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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doesn't this go against the grain of swingers?

I returned after a break, and noticed a change in the scene.

I was at an event where a newbie lone woman was blanked by a guy she smiled at. Seeing her reaction i quickly put that right just by being sociable! (clue being in the event name)

Couple of years ago, thats how i got my veris, besides club meets.

Sk what hsve i returned to? This the status wuo now? Veris needed tk attend socials now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?"

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

No social event we've ever attended has been only for verified people. Some we've attended have been very inclusive with people mixing really well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White Knight to the rescue hey OP?

As above I’m not sure what you’re really asking ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?"

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're judging the whole scene by one persons perceived reaction at one event? Maybe he didn't see her..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?"

A more cliquey environment i think. I had trouble too just basic socialising. Is it a trend happening, ? Resulting in social meets where you need veris to attend? Depends on who's organising event i suppose

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago"

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago"

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole swinging scene is in disarray because one guy didn't throw himself at a smiling woman?

Bastard!

Hang him!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

A more cliquey environment i think. I had trouble too just basic socialising. Is it a trend happening, ? Resulting in social meets where you need veris to attend? Depends on who's organising event i suppose "

I think you're reading an awful lot into one very small situation which you only saw one small part of. In my experience socials are very welcoming and friendly affairs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady? "

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're judging the whole scene by one persons perceived reaction at one event? Maybe he didn't see her.."

Yes he saw her. I was 3 feet away and facing the right way. Not basing the thread on this incident alone, also the requirement to have a veri to attend an event. Hope thats a one off and not a trend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually."

Yes.. This. Im slow on a keyboard.. Sowie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually."

If not interested sexually they still can be sociable surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually.

If not interested sexually they still can be sociable surely "

They could be, but it isn’t compulsory. Maybe they’re going to a social to find people they are attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a veris only event one presumes the lady in question must have at least one? So she couldn"t have been blanked for that?! More likely the guy didn't notice her or something else was going on (lovers tiff perhaps?).

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sometimes I truly worry about who will be on the Jury when i'm being tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I truly worry about who will be on the Jury when i'm being tried. "

I hope it’s me

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"The whole swinging scene is in disarray because one guy didn't throw himself at a smiling woman?

Bastard!

Hang him!"

Got to agree, it's not the end of the world that someone didn't want to socialise with someone else. Even at a social. What if he recognised her from somewhere?

There is one couple up here who do big socials fairly regularly and it's verified users only but they're happy to meet with someone unverified for a coffee first so they can then verify them and they can go along.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're judging the whole scene by one persons perceived reaction at one event? Maybe he didn't see her..

Yes he saw her. I was 3 feet away and facing the right way. Not basing the thread on this incident alone, also the requirement to have a veri to attend an event. Hope thats a one off and not a trend. "

You've read a lot into something you happened to see between people you don't know.. things aren't always so simple.

Not seen events listed as verified only and the one I went to was very friendly and welcoming as a newbie.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"You're judging the whole scene by one persons perceived reaction at one event? Maybe he didn't see her..

Yes he saw her. I was 3 feet away and facing the right way. Not basing the thread on this incident alone, also the requirement to have a veri to attend an event. Hope thats a one off and not a trend. "

I've seen and been to events where veris were required to attend and where they were not

An organised event is just that - organised. It's down to the organisers to make any rules and send any invites or manage guest lists.

I've been to clubs where veris have been required too. And others where they weren't.

A veri is no guarantee of anything behaviour wise as it's just one person's opinion, but can be one small step to ensuring those attending won't cause problems.

I don't get the anecdote reference though. I'm sure plenty of single men have smiled at single women and couples and been ignored before.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think you're reading an awful lot into two separate things OP to be honest.

