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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There will always be people that make fake profiles just to boost their ego and get lots of mail. Lots of pics and text saying what good fucks they are. Or not much information on their profile and hidden verifications.

So how do you prove you're real and not one of the 'fakes'?

When you're looking to meet people you will have your own rules you use to check the person's authenticity. Do you offer the same proof to people who want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to let people pinch me, but it hurt and bruised me...

Now I just send them a hologram

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I usually assume that if they got through my filters that they’re real enough to provide photo or meet verification. Not foolproof but then I don’t get messaged by hot blondes asking for my card details. If someone asked me to prove my realness I’d not bother jumping through hoops. You either believe or you don’t.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I never push to meet anyone. If it occurs, you'll both want to and by that time you have a feel if that person is genuine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't ask for any proof and don't give any. Time enough at the social for them to find out we're 20 years older and a couple of stone heavier than we claim

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No-one has asked me to prove I'm real,I would send something via Kik if they did I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my profile and message content is more than enough to prove I'm real. It's never been questioned.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"No-one has asked me to prove I'm real,I would send something via Kik if they did I suppose."

Oh I bet you are going to get lots of messages on the back of that comment!!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

When we were meeting we'd just back track through the Veris. If that can't be done then swap phone numbers (fab phone). If they wouldn't do that we'd move on. It's not hard to create a profile that gives people confidence that you're real but it's very easy to do the exact opposite.

We went to clubs regularly and organised socials so if people couldn't tell we we're real from our profile then they would struggle with anyone else's!

A

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By *logger and Rainbow-AliceCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

The more varies they have the more I tend to believe they are genuine. I know varies can be fake but not all of them I dont think x mrs

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We do like a face pic before meeting. I’m surprised at those that say we won’t send a face pic but still want to meet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real "

Veris can be faked.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ask for a pic of a thumbs up or hand..... Face pics can be lifted from anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been asked a couple of times for a phone call and once for a video call on my phone. As I was interested in meeting them I obliged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pinch Scarlett, then she punches me, then we kiss it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been questioned about it. Verifications don't necessarily mean anything, I've lost 2 veris over Christmas. I have video chatted with potential meets so guess that's the way to go short of actually meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof. "

How? Because of veris or something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat by phone or Skype or something before meeting just to see how we click so that kinda solves it on both sides.

I've only once had issue with some psycho thinking I was fake but his vile attitude made me not want to prove him wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do like a face pic before meeting. I’m surprised at those that say we won’t send a face pic but still want to meet! "

It's tempting to agree and then, when you meet and you aren't attracted to them, back away slowly, shaking your head

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

Veris can be faked. "

This is true

If I am looking at veris I see if any of my friends have verid them

All mine are real - veris that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof.

How? Because of veris or something else?"

Spidey senses can't be explained.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't ask for any proof and don't give any. Time enough at the social for them to find out we're 20 years older and a couple of stone heavier than we claim "

That's why I always have socials first. I'm a couple of years older and 20 stone heavier than my pics show.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I’ve never had an issue either way. If I was going to meet them it would be for a social first anyway so we could both tell if we were real or not

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am 97kg !!!! But then 6ft 1 and a bit so I am a bit chunky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am 97kg !!!! But then 6ft 1 and a bit so I am a bit chunky "

And lovely to boot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shower cam

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to chat by phone or Skype or something before meeting just to see how we click so that kinda solves it on both sides.

I've only once had issue with some psycho thinking I was fake but his vile attitude made me not want to prove him wrong. "

I've done phone chat before with a 'woman'. 'She' had a very strange voice.

We didn't end up meeting though.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I am 97kg !!!! But then 6ft 1 and a bit so I am a bit chunky

And lovely to boot "

Blushing here now

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof.

How? Because of veris or something else?

Spidey senses can't be explained. "

This! But they are real

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I usually seem to chat online for about six months. Once I've passed the turing test i can turn up in person and show that I'm really only a computer program

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

Easy.

