FabSwingers.com forum: Is Marriage!!

By *ribsa OP Man
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree if it is religious as that is dieing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think monogamy is still the norm and will continue. Swinging is very much a small minority sport!

Civil partnerships rather than marriage might be how things change though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have marriage without monogamy. Just because you commit to that one person and outwardly seem a married couple doesn't mean you can't have a open relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think judging from the couples profiles that marriage doesn't necessarily mean limiting yourself to the one individual sexually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a divorcee I no longer believe in marriage as a sanctity, I was christened a Catholic before any of you attack me!!!

Objectively; Marriage in its sacred sense was over due to Henry Vlll... if you don’t know your history, you don’t belong on here!

Subjectively; This day in age, people are easily replaceable, we’ve come to love things and use people...

Morally; there’s no room for high ground judgement here on Fab. No one is better than anyone or worse than anyone...

Personally;

1) a second marriage is NOT an option for me. I had the wedding I wanted and I couldn’t beat that venue so I’d feel a little anticlimactic and worried the groom would pick up on that, so rather avoid that scenario and causing pain to another I’m meant to love.

2) just from what I know of people even before Fab the concept of marriage is dead and you don’t need to be married for:

Communication

Trust

Loyalty

Respect

Honesty

All Open Relationships and Polyamory won’t work without:

Communication

Trust

Loyalty

Respect

Honesty

And all monogamous situations from Fuck Buddies to relationships still need varying forms of:

Communication

Trust

Loyalty

Respect

Honesty

That’s my take on it anyway... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you don’t know your history, you don’t belong on here!

All history? Every bit of history? Or just my history?

Don't tell me I need a history degree to smash pasties?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, marriage isn't a thing of the past. I think a lot of people still crave the deep intimacy that can only be built up from long term relationships. Whether this is achieved via marriage, civil partnership or mutual commitment made privately is up to individuals. FWB and FB can't replace that.

Marriage is viewed differently by many nowadays, it was unheard of for instance to have your children attending your wedding unless it was your second marriage.

Monogamy is still the expected norm for at least one party when entering a relationship unless agreed otherwise beforehand.

I think it's easy to assume swinging is common when you mix with other swingers. It's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t know who Henry the Vlll was you’re not intellectually equipped I meant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree IF both parties are aware x

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester

He was a major figure in British and world history

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He Man was a major figure in British and world history "

I quite agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

No because nobody can ever find a fwb or fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people still love the idea of marriage as it shows that committment to each other, but it doesn't really protect against any infidelities that can occur with or without it. Living together is a bigger thing than an fwb arrangement, I do believe people generally want more than casual things allow, and why not if you like that person.

Just my observations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

I find it interesting that you automatically associate marriage with monogomy.

But neither will die out anytime soon, and certainly not ion the "not to distant future", just have look at society and how it is structured. Look at the people you work with, your friends your neighbours, you honestly think that they will walk away from relationships for a world of FWBs?

Swingers, the non-monogamous, the poly-amorous, are not the norm and while it's increasingly more accepted it would be generations before it becomes the norm and would require a huge social shift from where we are now where the media, the givernmant, the church, our education system all preach that marriage and monogomy are what everyone should aspire too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you don’t know who Henry the Vlll was you’re not intellectually equipped I meant x "

I think most people know who Henry the eighth is. They might not know the detail.

Incidentally if you use reply and quote we can tell who you're replying to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don’t know who Henry the Vlll was you’re not intellectually equipped I meant x

I think most people know who Henry the eighth is. They might not know the detail.

Incidentally if you use reply and quote we can tell who you're replying to."

New to the forums, treacle thanks for the tip

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The trend is towards it diminishing in importance but it's still - apart from civil partnerships - important for many legal and asset purposes within relationships. Should common law marriages gain an equality for those benefits, then marriage would lessen its grip on western society imo. Equal marriage has rebalanced things a little, in its favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He was a major figure in British and world history "

I see you... haha x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you don’t know who Henry the Vlll was you’re not intellectually equipped I meant x

I think most people know who Henry the eighth is. They might not know the detail.

Incidentally if you use reply and quote we can tell who you're replying to.

New to the forums, treacle thanks for the tip "

Welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He Man was a major figure in British and world history

I quite agree"

Still laughing at “smash the pasty”

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't think having a fb for a parent is ideal for children either.

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By *ensualminxCouple
over a year ago

Orpington

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

You'll find a website called Feeld talks about polyamory - multiple simultaneous relationships

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By *ribsa OP Man
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Thanks for all the replies everyone interesting to read people thoughts on this.

I have friends my age with older kids who are openly tell them they have a FB or a FwB it just got me thinking is it become the norm to have a FB or FwB. Is this the way relationships are heading.

