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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .." I'm with you here . Anyone who has been willing to share a bed with me I class as a friend but then again I am very choosy | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex" There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex" I read the title and thought ‘ugh come on he knows better, there’s no such thing as the friend zone’ But I’m unsure OP - did they explain how you are a ‘bad friend’ ? It’s nice being friends with someone you have sex with, you have more of a connection in my opinion. But not everyone wants that or will agree with me | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .." I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend.... | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend...." Nicer than being called 'someone they fuck'? | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend...." See I try to do this but with single women you have to take the lead sometimes. Whereas couples it's usually the guy who messages anyway. | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend...." So if the people you met were just for a shag........why send a happy new year text?  
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend...." So are people on here not good enough to be friends with or date? Do you just seek a one off? | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha." I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... | |||
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"It was a Mass text , All my contacts in my phone.... Just a simple happy new year " Lazy as me then  | |||
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"It was a Mass text , All my contacts in my phone.... Just a simple happy new year " Maybe edit it next year to just your actual friends then! | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore..." It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. | |||
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"If you're clear from the beginning they shouldn't expect friendship." That's you isn't it? I never knew it was you. All these weeks. Put the slippers on. | |||
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"Dear O.P. Why did you send texts to people you've met once ? I get you , I get you , I get you ...... Like me you do NOT consider people you met for sex as 'friends' in the true sense. What I don't get it WHY you sent them a text and if the text was incidental cos you were doing texts en masse..... why do you CARE what their reply was ? Anyone who accused me of anything on New Years Eve after a HNY text would be in the argumentative needy twat zone. " Absolutely spot on | |||
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"you should delete their number if your not going to message them first" Good point- data protection! | |||
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"If you're clear from the beginning they shouldn't expect friendship. That's you isn't it? I never knew it was you. All these weeks. Put the slippers on." The dogs chewed them. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world." Fair point | |||
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"Why bother sending them a happy new year's text if you just meet them for sex then?" This, it's kind of a cross purpose. You say to message when they want sex but then send out messages as a friend would. It's mixed signals and I can kind of see the confusion. | |||
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"you should delete their number if your not going to message them first Good point- data protection! "Seriously I never delete numbers... I have over 10 years of business contacts in my phone... | |||
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"Why bother sending them a happy new year's text if you just meet them for sex then? This, it's kind of a cross purpose. You say to message when they want sex but then send out messages as a friend would. It's mixed signals and I can kind of see the confusion. " Exactly this.. you broke your own rules and are now wondering why there's confusion.. | |||
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"Why bother sending them a happy new year's text if you just meet them for sex then? This, it's kind of a cross purpose. You say to message when they want sex but then send out messages as a friend would. It's mixed signals and I can kind of see the confusion. " I got a happy new year text from people I didn’t recognize and simply replied Thanx , you as well I can’t see me saying Happy New year as being anything that can lead to abuse | |||
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"Why bother sending them a happy new year's text if you just meet them for sex then? This, it's kind of a cross purpose. You say to message when they want sex but then send out messages as a friend would. It's mixed signals and I can kind of see the confusion. I got a happy new year text from people I didn’t recognize and simply replied Thanx , you as well I can’t see me saying Happy New year as being anything that can lead to abuse " They just miss you bigboy | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world." Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. " Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... " My friends don't know I do this. There is enough men on the site as it is. Why invite more competition. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... " But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. " Like a drug dealer with a burner phone | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. Like a drug dealer with a burner phone "Similar. A lot of people have play phones to completely segregate their swinging life from their real life. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. " That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... My friends don't know I do this. There is enough men on the site as it is. Why invite more competition. "Yeah you’re right, I never thought of that.... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. Like a drug dealer with a burner phone
Similar. A lot of people have play phones to completely segregate their swinging life from their real life. "And probably saves a few women accidentally messaging the wrong 'daddy' asking to be bent over his knee ...........   
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"you should delete their number if your not going to message them first Good point- data protection!
Seriously I never delete numbers... I have over 10 years of business contacts in my phone...
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... My friends don't know I do this. There is enough men on the site as it is. Why invite more competition.