Cogito, ergo sum is a Latin philosophical proposition by René Descartes "I think, therefore I am".

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

18 months on here and a couple of years on other sites has pretty much honed my spider senses.

Socials are a must.In my very early days I'd arrange meets without a social and they'd be more likely to fall through.

There are fakes and dreamers out there but I can generally spot them by the flow and direction of the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof.

How? Because of veris or something else?

Spidey senses can't be explained.

This! But they are real "

I'm going to regret saying this but, in the 6 years I've been here I've only had one person not turn up, and I knew he wasn't coming so I didn't bother getting dressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now you have me wondering if I am real

Profile is hidden so can't see if I am verified, and if I am was it a fake?

Maybe like Santa I am imagined to scare children but never really existed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"18 months on here and a couple of years on other sites has pretty much honed my spider senses.

Socials are a must.In my very early days I'd arrange meets without a social and they'd be more likely to fall through.

There are fakes and dreamers out there but I can generally spot them by the flow and direction of the conversation.

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All barring a couple of my meets have been without a social and I was never let down. I've had men admit they can't actually accommodate, while I've been on a social with them, so I don't do socials any more, unless I fancy a drink before we get to the sex part.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I hope my veris and attendance at group socials prove I'm real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope my veris and attendance at group socials prove I'm real "

They do. You showed me your lovely cock

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

No one's ever asked me to prove I'm real.

That's the joy of being a legend.

Or was it bell end?

Anyway...... I've never been asked.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"No one's ever asked me to prove I'm real.

That's the joy of being a legend.

Or was it bell end?

Anyway...... I've never been asked."

I've met you, but I'm still not sure

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Just be yourself, don't try to be something you're not. If people want to speak to you before a meet then exchange numbers and talk. If they want a face pic, send one.

At the end of the day everyone has to make their own judgement. I find my gut instinct works well so will always trust that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof.

How? Because of veris or something else?

Spidey senses can't be explained.

This! But they are real

I'm going to regret saying this but, in the 6 years I've been here I've only had one person not turn up, and I knew he wasn't coming so I didn't bother getting dressed."

I've never had a no show, meeting on this profile or others.

When we met as a couple I always made sure I proved that I exist. I'm well aware that some 'couples' are just men, so I always made sure they felt comfortable before we met. Both when we were meeting couples or single men.

I still feel the need to prove I'm real now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to chat by phone or Skype or something before meeting just to see how we click so that kinda solves it on both sides.

I've only once had issue with some psycho thinking I was fake but his vile attitude made me not want to prove him wrong.

I've done phone chat before with a 'woman'. 'She' had a very strange voice.

We didn't end up meeting though. "

Haha! I can imagine big fat Dave the trucker squeezing his balls to try get a higher pitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fake ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to chat by phone or Skype or something before meeting just to see how we click so that kinda solves it on both sides.

I've only once had issue with some psycho thinking I was fake but his vile attitude made me not want to prove him wrong.

I've done phone chat before with a 'woman'. 'She' had a very strange voice.

We didn't end up meeting though.

Haha! I can imagine big fat Dave the trucker squeezing his balls to try get a higher pitch "

You've talked to her too then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess meet in person.

Video call via FaceTime, WhatsApp another option I guess.

It’s good if people actually started to chat to each other.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time...

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time... "

I do the same.

If they can put up with my chat everyday for months before meeting, they must be real!

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By *hadi3000Man
over a year ago

platform 9 3/4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for veris by people we have physically met and trust, or by official party organisers.

After that, it's gut feel off the back of the profile....

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple
over a year ago

manchester

Direct picture holding random objects of your choice I.e spoon

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By *hadi3000Man
over a year ago

platform 9 3/4


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real "

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time... "

That's one of our tactics too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about "

Why not?

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof. "

I found common sense is over rated in most areas.

I think most men would say send a dick pick.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

i offer my mobile... video call. then arrange a meet and actually turn up

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I would like to think my verifications are proof.