To deal with the "smiling" incident first - perhaps he didn't notice, or didn't take the smile as an invite to go and chat, not everyone, me included, is great at reading signals, perhaps he didn't find the lady attractive and didn't want to waste her time by going and chatting to her and letting her think there was an interest on his part, perhaps he wanted to go to the loo and didn't want to engage in conversation that would delay that, perhaps a million and one things that unless you spoke to him you wouldn't know.

Either way that situation happens countless times a day in all sorts of situations not just at swingers events.

As for a requirement for veris to attend a social - as has already been pointed out, the organisers of socials are entitled to stipulate whatever conditions of attendance they want in order to balance numbers, ensure that potentially undesirable attendees are kept away or any number of other reasons - it's no different really from individuals having specific preferences or things they look for when arranging to meet others one to one from the site. Or put another way, it's no different from a club having entrance criteria.

Ultimately if you don't like a stipulation for attendance then there's nothing forcing you to attend just find a social that you do like the look of and that doesn't have those stipulations.

Every social event I've attended has been well run and welcoming and indeed very sociable and I appreciate the effort the organisers have gone to to ensure they have been that way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually.

If not interested sexually they still can be sociable surely "

I suppose it depends on how they view the interaction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it was a veris only event one presumes the lady in question must have at least one? So she couldn"t have been blanked for that?! More likely the guy didn't notice her or something else was going on (lovers tiff perhaps?). "

Ah, no you didnt need a veri to attend the social when the woman was blanked., thst was about 4 monthz ago. seen one event now though where now you do need a veri

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you're reading an awful lot into two separate things OP to be honest.

To deal with the "smiling" incident first - perhaps he didn't notice, or didn't take the smile as an invite to go and chat, not everyone, me included, is great at reading signals, perhaps he didn't find the lady attractive and didn't want to waste her time by going and chatting to her and letting her think there was an interest on his part, perhaps he wanted to go to the loo and didn't want to engage in conversation that would delay that, perhaps a million and one things that unless you spoke to him you wouldn't know.

Either way that situation happens countless times a day in all sorts of situations not just at swingers events.

As for a requirement for veris to attend a social - as has already been pointed out, the organisers of socials are entitled to stipulate whatever conditions of attendance they want in order to balance numbers, ensure that potentially undesirable attendees are kept away or any number of other reasons - it's no different really from individuals having specific preferences or things they look for when arranging to meet others one to one from the site. Or put another way, it's no different from a club having entrance criteria.

Ultimately if you don't like a stipulation for attendance then there's nothing forcing you to attend just find a social that you do like the look of and that doesn't have those stipulations.

Every social event I've attended has been well run and welcoming and indeed very sociable and I appreciate the effort the organisers have gone to to ensure they have been that way "

I take on board what yer tellin me just my thoughts..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually.

If not interested sexually they still can be sociable surely

They could be, but it isn’t compulsory. Maybe they’re going to a social to find people they are attracted to "

Yep. I think that's pretty much the intention of most socials in our experience anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sometimes I truly worry about who will be on the Jury when i'm being tried. "

They've got to catch you first...

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

But this still doesn't make any sense OP, if your post is about socials being for verified people only, why the anecdote about you leaping to the aid of a poor lady?

I think it was to illustrate that the general attitude of swinging has changed. We have certainly been avoided at socials by some because they weren't interested in us sexually.

If not interested sexually they still can be sociable surely

They could be, but it isn’t compulsory. Maybe they’re going to a social to find people they are attracted to

Yep. I think that's pretty much the intention of most socials in our experience anyway."

I only go for the cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending "

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue. "

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend. "

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend. "

Yeah i see yr point. clubs are another option i guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend. "

Oh yes I can see the very valid reasons for doing so.

But I guess if you're not verified it can be a Catch 22 situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend.

Oh yes I can see the very valid reasons for doing so.

But I guess if you're not verified it can be a Catch 22 situation. "

Yep just hope it doesn't catch on.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend.

Oh yes I can see the very valid reasons for doing so.

But I guess if you're not verified it can be a Catch 22 situation.