Interesting thanks

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Is marriage a thing of the past ?

I dunno but I have the big white dress in a trunk under the bed ... just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No piece of paper ever kept two people together....

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By *appyjack7890Man
over a year ago

Brigg

Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

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Women want the pomp and ceremony so no its not

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think a marriage can be what you want it to be. A union.

I swore I'd never get married but I would, whether it be in the conventional sense or some other ceremonial event, providing the vows that were made were relevant to the relationship. I think there's something quite magical about 2 people who are so connected they wish to wed.

Nothing wrong with being sensible about it and having pre-nup thingies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Nothing wrong with being sensible about it and having pre-nup thingies."

Civil Partnership will evolve to become the non religious version of marriage sometime soon. It will finally allow non religious people of same and mixed sex couples to enter into a long term financially secure partnership and to have a clear way of separating in a fair way. I think it will become the norm over time and will be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread makes me think romance really is dead...

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!"

Bitter or what

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By *appyjack7890Man
over a year ago

Brigg

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

Bitter or what "

You've met my ex wife then

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

Bitter or what

You've met my ex wife then

hehehe yeah she said I was a better bonk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading this thread makes me think romance really is dead..."

In my opinion, it died years ago... blame technology!

No one I know took a picture of their cock, on a 35mm waited 24 hours to develop it at boots then post it via Royal Mail saying “wanna fuck”

Mainstream! Even Fab is mainstream now with most looking for a meaningless cheap thrill as opposed to what swinging really is about.

I still maintain my stance, I still have an open mind... I will maintain my standards and respect for anyone who approaches me in kind.

Manners cost nothing... half of these on here think foreplay is fingering a bird’s minge on a bar stool

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Reading this thread makes me think romance really is dead..."

I'd like to think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been married 28 years still in love and we enjoy this scene she’s my best friend and soul mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!"

Been there man, sorry to hear. It’s shite but it gets better I promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

There used to be a valid reason to get married.....married mans tax allowance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

There used to be a valid reason to get married.....married mans tax allowance! "

Cynic lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!"

Not a waste of time for everyone some of us are very happily married thanks

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

Not a waste of time for everyone some of us are very happily married thanks"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

Only for beautiful people. The fuglies will have to enter into a legal agreement to get regular sex

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By *ribsa OP Man
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I to am in middle off divorce. Will never marry again.

I have since found a Friend with benefits and do like the benefits & freedom it brings without any pressures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Mahogony is a bit old fashioned now. I prefer maple, beech or ash.

Oh, this is about monogamy.

My bad

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"A thing of the past?

I already believe Friends with benefits and fuck buddies will replace marriage and monogamy as the norm in the not to distant future.

Anyone else think this so?

Only for beautiful people. The fuglies will have to enter into a legal agreement to get regular sex "

s'true Granny. Its the reason I did it, I'd be in a convent otherwise

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I to am in middle off divorce. Will never marry again.

I have since found a Friend with benefits and do like the benefits & freedom it brings without any pressures. "

You can still have freedom if you marry the right person, are respectful and honest, as many on this site prove.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I to am in middle off divorce. Will never marry again.

I have since found a Friend with benefits and do like the benefits & freedom it brings without any pressures.

You can still have freedom if you marry the right person, are respectful and honest, as many on this site prove. "

I don't want freedom. Its vastly over rated when you compare it to the lack of freedom which involves coming home to someone who understands that you do actually need 50 scarves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my limited experience of life but lots of experience of longterm FWBs ... it's not the way forward and never will. Human beings are not designed to exist healthily single and life actually isn't designed to be about sex, just sex and should never be - it's actually not (mentally) healthy . If you're quoting history then we are naturally tribal and are designed to be so, and actual marriage has only been a very small part of our evolution ... whereas partnerships have always been since records began

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I to am in middle off divorce. Will never marry again"

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I to am in middle off divorce. Will never marry again.

I have since found a Friend with benefits and do like the benefits & freedom it brings without any pressures.

You can still have freedom if you marry the right person, are respectful and honest, as many on this site prove. "

True story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!"

I can't think of a single good reason to get married.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

I can't think of a single good reason to get married. "

Katie has an Irish mother, so has an Irish passport. Given brexit, I thought it might be worth getting married to get my hands on an EU passport. Unfortunately it turns out you only get an Irish passport by marriage if you live in Ireland for a year, so, yes, no good reason to get married...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

I can't think of a single good reason to get married.

That sucks.

I have friends that have been together 30 years and they're thinking of getting married just for legal reasons- as when one dies so they don't have money/ will issues. They love each other though. That's one good reason I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a fucking waste of time. In middle of divorce.

Save your money!

I can't think of a single good reason to get married. "

Cake?

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