Yeah you’re right, I never thought of that...." Shame some other people didn't have a brain. I think the word of mouth is why there is so many men on here. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms..." Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid." Thank you fine Sir..... Keep reading the forums and you will see some people are really friends on here... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. " My boy is Baller though | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. " Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. My boy is Baller though" I’m no Mr. White but I saved a few schillings.. | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid. Thank you fine Sir..... Keep reading the forums and you will see some people are really friends on here..." Might not be why either of you joined up but it might be why others did. or perhaps they didn't but found that actually the people they meet are quite fun so developed friendships etc. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have...." I'm not that old thanks. Again, didn't say it had to be a flip flop phone. A clam shell or a Nokia 3310 either just to be clear. It's the most simple solution to your predicament. A cheap, basic smartphone that doesn't cost £1000 and is only wapped out when you want a fuck
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have...." You would get stopped and searched in America if the Police saw you with a flip phone. They would think you were Stringer Bell or somebody. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... I'm not that old thanks. Again, didn't say it had to be a flip flop phone. A clam shell or a Nokia 3310 either just to be clear. It's the most simple solution to your predicament. A cheap, basic smartphone that doesn't cost £1000 and is only wapped out when you want a fuck
But I think you secretly like the drama"Touché , I respect your opinion but I disagree.... Do you have friends from the swinging world that you don’t have sex with? | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have...." No one will see your swinging phone except you. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... I'm not that old thanks. Again, didn't say it had to be a flip flop phone. A clam shell or a Nokia 3310 either just to be clear. It's the most simple solution to your predicament. A cheap, basic smartphone that doesn't cost £1000 and is only wapped out when you want a fuck
But I think you secretly like the drama
Touché , I respect your opinion but I disagree....
Do you have friends from the swinging world that you don’t have sex with? "Yes. I also have friends from the real world that I introduced here but don't have sex with them either. For a lot of people swinging isn't just about sex. It's the social, lifestyle element as well. | |||
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" I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend...." in which case i would say that your mindset to the site and yours alone.... here is another "mindset" Some people may think of fab as a community.... of which i look at the site as friends first and then if anything then comes of that more that is a bonus... some of them best friends from this site are people i get along with in views or attitudes ect, but i have no wish to play with them!!! people use the site in different way.... you use it yours, other use it theres.... but questioning it the way you have it alludes to you thinking your way is right and others are wrong, and people should all use it exactly the same... the site and the world is a big place, and if people don't agree... you can move on! no one is holding a gun to your head making you have to hold the same belief! that is the beauty of the site and the community in general... there are enough people out there using it the same way you do... so concentrate on getting to know those people!!! people are so fixated on the differences and trying to change the way people think, or use the site, that you forget those are out there you can impress you want the challenge but are blinkered in doing it.... newsflash... all you are doing is wasting your own time! | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... You would get stopped and searched in America if the Police saw you with a flip phone. They would think you were Stringer Bell or somebody. "Lol lol , there is probably 2 people on the forums who know who Stringer Bell is and you’re one of them.... I swear some people are very out of touch with reality... if I pulled out a pay as you go phone anywhere in NYC... people would look at me funny and think... 1. He is up to something nefarious... Blackman with two phones definitely drug dealer 2. Damn this guy has a pay by go phone, he must have just got out of jail... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... You would get stopped and searched in America if the Police saw you with a flip phone. They would think you were Stringer Bell or somebody.
Lol lol , there is probably 2 people on the forums who know who Stringer Bell is and you’re one of them....
I swear some people are very out of touch with reality... if I pulled out a pay as you go phone anywhere in NYC... people would look at me funny and think...
1. He is up to something nefarious... Blackman with two phones definitely drug dealer
2. Damn this guy has a pay by go phone, he must have just got out of jail...
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... No one will see your swinging phone except you. " Ok I’ll paint a picture for you.... A private table at any high in club in London... People drinking and taking selfies... adding each other on instagram and Snapchat... During this ... I pull out my old pay as you go phone hunting for swingers.... This would make all the women at the table vaginas as dry as the Sahara desert.... | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... No one will see your swinging phone except you. Ok I’ll paint a picture for you.... A private table at any high in club in London... People drinking and taking selfies... adding each other on instagram and Snapchat... During this ... I pull out my old pay as you go phone hunting for swingers.... This would make all the women at the table vaginas as dry as the Sahara desert.... " How do they know it's PAYG? | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore... It's a lifestyle for some people though who have friends for a long time. They might not have many in the outside world. Why limit where you make friends from? Swingers are just as much in the real world as anyone else. Yes very true.... But if my real friends invite me for a party.... I start thinking about what gift and alcohol I will bring... When a swinger invites me to dinner/party, I’m thinking about shaving my balls and checking the expiration date on my condoms.... I don’t like to blurr the lines of my swinging and vanilla life... then I will have to tell lies to my real friends and family.... But you do. Maybe you should have a swing phone just for the fuck connections you make to save you from such a situation in the future. That’s not cost effective.... iPhone’s are $1,000. I don’t get that much action... I honestly just store swinging people in my contacts under pseudonyms... Who says it had to be an iPhone. That's just you bring materialistic. If you only message people when you fuck it doesn't need to be an all singing all dancing phone. You're just putting hurdles in front of perfectly workable solutions. Either that or you secretly do want to be friends or like the 'abuse' you get when yoh send a friendly message. Please take this as politely as I’m trying to make it.... Walking around with a smart phone and a old flip phone looks stupid.... My generation doesn’t walk around with old phones..... Now before you think I’m being materialistic or having a dig at you.... Just think about what phones all the young people in your family have.... No one will see your swinging phone except you. Ok I’ll paint a picture for you.... A private table at any high in club in London... People drinking and taking selfies... adding each other on instagram and Snapchat... During this ... I pull out my old pay as you go phone hunting for swingers.... This would make all the women at the table vaginas as dry as the Sahara desert.... " If they were worth fucking you'd be hooking up with them, not going on your phone looking for swingers. So it doesn't matter what they think. | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid."
