FabSwingers.com forum: How many sexual hang-up do you have?

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Come on, really? How many?

How often do you find yourself thinking of others as desperate because they do things different to you?

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people? For example dogging, a free for all gangbang, group sex with total strangers.

How many times have you held back from implying you think you are better than some other people because you think you are more selective, meet less people, have higher standards… fussy…. or whatever.

Come on, really? How many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people?

Is judging people a sexual hang up?

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Dogging is exciting if it weren't having to knockback and police those that aren't to our liking.

Gangbangs whilst we're open minded we have noticed don't really stimulate us, that may be our inexperience. We didn,t feel uncomfortable walking past a bed of ten or so playing it just did notheing for either of us.

We don't ever feel better nor inferior to anyone. We/get that vide or don't.

We are rather kinky so of course explore bi meets in terms of singles and couples.

Both like the having tgirls amongst our friends and playmates.

No hang ups with colour,religion or nationality - in fact we often talk about the wish in meeting sexy Eastern European ladies/guys. Don't want to stereotype but they are different in their make up due to the previous years of communism and that aura is attractive. Almost stern,confident and great bodies due to lack of fast food crap like maccy dees et al.

So no not many really.

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people?

Is judging people a sexual hang up? "

It depends what you are judging them on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people?

Is judging people a sexual hang up?

It depends what you are judging them on."

on being 'desperate'

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people?

Is judging people a sexual hang up?

It depends what you are judging them on.

on being 'desperate'"

Yeah I'd say it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None! Ok there are things that don't interest me but they are far from hangups just preferences in life like i have with 1001 other things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see any hangups, just things that don't fit into the "fantasy" for me

It doesn't bother me one little bit what others want or don't want to do

I'm not into any kind of bum fun, and I don't fantasize over BBW's for instance but I don't accept them as hangups

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Hm well... we don't really do any of those things from personal preference but don't think of it as a sexual hangup anymore than any of our other preferences. We defend our right to have preferences and that of others who feel differently. We all have different comfort zones don't we? Some of us do need a connection to feel comfortable and often meeting likeminded people is part of that. Doesn't really matter what group or type you consider yourself does it? Personally not bothered what other people choose to do. I make my own choices and have every right to as do everyone else.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"How many times have you held back from implying you think you are better than some other people because you think you are more selective, meet less people, have higher standards… fussy…. or whatever."

I was unaware that people judged others for meeting a lot of people! I must be evil incarnate to them then!

Oh well, sucks to be them!

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Don't see any hangups, just things that don't fit into the "fantasy" for me

It doesn't bother me one little bit what others want or don't want to do

I'm not into any kind of bum fun, and I don't fantasize over BBW's for instance but I don't accept them as hangups

I totally agree with what you are saying... especially the bit about "things that don't fit into the "fantasy" for me".

But I do see it as a person's 'hang-up' when they insist on putting down those who do see it as part of their fantasy.

So if someone were to say (using your example) "I'm not so desperate that I need to offer my arse just to get a shag" or "people who will shag a fat bird must be desperate and have no standards"... then I would see it as a hang-up on their part. Not for not wanting to, but for being so closed minded as to not understand and accept what makes the fantasy work for others.

Then there are those who have use for the word 'slag'.... may be hang-up is too nicer phrase.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Bloody el....

Loads!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have quite a few.. now I dont really...

Not really into two men kissing etc.. and still not into things like watersports. but they are things I am not into rather than not doing because I worry what others think.

I used to worry what people would think when I meet sometimes a few times a day.. now I dont care..

All that matters to me is what Master and I get out of it..

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest the only hang up as such is bareback sex, we find this very strange and dangerous, will the infections people can catch, and even if people say they will play safe with us we wouldnt meet them anyway due to the bareback issue in our minds, this doesnt make us narrow minded tho!!!

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"to be honest the only hang up as such is bareback sex, we find this very strange and dangerous, will the infections people can catch, and even if people say they will play safe with us we wouldnt meet them anyway due to the bareback issue in our minds, this doesnt make us narrow minded tho!!!"

I pretty much have that very same hang-up.... and I do put down (with the term 'spermbucket') those who will happily have the jizz of a dozen men dripping from them.

I like to think I don't have many more of them though... may be I'll find a few more as time goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In truth I had a lot before swinging, but over time, meeting and talking to people who enjoy the things I disapproved of, and learning and gaining a deeper understanding, I am certainly more liberal and have even found myself partaking in things that I said were no nos in the past. I feel I'm constantly learning.

