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Self fullfilling prophecy

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How true do you think it is. Does positivity breed positivity or is it just down to luck, and vise versa.

I believe in it totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think having a positive attitude in life saves you from the bad times but it certainly helps you cope with them.

Being positive is healthy imo

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

absolutely believe this and have decided from now on i am going to have a more positive attitude

they only person that can change my lot in life is me

going to set goals and not stop till i acheive them no matter how long it takes

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Now people close to me in my life will tell you that I am a pretty unlucky person. However I do try to remain as positive as possible though at times it can be hard..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I so believe it.....

the ranters get more shit cause they rant in their updates, threads and posts.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't think having a positive attitude in life saves you from the bad times but it certainly helps you cope with them.

Being positive is healthy imo "

I think we all have bad times but its how you react to them that counts.

But if you walked into a party and didnt know anyone but smiled and joined in you would have fun. If you just sat in a corner miserable then noone would want to speak to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont expect too much, then im not so disapointed. My son once said some people are lucky, some unlucky and some inbetween, he said that i am inbetween.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think having a positive attitude in life saves you from the bad times but it certainly helps you cope with them.

Being positive is healthy imo

I think we all have bad times but its how you react to them that counts.

But if you walked into a party and didnt know anyone but smiled and joined in you would have fun. If you just sat in a corner miserable then noone would want to speak to you"

Taje that last bit you said and i would say, well some might feel guity and come over to talk to you and some ppl might feel how imposing a stranger could be trying to be so friendly with everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be as positive as you can but a singer or writer can't make a person buy or listen to their creations.

But soon the positiveness could turn sour and full of resentment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think having a positive attitude in life saves you from the bad times but it certainly helps you cope with them.

Being positive is healthy imo

I think we all have bad times but its how you react to them that counts.

But if you walked into a party and didnt know anyone but smiled and joined in you would have fun. If you just sat in a corner miserable then noone would want to speak to you"

I dont like parties though.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I think you definitely reap what you sow and that a positive outlook can make a big difference in life, you can't always have a nice easy life but how you deal with the pitfalls can make them easier to get over. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life can be great or life can be shit. If you're a glass half full person then you will see that the shit times are there to highlight how good the great times are.

All life is a balance, to be _iewed in balance.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i am very shy and havebeen accused of having a 'fuck off' face on when i am sat on my own

this i plan to change, also my goal so far this year is to ask someone to dance at ceroc as i always end up sitting down more than dancing cos i am too shy to ask

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. What utter bollocks! If you make a plan it invariably fails anyway. So do you go with the flow Joe or make a new plan Stan?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. What utter bollocks! If you make a plan it invariably fails anyway. So do you go with the flow Joe or make a new plan Stan? "

sounds like paul simon there

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't think having a positive attitude in life saves you from the bad times but it certainly helps you cope with them.

Being positive is healthy imo

I think we all have bad times but its how you react to them that counts.

But if you walked into a party and didnt know anyone but smiled and joined in you would have fun. If you just sat in a corner miserable then noone would want to speak to you

I dont like parties though."

That was just an example

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sadly some people like to be negative about things to try and self elevate..

never a great move as you end up forgetting what you posted on previous threads and looking a complete tit.

just always be yourself...

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I'm going to get the best job I have ever had this year and with luck it will be overseas and tax free

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

All the shit times ive had make me realize how lucky i am. When i go out i look at the blossom on the trees or stop and smell the roses. Sometimes if im bored, i will lean on the gate cause i know people will stop and chat(some) if you just say hello to them

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm going to get the best job I have ever had this year and with luck it will be overseas and tax free "

all the very best and I hope it comes off.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I'm going to get the best job I have ever had this year and with luck it will be overseas and tax free

all the very best and I hope it comes off."

Thank you - I am determined that it will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sadly some people like to be negative about things to try and self elevate..

never a great move as you end up forgetting what you posted on previous threads and looking a complete tit.

just always be yourself..."

would you rather look like a tit on a forum or in life or both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How true do you think it is. Does positivity breed positivity or is it just down to luck, and vise versa.

I believe in it totally"

Last year I was in a very dark place. Probably the darkest place I've ever found myself in. I was given the advice to make a metal list of 5 things every morning that I was looking forward to or happy about and last thing at night to make a mental list of 5 things that had made me happy or smile that day however trivial they were.

I also cut out a lot of negative energy from my life (I know that sounds pretentious wank so forgive me), in particular I dropped friends who were always moaning about trivial shit.

It's amazing how much difference that has made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i saw len goodman from strictly on a chat show and he says he has lived his life by ten little 2 letter words .

if it is to be it is up to me ...i liked that and i think about those words quite a lot ......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"sadly some people like to be negative about things to try and self elevate..

never a great move as you end up forgetting what you posted on previous threads and looking a complete tit.

just always be yourself...

would you rather look like a tit on a forum or in life or both

"

to some, we always will.

I choose not to let it worry me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that being positive has great benefits. You may not always be successful or lucky by solely being positive, but on the whole people will respond to you in a favourable light. That's if they are positive people themselves. People who enjoy being negative and putting others down don't tend to like positivity.

I am generally a happy person, sometimes I'm not and I find that I can be more cutting with people when I feel down which is not a good thing. It sticks in my mind that I've responded in this way and I'm enbarrassed about it. I am more aware when I've made a negative jibe to someone, even though I feel I justified at times, I won't let people walk all over me, but it sits uneasy with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in what goes round comes around, and am a happy go lucky kind of person.

Winning 1 GBP on a scratch card is still a winning to me.

I find being negative very tiring, and those closest to me are all glass half full kind of people.

Some people have more luck than others, and I believe in fate.

I count myself lucky to be alive and well every day, with a roof over my head, a job that I enjoy and allow me to live in comfort, with no major worries.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


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just always be yourself..."

So agree with that statement from View. Also, positive people inspire, negative comments can drag others down. Hence I do believe to a degree in the effect "positivity" has on outcomes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I try to be positive and to pay it forward, its how I live.

I don't plan much for the future though- by living in the moment, so I am trying to balance that out this year more.

As someone recently said that I may be missing out on planning a future by living day by day, it made sense, so that is my aim for this year...

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. What utter bollocks! If you make a plan it invariably fails anyway. So do you go with the flow Joe or make a new plan Stan?

sounds like paul simon there"

Aye, he's a plagiaristic twat is Mr Simon... Ask him where he got 'his' arrangements of songs like Scarborough Fair....

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"I'm going to get the best job I have ever had this year and with luck it will be overseas and tax free "

What is this luck of which you speak?

To quote Arnold Palmer - the more I practice, the luckier I get.

So set a realistic goal, identify the skills and behaviours that will get you to it, and practice them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....And the positivity pays, just won on the Euro Millions!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"....And the positivity pays, just won on the Euro Millions! "

remember how good a friend i am, helping with that situation earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....And the positivity pays, just won on the Euro Millions! "

I won £3.50 on Friday's draw for two numbers. Won £2.90 on the Tuesday draw for two numbers also. Third time really lucky?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....And the positivity pays, just won on the Euro Millions!

remember how good a friend i am, helping with that situation earlier "

I have.... paid it forward

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I'm going to get the best job I have ever had this year and with luck it will be overseas and tax free

What is this luck of which you speak?

To quote Arnold Palmer - the more I practice, the luckier I get.

So set a realistic goal, identify the skills and behaviours that will get you to it, and practice them."

It appears Paul Simon's not the only plagiaristic person around, i've been a liflong golf fan and the "practice/luck" quote has always been attributed to Gary Player. They could each have coined the phrase independently i suppose.

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