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex" I feel we've got hooked up on phones. So.... OP what are the benefits of bring friends with anyone? Find that and perhaps you'll find the answer to this conundrum. Friends enhance our lives. I like that with my swinging friends I can be more free and open with discussion topics (can't always discuss getting flogged and caned with the girls from work really). | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid." I disagree. You can find anything you want on here. It just may be not what You want. Doesn't mean you can't find it. I am straight but I have female friends on here. | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid. I disagree. You can find anything you want on here. It just may be not what You want. Doesn't mean you can't find it. I am straight but I have female friends on here." That's not what he said. He's talking about the OP. The OP is here for fucks. He's open about it. If anyone gets tearful that he isn't their best buddy, that's their own fault. | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex There isn't really. I'm not some gay virtual friend haha. I’m more talking about people in the swinging world that are friends and don’t have sex..... Like the people who help each other out. Text everyday, paint each other’s house, and give free rides... but don’t have sex or they hooked up once but don’t anymore..." We have made some of our closest friends from swinging, infact trim is over a couples house right now having new years dinner while I'm out if the country. They could play if they wanted but I know they won't. I find that the people we have met along the way whilst swinging are open minded and respect our relationship and our choice to have sex with other people. I think nothing of ether of us chatting to swingers but id have a heart attack if trim started talking to a new vanilla female. Eski | |||
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"There is zero point in you being in the friendzone for anyone on here. It's not why you joined up, and anyone looking at your profile expecting a friend is just stupid. I disagree. You can find anything you want on here. It just may be not what You want. Doesn't mean you can't find it. I am straight but I have female friends on here. That's not what he said. He's talking about the OP. The OP is here for fucks. He's open about it. If anyone gets tearful that he isn't their best buddy, that's their own fault. " Yep you're right! | |||
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" I’m not looking for it to go well...... I just want honest answers.... I’ll give you some background... I use swinging strictly for sex/kink... I use real life and dating apps for relationships.... I don’t use anyone sexually...after a meeting... I tell everyone to text or call me if they want to meet again.... I NEVER TEXT THEM FIRST.. I’m very blunt and clear with my intentions... that’s why I’m confused as to why someone would class me as a friend.... in which case i would say that your mindset to the site and yours alone.... here is another "mindset" Some people may think of fab as a community.... of which i look at the site as friends first and then if anything then comes of that more that is a bonus... some of them best friends from this site are people i get along with in views or attitudes ect, but i have no wish to play with them!!! people use the site in different way.... you use it yours, other use it theres.... but questioning it the way you have it alludes to you thinking your way is right and others are wrong, and people should all use it exactly the same... the site and the world is a big place, and if people don't agree... you can move on! no one is holding a gun to your head making you have to hold the same belief! that is the beauty of the site and the community in general... there are enough people out there using it the same way you do... so concentrate on getting to know those people!!! people are so fixated on the differences and trying to change the way people think, or use the site, that you forget those are out there you can impress you want the challenge but are blinkered in doing it.... newsflash... all you are doing is wasting your own time!" I think you have lost something in my post.... I’ll try to help you and please use my green arrow.... I don’t need your advice on wasting my time nor do I feel the need to justify my outlook on swinging.... All I wanted to know is what are the pro’s and con’s of being in the friend zone with swingers... I respect your opinion but please don’t give me unsolicited advice..... my swinging experience is very different from yours... | |||
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"I have swingong friends I don't have sex with. Male and female. It enables me to converse on a completely open level, that I can't do with my vanilla friends. It's just another dynamic that I enjoy on here. Some have become close friends. There are people who use this site for different things. If you don't engage with those you have sex with afterwards and build a friendship, that is completely your right. Your silence should be a big sign that you are interested in sex only. I don't understand why some messaged back saying that. The only time they can feel butthurt, is if you were misleading them, that you are now friends.... which, based on your posts in general, I can't see you doing haha. " Thank you for your post.... waking up to rude messages was very odd... | |||
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"If you're friendly with someone they might feel more inclined to hit you up when they need a booty call. " That is understandable, but if we haven’t spoken or seen each other in 6 months... Why the aganst? | |||
