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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can mean that they're a snob with unrealistic standards. Or it can mean they realise that what they're looking for is hard to find (or indeed they want to convey they're not an easy lay).

Maybe? Depends on whether or not they come across as a snob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

We have a lot that won’t due to our username but hey ho there loss

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It says to me that they are the sort of lady who insists on the toilet seat being down and the loo roll against and facing the wall

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By *nglishCharmMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've been too fussy, now I'm keen to meet up with anyone, woman or couple lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst there is nothing wrong with being fussy in life, it would depend on why they feel they have to announce it.

It could be interpreted as anything from unrealistic in their expectations to they think they are better than others. It then falls to our own interpretation of their intention... never a good thing in reality

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Depends on what they mean and do we meet the criteria they lay down on their profile.

When we have seen fussy on a profile in the past it has normally been accompanied by a long list of dos and don'ts so tend not to bother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been too fussy, now I'm keen to meet up with anyone, woman or couple lol"

Aim low.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It can mean that they're a snob with unrealistic standards. Or it can mean they realise that what they're looking for is hard to find (or indeed they want to convey they're not an easy lay).

Maybe? Depends on whether or not they come across as a snob. "

I think similar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst there is nothing wrong with being fussy in life, it would depend on why they feel they have to announce it.

It could be interpreted as anything from unrealistic in their expectations to they think they are better than others. It then falls to our own interpretation of their intention... never a good thing in reality "

Some people are more classy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy means 'not meeting'

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

They know what they like/want and may have clearly defined preferences.

Would only message them if we met any preferences stated. There are plenty of profiles on here. There's generally no point in contacting people if they're specifying things you're not.

That's my 'sensible' answer anyway.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They think there better than me whitch is mathematicly impossible

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I sometimes get messages (I'm sure many here do) from men saying that they're incredibly fussy, the women on here suck etc... except me.

I ain't no chill girl and that doesn't work for them.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I find them.... Complicated

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck ! "

Whoooo someone’s got out the wrong side of bed today

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck !

Whoooo someone’s got out the wrong side of bed today "

It’s always been a bugbear of ours .

Nothing personal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy means they take care in choosing lipstick and matching nailvarnish?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

On here I think it's usually used more as either a deterrent (to try, usually unsuccessfully, and ward off unwanted approaches) by some ladies, or an attracter (to try, usually unsuccessfully, to somehow prove they're not part of the any hole's a goal brigade), by some men.

Ultimately we're all fussy to a greater or lesser degree by having preferences and types we're attracted to - just most of us take that as a given and don't feel the need to spell it out.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It makes me think that they think there better than anyone else like no other fucker is fussy then come on here whining that they cant get meets as they are to "fussy" more like not getting meets as they are too delusional

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

And no i wouldnt mail them

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

I think fussy is one of those words on here that puts most people's backs up. It's not always necessarily meant in a negative way but sadly comes across that way. I think it's because it's one of those "subjective" words so people interpret it and it's application differently.

As someone with pretty controversial preferences, I personally still wouldn't describe myself as fussy because I think there are better words to use.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to think of "looking for a specific set of attributes in a meet" sounds much better.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here I think it's usually used more as either a deterrent (to try, usually unsuccessfully, and ward off unwanted approaches) by some ladies, or an attracter (to try, usually unsuccessfully, to somehow prove they're not part of the any hole's a goal brigade), by some men.

Ultimately we're all fussy to a greater or lesser degree by having preferences and types we're attracted to - just most of us take that as a given and don't feel the need to spell it out."

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would mail them because im male

And it would be funny to get there reaction to the random shit i like to chat

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Fussy to me means that I won't meet anyone I don't find attractive. I think it would be insulting to the person we were meeting if I just met them because they were available.

this is in the context of fab only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck !

Whoooo someone’s got out the wrong side of bed today

It’s always been a bugbear of ours .

