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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So! I have a fuck buddy, he is good, so good ... however 2 things... he never takes his boxers off and he refuses to kiss.. now 9 times out of 10 I can deal with this but sometimes I just NEED that passionate kissing sesh to get me in the mood! How do I approach it without coming across as needy? And whhhhyyy whhhhhhy won’t he take off his boxers?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

say "why don't you kiss me and why don't you take your boxers off?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you with him if he makes you feel crap?

Perhaps he's married.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

He keeps his boxers on all the time?

Have you tried taking them off him yourself? I normally provide a helping hand.

And what does he do if you try to kiss him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So! I have a fuck buddy, he is good, so good ... however 2 things... he never takes his boxers off and he refuses to kiss.. now 9 times out of 10 I can deal with this but sometimes I just NEED that passionate kissing sesh to get me in the mood! How do I approach it without coming across as needy? And whhhhyyy whhhhhhy won’t he take off his boxers? "
I hate to think why he wouldn't take his boxers off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of you has halitosis and it's a strap on. You're welcome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good god.

sorry but this sounds very strange to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He keeps his boxers on all the time?

Have you tried taking them off him yourself? I normally provide a helping hand.

And what does he do if you try to kiss him? "

Yes loads and I just get pulled away... any time I mention it he just closes up... so I feel like I’m being too pushy if I go on about it.

Kissing he turns his face... he will kiss everywhere but my lips

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask him "

Where's the entertainment value in that?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......

Just a thought.

A

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Maybe he has scars, or a birthmark, or a reallllly hairy bum and he's embarrassed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe needs to hide all the blisters and sores?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"

Do you feel used?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"He keeps his boxers on all the time?

Have you tried taking them off him yourself? I normally provide a helping hand.

And what does he do if you try to kiss him?

Yes loads and I just get pulled away... any time I mention it he just closes up... so I feel like I’m being too pushy if I go on about it.

Kissing he turns his face... he will kiss everywhere but my lips"

I'm sorry but I find this really strange and it would totally put me off. Try talking to him again. Is it something you can put up with long term? If not, tell him so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"

this is a fuck buddy relationship why are you investing so much in it?

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines


"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......

Just a thought.

A"

That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"
Think you need to find a new fb who treats you better

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......

Just a thought.

A

That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek "

Ah.

Obviously he was laying on the tattooists bed the wrong way round.

A

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

Im just wondering if he is classing you as a trophy.

The kissing I can understand to a degree, might think its commitment to you only so wont kiss.

boxer shorts left on, nah they would be on or off in flash.

your more than welcome to take them off as leave them on for that quickie in the alley way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......

Just a thought.

A

That’s ridiculous. He obviously has Oedipus Complex, hence the lack of kissing - and he in fact has an M tattooed on each arse cheek "

I thought that too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he had a 'W' tattooed on each arse cheek in Shagaluf when he was young and is now sick of everyone saying 'Wow' every time he takes them off and bends over......

Just a thought.

A"

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included"

Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest

You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both

Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance

Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him

From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work

F

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your input guys he’s over shortly... I think I need to keep the clothes on and have a chat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find that weird and would need to get to the bottom of the boxer business pretty quick.

Kissing, could be guilt, not wanting to feel too many emotions, herpes?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included

Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest

You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both

Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance

Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him

From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work

F"

I do think it has something to do with not getting feelings etc, I’m going to chat with him, it’s just making me feel awkward, but I have to do it!

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will add he’s not married, I’ve known him for 10 years, this is just new this year to us (since March)

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"See this is why I wanted others opinions... I have tried to be patient and understanding but it’s so difficult for me to overcome... and I find it so awkward to seduce him without these things included

Honestly, ask him outright and to be honest

You need to know where you stand and, if not discussed already, the boundaries for you both

Do you think he may use it as a defence to stop you two getting too close? If that is the case and you are getting hurt from him doing that then you can discuss an alternative way to keep an emotional distance

Unfortunately the only person who can give you the answers you need is him

From someone who was in a FB relationship for a year I learnt honesty and communication is the only way it will work

F

I do think it has something to do with not getting feelings etc, I’m going to chat with him, it’s just making me feel awkward, but I have to do it!

Thankyou "

Hope it works out for you

It's a hard job having a long term FB and keeping things going smoothly, but at the end of the day it is still a relationship that involves feelings on both sides even if you aren't together

Fingers crossed you get the answers you need

F

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

if a guy get his boxers on with me he wouldnt be invited back a second time. Bloody weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will add he’s not married, I’ve known him for 10 years, this is just new this year to us (since March) "

Self confidencè issues maybe. Hope you get it sorted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he doesn't want to kiss you, he might be only attracted to your body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

throw a bucket of water over him then he relaxed.

oh dear we need to get them clothes dried.

away you go girl

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You've known him since March and he hasn't kissed you? Or taken his boxers off? Is he just after quickies?

I would of asked him ages ago!! Bit odd really.

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