Yep just hope it doesn't catch on. "

Not saying this observation represents you fella. ....

Having seen first hand some of the enquiry messages and thread posts from single unverified men it's no wonder social organisers are starting to request it.

On a thread a few days ago, single man declined a place as the guest list was full.

Ranting, abusive, insulting posts attacking the very people he was trying to get an invite from.

Some single guys really don't help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend.

Oh yes I can see the very valid reasons for doing so.

But I guess if you're not verified it can be a Catch 22 situation.

Yep just hope it doesn't catch on.

Not saying this observation represents you fella. ....

Having seen first hand some of the enquiry messages and thread posts from single unverified men it's no wonder social organisers are starting to request it.

On a thread a few days ago, single man declined a place as the guest list was full.

Ranting, abusive, insulting posts attacking the very people he was trying to get an invite from.

Some single guys really don't help themselves. "

No worries.. Im no snowflake lol.

Yeah i get yr point. Do verid people tend not to blow their top then.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I only go for the cake. "

And to get me tea

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Yeah i get yr point. Do verid people tend not to blow their top then. "

As you've been on here before you'd know surely?

Anyway I cannot possible comment on your thread as I have several veris. And more than one from the same person (nose stuck up in the air emoji)

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I don't understand? You think she was blanked because she had no veris? How would he have known if she only smiled at him?

That’s what I read too. Can you clarify OP?

Attitude i haven't seen before, possibly a result in snobbery? It was a more relaxed welcoming atmosphere 2 years ago

It's not snobbery really. People go to a lot of trouble to organise socials, it take a lot of time and effort. The ones we've been to allow anyone to attend but some put limits on single guys or insist that attendees are verified I think if they are willing to put the effort in to organise it all they're within their rights to specify certain criteria for attending

I totally agree with this. It takes a lot of effort and organisation, not something I would take on.

However I do think it can be quite tricky because I've seen a lot of threads with guys saying people won't meet them because they don't have any verifications. The common advice to this is to attend social events, so I guess if the socials want people that are verified only than this can be an issue.

Yea I wouldn't like the job of organising an event at all!

Hats off to anyone who does and respect their decision if they dont want to invite unverified people. I just hope that's not a trend.

A big problem for organisers of social events is people dropping out at the last minute, often these are unverified members who lose their nerve for one reason or another, stipulating verified members helps to ease that problem as they have proven that they will turn up (even if only once).

It's not a sad endictment as you seem to be saying, it's simply to ensure the event goes ahead and the attendees do attend.

Oh yes I can see the very valid reasons for doing so.

But I guess if you're not verified it can be a Catch 22 situation.

Yep just hope it doesn't catch on.

Not saying this observation represents you fella. ....

Having seen first hand some of the enquiry messages and thread posts from single unverified men it's no wonder social organisers are starting to request it.

On a thread a few days ago, single man declined a place as the guest list was full.

Ranting, abusive, insulting posts attacking the very people he was trying to get an invite from.

Some single guys really don't help themselves.

No worries.. Im no snowflake lol.

Yeah i get yr point. Do verid people tend not to blow their top then. "

Oh no, verified people get just as arsey. Same thread, same social, a couple got chippy. They asked a question that was never going to be answered on a public forum. They were advised same and told to message the social profile.

Their response was pure entitlement.

Organising group socials, getting the numbers right, the right mix and (hopefully) the right people is a bloody nightmare.

I really don't envy those who choose to organise group socials.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I only go for the cake.

And to get me tea "

True story.

I'd change my name to Tea Monkey. But........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only go for the cake.

And to get me tea

True story.

I'd change my name to Tea Monkey. But........"

Tea&CakeMonkey?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"I only go for the cake.

And to get me tea

True story.

I'd change my name to Tea Monkey. But........

Tea&CakeMonkey? "

There's already a Tea Monkey. And I don't share cake!!!!!!!!

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