FabSwingers.com forum: New idea (Safe Buddy)

By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad"

It's a good idea. Had this exact conversation a few days ago when I had a meet at my house.

She pointed out that some of the chap apps have location settings so people in her group new exactly where to find her.

I've also left a sealed envelope with all my contact details when I've taken someone away for the weekend. If she's not home, open this. If she is, give it back unopened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think anything that helps someone feel safer and/or helps safety in general is a good thing

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Just one huge fooking glitch.

You might know where I am. You might sort of know who with.

You might know sort of what time to expect me back.

But once im dead it doesn't really matter.

Needs tightening up this plan does.....

But 100 out of 100 for getting ideas off the ground..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Just one huge fooking glitch.

You might know where I am. You might sort of know who with.

You might know sort of what time to expect me back.

But once im dead it doesn't really matter.

Needs tightening up this plan does.....

But 100 out of 100 for getting ideas off the ground..x"

It's more about catching the perpetrator.

It'd be easy to catch me, just check my receipts for paving slabs from Jewsons......

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad"

Great but not a new idea I'm afraid. I've been doing this since I began on here.

I told my best friend to begin with but she worried the whole time so I swapped to someone on here

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's an idea,it doesn't really stop anything bad happening though does it.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

"Just one huge fooking glitch.

You might know where I am. You might sort of know who with.

You might know sort of what time to expect me back.

But once im dead it doesn't really matter.

Needs tightening up this plan does.....

But 100 out of 100 for getting ideas off the ground..x"

At least someone would know to feed your cats so that the same fate doesn't befall them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My guess would be that a lot of people already do this.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. .."

I may also text during the event

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had one of these since I started fab. And had to call upon them a couple of times when I’ve got in a tight spot with someone who was rather pushy. He is a local friend who I pass details on to about my meets. But I always inform my meet about my safe buddy and if they are not ok with it then I won’t meet them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

I may also text during the event

Yeah, there's also "it's all going fine" or "I don't like the feeling of this" or similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

I may also text during the event

Yeah, there's also "it's all going fine" or "I don't like the feeling of this" or similar. "

Well that's just live coverage..

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I’ve had one of these since I started fab. And had to call upon them a couple of times when I’ve got in a tight spot with someone who was rather pushy. He is a local friend who I pass details on to about my meets. But I always inform my meet about my safe buddy and if they are not ok with it then I won’t meet them"

If someone's not prepared for you to have a safe buddy that's probably all the clues you need.

I've suggested it to meets before. Why the heck wouldn't you want your meet to feel at least a little bit more comfortable?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

I may also text during the event

Yeah, there's also "it's all going fine" or "I don't like the feeling of this" or similar. "

To be really paranoid, have two similar phrases. "All going fine" and "all going great".

With the second being an alarm signal...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I guess I could text every five minutes and gasp that I was okay even if it was in a wobbly voice.....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Just one huge fooking glitch.

You might know where I am. You might sort of know who with.

You might know sort of what time to expect me back.

But once im dead it doesn't really matter.

Needs tightening up this plan does.....

But 100 out of 100 for getting ideas off the ground..x

At least someone would know to feed your cats so that the same fate doesn't befall them

He going to starve me to death ?? Jesus.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

"Just one huge fooking glitch.

You might know where I am. You might sort of know who with.

You might know sort of what time to expect me back.

But once im dead it doesn't really matter.

Needs tightening up this plan does.....

But 100 out of 100 for getting ideas off the ground..x

At least someone would know to feed your cats so that the same fate doesn't befall them

He going to starve me to death ?? Jesus."

Better to be safe than starve to death.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I used to do this with a guy friend when I was a single girl on here. Doesn’t take much effort and it’s nice to have the extra feeling of safety.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I always ask for their car reg and phone/text friend when I arrive and normally in front of my meet x

Never had any issues

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"My guess would be that a lot of people already do this. "

Yeah, many do. Name and details of where their going and with who. It makes sense.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad"

Over thinking it...

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By *exysingle11Woman
over a year ago

Near Louth

I do this with my best friends. They dont swing but we all internet date so if we arrange to meet anyone we share all the details we know, times and locations we expect to be. We also set our snapchat locations to be visible to each other and open the app everytime we move anywhere different to update the location. We're not gonna physically protect each other but at least if something goes drastically wrong they know where to start searching and that makes us feel just a little bit safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did consider doing it when I first started but didnt really have anyone to pick.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m sorry but my bitches always know if I’m on Fab business. They don’t like it if I don’t pre warn them. They don’t like if I don’t check in and reassure them I’m alive.

They even join me on socials if you’re really unlucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a good idea, I have a few t-girl friends who tell me where they are going etc just so I know they are safe and I’ve done that in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it with my friend who’s also on here. We also have each other on find a friend on the phones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

I may also text during the event

Yeah, there's also "it's all going fine" or "I don't like the feeling of this" or similar.

To be really paranoid, have two similar phrases. "All going fine" and "all going great".

With the second being an alarm signal..."

Someone on here suggested this many moons ago. But they pick a safe phrase that the psycho would never guess. Something like "he stinks of piss and I'm yawning here! ".

A psycho could steal the person's phone and reply saying "everything's great", but with a hammer in the other hand...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

A friend and I did a thread on here a few years ago, setting up a buddy system all over the country for those who didn't have a friend on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad

It's a good idea. Had this exact conversation a few days ago when I had a meet at my house.

