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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back-up at family get togethers

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

Depth , meaning , love , companionship , trust , to mention a few , and chilling together watching crappy telly , spooning , cooking a meal and enjoying it together , date night , going to the cinema , having someone there that cares about you , someone’s to listen to you sound off about your day , someone to share the good times with , and someone to soften the blows of the bad times .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Depth , meaning , love , companionship , trust , to mention a few , and chilling together watching crappy telly , spooning , cooking a meal and enjoying it together , date night , going to the cinema , having someone there that cares about you , someone’s to listen to you sound off about your day , someone to share the good times with , and someone to soften the blows of the bad times .

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compramise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Belonging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dishes getting washed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regularity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dishes getting washed "
paper party plates job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles and kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having finger tips ran over my back and bum gets me all tingly

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

The staying in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Depth , meaning , love , companionship , trust , to mention a few , and chilling together watching crappy telly , spooning , cooking a meal and enjoying it together , date night , going to the cinema , having someone there that cares about you , someone’s to listen to you sound off about your day , someone to share the good times with , and someone to soften the blows of the bad times .

"

Definitely all of this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dishes getting washed paper party plates job done"

After this revelation, nothing now

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

I can relate to that ..and softly stroking someones face with my fingertips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talking openly without being judged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dishes getting washed paper party plates job done

After this revelation, nothing now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the closeness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again "
very possible i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again "

This

You can love someone without falling in love with them. Or what feels like love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again "

Me too!! It's hard to come by though and I fear that I won't find it again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

Me too!! It's hard to come by though and I fear that I won't find it again. "

Same here. Although I don't want it all the time, just sometimes

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

This

You can love someone without falling in love with them. Or what feels like love! "

Yes, you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

Well you do if you're a couple. So we miss out on nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Well you do if you're a couple. So we miss out on nothing. "

Except jealousy of course.

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By *logger and Rainbow-AliceCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Getting to go to sleep and wake up with my hubby every day. Going on walks, and basically everything I do with my hubby is special xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

Faithfulness and loyalty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only things I miss about a traditional vanilla relationship is having someone that cares and

to have someone to rely on.

I'm a little sick of having to cope financially on my own and having to bear all the responsibility.

It would be nice to come home after a shit day like today and have dinner made for me and to have someone to talk about my day.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Sex.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

If someone doesnt kiss and cuddle I wouldnt meet them.

Sex without a kiss and a cuddle is like having rhubarb without custard or fish without chips. Its just not the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

If someone doesnt kiss and cuddle I wouldnt meet them.

Sex without a kiss and a cuddle is like having rhubarb without custard or fish without chips. Its just not the same."

I wouldn't meet if they didn't kiss either, it would feel wrong not to kiss someone you're having sex with.

But I've never stayed over at a meets house so the cuddling never happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something being done for me without wanting something in return. A cuppa etc. Or just sitting watching tv, reading a book next to them in silence or doing the greatXmas puzzle together. The just hanging out but that has nothing to do with sex. That stuff is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuddling with meaning.

talking in bed for hours.

holding hands when out together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Depth , meaning , love , companionship , trust , to mention a few , and chilling together watching crappy telly , spooning , cooking a meal and enjoying it together , date night , going to the cinema , having someone there that cares about you , someone’s to listen to you sound off about your day , someone to share the good times with , and someone to soften the blows of the bad times .

"

All this and more, that someone who’s seen you at your worst but is still there for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

If someone doesnt kiss and cuddle I wouldnt meet them.

Sex without a kiss and a cuddle is like having rhubarb without custard or fish without chips. Its just not the same.

I wouldn't meet if they didn't kiss either, it would feel wrong not to kiss someone you're having sex with.

But I've never stayed over at a meets house so the cuddling never happens."

Awww...I'd give you a cuddle...even without anything else...we all need a cuddle now and then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cuddling with meaning.

talking in bed for hours.

holding hands when out together"

I had all that with my fwb. Not a conventional relationship which made it better some how.

