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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So how do you prefer to be dpoken to on here in general. Do you prefer people to come straight out with what they want from you or do you like to build upto things with a nice normal non sexual chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The effort to type more than just a few syllables is appreciated.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"The effort to type more than just a few syllables is appreciated."

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself, don't plan what to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to send haiku

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We prefer someone to state their intent from the start. So if their aim is to meet us we'd rather they say so and under what circumstances but we don't need detailed sex chat and we like to chat for a bit with all parties knowing what the end goal is.

The problem is that very often during the chat stage one or the other changes their mind.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Flirty, non explicit messages to start. Messages that you can build up a conversation. More than one word answers. Not a Q and A exchange either. For me anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The effort to type more than just a few syllables is appreciated.

Faf? "

There's always an exception though...

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Just be yourself, don't plan what to write"

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person? "

. It’s not rocket science is it? Or perhaps it is judging by some of the messages I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be yourself, don't plan what to write"

Exactly

I just whitter on about blaaahhh when I send a message - content depending on the mood I'm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person? "

What if you can't speak to women in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't rock up to a woman in a bar, whack the Johnson on the nearest table... Tell her I wanted to fuck her and then grin

So it's all about a slow and respectful build up for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to send haiku"

And what a beautiful way to communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak to them as you would a woman you met in the street. It's really not hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?"

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just polite, with a few sentences that makes sense. And I hate to say this, but I really don't like:

"hi how are you"

"what you up to"

Don't like "anymore pictures" when they haven't got any.

I love a well thought out message, with a picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to send haiku

And what a beautiful way to communicate. "

Haiku are easy

But sometimes they don't make sense

Refrigerator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?"

Yeah, like that. Should I bring a note pad to write on what I want to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?

Yeah, like that. Should I bring a note pad to write on what I want to say?"

Nah. Just keep a hip flask to hand at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to send haiku

And what a beautiful way to communicate.

Haiku are easy

But sometimes they don't make sense

Refrigerator"

Sounds like half of my messages I receive

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?

Yeah, like that. Should I bring a note pad to write on what I want to say?

Nah. Just keep a hip flask to hand at all times"

That could be a disaster as I don't really drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to send haiku

And what a beautiful way to communicate.

Haiku are easy

But sometimes they don't make sense

Refrigerator

Sounds like half of my messages I receive

Poetry has actually served me well over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you write it won't make a difference they will decide if they want to respond by looking at your pics......I've done short messages,long messages, detailed messages (never sent anything crude at all) but if they don't like your description of yourself and your pics most will just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like to be spoken to like I'm not an idiot or a deliberate arsehole.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No matter what you write it won't make a difference they will decide if they want to respond by looking at your pics......I've done short messages,long messages, detailed messages (never sent anything crude at all) but if they don't like your description of yourself and your pics most will just delete"

While profile and pictures do help me decide, messages usually sway me one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**if they don’t find you attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also ensure you read their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be yourself, don't plan what to write

It is the best way I think + don't rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be spoken to like a human being, if you wouldn't say it to my face in a pub don't say it here is my motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speak to them as you would a woman you met in the street. It's really not hard."
Yes,but theres some crazy women out there too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**if they don’t find you attractive

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Politely and preferably to state or hint the purpose of the contact from the start or very close to it. I get bored very quickly with endless and mindless chat or people who ask the same thing over again. I don't like people messaging me to help them wank either, it's a turn off for me

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

For me " building up " to mentioning a meet bores the hell out of me so straight to the point of what they are after, ie a meet then if that interests us we chat to see if we get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?

Yeah, like that. Should I bring a note pad to write on what I want to say?

Nah. Just keep a hip flask to hand at all times

That could be a disaster as I don't really drink."

Hmmm... Thermos flask filled with your favourite tea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person? "

Exactly!

You’d think it would be pretty straight forward but it seems many think “fancy a fuck” is the way to go.

The same way you’d speak to a woman in real life is exactly how you should message on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing. "

I'd find that awful

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

I'd find that awful

Fair enough! Different strokes. The stuff in brackets will obviously make or break it, but it's the kind of message I wish I got more of. Clear, stated intention, but still respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

I'd find that awful

Fair enough! Different strokes. The stuff in brackets will obviously make or break it, but it's the kind of message I wish I got more of. Clear, stated intention, but still respectful. "

It would come across as quite mechanical for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect

Nothing crude or sexual...how would you speak to a woman in person?

What if you can't speak to women in person?

Like a real life Dr Rajesh Koothrappali?

Yeah, like that. Should I bring a note pad to write on what I want to say?

Nah. Just keep a hip flask to hand at all times

That could be a disaster as I don't really drink.

Hmmm... Thermos flask filled with your favourite tea?"

A much better solution

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

I'd find that awful

Fair enough! Different strokes. The stuff in brackets will obviously make or break it, but it's the kind of message I wish I got more of. Clear, stated intention, but still respectful.

It would come across as quite mechanical for me"

Oh my version is necessarily mechanical because it's attempting to be one size fits all. But if you take it and play with it, it doesn't have to be.

