FabSwingers.com forum: Friends with an ex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

No.

Woudn't bother me.

No. Wouldn't be here if i thought that.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Always been amicable splits but don't stay in contact with them.

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By *ingle Dad SeekingMan
over a year ago

Northern England

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

Yes, I am still friends with my ex - so much so that I'm having my Christmas lunch with her, her partner, and our two daughters. Mind you, we've been apart since 2001. It'll be my turn next year.

"Sex stuff" wouldn't even enter into the equation (it didn't even happen much when we were together ha ha); she's a good woman and she's been a wonderful mother to our daughters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still friendly with couple of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with remaining amicable, especially where kids are involved but I don’t think it’s aporopriate to talk about sex. Not if either of you have new partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm good friends with most of my exs, including my ex husband.

Neither of us would ever discuss anything sex related or personal. That crosses the line and is disrespectful to the new partner.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I get on great with the only true ex. Daughters Mum.

I shouldn't do for what she did and the damage she caused but there's no point being the opposite.

Even though I was a single child I never saw my parents argue and they were friends so it's normal to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with remaining amicable, especially where kids are involved but I don’t think it’s aporopriate to talk about sex. Not if either of you have new partners."

I was thinking this too but I'm a terrible prude so wasn't sure if it's just me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get on great with the only true ex. Daughters Mum.

I shouldn't do for what she did and the damage she caused but there's no point being the opposite.

Even though I was a single child I never saw my parents argue and they were friends so it's normal to me."

Being friends with an ex for the kids' sakes is really cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If an ex texted you out of the blue, would you tell your current partner or just delete it without saying anything about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am good friends with my ex wife and we have 2 amazing kids. We still go out for dinner and stuff, personally i think sex talk should be kept private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to say i feel very fortunate that my ex still remains in contact with me.

my time with her was one of the happiest and she was first to welcome me back when i decided to return here.

we exchange messages now and then and sometimes she posts on the forum. a lovely women that i still think fondly of.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I get on great with the only true ex. Daughters Mum.

I shouldn't do for what she did and the damage she caused but there's no point being the opposite.

Even though I was a single child I never saw my parents argue and they were friends so it's normal to me.

Being friends with an ex for the kids' sakes is really cool.

She ended it and I quickly found myself in a relationship with an old family friend.

It was only when that ended that me and The Ex got on.

We could of easily got back but I didn't want to.

My Daughter hasn't seen us argue for 13 years and that's important.

She is almost an adult herself but even so it won't change.

I don't really like the ex I just don't hate her.

Some ex's I just don't speak to and can't stand them and they didn't cost what the first one did.

I've never been married and still have no ambition to be married.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I'm still friends with most of them, a lot go back to my teens and early 20's though so were never really adult relationships with adult problems to end them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

Most recent ex is one of my best friends. Came round for an Xmas drink with us last week.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I still have sex with one of mine

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

no, Ive tried had it thrown back in my face.

It would be at back of my mind

Id hope the sex stuff we did, wouldnt be passed to there exes as much as i wouldnt.

"If an ex texted you out of the blue, would you tell your current partner or just delete it without saying anything about it?"

Id show her the text and go from there

in some cases ive let her reply to the text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still friendly with most of my exes. Happy to chat if I see them when I'm out and would wish them all well in life (even the 1 that hates me). I'm not one for animosity. Partner still speaks to her ex most days as they have a son and I'd much rather them be like that than not get on.

Talking about sex with an ex sounds a bit weird though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends with all of them except the last one

Oh and the dead ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes friendly with a couple of my ex’s still. Wouldn’t be worried if a partner was friends with an ex.

Not sure about talking sex with an ex, I’d wonder why. Context would affect my thoughts on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get on with my ex's and cant see any reason not to and my wife gets on with hers, they are not a threat to us as we all broke up with them so they obviously weren't right for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex is one of my closest friends.

I might joke about sex with him but we certainly wouldn't be talking intimately about either of our sex lives, I'd be upset if a partner of mine was doing that with his ex too.

