FabSwingers.com forum: Honest profiles

By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

We have a couples profile (as that’s what we are and want to be honest about it) but it is only myself (the male) who is looking to play. There seems to be plenty of females and couples wanting a guy to join them for fun, but being part of a couple seems to be putting lots off. Wondering why this is? Surely it’s better to meet someone openly from a couple being honest than it is to meet a singleton who may well be lying and cheating around?

Opinions please....am I wrong to be honest here? I hope not! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're probably going to find things a lot easier if you have a single account but put on it that you're OH is aware, and that you're free to play. It'll help with women and couples who are searching for guys and not couples too

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

If you're the only one playing you should have a single guys profile. If you contacted me I'd see you using a couples profile as a way to get around filters. You can still be honest about it on a single profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are male

You will always be treated with suspicion here

Just because you and your wife are happy with your situation, don't expect others to be

Would your wife be happy to have a fem to fem chat with any of your prospective meets to give the consent herself ?

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Very misleading..you will come up as a couple when people are searching..you are a single man.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"If you're the only one playing you should have a single guys profile. If you contacted me I'd see you using a couples profile as a way to get around filters. You can still be honest about it on a single profile. "

Ok, thanks for the advice....thought we were doing the right thing this way (verified as a couple by sending moderator a dated/signed photo of us both together to prove it’s with permission etc) if I had a singles account there’s no verified way of proving you have permission is what we thought.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"You are male

You will always be treated with suspicion here

Just because you and your wife are happy with your situation, don't expect others to be

Would your wife be happy to have a fem to fem chat with any of your prospective meets to give the consent herself ?"

Yes, actually she would....like I say, we verified as a couple to show her consent.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"You're probably going to find things a lot easier if you have a single account but put on it that you're OH is aware, and that you're free to play. It'll help with women and couples who are searching for guys and not couples too

True, hadn’t considered that. Thanks for advice

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Your wife could have a phone call with the peron wanting to meet You

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Keep the couples profile going too and make reference to it on your singles profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are male

You will always be treated with suspicion here

Just because you and your wife are happy with your situation, don't expect others to be

Would your wife be happy to have a fem to fem chat with any of your prospective meets to give the consent herself ?

Yes, actually she would....like I say, we verified as a couple to show her consent."

You could mention that in your profile - or any new one that you create on the back of this thread

I have heard a few people here ask for such chats before any potential meets take place

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

Your wife could have a phone call with the peron wanting to meet You "

Yes, that’s a good idea....when we were chatting to people years ago on another site S D C that’s what we used to actually do to show we were genuine. Thanks

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"Keep the couples profile going too and make reference to it on your singles profile."

Cool idea....thanks guys

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"You are male

You will always be treated with suspicion here

Just because you and your wife are happy with your situation, don't expect others to be

Would your wife be happy to have a fem to fem chat with any of your prospective meets to give the consent herself ?

Yes, actually she would....like I say, we verified as a couple to show her consent.

You could mention that in your profile - or any new one that you create on the back of this thread

I have heard a few people here ask for such chats before any potential meets take place "

Cheers mate ??

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

Thanks for your perspective....we often visit down your way to go fossil hunting, beautiful part of the world x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Having a picture verified couples account doesn't really prove anything OP other than your wife once consented to you both having a profile - it doesn't show her consent to you meeting on your own.

Any reason she's not interested in meeting others, either as part of a couple or on her own? Reason for asking being that people will always be suspicious unless they have a way of verifying with her in some way.

I'm in a similar position to you in that I'm part of a couple but also meet separately - my partner has her own profile here and all three profiles are cross-referenced to one another so there's no room for doubt and if necessary my partner can be contacted independently to verify I have this profile with her knowledge.

Having a single male profile does of course put you in the pool with all the other single males and the problems that can bring for some but with the right attitude, approach and expectations that needn't be a limiting factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your perspective....we often visit down your way to go fossil hunting, beautiful part of the world x"

Ahh so you like the older lady?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find that those who make the most noise about honesty actually tend to be telling porkies.

Call me cynical, but my ex tried that old chestnut in court - swore on oath and then proceeded to lie through her teeth. Fortunately, the Judge saw right through her.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If a "couple" on a couples profile contact me and it then transpires to be the male half wanting to play alone I find it dubious to say the least.

As per above , set up a singles profile.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"Having a picture verified couples account doesn't really prove anything OP other than your wife once consented to you both having a profile - it doesn't show her consent to you meeting on your own.

The verification photo was dated on the night we sent it a few weeks back, but get your point, the longer I’m here the more relevant your point becomes in that she just consented at some point!

