FabSwingers.com forum: Top Tips For Straight Single Males From Couples and Single Females

By *bi Haive OP Man
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Feel free to add any below in the interests of helping out the often (wrongly) bemoaned single men in 2019.

I'll kick things off with a couple.

If messaging couples always bear in mind that it may be the male half online and that a "would you like to suck my huge cock" or "fancy a fuck' style message may result in an unwanted "yes" if he's bi. Or fabstraight.

If you accidentally say "fuck" on a kiss/fuck/pass thread and some other guy appears above your comment don't delete it in a panic that you've caught "the ghey". You haven't.

Cock pics aren't hated by everyone . If you have a nice wang then flaunt it. If it looks like a dead squirrel then focus on body shots.

Over to you, good people of Fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feel free to add any below in the interests of helping out the often (wrongly) bemoaned single men in 2019.

I'll kick things off with a couple.

If you accidentally say "fuck" on a kiss/fuck/pass thread and some other guy appears above your comment don't delete it in a panic that you've caught "the ghey". You haven't.

Cock pics aren't hated by everyone . If you have a nice wang then flaunt it. If it looks like a dead squirrel then focus on body shots.

Over to you, good people of Fab...

A"
good tips

Dont chase girls when superhorned guys you come of as desperate

Talk to people as you would face to face and try to have some humour about yourself it helps loads and most importantly if you say you will do something do it

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Be patient, you will meet someone eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile and dont message if you don’t match their preferences.

Get verified even if its just from a club/social otherwise 99% of couples wont entertain you.

Dont be a white knight.

Remember its a couple you’re chatting to and you need a rapport with both of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little bit patronising OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please read profiles and the person's status just in case BEFORE messaging.

If you don't fit what they're looking, do NOT pester. Please just accept you aren't for them and move on. No need to get the hump and harass them thereafter. Everyone has a type, even you... so accept rejection gracefully.

Lastly, site rules state deleted messages means not interested. Accept that as your reply.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Ask things like

How is fab treating you?

Wuu2bbe?

Would you suck my dick in a layby?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Read the profile and dont message if you don’t match their preferences.

Get verified even if its just from a club/social otherwise 99% of couples wont entertain you.

Dont be a white knight.

Remember its a couple you’re chatting to and you need a rapport with both of them.

This ^^^^^^all day long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please read profiles and the person's status just in case BEFORE messaging.

Lastly, site rules state deleted messages means not interested. Accept that as your reply."

And this ^^^^^

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

That’s me fucked then!

Metaphorically speaking, of course.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Feel free to add any below in the interests of helping out the often (wrongly) bemoaned single men in 2019.

I'll kick things off with a couple.

If you accidentally say "fuck" on a kiss/fuck/pass thread and some other guy appears above your comment don't delete it in a panic that you've caught "the ghey". You haven't.

Cock pics aren't hated by everyone . If you have a nice wang then flaunt it. If it looks like a dead squirrel then focus on body shots.

Over to you, good people of Fab...

A"
How successful were you as a single male?

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Feel free to add any below in the interests of helping out the often (wrongly) bemoaned single men in 2019.

I'll kick things off with a couple.

If you accidentally say "fuck" on a kiss/fuck/pass thread and some other guy appears above your comment don't delete it in a panic that you've caught "the ghey". You haven't.

Cock pics aren't hated by everyone . If you have a nice wang then flaunt it. If it looks like a dead squirrel then focus on body shots.

Over to you, good people of Fab...

A How successful were you as a single male?"

I did ok.

Had a couple of meets.

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By *bi Haive OP Man
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Little bit patronising OP."

Only if you take it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check someone's profile and what they're looking for.. and if you don't fit into that specification.

RESPECT IT.

Don't message me on kik saying you thought you'd message me anyway as you get told you "don't look older".

Don't call me fake/insult me just to try and get my attention- more likely to get yourself blocked and reported for threatening me.

Don't copy and paste your opening message, especially if you've messaged me the same thing previously.

