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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like the “im not looking to shag the entire site” on single guys profiles, bet most would if they got the offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just me,that means good old me and I can’t and won’t change that.

So if I’m no good chuck me in the bin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" No mingers"

And not too many of them either

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Only good looking people" is another. To me that means "only vain people", which would be an odd thing to want if they meant it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im looking for people i fancy more orgasmic the better pls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""Only good looking people" is another. To me that means "only vain people", which would be an odd thing to want if they meant it that way."

Why would they be vain?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Means different things to different people.

For me, I'm not looking for quantity as in an endless string of meets with numerous different people but am looking to meet people that I get on with and have a connection and chemistry with (which is what defines *my* quality).

British Standards kite mark not required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of big dicks. Not loads of average dick"?

C

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos "

Upset about what? People still have sex outside of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos

Upset about what? People still have sex outside of Fab. "

I know this, I don't go out to meet men, this is my venue to meet potentials.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Is quality the same as genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?"

Something that's worth the wait x

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


""Only good looking people" is another. To me that means "only vain people", which would be an odd thing to want if they meant it that way.

Why would they be vain?"

Don’t get that either. Everybody’s idea of somebody good looking is different, don’t see why somebody would be vain if you found them good looking??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos

Upset about what? People still have sex outside of Fab.

I know this, I don't go out to meet men, this is my venue to meet potentials. "

Sorry I meant hopefully you can still fuck him even though he went unlos. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is quality the same as genuine? "

What is genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Il have both

The girls i fancy lots of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos

Upset about what? People still have sex outside of Fab.

I know this, I don't go out to meet men, this is my venue to meet potentials.

Sorry I meant hopefully you can still fuck him even though he went unlos. x"

That's me all over, not explaining myself properly, sorry! We had a disagreement and basically instead of acting like a 47year old, he decided to be a pussy and go unlos and block me outside of Fab.

My search continues, sigh...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I don't want lots of cock, just the right type of goldilocks cock will do me. Especially now my fb has gotten all upset and gone unlos

Upset about what? People still have sex outside of Fab.

I know this, I don't go out to meet men, this is my venue to meet potentials.

Sorry I meant hopefully you can still fuck him even though he went unlos. x

That's me all over, not explaining myself properly, sorry! We had a disagreement and basically instead of acting like a 47year old, he decided to be a pussy and go unlos and block me outside of Fab.

My search continues, sigh... "

Don't apologise at all, I wouldn't mind if you told me to fuck off for being nosey!

Ah well in that case it's crap but a lucky escape, believe me. I had similar with a 45 year old man-child. The sex wasn't good enough to override his shitty behaviour.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare


"What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?"

It seems to be a meaningless stock phrase along with "not looking to fuck the whole site".

Whenever I see it on someones profile, I get the impression that they shoved it on there to try and make what they're doing seem more sophisticated, or themselves less "slutty"/"manwhorish".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get off way more on a strong mental connection which is more difficult to find, therefore will result in less meets.

I get zero out of quick meets so don't do them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people get off way more on a strong mental connection which is more difficult to find, therefore will result in less meets.

I get zero out of quick meets so don't do them. "

Same here not my bag at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?"

I always find it am odd thing to put on a profile on a singers site. It's a phrase that seems to judge swingers negatively for swinging. I also wonder if anyone falls for the false sincerity of being 'quality' when approached!

I understand the preference just think it's a shot way to express it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a nice way of saying "no uglies or fatties" I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people get off way more on a strong mental connection which is more difficult to find, therefore will result in less meets.

I get zero out of quick meets so don't do them. "

This ^, I can find someone incredibly physically attractive,but if they do not excite me mentally it’s a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick meets don't work for me.

Also understand I don't appeal to many.

Better to chose wisely and your time as an investment.

We all like a return on any investment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it to mean people who are more specific about what they’re looking for and won’t just meet anyone, and perhaps aren’t interested in random one offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?"

It means I’ll fuck anything on the site but I want you to think I’m selective, and your special and lucky that I chose to message you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What does this mean?

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?

What 'quantity' is too much and how is it defined?