We have an old profile on S D C with the same user name from years ago, when initially we were looking for FF and FMF and FFM play as she was curious, she never had any interest in letting alone or with other guys, having tried these curiosities our she decided that whilst she was happy for me to continue having fun it’s not something she’s particularly interested in (unless it’s a spontaneous unicorn meet at some point) has no interest in the pre planned type of meet and so having discussed it decided we’d create this profile for me to search with. Feel free to check out our old profile and you will see old verifications on there too.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

Thanks for your perspective....we often visit down your way to go fossil hunting, beautiful part of the world x

Ahh so you like the older lady?

Haha....age doesn’t actually bother me to be fair....but go hunting for genuine fossils

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"If a "couple" on a couples profile contact me and it then transpires to be the male half wanting to play alone I find it dubious to say the least.

As per above , set up a singles profile.

Cool, thanks for your input.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I'd still ask to chat to the partner on the phone first anyway ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no easy answer. If you are a single male saying your wife knows suspicious people won't believe you, if you are a couples profile but only the male plays then you are circumventing filters. Couples looking for single males will probably filter you out.

The other option is to have one of each and link to each other. I think though, if your wife doesn't play at all admin might close the couples account.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"If a "couple" on a couples profile contact me and it then transpires to be the male half wanting to play alone I find it dubious to say the least.

As per above , set up a singles profile.

I think from what I’m reading here that’s definitely the best idea, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The photo verification only proves at some point your wife agreed to it, she may well have said after a couple of days, no I am not interested delete the profile. and you did not,

if its just you looking the comment re unicorns?

If you messaged us it would be report as you have the wrong profile and delete

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"The photo verification only proves at some point your wife agreed to it, she may well have said after a couple of days, no I am not interested delete the profile. and you did not,

if its just you looking the comment re unicorns?

If you messaged us it would be report as you have the wrong profile and delete"

Because if we were to meet a unicorn then we would still play together.....but they are called unicorns for a reason!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The photo verification only proves at some point your wife agreed to it, she may well have said after a couple of days, no I am not interested delete the profile. and you did not,

if its just you looking the comment re unicorns?

If you messaged us it would be report as you have the wrong profile and delete

Because if we were to meet a unicorn then we would still play together.....but they are called unicorns for a reason!! Lol"

But you say she is not playing

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"The photo verification only proves at some point your wife agreed to it, she may well have said after a couple of days, no I am not interested delete the profile. and you did not,

if its just you looking the comment re unicorns?

If you messaged us it would be report as you have the wrong profile and delete

Because if we were to meet a unicorn then we would still play together.....but they are called unicorns for a reason!! Lol

She is not ‘looking’ to play, if you read the profile and all the above responses re previous account etc you will understand.

But you say she is not playing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" She is not ‘looking’ to play, if you read the profile and all the above responses re previous account etc you will understand. "

Then if she is not looking, your words, she will not find anyone so your couples profile is redundant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about how you are going to put potential playmates at ease on whether your partner truely approves of you playing or not. This is the crux not what type of profile you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet one half of a couple. I would if the partner was unaware though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interestingly we have a couples profile but I’ve always played alone (Mrs). We’ve kept it as a couples one because although hubby doesn’t meet, it was his interest/fantasy that brought us here and he likes to be acknowledged too, as well as read the messages, etc. Never have we considered it deceptive and guys don’t seem to have had an issue with it at all, doubted my honesty, or raised any of the other concerns mentioned here to the OP

Mrs F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interestingly we have a couples profile but I’ve always played alone (Mrs). We’ve kept it as a couples one because although hubby doesn’t meet, it was his interest/fantasy that brought us here and he likes to be acknowledged too, as well as read the messages, etc. Never have we considered it deceptive and guys don’t seem to have had an issue with it at all, doubted my honesty, or raised any of the other concerns mentioned here to the OP

Mrs F x"

You have a fanny though

You know that means you are treated differently here than someone with a cock and balls

If the roles were reversed and your husband wrote this, I dare say he would have received the same response as the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs F x

You have a fanny though

You know that means you are treated differently here than someone with a cock and balls

If the roles were reversed and your husband wrote this, I dare say he would have received the same response as the OP"

Exactly what I was wondering as I read through it all!

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For some reason my replies are not posting?!!"

They weren't honest enough dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs F x

You have a fanny though

You know that means you are treated differently here than someone with a cock and balls

If the roles were reversed and your husband wrote this, I dare say he would have received the same response as the OP

Exactly what I was wondering as I read through it all!"

Absolutely. Maybe it’s men that are less trustworthy on here. Whatever is put into a profile is taken with a pinch of salt anyway.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"For some reason my replies are not posting?!!

They weren't honest enough dude "

Obviously lol

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"I don't meet one half of a couple. I would if the partner was unaware though. "

So you’re saying you’d actually prefer someone who was cheating than someone who was being honest and playing with permission? A strange but interesting outlook on it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with that is, women like me, who are looking for a single man, will block couples from messaging them. You would have to mail me from your single male account anyway.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

This is great to hear, thanks for the supportive message, though I do wonder if the difference is me being a man and you being a woman changes peoples views on it?

