FabSwingers.com forum: Just wondering why ...

By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

it always seems to be me who sends the first messege, why very little women go first ??

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By *onyGalWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I don’t get much chance because the inbox is always going insane, I’ve only browsed profiles a couple of times

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Most women get enough messages that they don't have to message anyone first. If I like the look of someone I will though.

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I don’t get much chance because the inbox is always going insane, I’ve only browsed profiles a couple of times "

Would that be the reason for a lot of women do you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged guys on occasion but it's rare

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Most women get enough messages that they don't have to message anyone first. If I like the look of someone I will though. "

Is it rare that you do messege first

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I have messaged guys on occasion but it's rare "

Just wait for the messages to flood in

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I generally find that just trying to cope with the messages that are inderway is a job and a half, so adding more gets overlooked

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I generally find that just trying to cope with the messages that are inderway is a job and a half, so adding more gets overlooked "

Just surprising

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Guess it’s a pretty straight forward answer then

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Most women get enough messages that they don't have to message anyone first. If I like the look of someone I will though.

Is it rare that you do messege first "

Yes quite rare, I'll usually only message people who have been on my hotlist for ages.

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Most women get enough messages that they don't have to message anyone first. If I like the look of someone I will though.

Is it rare that you do messege first

Yes quite rare, I'll usually only message people who have been on my hotlist for ages. "

How come you haven’t messeged me then haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I hardly ever send a first message. I may do it twice a year

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

As others have said, you’re so busy managing the messages you receive that you don’t get chance to send.

But I do message sometimes when I get chance.

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"As others have said, you’re so busy managing the messages you receive that you don’t get chance to send.

But I do message sometimes when I get chance. "

Have to be tempted lol

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing"

How do you make contact with new people then ??

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing"

This is how I prefer to message men.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

How do you make contact with new people then ??"

That's what the forums are for.

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

How do you make contact with new people then ??

That's what the forums are for."

Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

How do you make contact with new people then ??

That's what the forums are for.

Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people "

The forums are here for everyone to use. Some people choose to stick to the same forum.

If people choose not to post, that is their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it always seems to be me who sends the first messege, why very little women go first ??"

We do

we message people we are interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

How do you make contact with new people then ??

That's what the forums are for.

Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people "

You will have a few lurkers who never post but use the forums as a filter

Key to getring more 1st mails than you send is to send less

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people "

You're new?

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people

You're new?"

New in what way ?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Always seems to be the same people on forums very rare new people

You're new?

New in what way ?"

Been here 4 months, unless you're a returnee?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I don’t always get a response when I message first

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I don’t always get a response when I message first "

I’m sure most of the time you do

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"it always seems to be me who sends the first messege, why very little women go first ??"
The laws of supply and demand I'm afraid. Most genuine women on here are snowed under with messages daily and they can pick and choose who they answer. It is just one of those things that will always be.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I actually prefer to make first contact for private meets it’s often easier than trying to wade through the inbox for people that interest me

I rarely look at my messages beyond trying to find regular friends I chat to (that I also sometimes miss in the sea of messages) or for responses to the socials/swingers parties that I organise locally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You pics are shit to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't any because I get them all

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"You pics are shit to be honest"

Send them private

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I must admit that I rarely message first unless it's forum related because they tend to get ignored or deleted, plus messaging cold is really not my thing

How do you make contact with new people then ??"

Like I said, forum related or they message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You pics are shit to be honest"

That’s not very kind

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"You pics are shit to be honest

That’s not very kind

Honesty the best policy I guess haha

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"You pics are shit to be honest"

OP didn't ask for profile advice, and let's not make personal comments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I want to meet someone, I’ll semd them a message, often have sent the first message as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it always seems to be me who sends the first messege, why very little women go first ??"

Because they do not need to?

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I don’t get much chance because the inbox is always going insane, I’ve only browsed profiles a couple of times

Would that be the reason for a lot of women do you think ?"
dead right i wake to many messages every day .so can pick from them .i have never browsed any single man status.where would you start/there are so many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had a few messages from time to time not loads tho its just luck of the draw

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By *hris55555 OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"If I want to meet someone, I’ll semd them a message, often have sent the first message as well. "

Still haven’t had it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message first, I make them chase me

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By *lexeatonMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

I think if you're going to message you need it to stand out amongst the rest.

Most women on here will get many messages all saying the same thing "Hi, how are you, like the pictures". It's just pot luck if you are the one in a hundred they reply to

So say something they don't expect and maybe, just maybe you'll get lucky.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don’t get loads of messages, my filters work well for me.

I do message first if I like someone’s profile.

V x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I never message first, I make them chase me

Is it freezing over yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t get loads of messages, my filters work well for me.

I do message first if I like someone’s profile.

V x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never message first, I make them chase me

Is it freezing over yet?

Nope, still very hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have all my message filters set to blocked. I'd rather find who I'm looking for myself than trawl though endless, 'wanna fuck' messages. They're a waste of my time. It works out better when I message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You pics are shit to be honest

OP didn't ask for profile advice, and let's not make personal comments?"

How is that personal? He was wondering why he never gets a message... his pics don't help

People get offended about everything on here

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