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By *ed PetalCouple
over a year ago

Kent

No. Exes are way to far in history. Either of our exes left us last century. God, I am feeling old!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought it would bother me... been on here and open minded sexually etc... but now

... thinking about it, i’d be devastated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... might be time to throw the towel in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice sky remote btw

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm friends with almost all of my ex's. Including my first ever boyfriend. It's not an issue for me somehow

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think it's healthy to be friends with your ex, surely it's a positive influence for your children (if you have them) and it's a bonus for you to keep the relationship.

I wouldn't have sexual discussions with them though unless I was having sex with them, it would just be weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one ex and although we aren't friends, per se, we are friendly towards each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have one ex and although we aren't friends, per se, we are friendly towards each other.

I doubt very much that he would talk to his new girlfriend about our sex life.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

My ex is a knob of the highest order. Was friends with the one before him but he got a bit weird.

Friends with Ivory's ex wife though. She came to our wedding, dog sits when we go away and just had Christmas drinks together the other day.

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you

"My ex is a knob of the highest order. Was friends with the one before him but he got a bit weird.

Friends with Ivory's ex wife though. She came to our wedding, dog sits when we go away and just had Christmas drinks together the other day.

Mrs"

Would you give her one.

Just asking like

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

No I’m not friends with any ex’s .

Yes I would be bothered if my wife was still friends with her ex .

If she was talking about sex stuff with her ex I would be pretty pissed off .

No sex stuff shouldn’t be private with a couple . Friends and so on , plus swinging of course means that isn’t the case .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still friends with my ex husband , he's the father of my kids and even though he re- married we get on great...my ex boyfriend..no!!!... never will be!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

I stopped living with my Mrs in 2001. We stayed together as a couple until 2013.

Throughout that time, I had lovers and a FB who was effectively a male partner although I never lived with him.

They knew each other. We socialised together. They got on very well.

I called it quits with them both in 2013, but remained friends with my Mrs for another 18 months or so after that.

It was me who decided to cut off all communication with her for reasons that weren't related to ending the relationship.

My current partner has met them both and both meetings were very comfortable.

Another ex of mine remains a very close personal friend and has even been on holiday with us. He also looks after the dog when we go on holiday.

My first proper girlfriend and her brother are also friends and their Mum has recently added my as a friend on FB

So, in essence, I have no issues with ex's, but I have been fortunate never to endure a toxic relationship or a toxic break up.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'm still friends with my ex, who is the mother of my child.

In the dating world, people have occasionally had a problem with that. They quickly learn that maintaining a good relationship with the mother of my child (and ergo, the happiness of said child) is more important to me.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

No I’m not friends with any ex’s .

Yes I would be bothered if my wife was still friends with her ex .

If she was talking about sex stuff with her ex I would be pretty pissed off .

No sex stuff shouldn’t be private with a couple . Friends and so on , plus swinging of course means that isn’t the case ."

Depends what you mean by "sex stuff". When we'd split and were both dating, I had to assure her that not every bloke sent pics of their cock....

I'm very comfortable in the knowledge that neither of us wish to have sex with the other ever again.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

No I’m not friends with any ex’s .

Yes I would be bothered if my wife was still friends with her ex .

If she was talking about sex stuff with her ex I would be pretty pissed off .

No sex stuff shouldn’t be private with a couple . Friends and so on , plus swinging of course means that isn’t the case .

Depends what you mean by "sex stuff". When we'd split and were both dating, I had to assure her that not every bloke sent pics of their cock....

I'm very comfortable in the knowledge that neither of us wish to have sex with the other ever again. "

I get that , but it’s always been one of those things that I find a bit disrespectful if a new partner comes into ones life and the ex is still a big part of ones life .

I understand with kids involved it’s important to be civil , but otherwise , the past is the past for me .

They’re an ex for a reason .

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

No I’m not friends with any ex’s .

Yes I would be bothered if my wife was still friends with her ex .

If she was talking about sex stuff with her ex I would be pretty pissed off .

No sex stuff shouldn’t be private with a couple . Friends and so on , plus swinging of course means that isn’t the case .