Nothing personal "

We’re actually very sociable people and a lot of fun to be around we don’t look down our noses at anyone and will happily socialise with anyone regardless of what they look like but on the other hand yes we are a little bit choosey when it comes to playing we do need to feel some sort of physical attraction that doesn’t mean we’re up our own arses or think people are beneath us . We’re not naive enough to think we’re all that ourselves don’t worry

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I worry it means they won't eat sprouts.

#dealbreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been too fussy, now I'm keen to meet up with anyone, woman or couple lol"

Translation..... I started down the fab road to sexual heaven looking for what I am actually attracted to.....however a few months in I now realise that to actually get laid I need to lower my standards and expectations..... So now I will consider those not really good enough for me in the real world..but hey, this is the internet, whose gonna know - I can always hide the veri's, right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck ! "

Eyes role when we see....

Fussy

Don’t want to sleep with half the site

Quality over quantity

And numerous other negative phrases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They think there better than me whitch is mathematicly impossible "

I'll wager they can spell better than you, otherwise they have got problems!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

Depends if they explain what they mean....could be fussy about cleaning their house!

I have seen profiles, from all groups, that simply said they were fussy who they meet which they would not expand on.

To me that meant they did not have the balls to actually say they think they are red hot and they don't want any fat people nor anyone who is not generally considered very attractive.

I don't think they are shallow for their preferences its just a pity they don't have as much balls as they do a high opinion of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

To us it means they are way too far up their own arse , and think they are better than us mere mortals .

What makes me laugh about it is when you look on the profile and they aren’t all that !

And furthermore they spend their life moaning about not being able to find a suitable meet on here or anywhere else !

Which is probably because people who may meet their ‘fussy’ criteria wouldn’t want to meet them anyway .

Would we mail them ? Would we fuck !

Eyes role when we see....

Fussy

Don’t want to sleep with half the site

Quality over quantity

And numerous other negative phrases"

Maybe there only negative to people like yourself but to others them phrases are very positive . Just cus people swing doesn’t mean they don’t have the right to say who with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think fussy is one of those words on here that puts most people's backs up. It's not always necessarily meant in a negative way but sadly comes across that way. I think it's because it's one of those "subjective" words so people interpret it and it's application differently.

As someone with pretty controversial preferences, I personally still wouldn't describe myself as fussy because I think there are better words to use.

Mrs"

If you think fussy is a bad word on Fab.....

Don’t ever put professional on your profile....

That is like farting in church...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

Depends if they explain what they mean....could be fussy about cleaning their house!

I have seen profiles, from all groups, that simply said they were fussy who they meet which they would not expand on.

To me that meant they did not have the balls to actually say they think they are red hot and they don't want any fat people nor anyone who is not generally considered very attractive.

I don't think they are shallow for their preferences its just a pity they don't have as much balls as they do a high opinion of themselves."

Sorry but shoe on the other foot maybe it’s people like you that have very low opinion of thenselves have you ever looked at it like that ? To me your comment sounds like it’s you who thinks your not worthy ? And I’m not being dis respectful here just trying to make you look at it from another angle

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Hopefully it means they know what they like. Saying they're not fussy would be worse I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think fussy is one of those words on here that puts most people's backs up. It's not always necessarily meant in a negative way but sadly comes across that way. I think it's because it's one of those "subjective" words so people interpret it and it's application differently.

As someone with pretty controversial preferences, I personally still wouldn't describe myself as fussy because I think there are better words to use.

Mrs

If you think fussy is a bad word on Fab.....

Don’t ever put professional on your profile....

That is like farting in church..."

That’s ok I often fart in church

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hopefully it means they know what they like. Saying they're not fussy would be worse I think."
very good point

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

It means (to me) they are punching and trying to play in the league above.

I avoid them and might message them to take the mick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy is a child that wont eat peas, or anything else. No amount of co ersion will change their mind. Fussy implies an unbending character, ie stubborn

I dont think I would message no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, fussy means not worth bothering with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No good for me.

I’ve usually got holes in my socks and fussy implies they’d insist on me taking my shoes off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry it means they won't eat sprouts.