Mostly from club meets x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Nobody has actually asked me to prove I’m real but my displayed veris are from an organised social and it would be very hard to fake all of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make them reply with a captcha. MqTX4yulry.

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By *hadi3000Man
over a year ago

platform 9 3/4


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why not? "

It’s seems excessive. Just not for me. Or maybe he’s just lucky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For anyone im unsure of i have asked for a verification of them holding a random object.

Very few people can get upset that i don't trust random people from the internet. but they are usually the ones to avoid.

Catfished isnt usually my problem, more kittenfished on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody has actually asked me to prove I’m real but my displayed veris are from an organised social and it would be very hard to fake all of those. "

Yep, you're definitely on our 100% genuine list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make them reply with a captcha. MqTX4yulry."

Hahahhah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet people we’ve already met.

That way we already know they’re real.

They have to just trust we’re real.

Or is it the other way around?

I’ve confused myself...

Oh well, another mince pie me thinks

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Cam / video call

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why not?

It’s seems excessive. Just not for me. Or maybe he’s just lucky lol"

Or been here a long time...

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about "

Why on earth not?

The whole purpose of the site is to meet people isn't it?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why not?

It’s seems excessive. Just not for me. Or maybe he’s just lucky lol"

Have you read any of them? It's easy to rack up veris if you go to clubs and/or group socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prove im not

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about "

Strange comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody has actually asked me to prove I’m real but my displayed veris are from an organised social and it would be very hard to fake all of those. "

I may need extra proof

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I haven’t looked real for years but I really am real, honest, really really real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about "

Why???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look in the mirror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why not?

It’s seems excessive. Just not for me. Or maybe he’s just lucky lol"

How many do you have and how long have you been on here?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about "

What a strange thing to say, they are from socials and club meets by the looks of it, I would be proud if I was Mike that so many people think he is a nice enough guy to verify meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what you mean by proving you are real. I've been photo verified as a woman I have verifications on my profile and a couple from clubs so I guess that's all I can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

It’s impossible. People will always find a reason not to believe you. I’ve had some VERY odd chats about this over the years.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion."

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

For someone that is genuine and friendly..and had offered endless socials to people just to get verified. It's really unfair for the likes of myself unable to prove myself as being real and genuine..and no..I won't be making another profile to verify myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time... "

That's really funny and a great point! Boring subjects put the catfish off.

Probably why I don't get the catfish, I'm naturally dull.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?"

I would say I have probably played about with about 30 of them!!! I did have to count. That’s full sex, some others have been soft play and some have been watch.

I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea in terms of playing. However I try to be polite as I can be, maybe flirt a bit. I don’t expect everyone wanting to meet me.

I would say most of the people I have meet have been through the club scene and a few socials. I have been on site for more than 10 years so that works out at about 12 new veris a year. I probably speak to about 5 to 10 people evry time I go to a club. So actually it should be a lot higher

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make them reply with a captcha. MqTX4yulry."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why on earth not?

The whole purpose of the site is to meet people isn't it? "

I once saw over 100 veris on a profile. I was shocked. I'd never meet someone like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why on earth not?

The whole purpose of the site is to meet people isn't it?

I once saw over 100 veris on a profile. I was shocked. I'd never meet someone like that!"

And thats our answer to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody has ever asked us to prove we're real. This either means we're obviously genuine or that nobody would dream of setting up a fake profile with our details

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't do anything to prove I'm real - I refuse to jump through hoops for anyone. I can understand why some people choose to ask people to prove themselves but we are obviously not compatible if I won't do it.

I do insist on a social meet unless it is in a club. The worst thing that will happen if they are a no show is I end up drinking a cuppa alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can facetime, see me in the chatroom,talk on Skype.

It's easy to do

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't think anyone has asked me to prove I'm real but if they did I probably wouldn't bother with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not real. fab pay me to lure women onto the site...

