FabSwingers.com forum: So is the forum the best place to chat meet people ?

By *uriousgeorge82 OP Man
over a year ago

exmouth

So reading forum chats and not having particularly much interest on the message side of fab i thought id ask the question is the forum the preferred route to chat and meet people and why whats wrong with a chat message back ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are really the only reason I visit this establishment.

I don’t really look at the local up dates or search for people in my area.

Then again I don’t really care for meeting that many people

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've met a couple of people directly from chats on the forum but only a couple.

It's a very successful method of making contact for some but not all.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As I said on an earlier thread, the only meets I have had, have been through the forums. I gave up sending preemptive faf messages about 8 years ago

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only through posting bobbins on the forums that I ever get messaged. When I first joined Fab and before I joined the forum I got absolutely zero respsonses. Now I might get a 2% or 3% hit rate if I message and every now and then someone might actually message me first, so it’s worth being a twat in here and making some noise!!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Starting a conversation off the back of a Forum thread is simply easier! You already have a topic to discuss and have a giggle about while you get to know each other... Plus if you've already seen someone posting around the forums you'll already have an idea of their personality.

It's a natural flow, and much more interesting than some stranger you've never seen or heard of before cold-mailing you to say 'Hi. Nice tits.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Starting a conversation off the back of a Forum thread is simply easier! You already have a topic to discuss and have a giggle about while you get to know each other... Plus if you've already seen someone posting around the forums you'll already have an idea of their personality.

It's a natural flow, and much more interesting than some stranger you've never seen or heard of before cold-mailing you to say 'Hi. Nice tits.'"

But your tits *are* lovely though!

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I dunno, might depend on your area, these things in general often do. I’ve not met anyone from the forums although I chat with quite a few. Meets are usually me going on the prowl when I’m ready. You have to find what works best for you.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think chat with a webcam, pointing at your face. Is much more successful, I only use the forums to pass the time, and keep my eyes open for events I want to attend

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

It's a natural flow, and much more interesting than some stranger you've never seen or heard of before cold-mailing you to say 'Hi. Nice tits.'

But your tits *are* lovely though!

The first 30 times you told me was plenty though Dan..... My foof and ass are feeling neglected

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

"It’s only through posting bobbins on the forums that I ever get messaged. When I first joined Fab and before I joined the forum I got absolutely zero respsonses. Now I might get a 2% or 3% hit rate if I message and every now and then someone might actually message me first, so it’s worth being a twat in here and making some noise!!

Working for me

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

You are a forum God Sir....

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Most of my meets are a result of me clarifying my obnoxious posts through pm's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally yes just check people carefully

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The forums are a tiny percentage of the site users so it narrows down the number of potential people to meet BUT that works for me.

As PlayD8 said it's quite simple to spark a conversation through the forums plus you have the added benefit of being able to see the person beyond the profile text through their forum interaction.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"you have the added benefit of being able to see the person beyond the profile text through their forum interaction."

The problem with that is it puts you off chatting to 3/4 of the people who use he forums.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"you have the added benefit of being able to see the person beyond the profile text through their forum interaction.

The problem with that is it puts you off chatting to 3/4 of the people who use he forums.

Ha ha indeed, but 25% is more than enough to keep someone busy

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By *uriousgeorge82 OP Man
over a year ago

exmouth

Must admit im getting loads more convo though chatting on here rather than messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never met anyone through the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's already a subject base for convo (the thread itself)

You get to see peoples posts/reactions/interactions with others and get a sense of the person behind their posts/comments. You can already feel like you know someone without awkward messages when you first start talking.

You also get to see their views on many different subjects, again, you feel like you have a sense of who the person is.

P x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly dont know yet. I have had a few people reach out to me...then organise somthing...Then block me at the last minute. What the hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums are really the only reason I visit this establishment.

I don’t really look at the local up dates or search for people in my area.

Then again I don’t really care for meeting that many people "

What Merry said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The forums are really the only reason I visit this establishment.

I don’t really look at the local up dates or search for people in my area.

Then again I don’t really care for meeting that many people

What Merry said

Yep what they said

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By *uriousgeorge82 OP Man
over a year ago

exmouth

"The forums are really the only reason I visit this establishment.

I don’t really look at the local up dates or search for people in my area.

Then again I don’t really care for meeting that many people

What Merry said

Yep what they said

Like you guys say it just breaks the ice to make an easy convo stArter too

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"The forums are a tiny percentage of the site users so it narrows down the number of potential people to meet"

It's a slightly less tiny percentage when you include the non participating users - there are many for whom we exist as a sort of soap opera, and they will occasionally make contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connected with some great people through the forums and will meet a few this weekend at the social. So yes it's been a great way to get to know like minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i'm on here i'm usually on the forums. They're a better way to get an idea of what someone is about than sending messages & it's easier to have a conversation.