So, writing to myself, it might be,

Hi, I think we have a lot in common! Like you, I'm a bi woman who's interested in a wide variety of things and thinks connection is important. I see you've done some gangbangs, it's something I'm exploring too, are you having any more?

Do you find it hard to connect with women here sometimes? I know I do. I'd love to have some genuine FF time, it's so hard to come by.

It'd be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I like to get to know people a little first and establish a connection and chemistry before suggesting meeting so enjoy messages that may touch on sexual subjects and interests but cover a whole range of other things besides.

Flirty from the off is fine, filthy isn't (not until we're both comfortable with taking it that way anyway

Appreciate that's not for everyone, but it's what works for me and has ultimately led to meets that scratch my personal itch very nicely indeed

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We like to communicate on here by pretending that there isn't a screen between us and they're sat in the same room. If you wouldn't say something in real life when face to face with someone then don't type it out on here or any other social media. As for the 'when to bring up the meet' situation, pretty much every initial contact is made with the expectation of arranging a meet so it doesn't really matter if the first few messages don't ask about meeting as we know the intent from the outset. Just don't be a dick and have some respect is the best advice I can give anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how do you prefer to be dpoken to on here in general. Do you prefer people to come straight out with what they want from you or do you like to build upto things with a nice normal non sexual chat?"
I like them to lie to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re handsome you can pretty much say anything.

Last guy I met from here back last November his first message (included face pictures) and simply said you look like someone I could be interested in. He was gorgeous so I replied with more face pictures of my own and said I’m interested in your face, what’s your penis like? He sent me the penis, said what say we get acquainted and gave his number, I rang him, had a quick chat whilst he was in the bath and fucked him the next day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speak to them as you would a woman you met in the street. It's really not hard."

And if you wouldn't speak to a random woman in the street?(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of people without basic social skills on here is mind boggling. How, would you approach somebody on a dating night, how would you approach somebody in a, pub or night club. This isn't difficult, the fact you need to ask is mad.

My bet is you wouldn't walk up to a woman and say, "you've got great tits want to fuck now" .

And that would be one of the longer messages we get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing.

I'd find that awful

Fair enough! Different strokes. The stuff in brackets will obviously make or break it, but it's the kind of message I wish I got more of. Clear, stated intention, but still respectful.

It would come across as quite mechanical for me

Oh my version is necessarily mechanical because it's attempting to be one size fits all. But if you take it and play with it, it doesn't have to be.

So, writing to myself, it might be,

Do you find it hard to connect with women here sometimes? I know I do. I'd love to have some genuine FF time, it's so hard to come by.

It'd be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing. "

That's a nicely thought out message which I've done similar before to say 10 different women and personalised them and when you get no replies and get deleted straight away it puts you off sending more messages like that...very time consuming with no reward as simple as a thanks but no thanks

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing. "
this what I use on dating but not on here

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Each women, couple and male is different.

If someone messaged me on fab and said you look nice and faf I would be woahhhh

If someone said oh mike we met you at a club I would have liked to play but didn’t say anything at the time but next time come and say hello - I would be wheyyy

Sometimes there is no right or wrong way to ask. I tend to air on the side of caution in not to offend and have a chat first

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

A normal conversation as if they were talking to me in the street, more than one or two words.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Interesting, respectful, clear about intent, not needlessly vulgar. Showing an interest in me, not just the fact that I'm a woman nearby or my pictures.

A suggested template.

Hi, I'm (type of person). I like your profile because (reasons). I think we have (stuff) in common. (something about the stuff).

Would be lovely to hear from you. Happy Fabbing. this what I use on dating but not on here "

Fair enough. I'm just saying what I like (and to be clear, by stuff in common, I mean sexually).

Most of my messages are along the lines of "wow hot pics fancy a fuck?" And I don't look at anything else, just bin it.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Like a human being, not just a piece of meat?

I'd like an opening message to be polite, respectful and show the sender has actually read my profile, and understood it.

Approach me in writing as if you were talking to my face, meeting me for the first time.

First impressions do count, would you walk upto a total stranger in a bar, unzip your flies & your opening line be "Hey here's my cock, I want to fuck you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to get to know people a little first and establish a connection and chemistry before suggesting meeting so enjoy messages that may touch on sexual subjects and interests but cover a whole range of other things besides.

Flirty from the off is fine, filthy isn't (not until we're both comfortable with taking it that way anyway

Appreciate that's not for everyone, but it's what works for me and has ultimately led to meets that scratch my personal itch very nicely indeed

This post...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

What messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like a human being, not just a piece of meat?

I'd like an opening message to be polite, respectful and show the sender has actually read my profile, and understood it.

Approach me in writing as if you were talking to my face, meeting me for the first time.

First impressions do count, would you walk upto a total stranger in a bar, unzip your flies & your opening line be "Hey here's my cock, I want to fuck you"

And this one sums up my messaging history/style.

For newbies those two posts will really help increase chances for potential meets. Treat reality and online as the same.

Be yourself and enjoy a little conversation to see how things could develop.

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