Depends what you mean by "sex stuff". When we'd split and were both dating, I had to assure her that not every bloke sent pics of their cock....

I'm very comfortable in the knowledge that neither of us wish to have sex with the other ever again.

I get that , but it’s always been one of those things that I find a bit disrespectful if a new partner comes into ones life and the ex is still a big part of ones life .

I understand with kids involved it’s important to be civil , but otherwise , the past is the past for me .

They’re an ex for a reason .

In my case, that reason was that we became just friends, and so that is what we have remained.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

That said, I wouldn't discuss the details of my sex life with anyone other than the person that it involved. I find it incredibly disrispectful when anyone shares intimate details of their sex lives with parties not involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep I’m still friends with a few ... we text occasionally and sometimes it’s coffee meets but no sex talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im friends with all my exs, still fuck em too

shit happends but life is too short to be living in hate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never thought it would bother me... been on here and open minded sexually etc... but now

... thinking about it, i’d be devastated

Devastated about which thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice sky remote btw "

Nice braces.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm still friends with my ex, who is the mother of my child.

I love that a few people are still friends with the ex they have kids with.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yes I'm still friends with my ex, he still visits my dad

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was with my ex for 25yrs. We are still friends but he knows nothing about my private life and i have no desire to talk to him about anything sexual.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

"Are you friends with any of your ex's? "

Yes

"Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

"What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

I think it would be a bit crap for them to be talking about it with other people and would probably lose interest in them.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"My ex is a knob of the highest order. Was friends with the one before him but he got a bit weird.

Friends with Ivory's ex wife though. She came to our wedding, dog sits when we go away and just had Christmas drinks together the other day.

Mrs

Would you give her one.

Just asking like

Have done many times when they were together, we played as a 3 for several years.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m best friends with my ex and occasional naughty Fab partners. It works for us perfectly.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

I think it depends on why you broke up. I am friends with a few of my ex's and we get along great. Others, we have gone our separate ways and no longer talk.

As long as you trust your partner, having them talk to an ex, in general, or sex, shouldn't be a big deal.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

Neither of is would be happy about any of that, friends yes, exes, no. That's one of our steadfasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly as we get older, I don't understand why some are jealous of their partners pasts or people that have preceded them

I would only see an issue if the ex was manipulative and was out to cause disruption

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes im not here to make enemys and especially not with the motherof my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm best friends with an ex

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Nothing wrong with remaining amicable, especially where kids are involved but I don’t think it’s aporopriate to talk about sex. Not if either of you have new partners.

I was thinking this too but I'm a terrible prude so wasn't sure if it's just me. "

I don't think it is prudish to not want to discuss your sex life with anyone, we don't. I sure wouldn't discuss my sex life with an ex, that just wouldn't be right for me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Nothing wrong with remaining amicable, especially where kids are involved but I don’t think it’s aporopriate to talk about sex. Not if either of you have new partners.

I was thinking this too but I'm a terrible prude so wasn't sure if it's just me.

I don't think it is prudish to not want to discuss your sex life with anyone, we don't. I sure wouldn't discuss my sex life with an ex, that just wouldn't be right for me."

PS in answer to the friends bit, it would depend on the situation, if an ex was still trying to get the person back then I think all ties need to be cut, if they have moved on with their life too then I don't see that as a problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with remaining amicable, especially where kids are involved but I don’t think it’s aporopriate to talk about sex. Not if either of you have new partners.

I was thinking this too but I'm a terrible prude so wasn't sure if it's just me.

I don't think it is prudish to not want to discuss your sex life with anyone, we don't. I sure wouldn't discuss my sex life with an ex, that just wouldn't be right for me.

That's a fair point about not trying to get the ex back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you friends with any of your ex's?

Yes

Would you be bothered if your current partner was still friends with an ex?

What if your current partner was talking to an ex about sex stuff? Should sex stuff be private within a couple?

I think it would be a bit crap for them to be talking about it with other people and would probably lose interest in them."

I wouldn't like my partner to be discussing our sex life with his ex.

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