I'm taking the piss out of people's updates to see who has a bit of craic about them.

The forums are usually more entertaining

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows, it’s as good as any of you don’t act like a twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows, it’s as good as any of you don’t act like a twat

Sometimes the acting like a twat on the forums is what gets me interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows, it’s as good as any of you don’t act like a twat

Sometimes the acting like a twat on the forums is what gets me interested

Let me qualify that statement - As long as you don’t abuse anyone - how’s that?

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's not a bad place. There is a fair few people I have got chatting to privately over the years because of the forum chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a bad place. There is a fair few people I have got chatting to privately over the years because of the forum chat."

#youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing seems to work for me but am shy an that doesn't help I know

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Who knows, it’s as good as any of you don’t act like a twat

Sometimes the acting like a twat on the forums is what gets me interested

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Harsh but fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I’m only here for the forums. Got a few friends I chat to on here but not looking to meet anyone new.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows, it’s as good as any of you don’t act like a twat

Sometimes the acting like a twat on the forums is what gets me interested

Harsh but fair.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can work. But it can also backfire.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"It can work. But it can also backfire. "

Forum fart?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It can work. But it can also backfire.

Forum fart? "

Less entertaining!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met my fuckbuddy of a year after a post on the forum

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By *uriousgeorge82 OP Man
over a year ago

exmouth

Problem with forum chat tho is yeah we get to meet and chat to many people however the distance to ever meet is so annoying lol

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

The vast majority of the site doesn't use the forum so no, it's easier to find someone if you include the wider site population.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Problem with forum chat tho is yeah we get to meet and chat to many people however the distance to ever meet is so annoying lol "

I don't use the forum looking for meets. It can happen, I'm open to it, but I don't think counting on it will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I browse to find interesting topics that stimulate my mind. On occasions I post in the regular threads, but not expecting a meet from them. The forums help me to understand fabbers personalities and if we could be a match. If I happen to get on well with someone and we connect then I would like to meet them.

Having said that most of the forum users or forumites have well established friendships. They are organising meets or speaking to their regulars. As an outsider, kinda newbie coming back to fab that makes it difficult to find a potential match for my first meet. So for now I just enjoy the entertainment value of the forums.

Another thing:

A large number of forum users tend to join groups/crowds nothing particularly wrong with that, but they become blind followers... listening to rumours or lies created by people with the aim of putting others down or having the power of control.

I am looking for someone who enjoys friendships, but at the same time makes their own decisions and engages directly rather then listening to whispers. That is not easy to find, but I am willing to be patient.

The search continues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting, not one of my meets has happened via the forums, I get so many good (and bad

) messages that I don't need to, although there are a few forum men I would love to make acquaintance with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t say it’s the best place but it certainly lets you get to know someone or build a picture of someone’s personality. Which is always a bonus.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums "

Have to agree and alot dont actually meet and play, just talk. Many admit to not being swingers. Nope we are here for the shaggin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums "

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to chat, then yes.

If you want more,... the Fab forum is not the only place to find it.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster. "

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's already a subject base for convo (the thread itself)

You also get to see their views on many different subjects, again, you feel like you have a sense of who the person is.

P x"
yip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I browse to find interesting topics that stimulate my mind. On occasions I post in the regular threads, but not expecting a meet from them. The forums help me to understand fabbers personalities and if we could be a match. If I happen to get on well with someone and we connect then I would like to meet them.

Another thing:

The search continues."

Agree 100%

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Well, we’re all wondering who that is now ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Hope you reported it

Because if that person is still on here that would be a concern and whatever happened could happen to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Well, we’re all wondering who that is now ..."

I'm not saying as i don't want a ban !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Hope you reported it

Because if that person is still on here that would be a concern and whatever happened could happen to someone else."

I did report it. As far as i can tell nothing was done about it.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Hope you reported it

Because if that person is still on here that would be a concern and whatever happened could happen to someone else.

I did report it. As far as i can tell nothing was done about it. "

Problem is its all "he said, she said" I doubt they'd admit anything and with no proof fab can't really do anything. Maybe if someone is reported by different people, I don't know how that would work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh gosh no. It's a little bit interbred on the forums

This

Plus the last time i met someone from the forums it was a nightmare and i was very scared. This was a person who is a regular poster.

Wow really? That’s a bit worrying

Very

Hope you reported it

Because if that person is still on here that would be a concern and whatever happened could happen to someone else.

I did report it. As far as i can tell nothing was done about it.

Its a shame all the vanilla people who helped me arent able to give their account of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's a good way to get to know someone alittle better but I haven't met anyone from the forums

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