to me it's just polite (but I understand why it's not common and am fine with it). I'll never question somebody why though

1. I'll probably not like the reason why haha

2. That's their business and preference, not my place to question why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think I spend my time explaining just interesting to know it's a common thing not just because I'm not bussing open like oreos

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Most of the time we simply delete the message and allow that to do the talking for us.

The rest of the time we say no its because the person clearly hasn't read our profile in the first place, and we tell them so when we decline the offer to meet.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

I always say why in my response. There is always a reason and, generally, it doesn't take long to amplify.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Not my type. It's as simple as that. And if they continue delete and block

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By *esideriumMan
over a year ago

London

I think some people can’t believe they could possibly be rejected while others can’t take no for an answer.Or as others have said don’t understand the OP’s requirements. No one has a duty to meet anyone if they don’t want to !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. I don’t bother explaining why anymore.

Harsh but practical, else you would be spending more time explaining than having fun."

How is it harsh? I can say no without a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whenever I get asked why I'm so curious to know why they think."

Brilliant idea! Instead of explaining, we should ask them why *they* think we turned them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It like you don't have a freedom of choice .. how dare you turn them down!!"

It's a swinging site. Swingers are legally bound to fuck everyone who asks. Or else they get kicked out of the Swingers Guild and have to spend an eternity wanking alone in a dark room.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Whenever I get asked why I'm so curious to know why they think."

But you said in your op that you'd never had to explain why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some blokes get so little attention, that they want to keep the conversation going for as long as possible, string it out, you throw them a bone they will run with it. Everyone knows the reason why someone’s not interested and if you don’t you respect that decision anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely its because some people are fragile/ low on confidence so need to see what they could have done differently or could change about themselves, or even persuade you otherwise?

I do wonder if some people are ready/ prepared for this kind of site sometimes, can be quite damaging I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get "Oh, how come?" when I say "No, sorry, I'm not interested."

I used to reply to that before and got nasty responses.

I don't answer that anymore.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Some blokes get so little attention, that they want to keep the conversation going for as long as possible, string it out, you throw them a bone they will run with it. Everyone knows the reason why someone’s not interested and if you don’t you respect that decision anyway. "

I’ve definitely experienced that. They just keep on and on about why and begging for a chance and trying to change my mind but put lol at the end in an effort to make it sound less desperate. I’ve stopped replying now.

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