#dealbreaker"

Good man!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"They think there better than me whitch is mathematicly impossible

I'll wager they can spell better than you, otherwise they have got problems! "
dont be so damn rude

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

Depends if they explain what they mean....could be fussy about cleaning their house!

I have seen profiles, from all groups, that simply said they were fussy who they meet which they would not expand on.

To me that meant they did not have the balls to actually say they think they are red hot and they don't want any fat people nor anyone who is not generally considered very attractive.

I don't think they are shallow for their preferences its just a pity they don't have as much balls as they do a high opinion of themselves."

I think I’m red hot, I don’t want to meet fat people or people who are generally not considered very attractive.

I have the balls to back up my high opinion of myself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like fuss, so would probably think they’re not for me.

Also suggests a limited vocabulary as ‘exclusive’ and ‘selective’ sound so much posher..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Fussy means 'not meeting' "

nooooooooo! fussy means not on here to let any desperado pop round for a quick shag! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

particular = fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they just say they're fussy, they sound like hard work, I wouldn't message them.

However if someone explains what they are looking for & if I am interested & match what they want, then I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy means 'not meeting'

nooooooooo! fussy means not on here to let any desperado pop round for a quick shag! lol "

spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ?? "

Not at all, I think all of the people view only meeting people they are attracted to and inkeeping with their own standards is considered normal, rather than fussy.

"Fussy" is a word that I personally equate to stress and hassle.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"
you won't go with anything x

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

There's no right or wrongs. The OP asked 'what does it mean to you'?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fussy brings to mind a maiden aunt, unable to stop rearranging her doilies or a short, mustachioed man fiddling with papers in a brown cardigan, while sliding his spectacles up his nose.

I’m not sure either of those images makes me want to message someone, really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ?? "

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all, I think all of the people view only meeting people they are attracted to and inkeeping with their own standards is considered normal, rather than fussy.

"Fussy" is a word that I personally equate to stress and hassle.

P"

So In other words your fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy brings to mind a maiden aunt, unable to stop rearranging her doilies or a short, mustachioed man fiddling with papers in a brown cardigan, while sliding his spectacles up his nose.

I’m not sure either of those images makes me want to message someone, really "

Yep, needs to be "just so" or I may have a meltdown and throw a toddler wobbly

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The slightest little thing puts them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fussy this thread getting to 175 posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

"

Mincing words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all, I think all of the people view only meeting people they are attracted to and inkeeping with their own standards is considered normal, rather than fussy.

"Fussy" is a word that I personally equate to stress and hassle.

P

So In other words your fussy "

Did you understand what I just said? Fussy is a word that brings thoughts of stress and hassle to me. Do I think I'm stress and hassle when choosing who I meet? No, I don't.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words "

Not at all. That's what fussy means. I can roll my eyes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words "

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry it means they won't eat sprouts.

#dealbreaker"

I would not say that would be a deal breaker, but I do enjoy sprouts!

Sprouts have divided fab though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P"

It means exactly the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

Not at all. That's what fussy means. I can roll my eyes too "
then il pick them up and roll them back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P

It means exactly the same thing "

Well clearly it doesn't to everyone or this thread would have stopped after the first bleeding post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

Not at all. That's what fussy means. I can roll my eyes too then il pick them up and roll them back "

I don't want them after you've touched them. I'm fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

Not at all. That's what fussy means. I can roll my eyes too then il pick them up and roll them back

I don't want them after you've touched them. I'm fussy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fussy

adjective

fastidious about one's needs or requirements; hard to please.

"he is very fussy about what he eats"

synonyms: finicky, particular, over-particular, fastidious, discriminating, selective, dainty, punctilious; More

showing excessive or anxious concern about detail.

"Eleanor patted her hair with quick, fussy movements"

full of unnecessary detail or decoration.

"I hate fussy clothes"

synonyms: over-elaborate, over-embellished, overdecorated, over-ornate, overdone, overworked, busy, cluttered, laboured, strained, florid;

standard

noun

plural noun: standards

1.

a level of quality or attainment.