Interestingly as well, you are looking for a single guy, my forum replies were not working so I tried to send you a message and your profile has couples blocked? So although you’re doing exactly what I’m doing and support me in theory, you actually block any prospect of someone in our position contacting you??

Mrs F x"

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"The problem with that is, women like me, who are looking for a single man, will block couples from messaging them. You would have to mail me from your single male account anyway."

Yet your profile states “not looking for single guys”....this place confuses me a lot! Lol

Maybe I should just not try to understand it haha

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Obviously if you're a man who plays alone you should have a single male profile. If you want to head up that you are attached and playing with your partners consent, you can put that and say she will confirm over the phone if need be.

We get a number of messages from alleged couples where "only the male is playing at the moment". It pisses us off. I suspect we're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem with that is, women like me, who are looking for a single man, will block couples from messaging them. You would have to mail me from your single male account anyway.

Yet your profile states “not looking for single guys”....this place confuses me a lot! Lol

Maybe I should just not try to understand it haha "

It's a default thing the site adds to a profile when single men are blocked. If I didn't block them I would have a million messages to answer every day. When I want more messages to answer I unblock single men. Makes life on here so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of couples and single females, block single men from contacting them, by having a couples profile you were trying to get around that block. a single lady would not have that problem

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"The problem with that is, women like me, who are looking for a single man, will block couples from messaging them. You would have to mail me from your single male account anyway.

Yet your profile states “not looking for single guys”....this place confuses me a lot! Lol

Maybe I should just not try to understand it haha

Single women have 100s a day. Most will use block single men to control that. Must say it does actually stop me fliritng with couples that meet single guys

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"The problem with that is, women like me, who are looking for a single man, will block couples from messaging them. You would have to mail me from your single male account anyway.

Yet your profile states “not looking for single guys”....this place confuses me a lot! Lol

Maybe I should just not try to understand it haha

Lol....ah that makes sense! Yes, I can imagine single females get bombarded.

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By *easeme13 OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough Kettering harrowden isham Northampton Milton Keynes

"A lot of couples and single females, block single men from contacting them, by having a couples profile you were trying to get around that block. a single lady would not have that problem "

No.....I WASN’T trying to get round it, it’s a new profile set up like that from the beginning and was trying to be HONEST, hence the forum post about it and trying to understand. I am not a single guy, which is why WE didn’t set up a single guys account, we set this account up one evening as a couple as that’s what we are and stated our wishes on it! But thanks for your judgmental tuppence worth, much appreciated!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Good to see you've changed the profile to a single male one OP - that's the first step at least

Hope it works out for you

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over a year ago

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Good to see you've changed the profile to a single male one OP - that's the first step at least

Hope it works out for you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops thought it said hottest profile sorry fab habbit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So as she knows and allows you to play alone. Both of you go on cam a get verified with saying that. Then you can prove everyone wrong

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Too complicated, too much hassle to be truthful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is great to hear, thanks for the supportive message, though I do wonder if the difference is me being a man and you being a woman changes peoples views on it?

Mrs F x"

Yes.. because my confidence is such that I wouldn’t meet a guy who might go and discuss me with his other half in case I didn’t match up to them so I won’t consider someone from a couple. I know it’s flawed and that I have issues by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't meet one half of a couple. I would if the partner was unaware though.

So you’re saying you’d actually prefer someone who was cheating than someone who was being honest and playing with permission? A strange but interesting outlook on it!!"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just chatted to the OP and his wife on cam and yes she is happy for him to meet and play with others

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The profile you have posted this thread from says you are a couple solely seeking a unicorn but you have two pics of the male only and not even any of her details. Very confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile you have posted this thread from says you are a couple solely seeking a unicorn but you have two pics of the male only and not even any of her details. Very confusing. "

Sally I assume you are talking about the op, yes it is, hes made an attempt to explain in this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just throwing this out there... if a guy like the OP did what he thought was the honest thing and posted in good faith that he’s on here with his wife’s permission, I totally respect that and OP has taken advice here and changed it to a single guys profile so it shows he wants to get it right on here (hats off to you dude)

So women who do the same and go single on a couples profile are exempt from being asked to do the same?

When I first joined on here, I had a male friend who also logged into my profile to keep an eye out for me and give me some guidance on what I should and shouldn’t do. I can’t even begin to say how helpful it was when I was apprehensive about being on here.

So my question is, those who are using couples profiles to play single with partner consent / knowledge what stops you giving your partner your log in details so that you can 1) be honest in your single profile and explain you are on here with their knowledge and 2) the trust is maintained between you and your loved one 3) the female still has the security of her OH keeping an eye on her safety

Just a thought, but it’s a win win solution to me.

Happy fabbing y’all lovely peeps x

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