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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

If you knew one of your children had broken the law and faced years in prison would you give them an alibi even if it meant lying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that would depend on the offence and how it would effect all parties involved. x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No.

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

I don't have children so not really qualified to answer, but i'm going to anyway

My answer is no. How will they ever learn right from wrong if they do wrong and you cover it up for them? Where will it end?

I'm guessing if it's enough to land them in prison for several years they're old enough to know better....

(That's a general 'you' not 'you' specifically btw)

*Her*

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

If they faced years in jail, it's not pinching a kit kat from the sweety shop.

If it's what I assume you are referring to then yes I would and so I think would most law abiding citizens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say no. I think that lieing would tech them the worst leson in life you could.

I heard a saying one, "you take what you want, and pay for it"

If you do something wrong, you have to take the punishment. Covering up for wrongdoings makes you just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no i would not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they did something that warranted such a sentence then they must pay their dues. so no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I wouldnt lie... what example would that set to my other kids..

I love my children enough to do what I would think was the right thing.

Cali x

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

No, as much as I love my children and would do anything to protect them, I would not stand in a court of law and swear on a bible and lie for them.

They have been brought up to know right from wrong and if they broke the law then they have to pay for it. They have to accept that actions have concequences. Or where would it end.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway."

I am sure that your son is ok, but, surely you are not teaching him right from wrong by lieing for him?

If he had raped a woman, would you lie for him? If he had killed some one on a racial basis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no i wouldnt lie for them. children live by what they learn. so tell the truth and they learn to be honest.lie for them what do they learn dishonesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could condone criminal behaviour in my children.

Lying would not make it go away, they do the crime they do the time the same as every other person should.

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By *edbagioMan
over a year ago

ripon

no would not

may be they never did

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"If you knew one of your children had broken the law and faced years in prison would you give them an alibi even if it meant lying?"

You are spooky, I was thinking of this today after hearing about the SL trial and the alibi's.

I think I would have to say no, I wouldn't lie for them...especially with something as big as that.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway."

That's what a certain mother said, how wrong was she

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there was a lady a year ago who told on her 2 sons for serious assault on a guy.

dont think they or the rest of the family have spoken to her since...

a very very decent lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway.

That's what a certain mother said, how wrong was she"

Well yes most parents like to think the best of their kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there was a lady a year ago who told on her 2 sons for serious assault on a guy.

dont think they or the rest of the family have spoken to her since...

a very very decent lady"

Yes i remember that, and i think that was very good what she did.

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By *edbagioMan
over a year ago

ripon

springsteen state trooper

great song

man turns his back on his family

he aint no friend of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no would not

may be they never did

Yes maybe they never did.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway.

That's what a certain mother said, how wrong was she

Well yes most parents like to think the best of their kids."

Every parents likes to see the best in their child, but the question that HPC asked still remains the same, would you lie for them?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If it was a crime that carried a lengthy prison sentence, it would be bad...

So....no..

Would break my heart but I wouldnt cover for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway.

That's what a certain mother said, how wrong was she

Well yes most parents like to think the best of their kids.

Every parents likes to see the best in their child, but the question that HPC asked still remains the same, would you lie for them?"

I think i already answered that havnt i.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they had done, if it was for something like rape or murder i dont think i could even protect my own child for that

If it was for robbery etc i think id have to think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what they had done, if it was for something like rape or murder i dont think i could even protect my own child for that

If it was for robbery etc i think id have to think about it"

Yes it depends on what crime it was and how it happened.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"Yes i would, i love my son very much. I doubt he would ever do anything that bad anyway.

That's what a certain mother said, how wrong was she

Well yes most parents like to think the best of their kids.

Every parents likes to see the best in their child, but the question that HPC asked still remains the same, would you lie for them?

I think i already answered that havnt i."

I read your original quote wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's difficult to say and it depends on the crime. I can't say yes or no because there are to many factors to consider. Crime, circumstances etc.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Sorry people, but please keep real stories of rape etc off the forums as it is against rules xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry didnt mean to offend was only using it as an example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like an earlier answer, I don't have children but I'll answer anyway!

It depends on the crime but there's an 8 out of 10 chance I'll say yes. Initial instincts means we want to protect our loved ones. It reminds me of the woman who gave up her daughter over the riots. I respect her strength. That must've been very hard.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"sorry didnt mean to offend was only using it as an example

You didn't offend...it is just against rules x

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

No. I believe they should be answerable for their actions.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

In theory, NO, i wouldn't.

Just a point. How often is a child sent to prison?

Whilst a daughter/son always remains so, surely they cease being a child at a certain age? With adolescence and adulthood there comes responsibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just asked my Mum this.....she would lie if it were something I did to protect my sister....barring that....she wouldn't....I'm old enough to make my own decisions, so old enough to accept blame for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, as much as I love my children and would do anything to protect them, I would not stand in a court of law and swear on a bible and lie for them.