"their restaurant offers a high standard of service"

synonyms: quality, level, grade, degree, worth, calibre, merit, excellence

"the standard of work is very good"

preference

/'pr?frns/

noun

plural noun: preferences

1.

a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.

"her preference for white wine"

synonyms: liking, partiality, predilection, proclivity, fondness, taste, inclination, leaning, bias, bent, penchant, predisposition, desire, wish

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P

It means exactly the same thing

Well clearly it doesn't to everyone or this thread would have stopped after the first bleeding post "

Ok so your not fussy try going in a swingers club full of men and announcing yout not fussy see what they think it means . No point skirting round it with bullshit and dressing it up is there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P

It means exactly the same thing

Well clearly it doesn't to everyone or this thread would have stopped after the first bleeding post

Ok so your not fussy try going in a swingers club full of men and announcing yout not fussy see what they think it means . No point skirting round it with bullshit and dressing it up is there ? "

Fussy = nitpicking

Having preferences and standards = maintaining your own levels of what you are looking for.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

Not at all. That's what fussy means. I can roll my eyes too then il pick them up and roll them back

I don't want them after you've touched them. I'm fussy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all. Fussy to me is overly particular.

People can have standards and preferences without being fussy.

Mincing words

I don't think it's mincing words at all, it's perception of dialect that differs.

P

It means exactly the same thing

Well clearly it doesn't to everyone or this thread would have stopped after the first bleeding post

Ok so your not fussy try going in a swingers club full of men and announcing yout not fussy see what they think it means . No point skirting round it with bullshit and dressing it up is there ?

Fussy = nitpicking

Having preferences and standards = maintaining your own levels of what you are looking for."

Yea that’s fine we’ve all established your not fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fussy

adjective

fastidious about one's needs or requirements; hard to please.

"he is very fussy about what he eats"

synonyms: finicky, particular, over-particular, fastidious, discriminating, selective, dainty, punctilious; More

showing excessive or anxious concern about detail.

"Eleanor patted her hair with quick, fussy movements"

full of unnecessary detail or decoration.

"I hate fussy clothes"

synonyms: over-elaborate, over-embellished, overdecorated, over-ornate, overdone, overworked, busy, cluttered, laboured, strained, florid;

standard

noun

plural noun: standards

1.

a level of quality or attainment.

"their restaurant offers a high standard of service"

synonyms: quality, level, grade, degree, worth, calibre, merit, excellence

"the standard of work is very good"

preference

/'pr?frns/

noun

plural noun: preferences

1.

a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.

"her preference for white wine"

synonyms: liking, partiality, predilection, proclivity, fondness, taste, inclination, leaning, bias, bent, penchant, predisposition, desire, wish

Hope this helps "

Yep, as before, I hate fuss... but have strong preferences..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yea that’s fine we’ve all established your not fussy "

You're right I'm not, I can still maintain HIGH STANDARDS, meet those who tick all the boxes in interests and attraction according to my PREFERENCES and not be put off because I don't really like their shoes. Being put off by

a pair of shoes would be FUSSY.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yea that’s fine we’ve all established your not fussy

You're right I'm not, I can still maintain HIGH STANDARDS, meet those who tick all the boxes in interests and attraction according to my PREFERENCES and not be put off because I don't really like their shoes. Being put off by

a pair of shoes would be FUSSY.

P"
yea ok

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I think most people I’ve seen describe themselves as fussy are doing so in a fairly lighthearted way just to say they have their preferences. I don’t know that many are too fussy to the point where those preferences are utterly ridiculous and unrealistic.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It says to me that they are the sort of lady who insists on the toilet seat being down and the loo roll against and facing the wall "

The loo roll should never be against the wall but hanging down on the outer side of the roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this fuss over fuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids are fussy eaters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had it on mine but Ive checked and I don’t. I think I did at one time. Mine says choosy, same thing I suppose. Yeah I am fussy but that’s me. We’re all different. I don’t meet many people either and rarely take it further than a social so I guess that’s my interpretation of fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have a type and only play with people they are attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On here I think it's usually used more as either a deterrent (to try, usually unsuccessfully, and ward off unwanted approaches) by some ladies, or an attracter (to try, usually unsuccessfully, to somehow prove they're not part of the any hole's a goal brigade), by some men.