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"I’m a little hungover so forgive me for any grammatical errors... Can someone please explain what are the benefits of being a friend with a swinger if you’re not having sex? I sent out a mass happy New Years text last night and got some crazy responses from people I met for casual sex.... accusing be of being a bad friend.... Friend? We just had sex" We don’t have many swing friends as that’s not what we want but the friends we do have are great, being able to relax more around them. It’s good to socialise with people without being judged for who we are. We don’t sleep with all of our swing friends. On the other hand we have had the odd friendship which has turned very bad. Just depends on who the person/people are I guess. | |||
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"The worst is when they start to ask you if you know their real names " Why's that Pierre? | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .." Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again!" So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open......" Bet you wouldn't say no | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open......" Yeah if you told them you would only want to talk to them for sex. You can't have if both ways lol | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... Bet you wouldn't say no "I’ve had so many one off’s.... I can’t remember what people look like or where I met them... It’s like getting a text from a “ Jenn Brooklyn lawyer nice ass loves anal sex “ that’s how the contact is stored in my phone... if she didn’t text me pics in a earlier chat , I really don’t know what she looks like.... but I do know she has a nice ass and loves anal sex | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... Yeah if you told them you would only want to talk to them for sex. You can't have if both ways lol " It sounds like a one off text rather than a way in to get sex as he would normally just ask for it. | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... Yeah if you told them you would only want to talk to them for sex. You can't have if both ways lol " So you never butt dialed someone or sent someone the wrong text by accident? If you got a generic Happy New Year text from me.... you would imply I was trying to have sex with you Or Would you say thanks you as well..... | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... Yeah if you told them you would only want to talk to them for sex. You can't have if both ways lol So you never butt dialed someone or sent someone the wrong text by accident? If you got a generic Happy New Year text from me.... you would imply I was trying to have sex with you Or Would you say thanks you as well....." Probably both. Perhaps you were using it as an 'in' to arranging something. Like 'hey, happy new year, we need to sort something out in the new year.... Been too long!'. But why send a happy new year text to people you don't want banal every day conversation with? This wasn't a butt dial, it was a message you sent on purpose to every one on your phone both swingers and real life people. | |||
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"This isn't going to go well for you OP In general people are not objects and from the wording of this it feels like thats how you see them " someone to have sex with" While it's likely that is what people want, I think it fair to say we want some respect with it. If there has been no contact and then a random message I would assume you've nothing better to do and want to use me .. Exactly this.... people who vanish and then pop up out the blue expecting you to want to meet can jog on! If you can't be arsed to stay in touch then we sure as heck can't be arsed to meet you again! So a happy new year text message means I want sex.... Wow my eyes are open...... Yeah if you told them you would only want to talk to them for sex. You can't have if both ways lol So you never butt dialed someone or sent someone the wrong text by accident? If you got a generic Happy New Year text from me.... you would imply I was trying to have sex with you Or Would you say thanks you as well..... Probably both. Perhaps you were using it as an 'in' to arranging something. Like 'hey, happy new year, we need to sort something out in the new year.... Been too long!'. But why send a happy new year text to people you don't want banal every day conversation with? This wasn't a butt dial, it was a message you sent on purpose to every one on your phone both swingers and real life people. " Point taken... have a happy new year... | |||
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"I think things have got a little lost along the way here with regards to phones and the like! With regards to your OP, there are loads of benefits as to having friends. When I first joined the site several years ago I looked on it as a sex site, however after a while I met a few people who I became closer to. I developed friendships and realised just how valuable and different those friendships are from others. I also found love which I would never have done if I wasn't open to those greater connections. How you use the site is up to you OP, of course it is, there's no right or wrong way to go about things (so long as you're not hurting anyone or being a dick). I just think that by closing out the opportunity to make connections you're robbing yourself of the chance of something better. " Hmm in 10 years I’ve evolved a lot.... the first 1-5 years I was like a kid in a candy store.... the last 5 years I’ve found my feet in the swinging world and know what I like and don’t like..... I have met some great people in these 10 years .. but I don’t spend holidays with them nor would I ask them for help.... I’m not a cold hearted freak.... I just have a huge family and social circle outside the swinging world. That I can rely on for anything... Now I don’t know if your friends , co workers and family know you’re a swinger.... but I don’t lie to my friends and family.... I would have to make up a story as how I know someone if I invited someone from the swinging world to the vanilla world... The great people I have met are my sex partners.... without the sex there is no partnership... | |||
