FabSwingers.com forum: The final point.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have pretty much got to the point where I have struck out with almost everyone on here within a 75 mile radius of me, which is pretty far in of itself.

Fellas, would you just call it a day and leave? I have no idea what to do, as I am a site supporter and dont want to waste the money I paid or anything.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"I have pretty much got to the point where I have struck out with almost everyone on here within a 75 mile radius of me, which is pretty far in of itself.

Fellas, would you just call it a day and leave? I have no idea what to do, as I am a site supporter and dont want to waste the money I paid or anything."
You have only been on here six weeks and verified , some men are on for months without a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only £5

Are you messaging those you are genuinely interested in? Or just because they are near you?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Don’t worry about the money. It works out at less than a cup of tea at a cafe a week. I know not everyone can be flippant about money but you already shelled it out. It’s gone.

As someone who has left before I’d recommend hiding your profile and not logging back in.

That way if you do find yourself wanting to come back you still have your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have pretty much got to the point where I have struck out with almost everyone on here within a 75 mile radius of me, which is pretty far in of itself.

Fellas, would you just call it a day and leave? I have no idea what to do, as I am a site supporter and dont want to waste the money I paid or anything. You have only been on here six weeks and verified , some men are on for months without a meet"

For full disclosure, this is my second attempt, first attempt I was here for a few months and tbe same results. So overall its probably been around 5 months or so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s only £5

Are you messaging those you are genuinely interested in? Or just because they are near you?"

Both.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Depends what you are after?

If it’s just casual meets this it the place to be in my opinion. You should just keep plugging away perhaps go further afield. I’m quite lucky by location. Maybe plan ahead with socials and club nights you can get to?

Being a site supporter isn’t necessarily fundamental for using the site well.

If it’s a partner etc then the usual popular dating apps are like shooting fish in a barrel. I really rate the swipey one.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Does site supporter status guarantee a meet or entitle anyone to anything?

I must have missed that bit...

OP - you have several options. Wait for new members to join in your area, look further afield, move house....or just wait until someone suitable gets in touch. Or try something different.

If you seriously think approaching everyone based on geography is the right route then that's your choice. But scattergun approaches are rarely successful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does site supporter status guarantee a meet or entitle anyone to anything?

I don't think I said that all and didn't mean to imply that if I did.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I have pretty much got to the point where I have struck out with almost everyone on here within a 75 mile radius of me, which is pretty far in of itself.

Fellas, would you just call it a day and leave? I have no idea what to do, as I am a site supporter and dont want to waste the money I paid or anything."

you had a meet a month ago???

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Does site supporter status guarantee a meet or entitle anyone to anything?

I don't think I said that all and didn't mean to imply that if I did."

It was the 'don't want o waste the money I've paid' comment.

Why do you feel it's wasted and why did you feel the need to pay in the first place?

Genuine questions. It is a free site after all and paying isn't necessary to use the site functions that enable meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been a site supporter - if you leave, do you get the money back for the unused portion of membership?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just stay for the forum's and talk nonsense with the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take it with a pinch of salt, it is what it is and 1 meet in 6 weeks is good going! So haven’t got a meet in 12 months! Patience and manners and key, just have a laugh and enjoy the forums and start going clubs with someone it’s a great way to meet new faces

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've been around her for years and I've only met 3 people within a 30/40 mile radius for socials. Try looking for people that you connect with rather than convenience.

Go to socials, travel to clubs. People aren't going to come knocking on your door.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP how many messages are you sending if you've managed to contact everyone within 75 miles in such a short time?

Instead of taking a scattergun approach try going for quality over quantity. Read profiles thoroughly and craft a personal message just for the recipient rather than send something generic. Just approach a few people at a time and be more focused.

Get involved in the chatter on the forums and/or the chatrooms.

Look for organised socials on here that you may be able to get to.

There are far better ways to make connections than just sending out hundreds of messages.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I’m so lazy I have never gone beyond 15 miles max on here or Tinder.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I say it all the time but get yourself out locally on nights out, smart clothes, hair styled, good aftershave on, be positive, smile and be sociable. Meet women (or men if that's your thing) through friends with no pressure and not coming across as desperate and you'll be fine

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If you've managed to be rejected by everyone you're interested in within the distance you're willing to travel, then your options as I see them are

a) give up

b) move house

c) wait until some new people have joined and then get rejected by them too

Assuming your location is correct, you have Bristol, Swansea, Cardiff, Worcester and Taunton within range. If you can't pull in any of those places, then there may be questions about your technique. Questions which may be answered by your claim to have mailed them all within five months...

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

There's no harm in being on here, but I wouldn't recommend it as the only option. I have much more success on conventional dating sites, and I would imagine this is probably true of most single guys. If it wasn't for the forums and the hilarious messages I sometimes get, I likely wouldn't be on here as much. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, especially not this basket.

In terms of the site supporter status, you have to decide for yourself whether or not it's worth the cost.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"I People aren't going to come knocking on your door. "

I leave my door open

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

You've had a meet and you've paid £5. Apart from anything else I'd say that's pretty good value....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a radius of 76 miles, if no joy, call it a day. Sorry to hear about the £5 you may or may not lose.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP as others have pointed out you have a veri from a meet within the last month and one that suggests a repeat meet within weeks is on the cards, which by many single male profiles is pretty good going.

If I remember correctly from another thread you said you were sending up to 50 unsolicited messages a day, which I suggested at the time was excessive and unlikely to meet with a great deal of interest and this thread backs that up.

Not sure what your expectation of the site is but really think you need to adjust it somewhat if you decide to stay.

Often when people say they're not gaining any interest it's their profile and approach that needs adjusting - you've not asked for profile advice so I shan't give any but would suggest that looking at how you can change that for the better might be something to consider

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Everyone within a 75 mile radius, that must be a fair few and suggests to me that you probably copy and paste which us gals pick up on and don't really care for. Perhaps try the more personal approach and message people who are looking for someone like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave.

*let me know if I was right with my choice for you.

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