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It does not matter who is the first one to ask to meet we expect them to agree to any checks we ask and if they ask things of us then we agree to them it is only fair. If neither of us is prepared to agree to a particular check then we are obviously not on the same wavelength and won't meet. It's simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone has asked me to prove I'm real but if they did I probably wouldn't bother with them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time...

I do the same.

If they can put up with my chat everyday for months before meeting, they must be real!"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Nobody has actually asked me to prove I’m real but my displayed veris are from an organised social and it would be very hard to fake all of those.

I may need extra proof"

You can have it

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Nobody has actually asked me to prove I’m real but my displayed veris are from an organised social and it would be very hard to fake all of those.

Yep, you're definitely on our 100% genuine list "

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well if people actually read my veris they would see most are from the club scene, most of them are non sex play for various reasons. With a few large socials chucked in.

My preference is to meet people with a few more veris or to at least check if I meeting them outside club that they have either met someone I know or have decent up to date veris. That’s not to say I will make exceptions

Looking at my numbers in details been on site 10 years. Average is 12 veris a year; that is one a month. If you take out non play and duplicate, your down to about 3 a year. Which works out 1 every 4 months. A lot of single guys have more play than that.

Clearly my veris show that I am chatty, friendly and polite with a sense of humour. anyway I am off to have a wank over a friends photos

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

Veris can be faked. "

Oh I can vouch for him. I’ve verified him twice I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have to prove anything

It's up to others to make the sums add up on the information I make available to them

If, for them, the sums don't add up, then they don't

If they do, then hopefully we'll meet up

I am not looking to maximise my potential here, just meet a few folks I click with

It does me

I don't need barrels of sex, or validation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?"

We are on here to meet similar people but not to broadcast to the whole world who we meet.

This is our private life,if not then we would have our real names and face pictures on full view.

If ppl want to post they have met tom dick or sally, even just at a club,then it's their choice but not our choice.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?

We are on here to meet similar people but not to broadcast to the whole world who we meet.

This is our private life,if not then we would have our real names and face pictures on full view.

If ppl want to post they have met tom dick or sally, even just at a club,then it's their choice but not our choice.

"

Because you're going to know how many veris he shows when you meet him in a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real "

Tart!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

Tart!"

Lmao!!!! Just smooth

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn"

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental)."

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cogito, ergo sum

"I think there for I am"

donc je suis has this sussed ages ago!

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I show the veris that show that im a real person.

some socials and some friends veris.

I dont see the need to show veris that ive met this and that person on any site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I show the veris that show that im a real person.

some socials and some friends veris.

I dont see the need to show veris that ive met this and that person on any site."

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech."

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And thats also your opinion.

Byeeeee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?

We are on here to meet similar people but not to broadcast to the whole world who we meet.

This is our private life,if not then we would have our real names and face pictures on full view.

If ppl want to post they have met tom dick or sally, even just at a club,then it's their choice but not our choice.

"

I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris because we're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

Veris can be faked.

Oh I can vouch for him. I’ve verified him twice I think. "

I was only joking. x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice."

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?

We are on here to meet similar people but not to broadcast to the whole world who we meet.

This is our private life,if not then we would have our real names and face pictures on full view.

If ppl want to post they have met tom dick or sally, even just at a club,then it's their choice but not our choice.

I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris because we're not compatible. "

What’s sex - I like to watch and wank

I knew you were joking - it’s fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

"

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?"

You do realise that the whole point of people being on here is because it’s a liberated place designed for people to meet. Do you not think it hypocritical to criticise people for doing just that?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?"

I have done!!!!! I know female friends in the clubs thatplay with 4 or 5 guys in one session. Now assuming that they go to a club 10 times a year that’s easy 50 plus the veris they meet outside club

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got veris from social meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not criticising any body for meeting anybody. We just saying we dont make it public knowledge who we meet.

Its our choice not to same as its their choice to do so.

If not doing so dosent get us meets then its no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would never meet mike, but thats just our opinion.