And for the love of god- don't get arsey if I haven't read/replied. I have a life offline that does take priority.

Sorry for the rant xoxo

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Little bit patronising OP."

That awkward moment when someone takes a tongue in cheek post way too seriously......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Little bit patronising OP.

Only if you take it seriously.

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If a woman turns you down for a meet then whining about it in a status or in a forum thread will have her changing her mind in minutes, wetter than an otters pocket, desperate to hook up in an hour and you're guaranteed a gobby wank in your Honda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How successful were you as a single male?"

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Being what you think others want doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be yourself. Being what you think others want doesn't work."

This. Ignore the hints and tips. Even ignore the FAQs, (sorry mods). But what works for 1 might not work for all.

Being yourself will always attract those people you get on with.

*my opinion means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soon as you start doing what others tell you, you cease to be a human being.

Instead you become a human doing.

Sometimes advice can be seen as bullying because you are in truth trying to change people to be how you want them to be.

From day one to your last day as a human we never stop learning.

But when someone starts saying do this or do and they have no authority most people will close ears and ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I being a real din...? what’s a white knight?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

See that hoop old chap? Be a love and jump through it. There’s another 12.

It won’t get you anywhere mind, we just like to see you get more and more frustrated until you start a thread about how frustrating it is.

...and this is what puts off or alienates the good folk. You need a tough hide around here. So no advice from me jokingly or otherwise. Have a huge pinch of salt though. That’ll help.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

shouldn't the words "don't be a tit/arse" justabout cover all advice give to all people.....

i don't see why any advice should be aimed at any group of people.....

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Ask things like

How is fab treating you?

Wuu2bbe?

Would you suck my dick in a layby right now?"

FTFY

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"shouldn't the words "don't be a tit/arse" justabout cover all advice give to all people.....

i don't see why any advice should be aimed at any group of people.....

Surely there's no point advising single women to ease up on the cock shots over the loo though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straightness should be directly linked to time on site versus success with the ladies

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I remember getting called a huge, huge something else frequently too......

But thanks Bussy! Nice to be back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

His mankini is still etched into my eyeballs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Straightness should be directly linked to time on site versus success with the ladies

A man in a dress looks like a woman from behind.

So do I incidentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be yourself. Being what you think others want doesn't work.

This. Ignore the hints and tips. Even ignore the FAQs, (sorry mods). But what works for 1 might not work for all.

Being yourself will always attract those people you get on with.

*my opinion means nothing.

To all this (apart from your opinion *does* mean something). My serious answer.

Always be yourself. Don't sell yourself out for a fuck. Like attracts like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you start a thread asking for advice on your profile or club advice, then message any single female who has replied asking if she wants to help you out with that. Because obviously that works every time.

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By *ross-eyed MaryMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Have a good cock pic, but not 12 of them. Don't be fat, don't have a small cock. Don't have a foreskin that looks sooo tight its going to cut your bellend off, and is guaranteed to have never been successfully cleaned, Don't have photos that make you look like a sex pest. Don't expect to get a meet.

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By *bi Haive OP Man
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"When you start a thread asking for advice on your profile or club advice, then message any single female who has replied asking if she wants to help you out with that. Because obviously that works every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be super hot and a stud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to organized socials and actually talk to people... works wonders

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Be super hot and a stud."

And available 24/7 as a booty call for just the one woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to organized socials and actually talk to people... works wonders

See I want to go to one but nerves get the better of me. I'm fine going to pubs and meeting people. Don't know? I'm going to Bridgend social on 20th Jan. Going with someone so should be ok.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Go to organized socials and actually talk to people... works wonders

See I want to go to one but nerves get the better of me. I'm fine going to pubs and meeting people. Don't know? I'm going to Bridgend social on 20th Jan. Going with someone so should be ok.

What do you think happens at a fab social?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"What do you think happens at a fab social?

