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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And yes I spelt that right lol. I do, it is amazing of how much in common you have, wheather it is hobbies or what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't recall doing that, but it's possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I like what I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only if their profile matches my interests, but rarely get winks anyway so not something i depend on.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Some times do occasionally it’s a man so then it’s a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done. It led to several meets.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

No but I’ll wink back if I like their profile.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope.

A

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

No never have done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Depends if I like the profile or not.

Ms GR

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I they wink me first, then I wink back and see what happens..

If I wink first and they return my wink, I then send a little I message back..

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By *itandSteveCouple
over a year ago

Stroud

We look at a wink both ways as an invitation to check out our profile as we like there’s or that someone had checked ours out and liked what they see.

It saves a lot of back and forth we find. And always reply if we like what we see and take no offence if we don’t hear when we wink.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North West Devon...

We have given up on those that Wink..It seems whenever we wink back, that is the last we hear from them...If they are interested enough

1. They would read our profile

2. They would send a message

(provided it isnt a "Hey How you" they will get a reply

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I've never been winked at first but yes I would reply for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look who's winked so no

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By *itandSteveCouple
over a year ago

Stroud


"We look at a wink both ways as an invitation to check out our profile as we like there’s or that someone had checked ours out and liked what they see.

It saves a lot of back and forth we find. And always reply if we like what we see and take no offence if we don’t hear when we wink. "

*theirs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

If I like their profile, then yes, I always message back

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"No but I’ll wink back if I like their profile. "

Ditto x storm x

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

I use winks as a way of saying hello if I don't really have time to send a more detailed message. If they wink back then I'll send a message and see where it goes.

If I receive a wink then I'll check out the profile and if it interests me I'll send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No shag so stop sending them!!!!

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Depends if we winked first and they returned the wink. There is a winking etiquette you know.

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

Yes I do.as i appreciate that they have looked at my profile and taken the time to wink at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

If they sound like someone I might like to get to know. Or maybe wink back and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would if all my winks weren't from men lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always wink back sure why not it’s harmless

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Yeah. Someone once explained that a wink is a way of gauging interest without the kick of a deleted message.

Every so often I’ll peruse my winks and message the winker if I’m intriuged enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


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flab-tastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i get a wink i look at the senders profile.

and if it says we do not respond to winks i smile and leave it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Yes I’ve messaged them and winked back.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We like a wink , and wink back or reply depending on what we see

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

London

It’s a way of showing discreet interest - like someone smiling across a crowded room. I can understand that for some people they have so much full-on interest already that a discreet method is unlikely to succeed. But I’m not so awash with messages, so happy to check the winks for appealing fabbers from time to time. Sometimes it’s a very pleasant surprise!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"And yes I spelt that right lol. I do, it is amazing of how much in common you have, wheather it is hobbies or what you are looking for "

Yes, why not they are here for the same reason we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually look at their profile and if they look like someone with potential I'll send them a message and a wink back. It's nice to know before you message someone that they're open to being in contact with you. That said, I've been winked at before and then when I've responded gotten nothing back at all.

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By *yvanwy black wild childTV/TS
over a year ago

Northwich

Nope but if I like the person/ person's sending the wink I wink back then it's up to them to make the next move

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No but I winked back if they interest me

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I've never been winked at first but yes I would reply for sure"

Check your winks lol........

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I wouldn’t know unless someone told me they’d winked.

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By *aveSWMan
over a year ago

london

If they wink me then I'll always be willing to check out the profile, As other's have said, I find it a polite way to show interest.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We do if they look interesting.

Have had a few socials and the occasional meet from a wink.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not usually - but never say never

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No but maybe I should, I sometimes send winks to people I like the look of as a wee nudge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if I like what I see and read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally give the profile a look if I like what I see and read then yes!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get a wink I check out their profile and if I like I'll wink back! Occasionally if I really like their profile I've messaged back ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixture really...

I have winked back, messaged and ignored. So it depends on the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at my winks. So No, I don't tend to reply. But it's a handy tool if I want to send out feelers, to see if someone may be interested in chatting, by sending one myself

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"No but I’ll wink back if I like their profile. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely look at winks...so no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink back if I like what I see

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By *aveSWMan
over a year ago

london


"No but maybe I should, I sometimes send winks to people I like the look of as a wee nudge"

You should start

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Maybe depending on where they live and if we like similar things

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By *ot_TSformusclesTV/TS
over a year ago

Dublin

I never check wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would. "

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea."