Because he has 118 verifications from clubs? Where most of them say he chatted to them?

We are on here to meet similar people but not to broadcast to the whole world who we meet.

This is our private life,if not then we would have our real names and face pictures on full view.

If ppl want to post they have met tom dick or sally, even just at a club,then it's their choice but not our choice.

I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris because we're not compatible.

What’s sex - I like to watch and wank

I knew you were joking - it’s fine "

Me too! (watching)

I'm sorry you seem to be getting picked on. I'll clarify my comment. I'm intimidated by people with more than 4 sex veris showing. They most likely want someone similar and that's not me. I'm no extrovert. If they had fucked 1,000 people that doesn't bother me in the slightest - if they had no veris showing.

I know it seems weird and it is. x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?"

As opposed to meeting someone who bangs 2000 guys a year but doesn't show veris...........

You realise veris mean jack shit in relation to how many people some folk meet? Some verify and show every meet. Others don't.

Doesn't mean those that show none haven't met everyone on site, does it?

A

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

the problem with veris is many use the below subject.

Those that wont meet you due to that youve been verified by that person.

been on this site often quoted.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?

As opposed to meeting someone who bangs 2000 guys a year but doesn't show veris...........

You realise veris mean jack shit in relation to how many people some folk meet? Some verify and show every meet. Others don't.

Doesn't mean those that show none haven't met everyone on site, does it?

A"

You just ask a woman how many people she has slept with and times it by 3. For a man you divide by 3.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I don't.

If they choose to doubt me then that is entirely up to them, I don't feel the need to jump through hoops to prove I am who I say I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't prove or jump through hoops and never been asked to from the people I get on really well with and could potentially meet in person.


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof. "

Snap! That right there is exactly why I have not had the no show experience. I am going to quote another post because I combine the two things and it has worked really well for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly hoops if its to makes the other person be safe and get rid of all the fake profiles and all the other crap that comes with the internet.

It takes two seconds to speak on phone or set up face time etc, yea its not necessary for most people but if it helps a woman feel safe then i would jump any hoop she asked, nothing to hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that what verifications are for? Proof that your real. It’s a flawless concept isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to add for the record I don't give verifications priority. I prefer to focus on direct communication.


"I can't say that I've ever had a problem with being catfished. The simple fact is that I chat for so long, about such randomly dull subjects, that they would have to be the most tenacious and strong willed catfish to get anywhere near anything worth it. Its something special when a catfish accuses you of wasting their time... "

^ Yep! ^

I don't do same day meets or rush into things. Most of the time the conversation will fizzle out because not mentioned anything to do with sex for a while. For those that go the distance plus combined with my previous post means we may have a possible mutual match!

Which is rare, but worth the wait!

I will add:

A few times people mention across different threads how can you be sure over online communication alone...

The answer:

Time and patience! If you come across a fibber rather then a fabber the truth always comes out. Sooner or later. Forums help and you can have a phone conversation before arranging any meet.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?

As opposed to meeting someone who bangs 2000 guys a year but doesn't show veris...........

You realise veris mean jack shit in relation to how many people some folk meet? Some verify and show every meet. Others don't.

Doesn't mean those that show none haven't met everyone on site, does it?

A

You just ask a woman how many people she has slept with and times it by 3. For a man you divide by 3. "

In my case you'd be wrong as I would give the correct number.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?

As opposed to meeting someone who bangs 2000 guys a year but doesn't show veris...........

You realise veris mean jack shit in relation to how many people some folk meet? Some verify and show every meet. Others don't.

Doesn't mean those that show none haven't met everyone on site, does it?

A

You just ask a woman how many people she has slept with and times it by 3. For a man you divide by 3.

In my case you'd be wrong as I would give the correct number."
Always 1 isn't there

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?

As opposed to meeting someone who bangs 2000 guys a year but doesn't show veris...........

You realise veris mean jack shit in relation to how many people some folk meet? Some verify and show every meet. Others don't.