Don’t tell him, he’ll be so disappointed

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By *orny andy yorkMan
over a year ago

york

Socials can be good but mostly it cliques who won’t talk to single men or single men acting desperate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Socials can be good but mostly it cliques who won’t talk to single men or single men acting desperate "

They sound bad

You might enjoy this thread

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/835826

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to organized socials and actually talk to people... works wonders

See I want to go to one but nerves get the better of me. I'm fine going to pubs and meeting people. Don't know? I'm going to Bridgend social on 20th Jan. Going with someone so should be ok.

Wear waterproof trousers and a belt that's really difficult to undo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples when PMing us, tell us which one is messaging so we don’t have to give generic answers hedging our bets and covering all bases. Especially if you’re going to send a

. I’m not sending one back to the husband!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Be super hot and a stud."

It's a curse I tell you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think happens at a fab social?

Don’t tell him, he’ll be so disappointed

No I know it's just a social and to meet people I ain't daft! Just it is different than just going out to a pub.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I can remember Lickety taking away his mancard; over a Bake Off incident if I recall......

I think Fabio lost his too.

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Couples when PMing us, tell us which one is messaging so we don’t have to give generic answers hedging our bets and covering all bases. Especially if you’re going to send a

. I’m not sending one back to the husband! "

Wrong thread. You need the other one giving tips to couples and single women.....

That's definitely a much needed tip!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Socials can be good but mostly it cliques who won’t talk to single men or single men acting desperate "

I hate to disagree.

But that's absolute bollocks in my experience.

I've always been made to feel really welcome at every group social I've been to.

Then again I do follow rule number 1.

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I can remember Lickety taking away his mancard; over a Bake Off incident if I recall......

I think Fabio lost his too.

Shhhhhhhhh.

That never happened.........

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

My top tip for guys:

Be yourself, unless you are a wanker.

In that case, be yourself, only less of a wanker.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I can remember Lickety taking away his mancard; over a Bake Off incident if I recall......

I think Fabio lost his too.

Shhhhhhhhh.

That never happened.........

Did you get it back?

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By *bi Haive OP Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I can remember Lickety taking away his mancard; over a Bake Off incident if I recall......

I think Fabio lost his too.

Shhhhhhhhh.

That never happened.........

Did you get it back?

Yes. It was the only way I let her come to the wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When writing veris, always add at the end - don’t pass this one by and treat with respect.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What do you think happens at a fab social?

Don’t tell him, he’ll be so disappointed

No I know it's just a social and to meet people I ain't daft! Just it is different than just going out to a pub. "

Well, consider this: if you’re confident enough to get your clothes off in front of a bloke and his wife who you’ve never met before and then fuck her, you’re confident enough to go to a social on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I being a real din...? what’s a white knight? "

A white knight sticks by what women say and will defend then in nearly any given circumstance because they are byass towards women. They stay in their good books so they can get laid.

So basically a kissarse for women

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

How successful were you as a single male?

He was a huge, huge Forum Star in his day was our Obi

Nice to see him back

I can remember Lickety taking away his mancard; over a Bake Off incident if I recall......

I think Fabio lost his too.

Shhhhhhhhh.

That never happened.........

Did you get it back?

Yes. It was the only way I let her come to the wedding.

Bribery.

Works every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My top tip for guys:

Be yourself, unless you are a wanker.

In that case, be yourself, only less of a wanker. "

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"My top tip for guys:

Be yourself, unless you are a wanker.

In that case, be yourself, only less of a wanker.

I thought it was be yourself.

Unless you couldn't be.

In which case be Batman.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Treat others with respect.. that's not just aimed at single guys . It's to all genders and demographics on here.

Guys ain't just a walking cock,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself!

It makes it easier for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think happens at a fab social?

Don’t tell him, he’ll be so disappointed

Haha.... you have to buy everyone a drink ..starting Alphabeticaly....

From Mr Bee

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

My bits of advice (for what they're worth):

Treat everyone with respect. If you message someone, and they make the effort to come back to you to say no, either reply with a thanks/no problem, or don't reply at all. On no account do you reply with an abusive message. You're on an adult site, and therefore should learn to behave like one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be in good shape.

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