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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull

The question is where in the real world away from fab have you been asked for a date/meet and not just sex.

Pub, club, shop, supermarket, work or do people never ever approach you(no matter how clumsily)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The question is where in the real world away from fab have you been asked for a date/meet and not just sex.

Pub, club, shop, supermarket, work or do people never ever approach you(no matter how clumsily)

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Dancing or gigs but mostly online, is a numbers game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 01/12/18 10:36:51]"
I love bowling a lady over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been on a date asked for one or been asked

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"The question is where in the real world away from fab have you been asked for a date/meet and not just sex.

Pub, club, shop, supermarket, work or do people never ever approach you(no matter how clumsily)

Dancing or gigs but mostly online, is a numbers game "

It's great that you're still approached in real situations like gigs and dancing.

I've talked to the women at work and they say it's a dying art unless alcohol is involved and that men don't come and say hi in many other situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t get asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the op wrong as where have you been on a date.

Urm I've been asked out at work, in the supermarket and usually pubs/clubs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I haven't been asked on a date for about three hundred years. If you move in the circles I do people assume you're married or just looking for sex. Mr N and I go on dates with each other but we don't have to ask.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The question is where in the real world away from fab have you been asked for a date/meet and not just sex.

Pub, club, shop, supermarket, work or do people never ever approach you(no matter how clumsily)

Dancing or gigs but mostly online, is a numbers game

It's great that you're still approached in real situations like gigs and dancing.

I've talked to the women at work and they say it's a dying art unless alcohol is involved and that men don't come and say hi in many other situations"

I don't get approached cold, I just meet people at gigs and dances and get chatting to them.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've never been asked out on a date. I think it's still expected in society that a guy does the chasing and does the asking

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Normally when I'm at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been asked on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got asked in the petrol station the other day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t get asked "
why the hell not you look cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for years - i probably wouldn’t know how to react!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of opportunity and I occassionally ask

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

Not for about 25 years at least so not looking likely it will ever happen again!

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Never been asked on a date"

Me either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never been asked on a date

Me either x"
awwww date me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t been asked on a date for years. Men don’t seem to ask anymore x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lots of looks but I never get approached... Its my hard-ass look putting fear onto them I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't get used to how people did this in America. Just walking round a book shop/supermarket/park/anywhere, guys will come up and say 'Hi, do you want to have dinner tonight?'

Here I've hardly been asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get lots of looks but I never get approached... Its my hard-ass look putting fear onto them I'm sure "
awwww date me I'm not just saying that coz you're gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's this "date"thing of which you speak??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t get asked "

What!!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't even remember it would have been so long ago, if it ever happened at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was asked out at work, but then he cancelled and now he texts most days. If this is how it works , i dont want to be asked out!

it's way too confusing

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

love dancing so I'm open to that sort of date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was recently chatted up and handed his phone number whilst selecting fruit at my local market. He was just passing and chanced his luck. Was flattered as it’s such a rare occurance these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Train station.

Karaoke fundraiser.

Pub.

Bar.

Christening.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's so long ago it's lost in the mists of legends of places time forgot and when dragons roamed the earth....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was asked out at work, but then he cancelled and now he texts most days. If this is how it works , i dont want to be asked out!

it's way too confusing"

They want a text friend. I'm not sociable enough with my real friends to have text conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question is where in the real world away from fab have you been asked for a date/meet and not just sex.

Pub, club, shop, supermarket, work or do people never ever approach you(no matter how clumsily)

"

All of the above...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was asked out at work, but then he cancelled and now he texts most days. If this is how it works , i dont want to be asked out!

it's way too confusing

They want a text friend. I'm not sociable enough with my real friends to have text conversations."

i thought that myself... he lives alone and is very much involved in his job... soooo do i just stop replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was recently chatted up and handed his phone number whilst selecting fruit at my local market. He was just passing and chanced his luck. Was flattered as it’s such a rare occurance these days. "

Oh how lovely. And will you ring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been asked out on a date (apart from via dating apps of course).

I wish I had the confidence to do the asking though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was asked out at work, but then he cancelled and now he texts most days. If this is how it works , i dont want to be asked out!

it's way too confusing

They want a text friend. I'm not sociable enough with my real friends to have text conversations.

i thought that myself... he lives alone and is very much involved in his job... soooo do i just stop replying "

You could explain that you're not looking for a phone relationship and you're deleting his number.

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I’ve never been asked out on a date (apart from via dating apps of course).

I wish I had the confidence to do the asking though."

Life's short princess r,

Give it a go, What's the worst that could happen x

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"Not for about 25 years at least so not looking likely it will ever happen again!"

Life's short,

Make it happen and ask a woman you fancy out on a date rather than relying on a woman having to ask you.

If you don't buy a raffle ticket you'll never win a prize.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was asked out at work, but then he cancelled and now he texts most days. If this is how it works , i dont want to be asked out!

it's way too confusing

They want a text friend. I'm not sociable enough with my real friends to have text conversations.

i thought that myself... he lives alone and is very much involved in his job... soooo do i just stop replying

You could explain that you're not looking for a phone relationship and you're deleting his number. "

thats a great idea.. thank you lovely.. fortunately I dont sit near him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was recently chatted up and handed his phone number whilst selecting fruit at my local market. He was just passing and chanced his luck. Was flattered as it’s such a rare occurance these days.

Oh how lovely. And will you ring "

I texted him. Started off ok but then he sent me a dick pic and admitted he was married. Told him to join fab with his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best date yet was a long weekend in a health spa in Budapest. Met a lady online from the USA.

