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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?"

The site won’t find you friends but it will point you towards socials where you can easily make friends.

If you start with viruses point of making friends first, the rest will follow. Good luck.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Do you ever go to any organised socials on here they are a good place to meet people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're quite probably on the wrong site for that.

That's not to say it a impossible, but most are here for sexual encounters, not a lifelong friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is viruses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, as long as you explain up front that's what you want, you will find something...good luck...

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Get to some socials and get chatting. I think it must he hard for single guys to make friends via private message but it's not impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never been to one, always too scared ppl would see a single guy trying to get lucky rather than having a few drinks and a laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get to some socials and get chatting. I think it must he hard for single guys to make friends via private message but it's not impossible "

Think I might try one and see what happens, what’s the worst eh lol?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?"

Get in touch with the friends you gave up as you'll have a lot more in common and lots to catch up on

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Most people on here love the social side of this as well. Get your big boy pants on, search for local events and go!! You never know what might happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is viruses?"

Let’s not go there, but in this context, a typo!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it."

Thank you, I’ve got 3 months paid membership so I’ll see how it goes, like mentioned above I may give the socials a go, not a easy feeling walking into one on your own lol but I guess if you never try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m afraid if you message a lady here she will automatically assume if she replies she’s going to have to shag you

Conversation???

Heaven forbid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is viruses?

Let’s not go there, but in this context, a typo!"

Oh ok

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Maybe look into some Meetup groups or similar, find new people you have things in common with.

This site is difficult when you're vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it.

Thank you, I’ve got 3 months paid membership so I’ll see how it goes, like mentioned above I may give the socials a go, not a easy feeling walking into one on your own lol but I guess if you never try"

3 months paid membership?

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By *i explorer and steveMan
over a year ago

Boston and Higham Ferrers

Try some local swinging clubs there's no pressure to swing and everyone is friendly. We have only been going a short while but have met some lovely people

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it.

Thank you, I’ve got 3 months paid membership so I’ll see how it goes, like mentioned above I may give the socials a go, not a easy feeling walking into one on your own lol but I guess if you never try"

No it's quite difficult as part of a couple. What you say is true, if you never try you'll never know. Are you looking for friends of all sexes or just women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it.

Thank you, I’ve got 3 months paid membership so I’ll see how it goes, like mentioned above I may give the socials a go, not a easy feeling walking into one on your own lol but I guess if you never try

3 months paid membership?"

Yeah the silver membership thing??

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I would say your best off looking elsewhere for local groups and clubs in your area aimed at bringing people together. Whether it's a walking group or team, maybe something voluntary, all are more likely places to form friendships.

It's a bit cutthroat here for someone feeling as you do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not necessarily, you could look out for the organised socials that are held in your area. However we have found that its very difficult to make friends as many people are here just to make sexual relationships. I'm not saying that's wrong.

Stick around and chat on line, you never know what could come of it.

Thank you, I’ve got 3 months paid membership so I’ll see how it goes, like mentioned above I may give the socials a go, not a easy feeling walking into one on your own lol but I guess if you never try

3 months paid membership?

Yeah the silver membership thing??"

Oh! The £5 thing. Confused me a bit there

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh, yes, voluntary work can be an excellent tonic for loneliness.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

If you want friends then best use something non-sexual like MeetUp and find activities in your area that you enjoy.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

And what about contacting your old friends? They may be missing you and I'm assuming that the dust has settled a little after splitting up from your wife. Again, you never know.

Good luck OP.

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By *ime for fun guyMan
over a year ago

Wherever you want

I know your predicament. Sadly losing friends is part of divorce.

Try googling Meet ups as there are local groups of people who get together to make friends and just socialise. There are different interests such as just going to pubs or out for dinner in groups. Also other interests such as various hobbies. Not as exciting as Fab but a good way to meet new people.

Hope this helps and you find a new circle of friends.

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

We've made some wonderful friends along our fab journey, and have remained friends with some who have left the lifestyle, so its not impossible, and you are not on the wrong site. The site is there to be used however the individual chooses to use it.

Chin up my lovely!