Ultimately we're all fussy to a greater or lesser degree by having preferences and types we're attracted to - just most of us take that as a given and don't feel the need to spell it out."

I agree with all this. Especially about it being used as a deterrent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think fussy is one of those words on here that puts most people's backs up. It's not always necessarily meant in a negative way but sadly comes across that way. I think it's because it's one of those "subjective" words so people interpret it and it's application differently.

As someone with pretty controversial preferences, I personally still wouldn't describe myself as fussy because I think there are better words to use.

Mrs"

How are your preferences controversial?

I think many things come across as negative when they aren't necessarily so.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"I think fussy is one of those words on here that puts most people's backs up. It's not always necessarily meant in a negative way but sadly comes across that way. I think it's because it's one of those "subjective" words so people interpret it and it's application differently.

As someone with pretty controversial preferences, I personally still wouldn't describe myself as fussy because I think there are better words to use.

Mrs

How are your preferences controversial?

I think many things come across as negative when they aren't necessarily so.

I prefer Caucasian men. Many a thread has been started and argued because of racial preference.

Mrs"

I think people use the word fussy instead of just stating what exactly their preferences are. Surely everyone is "fussy" to some degree, depending on how they apply the word?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's no right or wrongs. The OP asked 'what does it mean to you'?

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By *oseyoudownMan
over a year ago

Trouble! AGAIN! x

Not the kind of comment i look for in a profile! Speaks volumes about the author!

EXCLUSIVE!

I prefer inclusive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry it means they won't eat sprouts.

#dealbreaker

I would not say that would be a deal breaker, but I do enjoy sprouts!

Sprouts have divided fab though "

Is that sprouts with or without the Marmite....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I read I conclude that fussy means overly aggressive.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

Fussy just means having standards.

I type this in an uber be en route to meet one of the women I’m actually dating. Surprise surprise she isn’t on fab .

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I call myself fussy.. But its not really an adequate word for what I am. Being fussy often implies that you think someone or something may be sub-standard... But in my case it simply means that my preferences are very specific. I know exactly who and what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I call myself fussy.. But its not really an adequate word for what I am. Being fussy often implies that you think someone or something may be sub-standard... But in my case it simply means that my preferences are very specific. I know exactly who and what I want "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fussy just means having standards.

I type this in an uber be en route to meet one of the women I’m actually dating. Surprise surprise she isn’t on fab . "

What are standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fussy means they have very high standers when seek fun meaning the person they seek has to be perfect which most do seek on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I worry it means they won't eat sprouts.

#dealbreaker

I would not say that would be a deal breaker, but I do enjoy sprouts!

Sprouts have divided fab though

Is that sprouts with or without the Marmite...."

Ha! Who posted that? Damn it just read that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say that they too often find excuses not to do something .. probably a cop out

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Fussy just means having standards."

A damning indictment of our education system.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fussy just means having standards.

A damning indictment of our education system."

What do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

I wouldn't mail them

I wouldn't mail those profiles that say they will meet pretty much anyone either

I'm fussy, like REALLY fussy

If I listed all my preferences on my profile, it would read like The Dead Sea Scrolls

When I used to meet, I never felt the need to point it out and was happy to receive messages from those that showed an interest - even though they invariably went nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy just means having standards.

A damning indictment of our education system.

What do you mean? "

He means it doesn’t mean that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

If it was a woman or couple, then probably not as it’ll mean they have a far higher opinion of themselves than they deserve using the plethora of men on this site to punch considerably above their weight.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I prefer the term ‘selective’.

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By *hil LandererMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Fussy Men!!!!