She pointed out that some of the chap apps have location settings so people in her group new exactly where to find her.

I've also left a sealed envelope with all my contact details when I've taken someone away for the weekend. If she's not home, open this. If she is, give it back unopened.

How would they know you had actually written your proper details though? I assume if you plan to lock up and torture someone you'd give fake ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always ask for their car reg and phone/text friend when I arrive and normally in front of my meet x

Never had any issues

this

I have a mother-hen

If I’m dead, at least they know to look for the body immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend and I did a thread on here a few years ago, setting up a buddy system all over the country for those who didn't have a friend on here

That was a great idea.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I always let someone know when and where I'm going on a social or meet, a close friend on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I already do this. My friends usually know where I am going unless I have been seeing someone a while

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad

It's a good idea. Had this exact conversation a few days ago when I had a meet at my house.

She pointed out that some of the chap apps have location settings so people in her group new exactly where to find her.

I've also left a sealed envelope with all my contact details when I've taken someone away for the weekend. If she's not home, open this. If she is, give it back unopened.

How would they know you had actually written your proper details though? I assume if you plan to lock up and torture someone you'd give fake ones? "

Very true.

There's got to be an element of trust and faith somewhere.

In that particular instance we'd met quite a few times before going away for the weekend.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

When I'm meeting someone I always prepare an envelope with everything I know about the man I'm meeting including a picture and tell a friend where that is. I tell the men I've done this, it might work as a deterrent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A must on first meets especially for a lady. I know it sounds sexist but safety is a must.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad"

It's far from a new idea, it's been done loads.

Mart always tells ladies who are new that they should take a face pic of a guy when they first meet (somewhere public) and send it to their "fab friend", any guy will understand... if they have nothing to hide lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this with a friend & then he found himself a girlfriend & abandoned me

I do it with a friend, not from fab. I have to text her that I'm alive & if I don't she's banging at my door...I forgot once, she was mad.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

P'raps I'm last in the breed. If I've met a lady on here in a one to one, I've always suggested to her that she do exactly this, let someone else know the details. I've got nothing to hide. Most of my meets these days seem to be with couples so the occasion doesn't arise, (unless I'm the one at risk).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am already the safe call for a couple of my female friends on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A must on first meets especially for a lady. I know it sounds sexist but safety is a must."

Men should consider it too. There have been stories of men going to meet a woman and there was a group of men at the house instead.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"A friend and I did a thread on here a few years ago, setting up a buddy system all over the country for those who didn't have a friend on here

That was a great idea.

It went well for a while, a young woman did contact me before she went out

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

Someone want to be my buddy “stares with puppy dog eyes” ??????

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"I did consider doing it when I first started but didnt really have anyone to pick. "

Pick me pick me..nice arse.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I do it with my friend who’s also on here. We also have each other on find a friend on the phones. "

What a great idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everytime i meet someone new i recommend they contact a friend when they arrive, during and after.

i have no problem with this arrangement.

meeting someone new can be daunting for some

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

When I 1st started meeting the person I ensured i was surrounded by cctv so every move they made they were being watched.. Hotel's or even holiday homes now have cctv in a range of them more for libitity outside of the property. So ensure that you arrive together even in separate car's. Having the owner near by is good also.. But I wouldn't use them if you like to meet a few hotels are better. If a home meet have a WiFi camera or small set up outside your home very cheap these days.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I've done this right from the start. Whether it be a vanilla friend that knows I do this or fab friend. They always know where I'm going and If they don't hear that I'm there safe or not home safe then they know the drill.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"The downside being that if the home safe message isn't sent/received, the bad thing has already happened. ..

I may also text during the event

Yeah, there's also "it's all going fine" or "I don't like the feeling of this" or similar. "

Or "call me so I have an excuse to leave"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na i like life on the edge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did consider doing it when I first started but didnt really have anyone to pick.

Pick me pick me..nice arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A must on first meets especially for a lady. I know it sounds sexist but safety is a must.

Men should consider it too. There have been stories of men going to meet a woman and there was a group of men at the house instead. "

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Thing is for me it would have to be someone who knew me in the real world that I could rely on. They would need to know my real name and my address for them to report it to the police if it all went tits up. Tho I dont have any plans on going to strangers houses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cba reading the replies but there’s a really good app that alerts your ‘safe friends’ if you haven’t checked in on the app. You fill out details of who you’re meeting, what time, where etc and you need to check in after a certain time. I have it so even when I check in, it will alert my ‘safe friend’ so they know I’m all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cba reading the replies but there’s a really good app that alerts your ‘safe friends’ if you haven’t checked in on the app. You fill out details of who you’re meeting, what time, where etc and you need to check in after a certain time. I have it so even when I check in, it will alert my ‘safe friend’ so they know I’m all good"

But saying that, I do always tell my husband and a friend anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best always knows where I’m going and who I’m meeting from here or having round the house. I also text her when they arrive and tell the person as I’m holding my phone that I’m just texting my mate to know I’m here and you are the person in your pictures!

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town

"I have been thinking about an idea and I use to do it before I moved.

I found a buddy on here that I would always message before and after a meet to let them know that I was going out and also came home safe.

It made me feel a lot safer and it also made her feel a lot safer knowing that if anything did go wrong on a meet at least some one can raise the alarm.

What do you think to this idea?

Good or bad"

I just let my mum know

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