But the 'hangups' for me at this present time are:-

Squirting - especially women who try and convince others its an orgasm when they squirt, and the men who feel all women want to do this.

BDSM - not so much the softcore whipping, spanking but men using physical violence to bruise or break the skin on women

Greedy girls - not a gangbang but a woman taking on a line of men and having penetrative sex one after another, has to entail more than 3 men

Bukkake - women allowing men to cum all over them

I don't think I'm better than people who enjoy these things, but at this moment in time I wouldn't do it.

And for the amount of people, particularly women who say they are 'picky' on a regular basis on these forums, and its a lot, then I hope they are going to brave and own up.

How many people have hangups over the amount of verifications someone has for example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, really? How many?

How often do you find yourself thinking of others as desperate because they do things different to you?

Come on, really? How many?

me with some of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question but never thought it was any of our business really, will go away and ponder lol.

Have noted though that quite a few profiles specify "no doggers". Often wonder if they actually know what dogging is and what it entails. To us its like a swingers club outdoors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads

Oops you said hang ups not outs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who the other person is, some things I will do with one, but not the other...

Not much I haven't done, has to be an mutual interest and trust

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what others do really doesn't bother me as long as it is consenting & not involving the vulnerable.

I don't like certain things but if all involved are happy... hey ho, their choice.

I am certainly not better than anyone on here... exactly the same, nowt more, nowt less.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

I was unaware that people judged others for meeting a lot of people! I must be evil incarnate to them then!

Oh well, sucks to be them!"

you didnt see newguys thread then

i find monogamy hard to understand...is pity a hang up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pretty much have that very same hang-up.... and I do put down (with the term 'spermbucket') those who will happily have the jizz of a dozen men dripping from them.

I like to think I don't have many more of them though... may be I'll find a few more as time goes on."

oooooo now there was me gonna say not one single one until i saw these posts

that one is my hang up too i can't deny i try very hard not to judge those that do it but when i'm totally honest deep down i do judge them

all other things if its not my bag i can still sppreciate that others get a thrill out of it

although i can't deny one of my biggest fantasies is a bareback gangbang its really is great bean flicking material gets both of us going but we know its one that will never happen ever and admire the honesty of those that do do it and say and what its my choice but deep down there is a small bit of me that thinks bloody lunatic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have got a hang up about guys who try to shove their cock in my mouth.

Now I do like to enjoy this sport and practice often enough, but when I am ready.

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By *orkmalewithPAMan
over a year ago

York

None really I think I would be willing to try anything once.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Scat...everything about it...do i look down on people that do it, i spose i do...i dont understand what possible pleasure people would get from shitting on each other etc....each to their own

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"None really I think I would be willing to try anything once."

so...crucifiction porn ,and since filling the scrotum with saline solution then beating it is now filmable (see the micheal peacock verdict) can u get here friday...i have a film i really want to make.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I never consider people desparate.

I have standards that some don't meet in aspects such as:- manners, lifestyle, attitude , looks , personality and I won't meet them, BUT I have the reasoning to know that my standard is not higher than others simply different.

I have no hang ups but there are acts I won't take part in.

I'd never openly discuss my sexual likes and dislikes they are not even on my profile.

That's not a hang up it's a strategy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. That's what I say.

I do what I'm happy to do and other do the same.

No hang up. Just being comfortable, happy and safe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, really? How many?

How often do you find yourself thinking of others as desperate because they do things different to you?

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people? For example dogging, a free for all gangbang, group sex with total strangers.

Come on, really? How many?

honestly none at all

Ive had gang bangs, ive had last min meets, ive met total stanger within a hour of talking to them, i'll try anything at all

I dont judge others by what they do, if people are into scatt fair play to them so long as everyones adults and enjoying themsleves so what? i would also meet people who did scatt so long as they understood it wasnt for me

Ive had guys turn me down for liking water sports because they only meet 'clean people' lol i had a guy turn down a meet because i had had sex the night before and he didnt like the idea of playing with someone who had had another cock in them that close to him, ive hear it all actually lol

We are all on here for our own reasons, some like to chat for weeks and make friends with who they meet and only want to meet a 'select few' others, like me lol like more variety, im not into on going meets i like one off and that puts some guys off too, ive had a few say things like if we get on it could be a regular thing and when ive said i dont do re meets they get a little offended acting like im implying i wont like them enough to meet them again then go onto saying..yesh but surely if we click? and after another no from me and saying i prefer one offs some just disappear or start with childish comments like...well im not after someone whos just looking to fuck their way round the site

which again is fair enough so long as your honest about what your after

Some on here do feel they have swinging sorted and its either their way or your doing it wrong, i get lots of messages from couples who feel because im a single woman i should meet them because thats what swinging is all about or as i said above people telling me if you get on its the done thing to meet again or women on here are just expected to play with other woman as its just some kind of un written rule to some, and there are a lot of people who do this who have no problem pushing their _iews and opinions on others who choose to 'swing' differently to them

How i choose to do this is my business alone surely? same as how other do it is theirs

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Each to their own. That's what I say.

