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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " Some unsatisfying over in minutes selfish sex lol | |||
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"Take up Golf?" Moving is in my game plan when I retire but that won't be for at least 6 years. Golf I hadn't thought of. What would you like as your prize? | |||
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"Take up Golf? Moving is in my game plan when I retire but that won't be for at least 6 years. Golf I hadn't thought of. What would you like as your prize? " A hole in one, obviously. | |||
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"Take up Golf? Moving is in my game plan when I retire but that won't be for at least 6 years. Golf I hadn't thought of. What would you like as your prize? " My advice is pro bono. Good luck  | |||
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"Take up Golf? Moving is in my game plan when I retire but that won't be for at least 6 years. Golf I hadn't thought of. What would you like as your prize? My advice is pro bono. Good luck "If he’s going to be there, I’m not going. | |||
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"Take up Golf? Moving is in my game plan when I retire but that won't be for at least 6 years. Golf I hadn't thought of. What would you like as your prize? My advice is pro bono. Good luck
If he’s going to be there, I’m not going. "Not a U2 fan then?  | |||
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Gives the likes of me a chance then!! | |||
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"Lower your standards?
Gives the likes of me a chance then!! "Lol | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " Men suitable for what? Dating sites maybe? They at least pretend to like you as a person in the hope of a shag. | |||
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"No useful contribution but I have two single woman friends who find it very difficult. This surprises me given the number of single people there are in the world. I'd go on first dates if I was single. "You mean First Dates the programme? I've heard of it but never seen it (As opposed to a series of first dates....been there done that)! | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Men suitable for what? Dating sites maybe? They at least pretend to like you as a person in the hope of a shag." I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Men suitable for what? Dating sites maybe? They at least pretend to like you as a person in the hope of a shag. I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. " Sorry it's bad for you lady | |||
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"No useful contribution but I have two single woman friends who find it very difficult. This surprises me given the number of single people there are in the world. I'd go on first dates if I was single.
You mean First Dates the programme? I've heard of it but never seen it (As opposed to a series of first dates....been there done that)!"The programme. How nice to see programme instead of show .
I'd go on it because they seem to encourage people to talk about exactly what they're looking for in a relationship. A woman in her 70s was on recently, she quite openly said she would need any relationship to be sexual, the guy she was meeting was a bit crestfallen because he wasn't sure he was up to it. Others discuss how important family is to them or that they don't want children. Obviously its edited and staged but I'd still go on it and hope I was one of the women who made Fred go "oooo la la"  | |||
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You’ll walk a long time behind a duck before you pick up an ostrich feather is an old Chinese proverb that could have been written about dating sites full of knob-end blokes | |||
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"Bookmarking!!! I feel your pain OP "Yes. It's a common problem I think. Most of the time it doesn't bother me but it has really begun to irk me this morning. | |||
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"Think of the kind of man you want to meet and then imagine what they do, even better if it’s an interest shared by you. Then go there and pick the ones you want.
You’ll walk a long time behind a duck before you pick up an ostrich feather is an old Chinese proverb that could have been written about dating sites full of knob-end blokes""Pick the ones you want." As simple as that, eh? You clearly have no conception of the difficulties selective women have in meeting suitable men  | |||
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"Sounds interesting, I need to watch it on catch-up. I can imagine just the exercise of going through what you want with a camera recording it, and an audience witnessing it, could be helpful/therapeutic in itself. Whether or not I would be good TV is another matter!" I would be dreadful tv and I couldn't watch myself back. Have a look at First Dates Hotel while you're at it, that'd be worth it just for the trip | |||
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"Sounds interesting, I need to watch it on catch-up. I can imagine just the exercise of going through what you want with a camera recording it, and an audience witnessing it, could be helpful/therapeutic in itself. Whether or not I would be good TV is another matter! I would be dreadful tv and I couldn't watch myself back. Have a look at First Dates Hotel while you're at it, that'd be worth it just for the trip" Oh I like the idea of that, if they pay for the hotel too! Especially if it has a nice spa | |||
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"Think of the kind of man you want to meet and then imagine what they do, even better if it’s an interest shared by you. Then go there and pick the ones you want.