Jesus there are more Fussy women on here than there are cars on the road lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer the term ‘selective’. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i see fussy i just think of food i dont like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all these people objecting are not in the least bit fussy and will sleep with anything (pulse optional ) i take it ??

Not at all, I think all of the people view only meeting people they are attracted to and inkeeping with their own standards is considered normal, rather than fussy.

"Fussy" is a word that I personally equate to stress and hassle.

Stop stressing

P

So In other words your fussy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fussy eater

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

Same as the dictionary "fastidious about one's needs or requirements; hard to please." And yes I would as I have no problem with rejection im a big girl.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

If it was a woman or couple, then probably not as it’ll mean they have a far higher opinion of themselves than they deserve using the plethora of men on this site to punch considerably above their weight. "

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

If it was a woman or couple, then probably not as it’ll mean they have a far higher opinion of themselves than they deserve using the plethora of men on this site to punch considerably above their weight. "
Shush, the truth is not wanted here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy to me means selective.

My friend and daughter are fussy eaters.

On fab being fussy means that person is extremely selective in who they would meet. I’m in the fussy category but it doesn’t mean I think I’m better than anyone else, it means I miss out more.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Fussy just means having standards.

"

Not really. Preferring someone who might be, for example, more hygienic, or might be courteous and respectful could be considered as having high enough standards.

But preferring someone, for example, over a certain height, with or without a beard, or with a particular colour of eyes is simply a preference, rather than something that could really be described as a high enough standard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just mean they have a type...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t you all put “we’re not fussy “ as an header on your profile then it might give you an in site into what 99% of the men on fab thinks it means conversation over

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Why don’t you all put “we’re not fussy “ as an header on your profile then it might give you an in site into what 99% of the men on fab thinks it means conversation over "

Close, but no cigar.

While I understand why you’re trying to defend yourselves, you really don’t have a sound grasp of the situation. There is a significant difference between just not being fussy (which just means that, while you have standards, you’re not a dick about it) and actually saying, “I’m not fussy,” which tends to be interpreted as being totally indifferent, and not having standards.

The option picked by many is to just not use the word at all, because everyone has their own standards and preferences, so it’s acknowledged that it needn’t be said.

At this point, you’re not going to change what everyone thinks of you using the word. You’ve got two options; you can accept it, and change it, or you can leave it there as a handy filter for the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t like fuss, so would probably think they’re not for me.

Also suggests a limited vocabulary as ‘exclusive’ and ‘selective’ sound so much posher.."

I rather like "discerning"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don’t you all put “we’re not fussy “ as an header on your profile then it might give you an in site into what 99% of the men on fab thinks it means conversation over

Close, but no cigar.

While I understand why you’re trying to defend yourselves, you really don’t have a sound grasp of the situation. There is a significant difference between just not being fussy (which just means that, while you have standards, you’re not a dick about it) and actually saying, “I’m not fussy,” which tends to be interpreted as being totally indifferent, and not having standards.

The option picked by many is to just not use the word at all, because everyone has their own standards and preferences, so it’s acknowledged that it needn’t be said.

At this point, you’re not going to change what everyone thinks of you using the word. You’ve got two options; you can accept it, and change it, or you can leave it there as a handy filter for the rest of us."

Yep suits us just fine no bullshit no politics no mincing words and being ridiculous skirting round things and trying to be pretentious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

"

They know what they like and don't deviate away in the slightest. If I found them attractive and/or are interesting them yes I would

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Yep suits us just fine no bullshit no politics no mincing words and being ridiculous skirting round things and trying to be pretentious "

I see that the irony comes thick and fast with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep suits us just fine no bullshit no politics no mincing words and being ridiculous skirting round things and trying to be pretentious

I see that the irony comes thick and fast with you."

Bit like yourself trying to look intelligent then hey

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By *oley999Woman
over a year ago

Land of Rainbows and Happiness

I often say I am fussy for faces, not that bothered about bodies

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

So may of you guy's making assumptions or judging we are fussy it not because we better that anyone but we try harder .