Doesn't mean those that show none haven't met everyone on site, does it?

A

You just ask a woman how many people she has slept with and times it by 3. For a man you divide by 3.

In my case you'd be wrong as I would give the correct number. Always 1 isn't there "

Of course

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We would like to think that our veri's speak for themselves.

We don't send many play pics until we have met someone as we are not here to pic collect but we do enjoy sharing with those we know.

Apart from that we meet, we are social, we go to socials and meet out in club's.

If someone or a couple want to meet from here then we look to arrange that on mutually agreeable terms.

Fake men masquerading as single women or guys with couples profiles are usually easy to spot once you get a feel for the site.

If someone appears not to be genuine then we drop the conversation and move on. Never been wrong yet..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I just use common sense and go on my gut instinct. Its worked so far. I'd also expect those I'm talking to to be savvy enough to figure out I'm real without requiring further proof. "

I'd go with this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked a women to send me a live photo holding up 3 fingers and she wouldn't. Even though she had sent me a few stored photos of her already. I blocked her as I didn't want to waste my time. She only bloody turned up as a suggested friend on Instagram with the photos she's has sent me. I still haven't told her yet, I'm too embarrassed I will just have to let this one go.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

Don’t really care if people think we’re real or not. Our verifications are genuine enough to prove our existence surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There will always be people that make fake profiles just to boost their ego and get lots of mail. Lots of pics and text saying what good fucks they are. Or not much information on their profile and hidden verifications.

So how do you prove you're real and not one of the 'fakes'?

When you're looking to meet people you will have your own rules you use to check the person's authenticity. Do you offer the same proof to people who want to meet you?"

Good question - from a hidden profile, lol #irony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked a women to send me a live photo holding up 3 fingers and she wouldn't. Even though she had sent me a few stored photos of her already. I blocked her as I didn't want to waste my time. She only bloody turned up as a suggested friend on Instagram with the photos she's has sent me. I still haven't told her yet, I'm too embarrassed I will just have to let this one go."

Wouldn't bother me doing that if I had my make up on, but if I'm chatting while looking like a burst couch (which is probably 80% of the time!) I'd say no too. Maybe give a longer timescale instead of blocking right away next time !

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Ah but we never go to clubs.

So never going to happwn

So you're unlikely to ever meet him then and your comment was a bit pointless (and a bit judgemental).

Well as hes hundreds of miles away it would never happen anyway.

Not judgemental.

Its called freedom of choice and freedom of speech.

It's also called character assassination and not very nice.

It’s cool!!!! I know a lot of people wouldn’t meet me based on the number of veris and I can be the same (more on the lack of for me not saying no but would be more cautious)

We all have our own preferences what we look for in the scene. The number of veris for a club goer wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If there was no suggestion from profile that they went to clubs and that was the amount of meets that were all play meets. I may be a bit actually intimidated;

Would you meet a female with 118 verifications though?"

I have over 200 verifications. Mostly from socials or going to a club. I hold a weekly quiz social, I’ve held murder mystery nights and I’ve attended several large socials. I’ve been on here nearly 8 years so that equates to 2 verifications per month. Not many are from play meets and I don’t give many play meet verifications.

Feel free to judge on the number of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked a women to send me a live photo holding up 3 fingers and she wouldn't. Even though she had sent me a few stored photos of her already. I blocked her as I didn't want to waste my time. She only bloody turned up as a suggested friend on Instagram with the photos she's has sent me. I still haven't told her yet, I'm too embarrassed I will just have to let this one go.

Wouldn't bother me doing that if I had my make up on, but if I'm chatting while looking like a burst couch (which is probably 80% of the time!) I'd say no too. Maybe give a longer timescale instead of blocking right away next time !"

Yeah that's a fair point.