We decided to make it a short break between friends with benefits. It was a great weekend and would definitely do it again

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlaston

A date if only this is on still to be ticked of on my to do list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been asked nor been on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig.

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

With the political madness these days..most people might assume it's too easy to get done for some sort of harassment or something if you ask someone out on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig. "

Seriously?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig. "

What a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had girls by pass the whole dating rigmarol and tell me they want my babies ... if someone said it now I wouldn't be surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig.

Seriously?"

Yes seriously. It was a long time ago before 'pull a pig' was a thing. I can't remember exactly what he said (and I don't want to remember) but basically his mate said I looked ugly so he bet him to ask me out. I think I was about 19. I was naïve and didn't know people could be cruel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone has ever asked me on a date

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I love dating.. go on ask me... I dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig.

Seriously?

Yes seriously. It was a long time ago before 'pull a pig' was a thing. I can't remember exactly what he said (and I don't want to remember) but basically his mate said I looked ugly so he bet him to ask me out. I think I was about 19. I was naïve and didn't know people could be cruel. "

What a pair of dicks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the lines on here ... yea I’ve been asked on a date but scepticism always wins !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve NEVER been asked out on a vanilla date .. ever!

I’ve always been the one that’s done the asking and given my social awkwardness in my teens and twenties that translates to not a lot of (non-Fab!) ‘first dates’ in my life.

That’s partly why I’m on here I think, I’ve had more ‘first dates’ on here than in normal life. Crazy when I think about it!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be clubs. now it's pubs & wine bars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My uncle's funeral x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"My uncle's funeral x"

That really is bizarre

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

Its a long time since i went on a date!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wasn't funny at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever on a dating app

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By *allSteveMan
over a year ago

Poole

Got asked on a date earlier today while putting a bet on at the local bookies

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

At work - my bar job, most days.

Last week, at the park, soneone I see regularly while we walk our dogs.

A few messages via FBook.

I have no desire whatsoever to go on a date, with anyone in the 'real world'

I can't imagine anything worse than being in a 24/7 vanilla relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been asked for a date in the 5 years since I became single x

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

Never been asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never get asked on a date whether single or in a relationship.

However had a nice meal social with a guy off Fab that wasn't expected.

It is a dying art old school seduction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delivery man. Fellow dog walkers. Man who jogs past every week.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

To be honest all this metoo means I'd never ask anyone out at work, would also be a bit worried in a supermarket too.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss "
hidden agenda?

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By *allSteveMan
over a year ago

Poole


"I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss "

Possibly hard to tie you down to one place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest all this metoo means I'd never ask anyone out at work, would also be a bit worried in a supermarket too. "

Years ago there was a book on tips to find love. One of them was for men to approach a woman in a supermarket. If she wasn't wearing a wedding ring, break the ice and ask about a cooking product etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss "
a dates a date, a genuine person from here would be exactly the same person wherever you hooked up with them

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss a dates a date, a genuine person from here would be exactly the same person wherever you hooked up with them "

Yep absolutely you said it "genuine"..have yet to experience this from here to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually cant remember the last time I went out on a real date in the real world without any hidden agenda. Something I miss a dates a date, a genuine person from here would be exactly the same person wherever you hooked up with them

Yep absolutely you said it "genuine"..have yet to experience this from here to date. "
yes but you havnt been on a date, you said for ages. Just because you meet them here you can't say definitively that all they want is sex, we are all different

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest all this metoo means I'd never ask anyone out at work, would also be a bit worried in a supermarket too. "

That's a shame. That's not what #metoo was about at all and you don't come across as sleazy in the slightest, so I imagine girls would welcome an invite.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Whilst walking down the street, minding my own business.

At the train station.

On the bus.

Waiting for a bus.

All politely declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never been asked out on a date (apart from via dating apps of course).

I wish I had the confidence to do the asking though.

Life's short princess r,

Give it a go, What's the worst that could happen x"

That’s very true. Perhaps I’ll make it my new year’s resolution

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By *ereforthafunMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Only ever been asked on a date on dating apps unfortunately. x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Only ever been asked on a date on dating apps unfortunately. x "

Same here.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Once when I was walking down the street a bloke asked me out. He later confessed he'd done it as a bet with his mate. Pull a pig.

Seriously?

Yes seriously. It was a long time ago before 'pull a pig' was a thing. I can't remember exactly what he said (and I don't want to remember) but basically his mate said I looked ugly so he bet him to ask me out. I think I was about 19. I was naïve and didn't know people could be cruel. "

Yeah but we all know who the ugly people were in that sorry tale!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Yeah, women seem to get their friends to ask though. Annoying if the friend is hot and the woman isn't.

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By *HX6969Man
over a year ago

St Albans


"Don’t get asked "

Somebody should

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Hi Sam

Nobody approaches me when I'm out in the Vanilla world.

Think my confidence scares them away

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Hi Sam

Nobody approaches me when I'm out in the Vanilla world.

Think my confidence scares them away "

That and the husband???

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By *layfullsam OP   Man
over a year ago

Solihull


"I’ve never been asked out on a date (apart from via dating apps of course).

I wish I had the confidence to do the asking though.

Life's short princess r,

Give it a go, What's the worst that could happen x

That’s very true. Perhaps I’ll make it my new year’s resolution "

I'll hold you to that

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Someone I met at a festival publicly asked me to go skiiing on facebook - I felt really humbled actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly ever go anywhere to meet people these days but way back before i was married I used to get asked occasionally..

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Hi Sam

Nobody approaches me when I'm out in the Vanilla world.

Think my confidence scares them away

That and the husband???"

Lol, have you met Mr M then

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