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"I think things have got a little lost along the way here with regards to phones and the like! With regards to your OP, there are loads of benefits as to having friends. When I first joined the site several years ago I looked on it as a sex site, however after a while I met a few people who I became closer to. I developed friendships and realised just how valuable and different those friendships are from others. I also found love which I would never have done if I wasn't open to those greater connections. How you use the site is up to you OP, of course it is, there's no right or wrong way to go about things (so long as you're not hurting anyone or being a dick). I just think that by closing out the opportunity to make connections you're robbing yourself of the chance of something better. " Nicely put | |||
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"to be honest op.anyone who gets "funny"over you sending a text daying happy new year its probably a good thing you only daw yhem once. Imagine tne drama if you saw them twice "That’s probably why I never went back.... we just didn’t click the first time.... | |||
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"I think things have got a little lost along the way here with regards to phones and the like! With regards to your OP, there are loads of benefits as to having friends. When I first joined the site several years ago I looked on it as a sex site, however after a while I met a few people who I became closer to. I developed friendships and realised just how valuable and different those friendships are from others. I also found love which I would never have done if I wasn't open to those greater connections. How you use the site is up to you OP, of course it is, there's no right or wrong way to go about things (so long as you're not hurting anyone or being a dick). I just think that by closing out the opportunity to make connections you're robbing yourself of the chance of something better. Hmm in 10 years I’ve evolved a lot.... the first 1-5 years I was like a kid in a candy store.... the last 5 years I’ve found my feet in the swinging world and know what I like and don’t like..... I have met some great people in these 10 years .. but I don’t spend holidays with them nor would I ask them for help.... I’m not a cold hearted freak.... I just have a huge family and social circle outside the swinging world. That I can rely on for anything... Now I don’t know if your friends , co workers and family know you’re a swinger.... but I don’t lie to my friends and family.... I would have to make up a story as how I know someone if I invited someone from the swinging world to the vanilla world... The great people I have met are my sex partners.... without the sex there is no partnership..." That's fine, as I say; you're entirely justified to run your profile as you wish. I must admit, there was a degree of fudging when I introduced my ex partner to my non swinging friends but it was worth it. Again I'm not preaching, plenty of people keep the two completely separate and are happy with that. If you don't want that relationship with people from here then that's great, it does have its benefits though, hence why people do it. | |||
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"I think things have got a little lost along the way here with regards to phones and the like! With regards to your OP, there are loads of benefits as to having friends. When I first joined the site several years ago I looked on it as a sex site, however after a while I met a few people who I became closer to. I developed friendships and realised just how valuable and different those friendships are from others. I also found love which I would never have done if I wasn't open to those greater connections. How you use the site is up to you OP, of course it is, there's no right or wrong way to go about things (so long as you're not hurting anyone or being a dick). I just think that by closing out the opportunity to make connections you're robbing yourself of the chance of something better. Hmm in 10 years I’ve evolved a lot.... the first 1-5 years I was like a kid in a candy store.... the last 5 years I’ve found my feet in the swinging world and know what I like and don’t like..... I have met some great people in these 10 years .. but I don’t spend holidays with them nor would I ask them for help.... I’m not a cold hearted freak.... I just have a huge family and social circle outside the swinging world. That I can rely on for anything... Now I don’t know if your friends , co workers and family know you’re a swinger.... but I don’t lie to my friends and family.... I would have to make up a story as how I know someone if I invited someone from the swinging world to the vanilla world... The great people I have met are my sex partners.... without the sex there is no partnership... That's fine, as I say; you're entirely justified to run your profile as you wish. I must admit, there was a degree of fudging when I introduced my ex partner to my non swinging friends but it was worth it. Again I'm not preaching, plenty of people keep the two completely separate and are happy with that. If you don't want that relationship with people from here then that's great, it does have its benefits though, hence why people do it. " Thank you , great post.... | |||
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