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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine it's in the same vein as telling someone that they look good for their age. It's usually an honest compliment but can come off as an insult to the recipient.

But if she's fit just go for it

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With this site you are lucky to even get a reply. Try sending her another message and go from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With this site you are lucky to even get a reply. Try sending her another message and go from there "

It’s not a reply, I didn’t message her.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"With this site you are lucky to even get a reply. Try sending her another message and go from there

It’s not a reply, I didn’t message her."

You’re in there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile is very well written OP., I wouldn’t say it’s well written for a man, it’s just very well written.

I don’t like her way of putting it. Just my opinion.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an insult to other men but it's also true so is it an insult if it's a fact because it's honest and more words than many men bother to write and pics too which most don't think they need to have any at all because their mate down the pub said it's clunge city on here so they can only blame themselves for not getting their fingers wet if they don't put some effort in and get mad at the ones who do put effort in and meet lots of women yet they can't figure out why so the good ones stand out really obviously and easy to spot then the decent men that make an effort look like gods in comparison but is it a compliment when all the competition is just so bad as it would be a compliment if the competition was amazing as it takes you even higher than the amazing ones otherwise it's a backhanded compliment saying you're better than the really crap ones yet if it's the only compliment you've had then it's a nice compliment because there's nothing to compare it with because if you got loads of compliments you might take it as an insult which would be a shame as she may have been sincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with the flow and try messaging her, what have you got to lose

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"I imagine it's in the same vein as telling someone that they look good for their age. It's usually an honest compliment but can come off as an insult to the recipient.

But if she's fit just go for it

C"

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nothing more than an opening chat up line, designed to make you think she has read your profile, not just perved your pics

Is her profile well written? For a woman of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "

Did a woman write your profile for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go get her tiger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision.

Did a woman write your profile for you?"

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is nothing more than an opening chat up line, designed to make you think she has read your profile, not just perved your pics

Is her profile well written? For a woman of course."

Yes, but most women’s are to be fair.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It's an insult to other men but it's also true so is it an insult if it's a fact because it's honest and more words than many men bother to write and pics too which most don't think they need to have any at all because their mate down the pub said it's clunge city on here so they can only blame themselves for not getting their fingers wet if they don't put some effort in and get mad at the ones who do put effort in and meet lots of women yet they can't figure out why so the good ones stand out really obviously and easy to spot then the decent men that make an effort look like gods in comparison but is it a compliment when all the competition is just so bad as it would be a compliment if the competition was amazing as it takes you even higher than the amazing ones otherwise it's a backhanded compliment saying you're better than the really crap ones yet if it's the only compliment you've had then it's a nice compliment because there's nothing to compare it with because if you got loads of compliments you might take it as an insult which would be a shame as she may have been sincere"

Crikey Doris, have you no perception of paragraphs, I've got a headache after reading that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is nothing more than an opening chat up line, designed to make you think she has read your profile, not just perved your pics

Is her profile well written? For a woman of course.

Yes, but most women’s are to be fair. "

A man wrote mine. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's an insult to other men but it's also true so is it an insult if it's a fact because it's honest and more words than many men bother to write and pics too which most don't think they need to have any at all because their mate down the pub said it's clunge city on here so they can only blame themselves for not getting their fingers wet if they don't put some effort in and get mad at the ones who do put effort in and meet lots of women yet they can't figure out why so the good ones stand out really obviously and easy to spot then the decent men that make an effort look like gods in comparison but is it a compliment when all the competition is just so bad as it would be a compliment if the competition was amazing as it takes you even higher than the amazing ones otherwise it's a backhanded compliment saying you're better than the really crap ones yet if it's the only compliment you've had then it's a nice compliment because there's nothing to compare it with because if you got loads of compliments you might take it as an insult which would be a shame as she may have been sincere"

Is everything okay Doris ?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"A man wrote mine. x"

I've just rewritten mine

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"I imagine it's in the same vein as telling someone that they look good for their age. It's usually an honest compliment but can come off as an insult to the recipient.

But if she's fit just go for it

C"

We take the "look good for your age" as an insult as it's really saying "you're a bit shabby but you'll do as I need a fuck". You either look good or you don't....you write well or you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A man wrote mine. x

I've just rewritten mine "

TLDR Like war n peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an insult to other men but it's also true so is it an insult if it's a fact because it's honest and more words than many men bother to write and pics too which most don't think they need to have any at all because their mate down the pub said it's clunge city on here so they can only blame themselves for not getting their fingers wet if they don't put some effort in and get mad at the ones who do put effort in and meet lots of women yet they can't figure out why so the good ones stand out really obviously and easy to spot then the decent men that make an effort look like gods in comparison but is it a compliment when all the competition is just so bad as it would be a compliment if the competition was amazing as it takes you even higher than the amazing ones otherwise it's a backhanded compliment saying you're better than the really crap ones yet if it's the only compliment you've had then it's a nice compliment because there's nothing to compare it with because if you got loads of compliments you might take it as an insult which would be a shame as she may have been sincere

Is everything okay Doris ? "

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"A man wrote mine. x

I've just rewritten mine

TLDR Like war n peace. "

Nah, love peace and bananas, but you ain't having a slice of my pie, or something like that

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By *oley999Woman
over a year ago

Land of Rainbows and Happiness

I'd rather just prefer to think that the intent was kind and complimentary x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get ' your profile is rubbish even for a man'

It's gotta be a compliment

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Fuck her then tell her how offended you were.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck her then tell her how offended you were."

