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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I don't think it is your place to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s none of your business, just steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say steer clear and block him unless she’s your best friend xx

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"It’s none of your business, just steer clear"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is what i am telling myself.

Things could become awkward in certain situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't know for sure it's him and if it is you don't know their personal life, maybe she knows and is happy he is on here? Quite often it's a case of shooting the messenger when people interfere.

Speaking to him might scare him into leaving if he is cheating but who's to say he won't just go elsewhere? He's still cheating, you just won't know for sure.

I really don't know what I'd do. It would depend on my friend and our relationship and theirs. Only you can judge really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d personally want to know :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is what i am telling myself.

Things could become awkward in certain situations "

Is she your best friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and forget you ever saw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Just block and forget it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Social meet for a coffee?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you here under the same pretence? If so, you really don't want to rock the boat and find the waves crashing back at you..

Forget you ever seen, ignore and block.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

You think. You don't know. And for all you know his wife knows he is here, so say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not a best friend no... But someone i would take time to say hello to if i bumped into them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please just block him..... nothing good will come of this...

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Not your place to interfere. If he's cheating then I'm sure she'll have her suspicions and find out for sure when she wants to.

You don't know their situation. He may be here with permission. They might have a couples profile and she has a single one too.

Best just to block/avoid and move on

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As another person has said block him and steer clear.

If anything comes out it could ruin a happy family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"
you won't be thanked for it just block & move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As another person has said block him and steer clear.

If anything comes out it could ruin a happy family "

How do you know she doesn’t know he’s not on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As another person has said block him and steer clear.

If anything comes out it could ruin a happy family

How do you know she doesn’t know he’s not on here? "

I do not and your right she may does not seem the type but then i never thought i would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep out of it...whatever something seems like on the outside, it may be very difficult for real, and with respect, it's not your business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x"

Correct outcome.

More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x

Correct outcome.

More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99 "

Options open

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..


"Not a best friend no... But someone i would take time to say hello to if i bumped into them"

So someone you know as an acquaintance rather than a close friend..

Without knowing what goes on behind their closed doors, is it really your place to lay judgement and take the moral high ground..

Besides that, you are not 100% sure it is him..It may not be and you may wreck a perfectly happy marriage.

Just steer clear..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not a best friend no... But someone i would take time to say hello to if i bumped into them

So someone you know as an acquaintance rather than a close friend..

Without knowing what goes on behind their closed doors, is it really your place to lay judgement and take the moral high ground..

Besides that, you are not 100% sure it is him..It may not be and you may wreck a perfectly happy marriage.

Just steer clear.."

Your right i will just try and forget that i saw anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x"
x

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best friend -yes

Anything else nope

Iv seen family members her that are cheating/being cheated on

Unless there's major loyalty if not tell

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"

What do you actually know about this situation? Unless you have in depth knowledge of their marriage block him and say nothing. It's none of your business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything. "

Yes Kids yes they seem happy

The profile has met yes

I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x

Correct outcome.

More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99

Options open "

No pics, can't accommodate...does your husband know you're on here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.

Yes Kids yes they seem happy

The profile has met yes

I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.

"

My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

You could of course meet him and see if he is any good.... I'll stick my tin hat on and get ready for the onslaught

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you are correct i have blocked

thank you x

Correct outcome.

More importantly why are you searching for anyone between 18 and 99

Options open

No pics, can't accommodate...does your

husband know you're on here?

;-)"

Not married very single kids at home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.

Yes Kids yes they seem happy

The profile has met yes

I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.

My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing."

He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.

Yes Kids yes they seem happy

The profile has met yes

I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.

My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing.

He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked "

Its always a shock to see someone you know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!

Family as in kids? Are they young? Do they seem happy? Can she support herself? There are lots of things to think about. Has he met anyone? Will he meet anyone ? Is it just a wank profile not for meeting I could go on.

The first though is to tell but then you are partially responsible for what ever happens so think carefully before doing anything.

Yes Kids yes they seem happy

The profile has met yes

I agree with most on here that i should forget i have seen anything.

My opinion is that you're right to do nothing. For all you know he has her blessing.

He may well have yes and i guess it was just a shock, but then again if had seen my profile even though i would not show face he would have been shocked

Its always a shock to see someone you know. "

You are quiet correct well i am and makes me more reserved on here now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your dilemma now will be do you leave alone or do you unblock periodically to see if he's been up to no good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her."

Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...

If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it...

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her.

Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...

If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it..."

I'd have no issue with it. Hence why I said it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm going against the grain and saying tell her. Yes, it might ruin my friendship with her, but I'd rather that than it being ruined because I'd lied to her.

Couples tend to stay together and kill the messengers after bad news is delivered...