Debs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I just say thank you sooo much to everyone who has given suggestions on here or messaged me with ideas, some things that would never have crossed my mind. Just to put it in context, I have kids, to keep seeing them 50% of the time and afford child maintenance I have had to lump most of my working hours to the first half of the week so when I’m not working I have the kids leaving hardly anytime for adult company. I love my kids to bits but you do need adult conversation too. You are all angels thank you all so much, I promise I will look into as many, if not all suggestions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And what about contacting your old friends? They may be missing you and I'm assuming that the dust has settled a little after splitting up from your wife. Again, you never know.

Good luck OP. "

Tried it, shot down lol. But thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met lots of friends from here OP and even people who I met as a pre social meet who were not for me who have become my friend instead. I think lots would be up for for non sexual friendships.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Can I just say thank you sooo much to everyone who has given suggestions on here or messaged me with ideas, some things that would never have crossed my mind. Just to put it in context, I have kids, to keep seeing them 50% of the time and afford child maintenance I have had to lump most of my working hours to the first half of the week so when I’m not working I have the kids leaving hardly anytime for adult company. I love my kids to bits but you do need adult conversation too. You are all angels thank you all so much, I promise I will look into as many, if not all suggestions. "

Just a thought in addition to the suggestions already made.

When you have your children I'm sure you don't stay home 24hrs a day with them. Take the kids out and get chatting to other parents. A trip to the park or other free stuff to do locally is a good place to start. While your children are asking friends with other kids you could be making friends with their parents. Other parents, mums and dads, will be needing adult company just as much as you are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met lots of friends from here OP and even people who I met as a pre social meet who were not for me who have become my friend instead. I think lots would be up for for non sexual friendships. "

Thank you that’s reassuring. Someone suggested a running group and after googling it we have one in my area so I think I’ll give them a call

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I just say thank you sooo much to everyone who has given suggestions on here or messaged me with ideas, some things that would never have crossed my mind. Just to put it in context, I have kids, to keep seeing them 50% of the time and afford child maintenance I have had to lump most of my working hours to the first half of the week so when I’m not working I have the kids leaving hardly anytime for adult company. I love my kids to bits but you do need adult conversation too. You are all angels thank you all so much, I promise I will look into as many, if not all suggestions.

Just a thought in addition to the suggestions already made.

When you have your children I'm sure you don't stay home 24hrs a day with them. Take the kids out and get chatting to other parents. A trip to the park or other free stuff to do locally is a good place to start. While your children are asking friends with other kids you could be making friends with their parents. Other parents, mums and dads, will be needing adult company just as much as you are."

Another good idea, gonna look into soft plays (as in children’s indoor soft plays) and get the kids out, gonna go Thursday for my birthday they’ll love it. Thank you

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By *ll 4 SocialsWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina"

That would be great thank you

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?"

I've made some good friends from being here. So yeah I would say chances are good. Like the others have said get your self to some socials.

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By *ll 4 SocialsWoman
over a year ago

Bolton


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina

That would be great thank you"

Fantastic... Private message me your Kik name and let's get the ball rolling. At least in your quiet moments you can see how funny the conversations can go and have a giggle

You never know what could happen in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina

That would be great thank you

Fantastic... Private message me your Kik name and let's get the ball rolling. At least in your quiet moments you can see how funny the conversations can go and have a giggle

You never know what could happen in the future."

This is great

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina"

That's nice of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina

That would be great thank you

Fantastic... Private message me your Kik name and let's get the ball rolling. At least in your quiet moments you can see how funny the conversations can go and have a giggle

You never know what could happen in the future."

Hi just sent you a msg, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to a swingers club

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"We have a chat group on Kik and we have all become friends. Great bunch of people who are always willing to chat with others. Could be a way of breaking the ice.. we chat about alsorts by the way, not just swinging lol. Most of us are based Yorkshire way and we always have Socials. Even mini ones as we do enjoy each other's company. You are very welcome to join and when we have our next social... You will have already been introduced to some of the guests. Tina

That would be great thank you

Fantastic... Private message me your Kik name and let's get the ball rolling. At least in your quiet moments you can see how funny the conversations can go and have a giggle

You never know what could happen in the future."