I do what I'm happy to do and other do the same.

No hang up. Just being comfortable, happy and safe!

This.

I am quite surprised at how many people on here have admitted to thinking badly of others because of what they like to do sex wise. Really opened my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own. That's what I say.

I do what I'm happy to do and other do the same.

No hang up. Just being comfortable, happy and safe!

This.

I am quite surprised at how many people on here have admitted to thinking badly of others because of what they like to do sex wise. Really opened my eyes.

I'm not.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Each to their own. That's what I say.

I do what I'm happy to do and other do the same.

No hang up. Just being comfortable, happy and safe!

This.

I am quite surprised at how many people on here have admitted to thinking badly of others because of what they like to do sex wise. Really opened my eyes.

I'm not.

I like to think well of people. Naive I guess.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

some things i wont do, some i will,but thats my preference and it doesnt make me better or worse than the next person,in real life,as in swingers life,my moto is each to their own and good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, really? How many?

How often do you find yourself thinking of others as desperate because they do things different to you?

How many sexual activities wouldn’t you do because you judge them as being done by desperate people? For example dogging, a free for all gangbang, group sex with total strangers.

Come on, really? How many?

Each to their own I say. I can honestly say it doesn't even cross my mind to be judgemental, but then again there's not a great deal we wouldn't do so maybe i'm just on the receiving end of it all. But really, who gives a toss. I really couldn't care less what people thought of what we do, we enjoy it!! xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My Sexual hang ups at the moment are I just don't get enough sex!!

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

2.4 last time I counted but that could change if inflation rises.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

us personally, wouldnt be any gay bi guy stuff, yeah i know this wont sit well with some but it's just us and not our thing, oh i dont like to show my belly bit of a mummy tummy so dont do full naked though i have pix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

myself, many. But I'm not the only one to invite a girl to sleep with me and not doing anything with her.

Some behavior like arrogance, being judging I think its because of dysfunctional families.

I've recently read what polyamory is and it sounds cool. Never heartbroken!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"myself, many. But I'm not the only one to invite a girl to sleep with me and not doing anything with her.

Some behavior like arrogance, being judging I think its because of dysfunctional families.

I've recently read what polyamory is and it sounds cool. Never heartbroken!"

It doesnt mean that at all...the more people you love the more opportunity for heartbreal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever given a shit who or what other people are shagging or how, even at school when the bitchy girls would be gossiping about 'who's doin' who' I really didn't care, and I guess I still don't.

I've been surprised on here more than once by posters, slating people with too many 'verifications'

I don't really get that.

There are things for sure I wouldn't partake in, cos I'd be icked-out, but I don't give a toss if someone else is doing it

I used to have looooads of 'hang-up's' about sex, but they were always my own, and about 'me' not anyone else.

I'll all better now though

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Ours is swinging, in the accepted sense..so that rules us out of what we would/wouldnt do I guess..

The rest of the things we would class as 'turn ons/offs' to actually watch, maybe on a film etc..so hang ups on that front are...

Bukkake..ok the respondent may enjoy it (she is often being paid to)..we think it looks horrible..

Fisting...doesnt do anything for us visually or physically

Women dressed as school girls..neither of us like the connotation/suggestion of it...ok it might be 'just a bit of fun, St Trinians and all that...but not for us.

Gagging...same as Bukkake...ok its all made up but it just leans a little bit much towards 'violent' for us..

TV/TS...Does nothing for me..

Male gay porn...not for me (male)

And no scat, anything illegal or plain weird..

Sorry folks we are old fashioned 'purveyors of porn'...not really into the more modern porn that pushes the boundaries...Big John Holmes, comes to fix the swimming pool..bored housewife in the Hollywood Hills etc...you know the rest!!! thats us! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's plenty of things that I wouldn't do: the 3 P's for instance, playing with another bloke, dogging, taking part in a gangbang...

but this is because the idea of those things does nothing for me whatsoever.

Would I judge someone who does like those things though? Absolutely not! It'd be like judging someone for watching soaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be like judging someone for watching soaps"

There are a few 'soapists' on this site unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge others on their sexual preferences, and I don't have hang ups as such, just preferences!

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