They have been brought up to know right from wrong and if they broke the law then they have to pay for it. They have to accept that actions have concequences. Or where would it end."

I totally agree.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Depends what they had done, if it was for something like rape or murder i dont think i could even protect my own child for that

If it was for robbery etc i think id have to think about it"

Agree..and i flirted with drugs in my youth, so would be a hypocrite to turn them in for doing what i did.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I completely agree with the general consensus that it would be the right thing to turn your child in. I really would like to think I would do so in a serious case.

I am just not entirely sure how I would actually feel and act if I were in the situation - it is all too easy to hypothesise about one's response from the comfort of your armchair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what they had done, if it was for something like rape or murder i dont think i could even protect my own child for that

If it was for robbery etc i think id have to think about it

Agree..and i flirted with drugs in my youth, so would be a hypocrite to turn them in for doing what i did.

Good for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I completely agree with the general consensus that it would be the right thing to turn your child in. I really would like to think I would do so in a serious case.

I am just not entirely sure how I would actually feel and act if I were in the situation - it is all too easy to hypothesise about one's response from the comfort of your armchair?"

So very true.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Amazing, just amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

I like to feel I have brought my sons up the right way and have taught them that you reap what you sow in life...

So no, I wouldn't lie for them to keep them from the grip of the law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would without hesitation tell the truth, Mark however says it would depend on the crime etc

but for me if i taught my child well they wouldn't be going out and committing crimes.., and therfor if they did they would be disrespecting me and MY authority not just the law and i would not stand by them and allow them to do that.

that being said, i have no children and dont plan on having children so i wont have to worry about it lol

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I, too have brought up my kids to become responsible adults who apply critical thinking and empathy in equal measure - yet there is no guarantee that our offspring cannot commit a criminal offense, eg killing another human being through speeding.

I just think it is really hard to say how one would respond as it is not just about what s right in a hypothetical situation?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

not an easy one, would tend to not lie for them tbh..

in an issue like a dangerous driving etc issue and someone had been seriously injured or killed i would hope they would do the right thing..

i think you need to look at it from perhaps the position of the parents of say a young person who's life had been taken..

if it was your own you would want to know, and so would they..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"not an easy one, would tend to not lie for them tbh..

in an issue like a dangerous driving etc issue and someone had been seriously injured or killed i would hope they would do the right thing..

i think you need to look at it from perhaps the position of the parents of say a young person who's life had been taken..

if it was your own you would want to know, and so would they.."
Good point - I think I would more than likely try and persuade them to do the right thing rather than shopping them - that to me would be the best outcome in a terrible situation?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

The honest truth is I don't know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Tough love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't possibly answer until I was in that position, which I pray I never will be x

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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago

north west

Depends how serious it was,i would be very shocked if my lads did end up in bother as they know right from wrong ,but if they did anythink sick i would make them own up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!

If they'd done something serious enough to serve time then they deserve it.

If it was something lower down the scale but was a crime causing harm to a person or damage to a property, then still no.

What sort of message does it give them when their parents become an accessory after the fact?

It just looks like they're condoning it.

We're glad the majority of replies on this thread advocate doing the right thing.

There are too many parents who ignore or cover up for their kids crimes, that's why society is in such a mess.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

The thing is people are advocating tough love,but as teenagers many do daft things.

i have already said that if it were murder,rape assault i would not defend them,but many things are illegal...selling to their mates, sex with someone under the age of consent, drinking under 18,i would rather talk to them about the risks of what they were doing than ruin their lives with a criminal conviction.

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

But the Op's question was would you give them an alibi?

Completely different from shopping them to the police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing is people are advocating tough love,but as teenagers many do daft things.

suppose it depends how far under the age of consent they was

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"But the Op's question was would you give them an alibi?

Completely different from shopping them to the police"

i hadn't noticed that,,,i was going off the replies, then no, i wouldnt lie for them,

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

"But the Op's question was would you give them an alibi?

Completely different from shopping them to the police

i hadn't noticed that,,,i was going off the replies, then no, i wouldnt lie for them,"

I know....makes it a bit easier to work out doesn't it, I felt the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would and have reported a child for doing something..

And my mum actually rang the police on me once on christmas day because someone had stolen money from her purse.. it was actually my little sister not me.. but I covered for her..and said it was me.. She had them take me to the station and make a statement..

It had a big impact on my sister.. who came clean... and never did anything like it again..

I have also took my then 8 year old back into a shop because he had taken some sweets... ( because his mates had told him too)

now a) he was meant to be at his mates house.. NOT out on the streets.. and b) it was the priciple..

He has never done anything like it since.. yet his ex friends recently got caught for shoplifting quite a few quids worth of stuff...

So I think that sometimes shopping them is the best thing you can do..

cali x

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