This a bit of fun just have sex with who are what ever is not fun.

To answer the question fussy is code for are you feeling confident if you are we will consider you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So may of you guy's making assumptions or judging we are fussy it not because we better that anyone but we try harder .

This a bit of fun just have sex with who are what ever is not fun.

To answer the question fussy is code for are you feeling confident if you are we will consider you."
?? well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they get new carpets just because its christmas

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

We have a lot that won’t due to our username but hey ho there loss "

And I was thinking of using you as a perfect example of the phrase

Fussy, choosy, particular, having standards, doesn't mind a knee trembler behind the bike shed as long as it's with a friend etc.

Fussy is good

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"So may of you guy's making assumptions or judging we are fussy it not because we better that anyone but we try harder ."

I’ll need some evidence to support that claim. Hopefully written legibly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone says that they are 'fussy', what does that mean to you?

And would you mail them?

We have a lot that won’t due to our username but hey ho there loss

And I was thinking of using you as a perfect example of the phrase

Fussy, choosy, particular, having standards, doesn't mind a knee trembler behind the bike shed as long as it's with a friend etc.

Fussy is good "

Thank you very much xx to many people quick to judge us without even knowing us in this thread I find it rather moronic people taking exception to a fab name xx

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I find it rather moronic people taking exception to a fab name xx"

Oh, now, let’s not be silly, nobody is taking objection to your name.

It’s just your attitude that people don’t like.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

I just wonder why people always seem to jump on the negative connotations of a simple word or phrase, rather than the positive

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I just wonder why people always seem to jump on the negative connotations of a simple word or phrase, rather than the positive "

I just wonder why people keep arguing in the face of clear definitions for words. Besides, as already pointed out, it’s not much to do with the word used, and more to do with the ‘need’ to say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it rather moronic people taking exception to a fab name xx

Oh, now, let’s not be silly, nobody is taking objection to your name.

It’s just your attitude that people don’t like."

It’s very much the same as your attitude in expressing an opinion would you not say ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wonder why people always seem to jump on the negative connotations of a simple word or phrase, rather than the positive

"

Exactly we all know what it means but fab politicians seem to want to take it out of context

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Exactly we all know what it means"

Clearly you don’t. You’re still arguing in the face of its clear definition. Fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly we all know what it means

Clearly you don’t. You’re still arguing in the face of its clear definition. Fuck me."

Not arguing not really bothered we know we’re nice people people we meet know we’re nice people so if our name is used as filter by short sighted Morons that’s more than fine by us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is if you do not have what they looking for they would not entertain you at all which i fall under loll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg. It’s only a word. So what if people are fussy and choosy! I am. Extremely. Does that make me any better or worse than anybody else? No it doesn’t! Why does it matter?! Just be whatever word you wanna be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg. It’s only a word. So what if people are fussy and choosy! I am. Extremely. Does that make me any better or worse than anybody else? No it doesn’t! Why does it matter?! Just be whatever word you wanna be. "
about time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So may of you guy's making assumptions or judging we are fussy it not because we better that anyone but we try harder .

This a bit of fun just have sex with who are what ever is not fun.

To answer the question fussy is code for are you feeling confident if you are we will consider you."

That's a nice way of looking at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy ist in German the short word for Fussball which means Football.

So If Somebody ist fussy, He wants to Talk ablut Football.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fussy just means having standards.

A damning indictment of our education system.

What do you mean?

He means it doesn’t mean that."

But my OP asked what it means to the people reading this thread. It has nothing to do with education or the dictionary definition. I want people's thoughts, perceptions and feelings about the word.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

On here it tends to mean they prefer their chosen bedmate to have a pulse

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"But my OP asked what it means to the people reading this thread. It has nothing to do with education or the dictionary definition. I want people's thoughts, perceptions and feelings about the word. "

Sorry to be picky, but it’s not what you asked. You asked what we think people’s use of the word means. That’s different to what the word itself means. The meaning of the word is precise. Opinions on the use of the word only seem to vary if you choose to ignore the unarguable definition of the word.

