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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, I am not a bad looking guy, average size nice looking cock. But I just can’t seem to stand out fo the crowd. Not pushy, needy or anything, genuine nice guy just looking for fun in the south west area.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Hey, I am not a bad looking guy, average size nice looking cock. But I just can’t seem to stand out fo the crowd. Not pushy, needy or anything, genuine nice guy just looking for fun in the south west area. "

More and better pics! That's the way forward!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Wear a funny hat.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Put some info in your profile and add some more pictures

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oh and write something dammit!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought I would keep my dick pics in the friend only.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I thought I would keep my dick pics in the friend only. "

It doesn't have to be dick pics though

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Profile definitely needs a lot more effort on all accounts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what pics are ladies after?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what pics are ladies after?"

Look at the guys who have success on here, should give you an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you expect anyone to have anything at all to base a conversation with you on, when you have no idea what to say?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"How do you expect anyone to have anything at all to base a conversation with you on, when you have no idea what to say?

"

Exactly

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Hey, I am not a bad looking guy, average size nice looking cock. But I just can’t seem to stand out fo the crowd. Not pushy, needy or anything, genuine nice guy just looking for fun in the south west area. "

A person is more than just a cock, and potential meets probably want to know more about you than that (unless they're particularly shallow)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What kind of person are you?

What are you looking for?

What do you think you have to offer?

How do you think you might be different?

Questions to answer on your profile.

Pictures, a variety of body shots works well, particularly well taken or arty ones. If you do have a public cock shot, make it among several other pictures which are tasteful. Make the cock shot relatively tasteful (clean, not covered in cum, not an extreme close up, not over the toilet or sink).

Be polite, interesting, and personal in messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest "

How would you approach someone when your out when they ask you to tell them a bit about yourself, what you're looking for, what you can offer. It's hard but try to inject your personality into your profile, have fun with photos, this is your opportunity to sell yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey, I am not a bad looking guy, average size nice looking cock. But I just can’t seem to stand out fo the crowd. Not pushy, needy or anything, genuine nice guy just looking for fun in the south west area. "

Being a decent looking chap just isn't enough

You need to find a way of introducing yourself, engaging people and grabbing their interest

More often than not, that is achieved with words - as well as piccies

Oh and getting yourself out there to events, clubs and socials may help too

Luck rarely comes into play

A measured approach and a few pinches of patience should hopefully see you through

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Wear various fancy dress costumes... And Re name yourself Mr Ben

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all the advice

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No profile other than to ask for lessons & to have a pop at TGs.

Not cool. To stand out read the other 2.73 million forum threads on this topic. Learn from what you read and make an effort.

Being average with a nice dick is not what women are generally looking for. Being a gentleman, amusing and polite is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.

Expand on what you can offer and what you are looking for, but be modest with it. Also, think about the sort of women you want to meet. If you target everyone, they will think any hole's a goal.

Be honest. Fibbers get found out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be a sheep

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest "

And it won't make much difference try a club or social go out actually meet people rather then the time wasters, fakes, and ego maniacs you get on here.

Don't wait for the fun come to you go find fun.

Good luck

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest "

So you're up for 'anything'?

Bi sex? Being pegged by an 80 year old wearing a 14" strap on? Being tied to a chair and waxed from head to toe?

And would you really meet a 98 year old?

Because I suspect you possibly did't really mean 'anything' when you typed it.

A

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest

And it won't make much difference try a club or social go out actually meet people rather then the time wasters, fakes, and ego maniacs you get on here.

Don't wait for the fun come to you go find fun.

Good luck"

Very true.

In these situations I always recommend a bit of research. Take a look around, read other people's profiles and work out why they work. What would you like to read about yourself?

I took a few days to put mine together, some take less, some more. A well thought out profile definitely stands out.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Not really sure what to write in the profiles. Just been honest

So you're up for 'anything'?

Bi sex? Being pegged by an 80 year old wearing a 14" strap on? Being tied to a chair and waxed from head to toe?

And would you really meet a 98 year old?

Because I suspect you possibly did't really mean 'anything' when you typed it.

A"

You never know, that could be their kink after all

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No profile other than to ask for lessons & to have a pop at TGs.

Not cool. To stand out read the other 2.73 million forum threads on this topic. Learn from what you read and make an effort.

Being average with a nice dick is not what women are generally looking for. Being a gentleman, amusing and polite is "

Yeah, don't be a bigot. If you're not into TVs, block them from messaging you, or politely decline (including deleting without reply). Ditto guys, or anyone else.

And saying you're into anything is either naive or alarming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try to stand out

Just stand for what you believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you expect anyone to have anything at all to base a conversation with you on, when you have no idea what to say?

"

Precisely. To be fair, your opening post reveals quite a bit about you as you seem to be of the impression that it's all about your cock

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"How do you expect anyone to have anything at all to base a conversation with you on, when you have no idea what to say?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Either keep the trousers on or take them off. Having them dangling down at your knees is not a good look and neither is a striped sock over your cock. Try and be a bit more classy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either keep the trousers on or take them off. Having them dangling down at your knees is not a good look and neither is a striped sock over your cock. Try and be a bit more classy."

Sock his wang isn't that small, it's a babies hat not a sock

P

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

hot wife


"What kind of person are you?

What are you looking for?

What do you think you have to offer?

How do you think you might be different?

Questions to answer on your profile.

Pictures, a variety of body shots works well, particularly well taken or arty ones. If you do have a public cock shot, make it among several other pictures which are tasteful. Make the cock shot relatively tasteful (clean, not covered in cum, not an extreme close up, not over the toilet or sink).

Be polite, interesting, and personal in messages. "

And don't measure your cock against a television remote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask all the other guys to take 1 step back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a thought.

To stand out, shouldn't you be able to think for yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a sunflower costume worked for me in a previous life

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