You’ll walk a long time behind a duck before you pick up an ostrich feather is an old Chinese proverb that could have been written about dating sites full of knob-end blokes
"Pick the ones you want." As simple as that, eh? You clearly have no conception of the difficulties selective women have in meeting suitable men "I was being a bit facetious to lighten the mood a bit, I do know it’s very difficult. | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " forget about it and just be open to it happening! Enjoy your life as it is and someone will come along who'll blow your socks off. | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! forget about it and just be open to it happening! Enjoy your life as it is and someone will come along who'll blow your socks off. " I would like to think that you are right, however no-one has come along to blow my socks off within the past 20 years. No-one who wanted anything more than a few quick shags, that is. I guess it's just a sign of the times. In the meantime I do aim to enjoy my life as much as possible - what else is there??? | |||
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"Sounds interesting, I need to watch it on catch-up. I can imagine just the exercise of going through what you want with a camera recording it, and an audience witnessing it, could be helpful/therapeutic in itself. Whether or not I would be good TV is another matter! I would be dreadful tv and I couldn't watch myself back. Have a look at First Dates Hotel while you're at it, that'd be worth it just for the trip Oh I like the idea of that, if they pay for the hotel too! Especially if it has a nice spa" Its in the Italian countryside. I need say no more | |||
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"Sounds interesting, I need to watch it on catch-up. I can imagine just the exercise of going through what you want with a camera recording it, and an audience witnessing it, could be helpful/therapeutic in itself. Whether or not I would be good TV is another matter! I would be dreadful tv and I couldn't watch myself back. Have a look at First Dates Hotel while you're at it, that'd be worth it just for the trip Oh I like the idea of that, if they pay for the hotel too! Especially if it has a nice spa Its in the Italian countryside. I need say no more" Land of my fathers! Right, I'm there | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! forget about it and just be open to it happening! Enjoy your life as it is and someone will come along who'll blow your socks off. I would like to think that you are right, however no-one has come along to blow my socks off within the past 20 years. No-one who wanted anything more than a few quick shags, that is. I guess it's just a sign of the times. In the meantime I do aim to enjoy my life as much as possible - what else is there???" I think the problem is the way society has us wanting everything now! We need to learn to re connect with each other not just via the net and dating sites. As my granny used to say "what's for you won't pass you by" | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! forget about it and just be open to it happening! Enjoy your life as it is and someone will come along who'll blow your socks off. I would like to think that you are right, however no-one has come along to blow my socks off within the past 20 years. No-one who wanted anything more than a few quick shags, that is. I guess it's just a sign of the times. In the meantime I do aim to enjoy my life as much as possible - what else is there??? I think the problem is the way society has us wanting everything now! We need to learn to re connect with each other not just via the net and dating sites. As my granny used to say "what's for you won't pass you by" " Very true. I am incredibly impatient, always have been, but nevertheless I think 20 years is an incredibly long time to wait for anything! | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. " Hahaha! Not really my style but I'm sure it works for some. Being viewed as capable/independent is part of the "problem" I think. | |||
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"Join Spice. I did years ago. Go to meetup. Help others. When you're not looking they come out of the woodwork and you have to beat them off with a big stick. " Thanks. I have done both of the first two. I have to think of the best way of helping others....that's a good one. I have been not looking for some time now, clearly I'm not near the right sort of woodwork | |||
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"Join Spice. I did years ago. Go to meetup. Help others. When you're not looking they come out of the woodwork and you have to beat them off with a big stick. Thanks. I have done both of the first two. I have to think of the best way of helping others....that's a good one. I have been not looking for some time now, clearly I'm not near the right sort of woodwork" | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. " Or Halfords. | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. Or Halfords. " If you’re in Halfords looking helpless you’ll be mistaken for one of the staff | |||
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"How about going to watch Norwich play football OP?..lots of men to look at and you can join in with the singing as well!" I loathe and detest all sports, football and its chanting morons in particular | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. Or Halfords. If you’re in Halfords looking helpless you’ll be mistaken for one of the staff" true words! | |||