This is lovely

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By *ll 4 SocialsWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

Ball is rolling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been to one, always too scared ppl would see a single guy trying to get lucky rather than having a few drinks and a laugh"

Well then know it isn't going to happen if you aren't willing to put yourself out there.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ball is rolling

"

I love this place sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never been to one, always too scared ppl would see a single guy trying to get lucky rather than having a few drinks and a laugh

Well then know it isn't going to happen if you aren't willing to put yourself out there. "

I know mate I’m gonna try thank you. I was so scared of putting this post I thought I’d get ripped apart but the response has been so good

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By *ll 4 SocialsWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

As do I.... You can feel the love lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just say thank you sooo much to everyone who has given suggestions on here or messaged me with ideas, some things that would never have crossed my mind. Just to put it in context, I have kids, to keep seeing them 50% of the time and afford child maintenance I have had to lump most of my working hours to the first half of the week so when I’m not working I have the kids leaving hardly anytime for adult company. I love my kids to bits but you do need adult conversation too. You are all angels thank you all so much, I promise I will look into as many, if not all suggestions. "

Keep chatting on the forums. Some great people on here.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?"
. As has already been suggested try organised socials also set up a meet up account I am going to a local meet up at a pub on Friday 5 ladies & 4 guys a great way to make friends I think.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"I’m not daft I know this isn’t Facebook but what are the chances of just making friends on this site without the need for anything “extra”. I’m a divorcee who gave up all his friends for my now ex wife and I’m wanting to meet ppl for drinks and laughs, am I on the wrong site?"

Come to one of my parties.. we have lots of singles meet up as friends now!!

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By *antosh69Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

I have an English friend who's wife dies 2 years ago. He is in his mid 70's and anything but a picture to look at. He advertises in the local newspaper columns (very non-IT is he) for friendship with women wanting companionship, walks , lunches etc. He has had a remarkable succes rate in finding not only companions....but sex along the way - to my utter astonishment I might add.

As he so often points out - there are loads of women who's hubbies have passed away and want friendship and companionship - and sex too... a basic human need after all.

Try it.

Incidentally, he is astonished at how many women want to try things sexually which they never did with their husbands. He of course doesn't have a clue about our swinging lifestyle!! Thinks we are naive and butter wouldn't melt in our mouths

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I just say thank you sooo much to everyone who has given suggestions on here or messaged me with ideas, some things that would never have crossed my mind. Just to put it in context, I have kids, to keep seeing them 50% of the time and afford child maintenance I have had to lump most of my working hours to the first half of the week so when I’m not working I have the kids leaving hardly anytime for adult company. I love my kids to bits but you do need adult conversation too. You are all angels thank you all so much, I promise I will look into as many, if not all suggestions.

Keep chatting on the forums. Some great people on here. "

Thank you I will

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have an English friend who's wife dies 2 years ago. He is in his mid 70's and anything but a picture to look at. He advertises in the local newspaper columns (very non-IT is he) for friendship with women wanting companionship, walks , lunches etc. He has had a remarkable succes rate in finding not only companions....but sex along the way - to my utter astonishment I might add.

As he so often points out - there are loads of women who's hubbies have passed away and want friendship and companionship - and sex too... a basic human need after all.

Try it.

Incidentally, he is astonished at how many women want to try things sexually which they never did with their husbands. He of course doesn't have a clue about our swinging lifestyle!! Thinks we are naive and butter wouldn't melt in our mouths

"

there is more stuff to try than I realised

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I have an English friend who's wife dies 2 years ago. He is in his mid 70's and anything but a picture to look at. He advertises in the local newspaper columns (very non-IT is he) for friendship with women wanting companionship, walks , lunches etc. He has had a remarkable succes rate in finding not only companions....but sex along the way - to my utter astonishment I might add.

As he so often points out - there are loads of women who's hubbies have passed away and want friendship and companionship - and sex too... a basic human need after all.

Try it.

Incidentally, he is astonished at how many women want to try things sexually which they never did with their husbands. He of course doesn't have a clue about our swinging lifestyle!! Thinks we are naive and butter wouldn't melt in our mouths

"

This is brilliant! Actually made me laugh

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