FabSwingers.com forum: Judgemental

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?"

Yeah they're a bunch of wankers them people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?"

Because its an open forum and thats what they want to discuss?

Dont judge them for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Spelling mistakes removed by poster before he could be judged at 02/01/19 20:07:32]"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?"

cause the kiss fuck bollocks threads have become very boring and predictable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always has been judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Spelling mistakes removed by poster before he could be judged at 02/01/19 20:07:32]

Did poster remove post just to make joke?

Either way I snorted and got strange looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos its like Groundhog day!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It’s always had its judgey phases. I wouldn’t worry about it.

You could always start a light hearted thread to distract if it means so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont care thats how i get by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are. I just drafted posts for 3 controversial threads and thought fuck it, this can only be sensibly discussed around drinks in a pub......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Spelling mistakes removed by poster before he could be judged at 02/01/19 20:07:32]

Did poster remove post just to make joke?

Either way I snorted and got strange looks"

Perusal of the forum has resulted in many of those kinda looks for me... Facebook used to get the blame all the time (and I must admit that I actually did make a spelling blunder there and just made the most of it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What regulars?

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"I dont care thats how i get by"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unfortunate that we aren't allowed to tell them what we don't like about their profiles, isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's unfortunate that we aren't allowed to tell them what we don't like about their profiles, isn't it.

'Cos then we could exact our revenge.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Some people on here are super judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people on here are super judgemental."

There are everywhere. Just the nature of some people really.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"It's unfortunate that we aren't allowed to tell them what we don't like about their profiles, isn't it.

'Cos then we could exact our revenge. "
Gimme all you got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?"

Do you mean like my timewaster thread?

I didn't say I didn't like it though.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just find it interesting why people do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's unfortunate that we aren't allowed to tell them what we don't like about their profiles, isn't it.

'Cos then we could exact our revenge. Gimme all you got"

Wavey mirror??

*shakes head judgementally*

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"It's unfortunate that we aren't allowed to tell them what we don't like about their profiles, isn't it.

'Cos then we could exact our revenge. Gimme all you got

Wavey mirror??

*shakes head judgementally*"
You got me there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are mega judgemental. I’ve met a guy lately that has a huge percentage of people say no because he’s not the average tall dark and handsome. Height doesn’t bother me. Their loss he was epic in bed. I am picky but not judgemental. Huge difference. No ones perfect. It’s about personality and mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are mega judgemental. I’ve met a guy lately that has a huge percentage of people say no because he’s not the average tall dark and handsome. Height doesn’t bother me. Their loss he was epic in bed. I am picky but not judgemental. Huge difference. No ones perfect. It’s about personality and mutual attraction. "

Its not really their loss if he is not what they are looking for is it?

Having a preference isnt being judgemental

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?

Do you mean like my timewaster thread?

I didn't say I didn't like it though.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just find it interesting why people do things. "

Definitely not. I think you’re likely to be one of the least judgemental on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not really their loss if he is not what they are looking for is it?

Having a preference isnt being judgemental"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep getting quite judgey PM off bi or straight (fabstraight) men. Dunno why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not really their loss if he is not what they are looking for is it?

Having a preference isnt being judgemental"

I feel it’s their loss as he would be discounted based on his height straight away when he’s actually lovely. Some people just want it all. That’s what I mean.

Plus he’s an amazing person too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless em eh? So quick to point out the error of our ways. I don't know how I'd get by on fab without the waggling forum finger telling me what to have on my profile and how to behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not really their loss if he is not what they are looking for is it?

Having a preference isnt being judgemental"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ilm judging people just as much as always have. And despite the inevitable protestations so is every other poster here. Every judges, both positively and negatively, it's human nature and it beats me why it surprises people or people are so bothered about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?

Do you mean like my timewaster thread?

I didn't say I didn't like it though.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just find it interesting why people do things.

Definitely not. I think you’re likely to be one of the least judgemental on here. "

Really? Thank you.

I usually phrase things in a judgey/ feisty way to get more interesting responses. I like having my opinion challenged and I can't do that if I ask a question in a 'middle of the road' way.

If I chuck an 'extreme' comment in, I'll get more extreme replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ilm judging people just as much as always have. And despite the inevitable protestations so is every other poster here. Every judges, both positively and negatively, it's human nature and it beats me why it surprises people or people are so bothered about it"

I don't understand this either. Could be my incorrect perception of the word though. I don't think judging is a bad thing.

Even if someone is judgemental it doesn't really matter to me. They're entitled to their opinion.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?

Do you mean like my timewaster thread?

I didn't say I didn't like it though.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just find it interesting why people do things.

Definitely not. I think you’re likely to be one of the least judgemental on here.

Really? Thank you.

I usually phrase things in a judgey/ feisty way to get more interesting responses. I like having my opinion challenged and I can't do that if I ask a question in a 'middle of the road' way.

If I chuck an 'extreme' comment in, I'll get more extreme replies.

Ah so that's how you do it!

*takes notes, adds hand grenades to shopping list*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand this either. Could be my incorrect perception of the word though. I don't think judging is a bad thing.

Even if someone is judgemental it doesn't really matter to me. They're entitled to their opinion. "

Judgemental people are negative without reason. It is possible to judge without being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not really their loss if he is not what they are looking for is it?

Having a preference isnt being judgemental

I feel it’s their loss as he would be discounted based on his height straight away when he’s actually lovely. Some people just want it all. That’s what I mean.

Plus he’s an amazing person too. "

I am sure he is.

But they are looking for something else.

And loss or not I still dont understand it as an example of being judgemental.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

It is no worse than normal. Your just starting to get annoyed by it so you are noticing it a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?

Do you mean like my timewaster thread?

I didn't say I didn't like it though.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just find it interesting why people do things.

Definitely not. I think you’re likely to be one of the least judgemental on here.

Really? Thank you.

I usually phrase things in a judgey/ feisty way to get more interesting responses. I like having my opinion challenged and I can't do that if I ask a question in a 'middle of the road' way.

If I chuck an 'extreme' comment in, I'll get more extreme replies.

Ah so that's how you do it!

*takes notes, adds hand grenades to shopping list*"

You're a nice guy, get lots.

I'm a knob (ask anyone who's met me!) so no shopping for me.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I don't understand this either. Could be my incorrect perception of the word though. I don't think judging is a bad thing.

Even if someone is judgemental it doesn't really matter to me. They're entitled to their opinion.

Judgemental people are negative without reason. It is possible to judge without being judgemental.

But 'evaluating people based on their viewpoints, attitudes, preferences and choice of words' doesn't quite have the same ring to it as 'judging people'.

Even if they're both the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand this either. Could be my incorrect perception of the word though. I don't think judging is a bad thing.

Even if someone is judgemental it doesn't really matter to me. They're entitled to their opinion.

Judgemental people are negative without reason. It is possible to judge without being judgemental.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the forums becoming more judgemental?

There seems to be a set of regulars frequently starting threads saying what they don’t like on profiles. Why?"

I think most if not all people are judgemenatal in general about something. It's not a new thing for the forums. We all judge in some way, some are just more vocal about it. I believe we are more open minded, but not so openminded that we accept everything as par of the course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People judge. It's ways been that way.

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