It means I’ll fuck anything on the site but I want you to think I’m selective, and your special and lucky that I chose to message you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's just a nice way of saying "no uglies or fatties" I guess?"

Are uglies or fatties not quality? Some people think they are.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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Why would they be vain?

Don’t get that either. Everybody’s idea of somebody good looking is different, don’t see why somebody would be vain if you found them good looking?? "

To clarify, if someone wants "good looking", then the person replying needs to think of themselves as good looking in order to reply - which, because as you correctly say "good looking" is mainly subjective, requires at least a degree of vanity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Only good looking people" is another. To me that means "only vain people", which would be an odd thing to want if they meant it that way."

So now being attractive is a new form of shaming?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely in order to find quality you may well have to compromise on quantity. As the old saying goes, you have to kiss a few frogs to find your Prince

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that it means they prefer regular meets rather than lots of different people. The meets do get better (therefore quality) with regular meets because you know what makes the other person tick

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Why would they be vain?

Don’t get that either. Everybody’s idea of somebody good looking is different, don’t see why somebody would be vain if you found them good looking??

To clarify, if someone wants "good looking", then the person replying needs to think of themselves as good looking in order to reply - which, because as you correctly say "good looking" is mainly subjective, requires at least a degree of vanity.

"

I see what you mean.

I don't think all attractive people are vain though. It's just a fact for some attractive people.

Same as my age or hair colour is a fact and me stating those things doesn't mean I'm vain. Hope that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say that it means they prefer regular meets rather than lots of different people. The meets do get better (therefore quality) with regular meets because you know what makes the other person tick "

That's a positive slant on it that I hadn't thought of. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use the phrase in my profile, but it may well be appropriate to do so

I am quite happy and settled in my life outside of Fab

One side effect of that is that I have little or no interest sexually in 99% of the people here

I love chatting in here, I enjoy 1 on 1 socials and I enjoy exchanging messages with people from the forums

Pretty much everyone else is ignored and messages (especially from other men) get deleted pretty much instantly unless I recognise them from the forums

However, I would never rule out a sex meet with someone if both they and the mood took my fancy

That could be with a random and out of the blue or with someone I had previously met where there was a little spark

The quality of my Fab life has improved dramatically since becoming less driven by the sex and more by knowing more about the other aspects of the lifestyle and getting to know a few more people within it

By default, the quantity of sex meets has dropped

So, for me, quality (of the Fab experience) over quantity (of meets) is definitely something that works well

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

I see what you mean.

I don't think all attractive people are vain though. It's just a fact for some attractive people.

Same as my age or hair colour is a fact and me stating those things doesn't mean I'm vain. Hope that makes sense. "

I agree that some people are, for want of a better phrase, objectively attractive, in the same way that your hair colour can be objectively defined.

But my view was that asking people to self-identify as attractive is likely to

-rule out the modest (and the hideous, obviously! )

-attract the self-appointed attractive people

...and that that would be an unhelpful criteria to choose to apply.

However, I've now spent so long arguing that case that it's going to start to look like an obsession...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What makes a person be of a 'quality' standard?"

This basically...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me quality meens puting the woman or couples needs before my own and quantity meens i want to fuck an dont give a dam about the woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I see what you mean.

I don't think all attractive people are vain though. It's just a fact for some attractive people.

Same as my age or hair colour is a fact and me stating those things doesn't mean I'm vain. Hope that makes sense.

I agree that some people are, for want of a better phrase, objectively attractive, in the same way that your hair colour can be objectively defined.

But my view was that asking people to self-identify as attractive is likely to

-rule out the modest (and the hideous, obviously! )

-attract the self-appointed attractive people

...and that that would be an unhelpful criteria to choose to apply.

However, I've now spent so long arguing that case that it's going to start to look like an obsession... "

That makes sense. Sorry it took me a while to get what you meant!

You don't seem obsessed at all. I appreciate you explaining your thoughts.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It basically implies that the person prefers Quality Street over Cadbury’s Roses and are thus a big numpty with questionable taste in chocolate confectionerys.

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