This is the best advice yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually get ' your profile is rubbish even for a man'

It's gotta be a compliment "

I think I’d be proud of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "

I don’t see how that’s not a compliment?? I’d probably comment if someone had a good profile and to be fair I think women put more effort than men into their profiles in general.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"It is nothing more than an opening chat up line, designed to make you think she has read your profile, not just perved your pics

Is her profile well written? For a woman of course.

Yes, but most women’s are to be fair.

A man wrote mine. x"

Mine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck her then tell her how offended you were."

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Caveats are an arse. ‘For your age’ particularly so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a well written profile, take it as a compliment of that. So many profiles just put you straight off, well me anyway.

On the other hand she probably found you on the forum and has read this and is completely put off now

Send her a message and see what happens xx

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "
You're just a 3% single guy like myself

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Its a compliment to you with a well founded criticism of most of the men here! (Unless she was being sarcastic, then fuck her the stuck up baitch lol!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got a message, OP? I'd take that as a compliment in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a little insulted. My profile is awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck her then tell her how offended you were."

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Not everyone proof reads, or even tries to understand how something they have written could be perceived by the reader.

My Dad said "you drive like a man.". He thought it was the biggest compliment he could pay me. Very sure he did not mean to make me think "Fuck Dad! You are so old school"

You could assume she is crediting you with being a cut above the average man in here.....

OR

You could assume she is insulting you for not being as wordy as a woman.

OR

You can take it as read she is a Domme and is testing you for subserviance.....

OR

And I know this may be a bit out there You could ask her to clarify her intention ?

The thought of someone messaging privately to insult you seems a waste of an insult, although as insults go this one is in the league of pull up your petticoat and run ....run away.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Fuck!

above and below written by xslux

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not everyone proof reads, or even tries to understand how something they have written could be perceived by the reader.

My Dad said "you drive like a man.". He thought it was the biggest compliment he could pay me. Very sure he did not mean to make me think "Fuck Dad! You are so old school"

You could assume she is crediting you with being a cut above the average man in here.....

OR

You could assume she is insulting you for not being as wordy as a woman.

OR

You can take it as read she is a Domme and is testing you for subserviance.....

OR

And I know this may be a bit out there You could ask her to clarify her intention ?

The thought of someone messaging privately to insult you seems a waste of an insult, although as insults go this one is in the league of pull up your petticoat and run ....run away."

I think it’s in the same vein as ‘you’re a good driver, for a woman!’

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Its a compliment to you with a well founded criticism of most of the men here! (Unless she was being sarcastic, then fuck her the stuck up baitch lol!)"

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

I love a well crafted backhanded compliment meself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "

Just have a chat and you’ll soon see if you’re compatible. Texts can be misconstrued

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

It's a good profile period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been complimented on my profile, I don't assume it attracted the person.

Accept the compliment and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "

Why would it influence My decision?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave in and read the OP's profile. obviously the woman in question didn't as the first line says not meeting anyone new.

Which raises a whole new discussion, if the OP corresponds with and meets this woman, the credibility of the entire profile comes into question so is this the proverbial apple? if the OP gives in to temptation are we all thrown out of the garden of Fab? Do we need to found an entire new beliefe system where gingers and not women are to blame for the original sin?

its a bloody minefield I tells ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave in and read the OP's profile. obviously the woman in question didn't as the first line says not meeting anyone new.

Which raises a whole new discussion, if the OP corresponds with and meets this woman, the credibility of the entire profile comes into question so is this the proverbial apple? if the OP gives in to temptation are we all thrown out of the garden of Fab? Do we need to found an entire new beliefe system where gingers and not women are to blame for the original sin?

its a bloody minefield I tells ya "

What about Ginger women?

I don't think you thought this through!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a good profile period."

Thanks, I just hit the buttons on my phone with my cock and that’s what came out, just luck really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have been complimented on my profile, I don't assume it attracted the person.

Accept the compliment and move on."

Never. I will not rest, to I find the answers I seek. I will search over hill and dale, for a resolution to this conundrum we call life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its a bloody minefield I tells ya

What about Ginger women?

I don't think you thought this through!"

If anything I think I over thunk' it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will feeling insulted influence whether you respond to the message or not? Either way it's an invite to chat further.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

This thread and some of the comments made me smile OP

I was tempted to create a 'Backhanded Compliment' thread for the giggles (I know most peeps have a good sense of humour about this kind of thing and don't take it too seriously... But someone would probably take offence at some point and I may end up with a Forum 'holiday'

One of my favourites is, as someone else said previously, 'you look really good... for your age'

The woman who messaged you probably didn't mean it as an insult OP... She was most likely intrigued by finding a well written profile after seeing lots of 'will fill in later' ones (which are usually over a year old, so 'later' never happened ), or text-speak ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Will feeling insulted influence whether you respond to the message or not? Either way it's an invite to chat further."

I wasn’t insulted, I just thought it was funny that the bar is so low for men’s profiles. A hot woman could say anything to me in a message and I’d reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is if the women can be bothered to message you in the first place

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"

that is if the women can be bothered to message you in the first place "

Are you blaming women for your lack of success by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a message from a woman this morning, basically the jist was my profile was well written for a man. First I took it as a compliment, then a faint one, but now I’m thinking it’s quite insulting.

Just wondering how you would take it ?

She looks quite fit, so this may influence your decision. "

shag her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

that is if the women can be bothered to message you in the first place "

Oh, plenty message.

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By *onyGalWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Backhanded compliment really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 100% straight, your profile is so good even I want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thanked her for her observation skills as it is usually a skill best performed by men but she nailed it in that case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

that is if the women can be bothered to message you in the first place

Are you blaming women for your lack of success by any chance?"

Not blaming anyone apart maybe myself

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