One cannot say, “‘Fussy’ just means having standards,” when that is, demonstrably, not the definition of the word. One could try saying, “Describing yourself as ‘fussy’ just means you have standards,” although, to do so, simply highlights that, while you have standards (as does everyone else) you do not have a firm grasp of the language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But my OP asked what it means to the people reading this thread. It has nothing to do with education or the dictionary definition. I want people's thoughts, perceptions and feelings about the word.

Sorry to be picky, but it’s not what you asked. You asked what we think people’s use of the word means. That’s different to what the word itself means. The meaning of the word is precise. Opinions on the use of the word only seem to vary if you choose to ignore the unarguable definition of the word.

One cannot say, “‘Fussy’ just means having standards,” when that is, demonstrably, not the definition of the word. One could try saying, “Describing yourself as ‘fussy’ just means you have standards,” although, to do so, simply highlights that, while you have standards (as does everyone else) you do not have a firm grasp of the language."

O ffs give it up we all understand what it means . You call yourself oatcake doesn’t mean you are one does it ffs? Or maybe you have no understanding of the word . It’s just a word used loosely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But my OP asked what it means to the people reading this thread. It has nothing to do with education or the dictionary definition. I want people's thoughts, perceptions and feelings about the word.

Sorry to be picky, but it’s not what you asked. You asked what we think people’s use of the word means. That’s different to what the word itself means. The meaning of the word is precise. Opinions on the use of the word only seem to vary if you choose to ignore the unarguable definition of the word.

One cannot say, “‘Fussy’ just means having standards,” when that is, demonstrably, not the definition of the word. One could try saying, “Describing yourself as ‘fussy’ just means you have standards,” although, to do so, simply highlights that, while you have standards (as does everyone else) you do not have a firm grasp of the language."

You know everyone's mind better than they do and your language and intellect far surpasses everyone else's.

I probably wrote that wrong. Feel free to correct it.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"O ffs give it up we all understand what it means . You call yourself oatcake doesn’t mean you are one does it ffs? Or maybe you have no understanding of the word . It’s just a word used loosely "

I really hope you’re being deliberately obtuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But my OP asked what it means to the people reading this thread. It has nothing to do with education or the dictionary definition. I want people's thoughts, perceptions and feelings about the word.

Sorry to be picky, but it’s not what you asked. You asked what we think people’s use of the word means. That’s different to what the word itself means. The meaning of the word is precise. Opinions on the use of the word only seem to vary if you choose to ignore the unarguable definition of the word.

One cannot say, “‘Fussy’ just means having standards,” when that is, demonstrably, not the definition of the word. One could try saying, “Describing yourself as ‘fussy’ just means you have standards,” although, to do so, simply highlights that, while you have standards (as does everyone else) you do not have a firm grasp of the language.

You know everyone's mind better than they do and your language and intellect far surpasses everyone else's.

I probably wrote that wrong. Feel free to correct it. "

Obnoxious !! I wonder if he’s intelligent enough to know what that means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"O ffs give it up we all understand what it means . You call yourself oatcake doesn’t mean you are one does it ffs? Or maybe you have no understanding of the word . It’s just a word used loosely

I really hope you’re being deliberately obtuse."

More of a fruitcake than a outcake I’m guessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means they are particular about who they want to meet. That could mean physically, intellectually or how much money they have.

I've seen many women say they are picky/fussy/choosy and I wouldn't entertain any of the men they have met. It just means we have differing tastes in our sexual partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on what they mean and do we meet the criteria they lay down on their profile.

When we have seen fussy on a profile in the past it has normally been accompanied by a long list of dos and don'ts so tend not to bother."

Absolutely 'we expect'and ' you must' I tend to not even make it to the pics. Some might be trying to reduce the unsuitable messages, but they make themselves look too much hard work, it's supposed to be fun for all, not feel like swimming against the tide

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I take it to mean that they’re hard work. I’m unlikely to message them.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

It means they've never found what their looking for and clutching at straws

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