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"How about going to watch Norwich play football OP?..lots of men to look at and you can join in with the singing as well! I loathe and detest all sports, football and its chanting morons in particular" Ooooooo im a chanting moron  | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Some unsatisfying over in minutes selfish sex lol " That's something I can deliver..   | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " Shop at aldis.. I know a lot of people who met their current partners there.. X | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Shop at aldis.. I know a lot of people who met their current partners there.. X" I'm going to Aldi's tomorrow morning actually but I won't hold my breath | |||
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"Try volunteering at a charity.... You will help people and meet very interesting people also... I met a ex of mine when I was learning sign language...." Yes this is the way to go I think. Also takes the focus off "me myself I" to something far more worthwhile | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. Or Halfords. " Noooo, the guys in there barely know what they are doing | |||
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I've tried all kinds of ideas, including not bothering to even think about men.
I have a great and busy life, loads of friends and I do voluntary stuff too.
No idea what the issue is. I meet and date men, they say they want to meet again. Then they go quiet so I forget about them. Then they reappear again! | |||
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"OP I feel your pain too
I've tried all kinds of ideas, including not bothering to even think about men.
I have a great and busy life, loads of friends and I do voluntary stuff too.
No idea what the issue is. I meet and date men, they say they want to meet again. Then they go quiet so I forget about them. Then they reappear again!"Yup! They reappear again when whatever "better option" they thought they had found goes belly up. That's when I tell them to fuck off. A busy life with lots of friends is a better option. It's a shame sex has to be forfeited, but hey-ho! | |||
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"Don’t just use here. Maybe also look at your picking process, alter it in some way. " The OP said she's tried all the dating sites you can think of. Changing the picking process feels like compromising ones' standards | |||
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"Don’t just use here. Maybe also look at your picking process, alter it in some way. The OP said she's tried all the dating sites you can think of. Changing the picking process feels like compromising ones' standards "I hadn’t read all the thread. And I get that, but sometimes changing makes a difference. Just mixing it up a bit. | |||
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"A trip to London? "You're never there | |||
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"A trip to London? "I go to London as often as time and finances permit | |||
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"A trip to London?
You're never there "Loool! That’s true. Time to travel the UK again I think.  | |||
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" I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. " I think that is my war cry and all my single friends too. Speed dating was fun...a friend met and dated someone for a yr that way. | |||
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" I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. I think that is my war cry and all my single friends too. Speed dating was fun...a friend met and dated someone for a yr that way." Yes I went through a phase of going speed dating for about five years 10-15 years ago but nothing substantial resulted | |||
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" I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. I think that is my war cry and all my single friends too. Speed dating was fun...a friend met and dated someone for a yr that way. Yes I went through a phase of going speed dating for about five years 10-15 years ago but nothing substantial resulted" Do people still do that? | |||
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"Speed dating was fun...a friend met and dated someone for a yr that way." I've not tried that | |||
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) I think what wouldnbe best is for you to narrow down what you want and comprise with your self if you have specific taste. I find events (networking/common goal works best for people who are looking for the same in their partner .good luck | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " It depends what you want. If it's dating I would say this is the wrong place | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! It depends what you want. If it's dating I would say this is the wrong place " You see I don't think there's a right or wrong place for anything anywhere these days because everything overlaps | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Men suitable for what? Dating sites maybe? They at least pretend to like you as a person in the hope of a shag. I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. " Not forget, but see it as a secondary thing ... enjoy what you're doing and things can happen! | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! Men suitable for what? Dating sites maybe? They at least pretend to like you as a person in the hope of a shag. I've been on every dating site you care to name and found them all as bad as each other. I think it's a case of focusing on real life interests and activities as much as possible and forget about men/sex. Not forget, but see it as a secondary thing ... enjoy what you're doing and things can happen!" Allegedly! | |||
