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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my boys were growing up, I insisted that we sit together to eat at least twice a week, it was always the perfect chance of a catch up,to hear about their day etc. I agree, families don't seem to do this, anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always eat at a table together, no TV or phones, I do think that's important

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When my boys were growing up, I insisted that we sit together to eat at least twice a week, it was always the perfect chance of a catch up,to hear about their day etc. I agree, families don't seem to do this, anymore.

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My grandkids do the same, straight upstairs on the iPad,I make a point of having Sunday dinner with them,no bloody phones on the table,but my daughter is as bad,she took a photo of her dinner and put it on Instagram!!! Wtf

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I have a complicated family situation.

I go to my English kinda of “step” family all the time. I even go away with just my step mother and sister every year. We are all quite close and help each other out when we can with any problems that arise for us.

The older I get the more I love it.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"I have a complicated family situation.

I go to my English kinda of “step” family all the time. I even go away with just my step mother and sister every year. We are all quite close and help each other out when we can with any problems that arise for us.

The older I get the more I love it. "

And we do Sunday dinner most weekends all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My grandkids do the same, straight upstairs on the iPad,I make a point of having Sunday dinner with them,no bloody phones on the table,but my daughter is as bad,she took a photo of her dinner and put it on Instagram!!! Wtf"

I don't get why people take photos of their dinner etc.

It's like when you are out in a group, and people on their phones ignoring each other until someone holds their phone up and everyone suddenly becomes the life and soul, before going back to ignorance.

Then you see the pictures later and it looks like everyone is having a great time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

"

I know my children really well. I have an open door policy most of the time and we sit and eat dinner at the table. Never eat upstairs and they tell me everything. I'm surprised what they actual tell me at times. I also don't allow locks on their phones and they know I'll check. I love the relationship I have with my kids. They know it's better to tell me stuff no matter what it is. They know I'll find out anyway so I'm always the first person they tell anything to. Anytime they've came to me with a problem I've always put their interests first and helped them x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

I know my children really well. I have an open door policy most of the time and we sit and eat dinner at the table. Never eat upstairs and they tell me everything. I'm surprised what they actual tell me at times. I also don't allow locks on their phones and they know I'll check. I love the relationship I have with my kids. They know it's better to tell me stuff no matter what it is. They know I'll find out anyway so I'm always the first person they tell anything to. Anytime they've came to me with a problem I've always put their interests first and helped them x"

Teenagers will not tell you everything,they will tell you what you want to hear,I was that teenager

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Threads like this make me wish I had a family

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


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Teenagers will not tell you everything,they will tell you what you want to hear,I was that teenager "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our kids are late twenties now. We always ate together but we allowed them space and privacy too.

I see my parents often but not my brothers.

I don't know how other families are and I hesitate to criticise modern families in general.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


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Teenagers will not tell you everything,they will tell you what you want to hear,I was that teenager

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I am that 62 year old. I only tell my mum and dad what I think they can bear to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

"
unfortunately I think you've got it spot on

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

"

What are family values?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It was different when we were growing up as it was pointless going into your bedroom as it just had a bed in it... when getting told to go to your room it wasn't a good thing

When our own were growing up we had dinner at the table every night and a big roast on Sunday, but the day of their 13th birthday was a turning point, you saw a lot of their backs going up the stairs to their rooms and they only came out for the main meal but that was only because we insisted.

They didn't tell us everything either, I don't think any daughter/son does

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Our kids are late twenties now. We always ate together but we allowed them space and privacy too.

I see my parents often but not my brothers.

I don't know how other families are and I hesitate to criticise modern families in general."

It seems totally different now to when we were growing up or even bringing our own up.....some of it is a plus, some is definitely a minus

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It was different when we were growing up as it was pointless going into your bedroom as it just had a bed in it... when getting told to go to your room it wasn't a good thing

When our own were growing up we had dinner at the table every night and a big roast on Sunday, but the day of their 13th birthday was a turning point, you saw a lot of their backs going up the stairs to their rooms and they only came out for the main meal but that was only because we insisted.