I just don't want to waste anytime on here as it is. I know the guys struggle so it's easy for me to be dismissive and value my time as this is not my primary outlet

But you are right, I should be a little more considerate of the immediate situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive done a few phone calls in the early days to prove I was real. Nowadays I just turn up and hope for the best that Im not really a man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There will always be people that make fake profiles just to boost their ego and get lots of mail. Lots of pics and text saying what good fucks they are. Or not much information on their profile and hidden verifications.

So how do you prove you're real and not one of the 'fakes'?

When you're looking to meet people you will have your own rules you use to check the person's authenticity. Do you offer the same proof to people who want to meet you?

Good question - from a hidden profile, lol #irony"

Smoke and mirrors.

*scratches bollocks*

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

Just had my 1st verification. Chatted on cam and just to prove I was a woman..I had a shave

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I got a girl to take a photograph of herself with that days newspaper once. She bloody did it as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hardly hoops if its to makes the other person be safe and get rid of all the fake profiles and all the other crap that comes with the internet.

It takes two seconds to speak on phone or set up face time etc, yea its not necessary for most people but if it helps a woman feel safe then i would jump any hoop she asked, nothing to hide."

Yeah that's why I feel the need to prove I'm real. I'm so weird it will set their spidey senses tingling.

I've never been stood up so it works.

I put them off long before they agree to a meet.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why on earth not?

The whole purpose of the site is to meet people isn't it?

I once saw over 100 veris on a profile. I was shocked. I'd never meet someone like that!"

I'm not sure if this fellahs a slag or just plain awesome.

I'm going with awesome.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Before I was verified or had any pictures up, my profile and messages apparently passed the sniff test for some people. Now, I think my profile and reputation speak for themselves.

As for other people, profile text, verifications, how they interact with me. I take it all in combination. For an unverified person I might ask for a specific picture or clean cam chat. Ultimately, meeting in a neutral venue.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

118 mike?.... absolutely nothing to be proud about

Why on earth not?

The whole purpose of the site is to meet people isn't it?

I once saw over 100 veris on a profile. I was shocked. I'd never meet someone like that!

And thats our answer to."

The person with over 100 veris is probably pretty open minded. Most likely they wouldn't want to meet someone so judgemental so it works both ways.

It's all good, there's room for everyone on Fab.

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By *aveSWMan
over a year ago

london

I'd probably just ask whether they wanted my kik or whatsapp, If a quick facetime doesn't prove anything then I give up

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I pinched myself and it hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been asked to prove that I am real. Not yet anyway. I'm pretty straight up on my profile and upload photos regularly.

I guess if someone did ask I wouldn't mind, so long as they did the same to me. But I think overall, it's pretty easy to spot a fake profile. Could be wrong though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many different kinds of fake, The thick as shit wanker pretending to be female for a quick wank/ trolling session, to person who puts months/years into a fake identity for whatever reason. the latter are the ones that catch people out.

I really think the main reason's loneliness, a person who gets lots of attention being themselves isn't gonna start making fake profiles for the fun of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I pinched myself and it hurt "

I pinched stellaheels, the scream validates my reality, and it doesn't hurt me

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

Think the easiest way is to send a picture through the kik camera but also video calling works just the same. Although it’s usually the personality that’s deceptive as oppose to the pics and that’s where things get complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing I ever did was go to a few socials...once you get yourself out there and have a few veris from organized socials it get much easier

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

before our first meet we had a phone call with the other couple. Since then we’ve never had to prove wee’re Real and I’m sure our verifications speak for themselves.

Reading this thread shows that our number of verifications (70+) and number of meets (100+) will put people off, but we’re not worried about that in the slightest.

Kiki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my body and face?

I dont think I would have to prove i'm real for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll say to people that I will speak to them on the phone or video chat with them or send them a live pic on kik.

I’ll offer once, when they keep on and on still doubt my authenticity without even bothering to take up my offer of a video chat then I tell them to fuck off. It can be annoying being accused of being fake.

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

I'm now verified but it still doesn't make people talk to get to know me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never get offended my someone who put safety before pleasure, if a video call or a chat on a phone is too much then something is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send number as title and face pic

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I send number as title and face pic"

You send your number to random women?

