FabSwingers.com forum: Am I right to say no to....

By *andyMinx_tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

requests from people to meet who don't state on their profile that they are looking for a TV/TS? I do receive quite a few such offers (I got another this evening which prompted this post) but always reply by saying "thanks, but no thanks" stating my reasons. Am I interpreting people's profiles too literally? Or should those who are looking to meet a TV/TS clearly express this as a profile preference to be considered as a prospective meet?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

You're a dirty little secret to them. I think you're right to reject them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can say no to whoever you like. In this instance, if I were you, I’d say no as well.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"requests from people to meet who don't state on their profile that they are looking for a TV/TS? I do receive quite a few such offers (I got another this evening which prompted this post) but always reply by saying "thanks, but no thanks" stating my reasons. Am I interpreting people's profiles too literally? Or should those who are looking to meet a TV/TS clearly express this as a profile preference to be considered as a prospective meet?"

No, I think you're right to do that. In the same way I won't meet a guy messaging me with straight on his profile, if you're bi, then state it. I'm not going to be a dirty secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always delete if there not honest on there profile what else are they hiding

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By *andyMinx_tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for the feedback guys, much appreciated especially as this is my first ever post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree. If someone is embarrassed to meet me then they're not gonna get to.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think you should give them a chance, after all lots of people have not looking for single men on their profile and a raft of verifications from single men. Maybe they just want to message the individual profiles that interest them. I think you'd be able to gauge in the getting to know them process if they'd consider you a dirty secret or not.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You have every right to say no, but people do experiment and when they originally set up their Profile it may not have interested them, but due to experience or a change of heart they may decide to try something different.

Chat maybe and find out why they’re messaging you first maybe

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

You can say no to whoever you choose but as others have said, it might not be to keep the you/activity secret. They might be curious, they might be a dick. Never know unless you respond. I'd judge on the message and the profile blurb and pics, not the profile preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have every right to say no, but people do experiment and when they originally set up their Profile it may not have interested them, but due to experience or a change of heart they may decide to try something different.

Chat maybe and find out why they’re messaging you first maybe

Also as others have said, they may prefer to do the searching. Just because it doesn't say they're looking for tv's doesn't mean they're not.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I also get this quite a bit. If I like the look I'll reply. The conversation tends to die though.

But I have met a couple of these guys and had some good times, so I believe they weren't being quite honest.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I wouldnt see what the big deal was. To me its just like someone not having their face on their profile, i dont lose sleep worrying about what they are hiding.

Its worse when they have something like "no married, singles only", and their veris are a bunch of married men etc.

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By *andyMinx_tv OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

good advice peeps, thanks. Especially to those who are suggesting not to instantly dismiss, you are making me think

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