They didn't tell us everything either, I don't think any daughter/son does"

Correct

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

What are family values? "

I suppose people have different views on what "family values" are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

I know my children really well. I have an open door policy most of the time and we sit and eat dinner at the table. Never eat upstairs and they tell me everything. I'm surprised what they actual tell me at times. I also don't allow locks on their phones and they know I'll check. I love the relationship I have with my kids. They know it's better to tell me stuff no matter what it is. They know I'll find out anyway so I'm always the first person they tell anything to. Anytime they've came to me with a problem I've always put their interests first and helped them x

Teenagers will not tell you everything,they will tell you what you want to hear,I was that teenager "

You don't know my kids thanks x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

What are family values?

I suppose people have different views on what "family values" are"

That's the thing.

As Rugby said earlier it's very different now to when we were bringing our kids up and a world away from when I was a kid.

I don't think I communicated more with my parents than our kids did with us. I only went to my room in winter to sleep, it was too damn cold.

I only know a few families with young children. A couple of them see their children in the morning when they drop them at school or the child minder and for a short time in the evening when they pick them up from the child minder or after school club. A couple of them rarely see the father because he's got two jobs to keep them afloat. A couple of them are what I suppose you'd term traditional families.

I reckon if your kids are loved and feel secure that's a pretty good definition of family values.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

We all used to meet up at my parents for Sunday dinner almost every week right up until my dad died nearly 3 years ago, since then she's got with a guy neither me or my sisters are keen on so it's all stopped which is a shame as we were always a close family, but it is what it is.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I spend a lot of time with my family, most of my time, outside of work commitments actually. We go out together, stay in together and enjoy each other’s company. We communicate, we talk about our day and I know about their lives and they know about mine, within reason obviously.

We eat our meals together at the table, music on in the background but no TV and strictly no phones. If we go out to dinner the same thing applies.

I talk to my family and I appreciate every minute with them, they will always be my first priority. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I have no concerns on that front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo I was talking to a co worker yesterday,and we were chatting about parents and children,when do parents see their kids? Maybe in the morning before and after school,but how many kids go straight upstairs and play games or on social media, probably eat their tea in the bedroom.

Do families have Sunday dinner like we used to? Sit round and chat and eat dinner,are we loosing our family values,or am I thinking to much

P.S.i love you all x

"

God no. Mine wouldn’t be allowed to eat their tea in their bedrooms. Always at the table. No phones allowed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all used to meet up at my parents for Sunday dinner almost every week right up until my dad died nearly 3 years ago, since then she's got with a guy neither me or my sisters are keen on so it's all stopped which is a shame as we were always a close family, but it is what it is."

Can you just invite your mum round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't know everything about my kids. My mum doesn't know everything about me. We all sit together for an evening meal and do things as a family of the weekend. Just like I did with my family. In fact I spent far more time away from my family than my kids do. Different times maybe but values are still the same for those brought up with certain values.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always eaten at the table. As a kid I had to change from my uniform and come down for dinner before doing anything else.

My sister does the same with my niece now.

My family have Sunday dinner together every Sunday. Christmas is the best as we nominate someone’s house for Christmas and a dozen or so of us go there to celebrate.

I come from a very big close knit family, we holiday together, eat together, party together the lot!

It seems so rare these days as when I tell people they’re amazed and usually state how they wish they were like that with their relatives.

Sad really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm how many kids know their parents are on here is more to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threads like this make me wish I had a family "

Me too Lilly

I don't have any close family left now, no children or partner and I'm not close to the ones that are still alive.

My doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And back to the OP - I never really knew my mum and dad even though technology didn't exist then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is A LOT my parents don't know about me

There is hopefully a lot I don't know about them either

Long live the status quo

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Nobody in my family is allowed to disappear, we all like each others company too much and screen time is limited to the grandchildren.

Rummicub can go on for hours.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

We have our dinner together every night, my kids wouldn't dream of having their phones with them either.

My daughter spends more time in her bedroom than my boys do but apparently that's a girl thing.

I know they know they can talk to me about anything and I'll give them an honest answer.

We are close which has always been important to me for personal reasons, not just because I am their mum.

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