If you’re ok being the pariah.... go for it..."

no i dont want that at all

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"

Avoid

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would depend but generally the absolute best advice is to stay out of it, including blocking him. The only situation to consider is where there is substantial risk of imminent danger -it's still their lives and relationship though and we'll not know what is agreed etc

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I’d say steer clear and block him unless she’s your best friend xx"

Agree

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Did you bump into them over the festive period?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Indeed I did but kept my mouth shut.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Indeed I did but kept my mouth shut. "

How was he?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure he realise I am on here to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion is the key... It's not a dilema, you say nothing and act natural around them!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Not sure he realise I am on here to be honest"

Maybe see if he fancies hooking up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snitches get stitches

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Discretion is the key... It's not a dilema, you say nothing and act natural around them!"

Nah. I reckon a social would be fun

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Stay away, you saw nothing.

You would be surprised how many people are on here without partners knowing (at least the ones that want to meet me are).

I have come across a couple people I recognise but I stay well away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they know you are on here? They may have naughty secrets too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discretion is the key... It's not a dilema, you say nothing and act natural around them!

Nah. I reckon a social would be fun "

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I've seen many folk on here I know. Dirty buggers

Their Facebook is all swoon and couple perfection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You found your friend's husband after a week on the site?

That's unlucky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.

I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.

"

No point doing anything else; it simply isn't your business. Each to there own.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.

I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.

"

I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?

Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.

I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.

I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?

Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world "

Cannot pm you as blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe discreetly let the person know u know what they are up to and ask if your friend knows ?! Really don’t know could backfire it’s messy and it really depends how close close your friend is as if it was you and you’re friend knew and didn’t tell you?! Really is a tough one, me personally I’d tell my friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s a difficult one

I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine

I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage

On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me

For the time being I am leaving alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a difficult one

I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine

I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage

On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me

For the time being I am leaving alone "

The friend may know! Also , sometimes it causes shit then they kiss makeup and you’re the bad guy and wouldn’t feel the same after xx

Silence I guess xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It’s a difficult one

I have blocked the profile so I cannot see what he is doing and he also cannot see mine

I’m torn as in one hand I don’t want to ruin what seems to be a perfectly happy marriage

On the other hand I have been in her position where my friends new my ex was cheating on me and never told me

For the time being I am leaving alone "

You wouldn't be the one ruining the marriage however I think you're wise to leave it alone.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Well I guess we are in same area so was bound to bump in to him.

I blocked him so as he couldn’t and I couldn’t see what was going on.

I'd like to talk to you more about this....pm me?

Like I said. I've been through it and still see the person in real-world

Cannot pm you as blocked "

Sorry the wall was up. Try now

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Tricky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen many folk on here I know. Dirty buggers

Their Facebook is all swoon and couple perfection "

If they're like that on fb it usually ends in divorce soon after. Trying to hide the cracks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma !!

I came here for a little fun and i think i have come across one of my friends husband...

Do i approach him or do i tell her

They seem to have a great marriage and family so you could say i am rather shocked to say the least !!"

Its really not your business. Also bear in mind:

1. He would have to be an idiot to put a face pic on a site like this if he was cheating. Why not join Ashley madison?

2. He may be doing it with his wife's knowledge.

3. It might be a fake profile with a stolen picture.

4. Even if he is cheating people will shoot the messenger in this situ.

Steer well clear.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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How is this working out?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/02/19 21:20:22]"

Why do you keep bumping her thread?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"[Removed by poster at 12/02/19 21:20:22]

Why do you keep bumping her thread? "

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"It’s none of your business, just steer clear"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was you, I'd file his profile away under B...

...for bootycall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore everyone on here and just do whatever you think the right thing is. It can be your business if you care about your friend, it doesnt have to be though, if you'd not risk the aggro. Your choice.

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By *uilders mateMan
over a year ago

Builders mate, Northampton or traveling

It is his choice to be on here (as it is also yours), don’t interfere. You tell your mate and she may well assume you’re slept with him. Block him and forget it. My neighbour is on here. I just ignore thier attempts to meet me. And I didn’t know he was bi!!!!

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

If it was me id want you to tell me, the thought of me going about my life thinking my man loves me and is loyal to me makes me sick.

And if he was on here with my blessing i would say, thank you for looking out for me but its all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it would depend on how close a friend they were. I would understand that it were none of my business, but if it were someone who was an extremely close friend, i would have to tell her. You have to do what's right by you OP. Only you know the answer to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is his choice to be on here (as it is also yours), don’t interfere. You tell your mate and she may well assume you’re slept with him. Block him and forget it. My neighbour is on here. I just ignore thier attempts to meet me. And I didn’t know he was bi!!!!"

!!!!!!!!! omg he was bi??!!!!!

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