The day he kissed me on the forehead told me it was real!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"cuddling with meaning.

talking in bed for hours.

holding hands when out together

I had all that with my fwb. Not a conventional relationship which made it better some how.

The day he kissed me on the forehead told me it was real! "

Aww that's sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cuddling with meaning.

talking in bed for hours.

holding hands when out together

I had all that with my fwb. Not a conventional relationship which made it better some how.

The day he kissed me on the forehead told me it was real!

Aww that's sweet "

Thanks. It lasted nearly three years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair."

Boredom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mortgage halved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cuddling with meaning.

talking in bed for hours.

holding hands when out together

I had all that with my fwb. Not a conventional relationship which made it better some how.

The day he kissed me on the forehead told me it was real!

Aww that's sweet

Thanks. It lasted nearly three years"

lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being part of a team, having each others backs, being yourself, her head on my chest in bed.

I actually love the after sex part (closeness, cuddles) as much as the sex itself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being part of a team, having each others backs, being yourself, her head on my chest in bed.

I actually love the after sex part (closeness, cuddles) as much as the sex itself."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again "

Agree. I did too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Belonging "

This

K

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty. "

Umm you can get that

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty.

Umm you can get that "

Very, very rarely and not sure I'd call it swinging (ie exclusivity).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty.

Umm you can get that

Very, very rarely and not sure I'd call it swinging (ie exclusivity)."

Not everyone on here is a swinger though.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again "

I was thinking the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

I was thinking the same!"

Seconded x

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By *allSteveMan
over a year ago

Poole

Arguments and then making up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

I was thinking the same!"

You can. Not everyone’s looking for the same thing. Just may take longer to find

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"So why can’t you have all the above with fwbs? I’ve had it all before with a previous fwb. We cuddled we cared for each other. We gave each other everything but commitment and are still really good friends now. Maybe I’m too ambitious but I want that from a fwb again

I was thinking the same!

You can. Not everyone’s looking for the same thing. Just may take longer to find "

I think I've had it with everyone I've met from here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Depth , meaning , love , companionship , trust , to mention a few , and chilling together watching crappy telly , spooning , cooking a meal and enjoying it together , date night , going to the cinema , having someone there that cares about you , someone’s to listen to you sound off about your day , someone to share the good times with , and someone to soften the blows of the bad times .

"

That sounds perfect ..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty.

Umm you can get that

Very, very rarely and not sure I'd call it swinging (ie exclusivity).

Not everyone on here is a swinger though. "

True but the question was what do we get from a vanilla relationship that we don't we get from swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty.

Umm you can get that

Very, very rarely and not sure I'd call it swinging (ie exclusivity).

Not everyone on here is a swinger though.

True but the question was what do we get from a vanilla relationship that we don't we get from swinging. "

relax. forget the world. enjoy it.

nothing else matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing about vanilla relationships that you don't get from swinging?

Mine is cuddles and playing with my hair.

Faithfulness and loyalty.

Umm you can get that

Very, very rarely and not sure I'd call it swinging (ie exclusivity).

Not everyone on here is a swinger though.

True but the question was what do we get from a vanilla relationship that we don't we get from swinging. "

Ah ok. I always do that. I never read questions properly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that... "

Me too, until they do my head in and I want my own space again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that...

Me too, until they do my head in and I want my own space again. "

Soon as you have space.

It can become a void

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that...

Me too, until they do my head in and I want my own space again.

Soon as you have space.

It can become a void"

That is true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that...

Me too, until they do my head in and I want my own space again.

Soon as you have space.

It can become a void

That is true. "

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just relaxing together. Doing nothing in particular, but happy you are doing nothing together. I miss that...

Me too, until they do my head in and I want my own space again.

Soon as you have space.

It can become a void

That is true.

Sorry "

Now isnt this depressing.

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