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"May I motorboat you op?" Is that code for some weird perverted practice? | |||
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"You see I don't think there's a right or wrong place for anything anywhere these days because everything overlaps" I agree, people are people wherever and however you meet them. | |||
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"May I motorboat you op? Is that code for some weird perverted practice? " It;s not perverted, if you don't want him I'll have him.. He's French | |||
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"May I motorboat you op? Is that code for some weird perverted practice? It;s not perverted, if you don't want him I'll have him.. He's French "Oui... Biensur! Moi aussi | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! It depends what you want. If it's dating I would say this is the wrong place You see I don't think there's a right or wrong place for anything anywhere these days because everything overlaps" This is the only site I'm on because the last thing I want to do is date. I wouldn't want my meet thinking there is potential to, or that I want to date. I know 2 successful marriages resulting from meeting on a dating site. The rest of them never went beyond 5 years | |||
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"May I motorboat you op? Is that code for some weird perverted practice? It;s not perverted, if you don't want him I'll have him.. He's French
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"o/p Do you have a "type"? Some women do and can exclude men instantly for not being their "type". Maybe go on a few daytime coffee meets, you might be suprised. Good luck!" I have a type on paper, but rarely stick to it because there are so few Tom Burke as Athos men in the world | |||
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"o/p Do you have a "type"? Some women do and can exclude men instantly for not being their "type". Maybe go on a few daytime coffee meets, you might be suprised. Good luck!" Most of my veris are from daytime coffee meets with a wide variety of men. I know how to do this - I've had 20 years' experience! | |||
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"Go to the supermarket. Look helpless. Ask a man for advice. Or Halfords. " Oh yes. But, you'd have to be looking for the grease monkey types. | |||
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"Halfords are all youngsters !" Just to clarify I don't have a car so won't be going to Halfords! | |||
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"Halfords are all youngsters ! Just to clarify I don't have a car so won't be going to Halfords! " They do bikes too love | |||
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"Halfords are all youngsters ! Just to clarify I don't have a car so won't be going to Halfords! They do bikes too love " I don't cycle either! Train, bus, coach or Shanks's pony for me | |||
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"Halfords are all youngsters ! Just to clarify I don't have a car so won't be going to Halfords! They do bikes too love I don't cycle either! Train, bus, coach or Shanks's pony for me" Have to tried to hump the bus driver ? | |||
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"My advice won't help, I have no skills here. Last meet guy asked me to cut his toenails.. Still want my advice? " good lord!  | |||
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"My advice won't help, I have no skills here. Last meet guy asked me to cut his toenails.. Still want my advice? " Haha I think I might know who this is! | |||
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"My advice won't help, I have no skills here. Last meet guy asked me to cut his toenails.. Still want my advice? Haha I think I might know who this is! " Promise it wasn't me for once | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! " If that's an honest question I personally think online is a very bad way to meet men or women. Not one of my friends, has had any long lasting success. The only real way is socially in person, so hobbies where people gather together or for me has always been bars in bars, clubs or pubs. Everybody is in a great mood and more open to interaction. | |||
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"For meeting men? Am fed up with the lack of suitable men on here. A prize awarded to anyone who suggests something I haven't already thought of/tried! If that's an honest question I personally think online is a very bad way to meet men or women. Not one of my friends, has had any long lasting success. The only real way is socially in person, so hobbies where people gather together or for me has always been bars in bars, clubs or pubs. Everybody is in a great mood and more open to interaction. " Yes it is an honest question and I tend to agree with you. I prefer real life to online any time, though the latter is useful for putting you in touch with people you would never otherwise meet | |||
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