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ... "

Endless donkey winks it is then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

Endless donkey winks it is then... "

Oo-er

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

Endless donkey winks it is then...

Oo-er "

oo-er indeed missus lol.xx or maybe less oo-er more eeeeeyore...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

Endless donkey winks it is then...

Oo-er

oo-er indeed missus lol.xx or maybe less oo-er more eeeeeyore... "

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

Endless donkey winks it is then...

Oo-er

oo-er indeed missus lol.xx or maybe less oo-er more eeeeeyore...

"

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea.

I prefer winks to endless pointless messages ...

Endless donkey winks it is then...

Oo-er

oo-er indeed missus lol.xx or maybe less oo-er more eeeeeyore...

pmsl "

Pfffffft

Ha ha

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By *allSteveMan
over a year ago

Poole

Considering the vast amount of winks are from men, no. If a woman winks I dont message either. Why not just send a message if they are interested?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes and I encourage winks

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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago

Happy go lucky

I will check out their profile first and if they interest me I will message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to wink back if I'm interested

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I will check out their profile first and if they interest me I will message them "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely look at mine. No I don't message after a wink, I'm not saying I never would.

It seems that very few women bother looking at winks (have been told by quite a few that they don't ever look at them).

It's a shame really, as the 'wink' system is a good idea."

Guilty as charged, i never look to see who has winked.

I try to answer as many of my messages as I can and I like to chat with friends on here. That takes up most of my time.

Actually thinking about it now i can see why men would wink rather than message. I used to assume it was just lazy, but I can see other reasons now

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We have replied to winks in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, but it's rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no i dont even look at them just mass delete.... they are lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but if we like the profile we'll wink back. Mrs

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Can't say I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. It shows they've taken the interest but couldn't be arsed to message. Chatting to a couple of nice ladies through winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More ladies need to reply to winkers! Imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at my winks so no

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes if we like what we see or perhaps have exchanged winks.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If a woman winks at a man it will most likely get noticed.

I’ve ended up meeting some very lovely women that started from exchanging winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. No.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

If I like what I see I wink back hoping he (it's more often than not a guy) will message me as I'm not good at opening messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll message back , there's alot of nice people on here .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We bulk delete winks so never message any winkers.

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Sometimes we do message, just depends on the winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes we do message, just depends on the wanker"

Harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do. It shows they've taken the interest but couldn't be arsed to message. Chatting to a couple of nice ladies through winks "

I'm not sure it's down to not being arsed. When I've winked, I'm just putting feelers out. If they wink back, then I'll message

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Sorry winkers but as a rule just delete winks.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I tend not to, mostly because I can't be arsed to check my winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't engage with someone in the street winking me, so don't on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use it to gauge interest of the other party. likewise would reply if interested.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Nope. I usually have a look at who's winked. If they're really our cup of tea then they get a wink back. They can message from there. We can meet so rarely that I don't see the point in chasing people. I think if someone is interested enough then they'll send a thought out message.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are such a rare and unusual event, I always have a look, to see who's sent it.

Apparently, anyone whos blocked from messaging, is also blocked from winking, so naturally, it should always be from the correct gender.

More often than not, they'll be somewhere stupidly far away (from end or wrong side of the country), so even if I was interested, it would be pointless pursuing.

I'll normally just thank them for their interest, then leave it at that.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Yeah. Someone once explained that a wink is a way of gauging interest without the kick of a deleted message.

Every so often I’ll peruse my winks and message the winker if I’m intriuged enough. "

Same here I class it as a friendly hello without having to read a message not that I get many of either but I will always send a message back to either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s rare that we’d wink back let alone message but if their profile is a match and we like the look of them, usually we’d wink back and might, exceptionally, message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wink back. If they are interested they will message.

I certainly do not wasting my time writing an elaborate 'you want my dick, don't you?' to get ignored

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHAT !! WAIT !!! do women also have wink and message buttons oh wow!!

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By *ezmanyorksMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I do, out of manners just to say thank you if nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to winks if there what I'm interested in

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