Has this worked for you ever?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't.

No one would fake being me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The art of conversation should really be enough to show you are real.

A persons language, tone and choice of words are important. If the words engage and flow with ease then you will start to build a mental picture of who your talking too and that generally relates to an instant gut feel.

Hopefully their pictures can back this up too.

Verifications mean nothing to be honest as these are often inflated promises with no real depth or meaning to them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I could never get offended my someone who put safety before pleasure, if a video call or a chat on a phone is too much then something is wrong.

"

I wish more people thought like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"before our first meet we had a phone call with the other couple. Since then we’ve never had to prove wee’re Real and I’m sure our verifications speak for themselves.

Reading this thread shows that our number of verifications (70+) and number of meets (100+) will put people off, but we’re not worried about that in the slightest.

Kiki x"

You'll attract people that love that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The art of conversation should really be enough to show you are real.

A persons language, tone and choice of words are important. If the words engage and flow with ease then you will start to build a mental picture of who your talking too and that generally relates to an instant gut feel.

Hopefully their pictures can back this up too.

Verifications mean nothing to be honest as these are often inflated promises with no real depth or meaning to them.

"

Agree about the conversation. It's quite easy to spot men pretending to be women. Bless them.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"The art of conversation should really be enough to show you are real.

A persons language, tone and choice of words are important. If the words engage and flow with ease then you will start to build a mental picture of who your talking too and that generally relates to an instant gut feel.

Hopefully their pictures can back this up too.

Verifications mean nothing to be honest as these are often inflated promises with no real depth or meaning to them

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

If my profile was fake do you think I would use this face, is what I normally tell them.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I could never get offended my someone who put safety before pleasure, if a video call or a chat on a phone is too much then something is wrong.

"

We would never video call or chat on the phone if someone wanted proof from us being a couple, unless a fem was meeting Mr R only and needed reassurance that I knew/agreed. We have both been on the scene for years so don't feel the need to prove anything. We play in clubs, our paths cross or not, no drama/no expectations. Alot are hung up about fakes on here. Play your way or it ceases to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If my profile was fake do you think I would use this face, is what I normally tell them."

You have a nice face. x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"If my profile was fake do you think I would use this face, is what I normally tell them.

You have a nice face. x"

Thanks you have great heels X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I could never get offended my someone who put safety before pleasure, if a video call or a chat on a phone is too much then something is wrong.

We would never video call or chat on the phone if someone wanted proof from us being a couple, unless a fem was meeting Mr R only and needed reassurance that I knew/agreed. We have both been on the scene for years so don't feel the need to prove anything. We play in clubs, our paths cross or not, no drama/no expectations. Alot are hung up about fakes on here. Play your way or it ceases to be fun."

There are different ways to reassure people about safety. I'll take the middle ground a bit. I don't think people should be asked to jump through silly hoops, particularly if they're well verified, but expecting people to just show up without some sort of preliminary reassurance isn't on either.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Well 118 veris - I hoped I am real

Veris can be faked. "

My veri of his is real though

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I could never get offended my someone who put safety before pleasure, if a video call or a chat on a phone is too much then something is wrong.

We would never video call or chat on the phone if someone wanted proof from us being a couple, unless a fem was meeting Mr R only and needed reassurance that I knew/agreed. We have both been on the scene for years so don't feel the need to prove anything. We play in clubs, our paths cross or not, no drama/no expectations. Alot are hung up about fakes on here. Play your way or it ceases to be fun.

There are different ways to reassure people about safety. I'll take the middle ground a bit. I don't think people should be asked to jump through silly hoops, particularly if they're well verified, but expecting people to just show up without some sort of preliminary reassurance isn't on either. "

Exactly, and that's why I'd speak to a single fem on the phone to reassure them that a woman is part of this profile. In my early fab years I used to chat to single men to assure them I was real, until I woke up to the fact they were getting off on it.

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